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My father (89 years old) was living in his own home with my mother, his wife of 62 years in Viera, FL. He & my mother have argued all their married life. Daily. Mostly nit-picking from my mom, but they had plenty of good times as well. My father has undiagnosed ADHD with diagnosed Depression & Alcohol Use Disorder. He was always a good driver, albeit a bit on the risk-taking side. My sister (16 months older than me) hated his driving. Her husband & she live in Texas. I live in Orlando, FL. Post retirement my father had little structure in his life other than playing golf a few times a week & taking walks. Arguments & disagreements became more frequent as he was home more. He was "diagnosed" with Alzheimer's dementia in 2015 based on no objective evidence by a geriatric practitioner without a mental health background.
My sister began "telling" him to stop driving 3-4 years ago. No accidents, no tickets. Just because she didn’t like his driving. In March 2022 my parents found my father's car in the garage with 2 flat tires & fluid leaks. He did not know what had happened. My sister came to visit a few days later & demanded to know what happened. My father did not know.
My sister decided it was a drinking/driving accident with no evidence. She went to his doctor (APRN) with my parents & told them he was drinking & driving. The APRN told him she was sending a license revocation to the DMV. My father was very upset. My sister took his car keys & hid them, then flew back to TX. When he became understandably upset, she returned & convinced my mother to place him in a secured memory care tricking him into going to have his arthritic foot evaluated. No talking to him about it. Nothing. This was March 2022. No guardianship.
Did he have an accident? Turned out to be a damaged strut. Whether the strut gave way due to age (they had never been replaced) or hitting a curve is unknown. But he had driven the car home from his location 1 mile away, opened the garage door, and parked in the garage. The damage was not noted until the next day, making it highly likely that he did NOT know what had happened.
I was out of state at the time & was completely left out of the situation until I returned. When I visited him in this secure facility, he was crying, very upset at being locked up, stating he was losing his mind. I began making waves & my sister filed for guardianship.

Elder Abuse - Long story short, her predatory guardianship attorney, the facility administrator, and my sister decided to trespass me from the facility throughout the 6-month pre-trial phase. My father was at the mercy of my sister who lied to him about the guardianship proceedings. He was locked up 8 months before his adjudicatory hearing, with the facility ensuring he could not leave, despite his signing a Revocation of POA in June 2022. He was denied a 2nd opinion in October 2022.
At trial in December 2022, the guardianship attorney, the facility administrator, my sister, the APRN, and the contracted psychiatrist all committed perjury influencing the judge. This was positively verified through my diligent review of medical records & emails post-trial. I did not have an attorney & am having difficulty knowing how to present the perjury to the Judge as she is clearly biased. Medical records I received post-trial reflect normal aging. MoCA assessments performed (14 over 7 years) reflect variable performance, standard for seniors in their 80’s & 90’s per the research. He has been treated for depression for well over a decade. He’s on tons of medications.

My sister was appointed guardian & refuses to listen to my father’s wishes. He BEGS to be permitted to go home & CRIES about how lonely he is. There is next to nothing to do in this place. It’s clean, pretty & boring. My sister only permits me to visit with a biased case manager (friend of the attorney) whom I have to pay $142.00 for each visit.
My Dad is dying from loneliness & depression & there is nothing I can do. It is very sad.
This town of Viera Florida has 1 GA court with 1 GA Judge, well-connected with the local GA lawyers. While this particular attorney is now being investigated by the Florida Bar, it doesn’t help my father at this point. He has been locked up for over 18 months & is not permitted to even see or visit his OWN home. Does the Judge care? No.

Florida Guardianship rules need to be changed. GA Judges should have a solid background in GA law. Private family guardians must be held accountable for their actions towards the Ward. GA Judges should automatically appoint Eldercaring Coordination for high-conflict cases. (The new GA Judge, post-trial, denied Eldercaring, silencing my father's voice). GA courts should demand hard evidence & NOT permit oral testimony as the only form of evidence provided. Family members without the benefit of an attorney should be provided a source of legal counsel. Memory care facilities should NOT be permitted the ability to Trespass a family member without evidence of disruption or criminal activity.

This was a horrifying eye-opening experience. Florida Statutes ensure a Ward retains several rights such as visitation & access to the courts. This should not be an area a Guardian or a predatory Guardianship attorney can violate or distort. My father is literally dying from the intense depression & loneliness his own daughter & wife have caused him & just wants to spend the rest of his life in his own home, which he is not even permitted to visit.

My aunt recently passed after suffering from Alzheimer's in a long-term care facility. Fortunately, she had family to visit and advocate on her behalf to ensure that she was treated well and her needs were met so that she could enjoy her final years in peace.

I work for the Florida Department of Children and Families in Adult Services. We have been struggling for a few years to maintain staff due to the low salary of our Adult Protective Investigators (API). The salary for an API with a bachelor's degree is $33,783.62 and $47,500.18/annually for a supervisor. That breaks down to 1407.65 per paycheck so if an API has to pay month rent, groceries, electric, car payment, car insurance, fuel that doesn't leave much room for saving money. The average wage for an API across the US is 45,576 so we are more than $20,000.00 below the average with the largest growing elderly population is the US. There is no way for a single person to come work for us without having to go get another job to supplement their lack of income from being an API.
The rising cost of fuel, food and housing is at an all-time high while are wages are at an all-time low. We only get fuel reimbursement of .44 cents while the Federal fuel reimbursement is 58.6 cents and the only way to claim the difference is to file long form which is not likely for these API's.
Please help the Adult Services Program get an increase in wages so that we can hire more staff to ensure the safety of our most vulnerable adults.
Thank you for your time.

That they are most likely abused, neglected and exploited by their own relatives.

To have enough community providers for the services need to keep our senior in the least restrictive setting, which is their homes.. To get more funding for in home services to assist caregivers, respite programs, housekeeping, personal care, transportation, financial management, home repairs, building ramps, installing handrails and energy assistance to keep their costs low.
To have a program started where babies are taken into nursing homes for the elders to nurture and in turn the children will get a bonus grandparent.
That everyone knows they are responsible for reporting any suspected abuse, neglect, exploitation or self-neglect.

We need to take of the one's that raised us!

My husband (now deceased) and I bought a house at a local retirement community that advertised care and various conditions that never existed.
Their fraudulent advertising continues to this day and to add insult to injury they are using pictures of us on line to promote continued sales of said properties! We had no knowledge they were being used! We moved but they continue using our ‘likeness’ to sell properties to other unsuspecting seniors- a violation of federal law - and they are getting away with it! I reported them to BBB but their false advertising continues! Thanks for helping seniors who are being victimized! I will gladly testify to the above facts.

My hope is to see the government help seniors who are being victimized.

I am more than happy to testify to the above facts. I have documents that will show what happened and is continuing to happen. Please contact me 🙏

Sis s plan poa trustee exe 5000 acre farm sold 2million farm machinery household house farm changed will took caddy she is tak n 50000000 in property need help real evil person

HELP

My elderly mother moved in with my older sister in 2016. My older sister did not live in the area. She lived out of town for years. My mother and I were always very close. When my father died in 2000, my family and I took care of my mom's needs with some help from my brothers, who lived in the area. I took my mom to all of her appointments, we had dinner at my house at least once a week if not more, went to grandchildren's events and family members were able to freely visit her at her home. For 16 years, I was her major support. When my sister moved back to the area, she asked my mother to move in with she and her wife. My mother accepted. At first things were ok. There did not seem to be a problem visiting my mom and I was able to still take my mom for some appointments, but not as many as my sister because she was retired and I worked full-time. As time progressed, it appeared that my sister's wife had bipolar disorder. I empathize with anyone dealing with mental health issues; however, this should not affect relationships with my mom. It started to become more difficult to see my mother. In 2010, my eldest brother died and he had been in charge of my mom's finances which he had no problem sharing information with this siblings. My mom was still aware of her own finances so things were pretty much handled by her. When my sister returned in 2016, a year later she took my mom to sign papers making her the POA and she took over her finances. My sister would not share anything about my mom's finances. My sister and her wife began causing issues with the family. After my brother died, my sister took my mom to the attorney and had my brother's kids removed from the will. (No one was told of this before this action was taken because the rest of the family would have differed. My sister did it because she had a falling out with our nephew, my deceased brother's son. She and her wife even recorded a song on my nephew's wife's phone, singing how happy they were that they were out of the family.) This caused a lot of pain for the family and the family began to divide. My sister and her wife would not allow my nephew in their home. Then it began to include my nieces and sister-in-law. Then my sister would allow them to visit my mom sporadically. Then my sister's wife began saying that she did not want me in her home. That I had to make appointments to see my mom when in the beginning when my mom was moving in, I was told that I would be able to see my mom any time. My mom was a negative woman so I know that they were feeling stress as caretakers. Things began to get worse. If I had a suggestion or idea, or was the voice for my mom because my mom was scared of my sister, I was denied access to see my mom. It was like I was grounded for awhile. I was told that I don't want to see your face around here for two weeks. Things like that began happening. We tried to sit down to talk, but my sister always controlled every conversation. My mom was very aware of what was going on and at one point spoke up for me. In August of 2020, my mother asked me to ask my sister if my brother, my husband and I could attend a meeting at the house to discuss her money...a financial advisor was coming to their home. I did as my mom asked and my sister blew her top. She denied any of us to come to the house. She and her wife were also having marriage difficulties at the same time which my cousins were told about because my sister and her wife would go to them to talk. My sister's wife had given her until September 1st to have my mother out or she was going to leave her. My mother was kicked out of their home and given 2 days to move out. She was brought to our home. My brother picked her up. Blair Senior Services was called and they were told that my brother and I removed my mother from their home against her will. This was not true. My sister had a mover drop off all of our mother's things to our home. My sister said she was removing herself from being POA and Executrix of mom's will. So my brother and I took these things over. We discussed options with my mom. Our home was not set up for a 90-year old woman with a walker so we would have to renovate if the decision was to stay at our home. The three options given were:
1. Go to a home because with all the stress in the family, this may be the best option for all family members to visit. The downside was that COVID was raging and we were not sure if this would be the best option.
2. Stay with us in a small bedroom, but realize you will be sharing a bathroom with 5 people.
3. My husband suggested giving up our garage and his home office to create a mother-in-law suite, but we would need financial support from her to make this happen. We would pay for half.
My mom chose option 3. We had meetings with an attorney and discussed this as well as fair market value.
We got a contractor, but that did not work out due to COVID and his schedule, so we actually had to do the renovations ourselves. This then took longer.

In the meantime, my sister did not contact my mom for over 4 months. My mom began ruminating about being kicked out. She would play the scene over and over in her mind. After 4 months of doing this, her memory was affected. In fact, she even forgot who I was and what my name was. This would happen in spurts. I contacted her doctor and the doctor suggested that she experienced a traumatic event and she seemed to be experiencing a post traumatic stress event. She tried several different medications which did not work for her. Zoloft made her anxious and Remeron made her even more forgetful. My mom was taken for cognitive testing. I kept my siblings abreast of everything that was happening. The testing results were that my mother had moderate to severe Alzheimer's. My mother was very upset that I took her for cognitive testing and at this point my sister began calling my mom. My sister had nothing nice to say about her siblings to my mom. My brother took over her finances and I took over the medical. We shared the responsibility. When Blair Senior Services was called on us again, the agency found nothing wrong, but told us that we should put mom' money into a trust. We had been checking into this so we did this. My sister, over the phone, convinced mom that Tim and I were cheating her out of money and that she shouldn't be living here. She told my mom that I was trying to have her deemed incapacitated when I was only trying to help her with her memory issues. 10 months later, my mom's attitude was very negative toward us. This was the time; however, when the cognitive testing was done. I got my mom on medicine for anxiety that helped her and medicine for Alzheimer's. She had just been prescribed it when my sister convinced her that I was stealing money from her. I would only use my mom's debit card because we were told this was an easy way to keep track of her expenditures for the 5-year look back. My mom was convinced that I stole from her and lied to her. She called my sister to come get her. My sister said that she was only taking mom for a few days and then she would bring her back. My mom never came back and this has been over two years that things have been made difficult for immediate family and extended family to see my mom.
My sister has had my mom change the POA and Will during that same week. It took less than 3 days for this to occur and it was done in secret. This alerted TD Ameritrade where my brother and husband had placed the money. Since my husband is an advisor, and my brother's oldest son had died, they discussed with mom managing the money together. My brother would share what he wanted and my husband would make the trades. My mom thought this was a good idea. Anyway, when my sister had everything changed in secret, TD Ameritrade put a freeze on the money. My sister blamed my husband for doing this and this began the poisoning of my mother against us. My mother convinced my mom that Trusts were bad and that none of her other family members had her best interests at heart.

Since then, anyone who has tried to speak to my sister about her unreasonableness had been cut off from my mom. She has not cut my brother and I out yet, but she had made it very uncomfortable and unsafe for us to visit my mom.
Undue influence is rampant. My sister has verbally told my brother and I that if we are on their property we will be arrested. She has issued No Trespassing to my husband and two cousins. She has issued Cease and Desist letters to my cousins and has blocked many family from being able to contact my mom. She has control of the phone and some family members are not even allowed to send mail. She has done this all by using my mom and taking her to an attorney to have these drawn up. My mom said that my sister scares her, but she just says what she is told to say so that there aren't any problems. My mom's memory is much better on her medication and her anxiety medication has totally changed her.

My family knows that we are not welcome there. My sister tells a narrative that paints a terrible picture of all other family members when this couldn't be further from the truth.

I would like to share that Blair Senior Services is not equipped to handle undue influence. They don't have the training or the staff to make this happen so all this isolation is allowed to happen. In fact, Blair Senior Services has been rude to us at times when we are just seeking support. We have just wanted to call to talk to someone, not necessarily make a report, but they just keep pressing for a report. Make a report or get off the phone. I have been disheartened by their lack of empathy.

Also, Blair Senior Services directed us to get an attorney because this was out of their scope. We did so and then we were treated poorly. I do not understand why my sister was not given the same message. Blair Senior Services than demanded the financial records that we had already turned into my mom's attorney. My sister wants the control of my mom's money and she will most likely not follow my mom's wishes. She was trying to get information that was already turned in to attorneys and then Blair Senior Services treated my family poorly for following their advice. It just doesn't make sense.

Also, the court system is not helpful either because if the elderly person cannot be declared incapacitated, then you cannot go for guardianship. This also makes no sense any way. When a person is in their golden years, why would anyone want to put them through this drama? They would have to testify and be tested cognitively by doctors on both sides and then the case could last a year and a half to two years. Who wants to put an elderly person through this? And...why does a person have to be incapacitated? A person's mind can be unduly influenced and still be competent...I feel this needs to change.

Doctors are also not held accountable for taking an active role in helping the elder...it is as if they turn a blind eye.

I wish that people understood the damage that psychological abuse can do.
I wish that attorneys, doctors and social workers were held to a higher standard when recognizing signs of undue influence. (California has the CUIST, which at least helps these key players understand and be held accountable for removing older adults from these situations.)
I wish that attorneys would not take cases that they shouldn't. My sister got my mom a different attorney and this attorney should have never taken the case. If he had training in undue influence and if attorneys were held to a higher standard concerning this, then it wouldn't make it easy for controlling family members to take actions such as these.
I wish that family members who have mental illness would be held accountable for actions taken.
I wish that Aging Agencies had the power to mandate family counseling/mediation and give families the tools for conflict resolution.
I wish that one controlling person in a family, that has destroyed an entire family unit, would be held accountable.
I wish that past patterns of suing and causing problems at work and in relationships would be considered.
I wish that the red flags of undue influence were a part of training for social workers and that they would be held to a higher standard where this is concerned.
I wish that there was some mediation in place that is out of the hands of the POA, especially when the POA is destructive.
I wish that the court system had other recourses besides guardianship. Many families cannot even afford the minimum $20,000 that this could cost.
I wish there was a place for dysfunctional families in the system. The family member who has never learned how to play fairly in the sandbox, ends up on top because it is easy to manipulate the Aging Agencies and the Court System in their favor. For example, if my mother lives with my sister, it becomes easy to deny access to people because my mom doesn't own the property.
That Aging Agencies take accountability for their recommendations. Why hasn't Blair Senior Services told my sister that they recommended a Trust...Is this because they could be sued? Are Aging Agencies allowed to give advice like this?

My hopes for the future...
That legislation is passed that helps key players detect undue influence.
That perpetrators are held accountable for the break up of families and having family members have to grieve for an elderly parent who is still alive. Ambiguous grief is a terrible experience.
That mental illness is considered when a person has a controlling personality and is unreasonable. And that this family member gets the help that he or she needs. All family members deserve to have an authentic relationship with parents.
That POAs are changed to have checks and balances. One person should not be able to control everything. My brother and I, according to my sister, are not worthy to know about my mom's health.
Because of these actions, my mother has lost access to other grandchildren and extended family...well family that my sister does not want her to see anyway.
This is something that can be prevented with the proper training, communication, and interviewing of all family members, not just one.
I really hope that things change for the future. My mom is 93 and she will most likely die before anything can be done, but if my voice can help to promote change, I hope that even one voice can matter.

I would like to add that my sister has a habit of suing people. I have contacted state representatives and state senators about this topic. I have heard from Senator Bob Casey and his office suggested that I write an OpEd for the newspaper. I have a rough draft, but do not want to get sued. My husband and I got an attorney to even be able to see my mom. We are not rich, so I do have a concern about being sued. If I could be guaranteed or protected in some way from this, I would be willing to use my name and tell my story further. Undue influence is an insidious form of mental abuse that needs to stop. I have shed a lot of tears missing my mom. Two years later I am changing. I have built up a wall to protect myself. My sister has strong characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. I cannot diagnose her, but I can tell you that the text messages, emails and phone calls that I receive have been nothing but derogatory and demeaning. It is not safe to be around her. She would not hesitate to make up some type of story that I harmed my mom and this is not out of her realm. She has been known to fudge data on reports about her own teaching/administerial evaluations. She is savvy and her goal is to win at all costs without any empathy for the people who are trying to rationalize with her. It has been tough growing up with her. She holds jealousy and animosity in her heart for her family. I feel that she is a dangerous person in this way, but if you can help me with the legalities of sharing my name, which I have an attorney looking at my editorial to try to ensure that I cannot be sued, I would be more reassured.

I am actually requesting a call back. I feel that there is so much information and that I am rambling because there is finally someone asking us to share. Thank you for this!

I am currently having this issue it's my children coming at me because their father was abusive and now 35 years later he's instructing them to do the same and they are acting like they are puppets of his it's been so bad I had to let myself get evicted in order to just get a little distance between us..I'm from south Carolina but am now living in my car in north Carolina I've made over a hundred calls to the city police and sheriff's office to no avail because they are related to my ex they won't help me actually just the opposite they help him come at me they even tried psychological warfare on me but I figured out what they were doing and learned hoe to stop that...however they are still hacked into my phones and Ema accounts they follow me everywhere I go and I'm truly afraid for my life all they ever want from me is money more money but they have broke me I have nothing left now they say they will take my monthly check and also force me to take out large life insurance policies making them the beneficiary I'm terrified all the time now but I can't give up I pray someone will help me stop them before they kill me

It's truly a terrifying thing to experience especially from people you think should love you

That someone will soon help me stop them before they kill me

Just please help me stop them

My father's Sister,Daughter,and his POA forged signatures stealing all of childrens inheritance, properties, and starved, abused, and put pills in his mouth, Killing him. I went to his home, and was attacked by his So called POA,, wife and brother with a gun, beating me, telling me they were going to kill me like they did my dad, they killed my family!! And will kill me, when they catch me

They shot and killed my 17 yr old son and covered it up as suicide in Livingston parish Louisiana, with all along with all my possessions being stolen and the sheriff said,that the evidence that I have was probably contaminated. They all got away with murder, crime, human trafficking, stealing peoples properties, bank account, Inheritances

My name is Samantha and I have been working in the senior living industry for several years. I recently came across a distressing situation involving an elderly lady in need of assistance, and I am reaching out to you in the hope that you or your organization may be able to help.
The woman in question, let's refer to her as Mrs. G. is currently facing a challenging situation. She is without family support, as her husband has passed away, and her son has been exploiting her financially for years. Mrs. G is in her 80s, and her struggles have been exacerbated by a lack of awareness and guidance.
In 2017, she entered into an agreement with a company called Unison, which is listed as a home investment group. They provided her with what they termed a "$40,000.00 loan" under the guise of an investment. The terms are troubling, as there are no interest or payment requirements until the sale of her home. However, upon selling, Unison intends to charge a staggering 61.75% of the growth of the home. The estimated repayment, based on the current home value of $425,000.00, would amount to $168,440.00.
Given Mrs. G's circumstances, this repayment scheme leaves her with inadequate funds to cover the costs of Assisted Living, which she desperately needs. What's more concerning is that she did not receive proper counsel before entering into this agreement, and her vulnerability was exploited.
I am reaching out to you in the hope that your expertise and influence may help bring attention to this situation. It is my sincere belief that the terms of this agreement are exploitative and unjust, especially considering Mrs. G's vulnerable state and lack of proper guidance during the signing process.
I would greatly appreciate any assistance, advice, or advocacy you can offer to help rectify this situation and prevent further exploitation of vulnerable seniors. If you require additional information or if there's a specific channel through which I should address this matter, please let me know.
Thank you for your time and consideration. I look forward to any support you may be able to provide in helping Mrs. G. navigate this challenging situation.

That seniors are being taken advantage of - Senior living is SO expensive and when someone plans to sell their house to pay for it and you find this out - it is sentencing her to death in her house. She will certainly fall and not be able to get help.

That is happens all the time. It is so easy to scam people and the interest rate of 61.75% should be illegal.

That I can save this lady and help her get into an assisted living community.

Please help.

My sister and I learned in June 2021 that our 83 year old father was being financially exploited and abused by his live in girlfriend. At the time he lived in Oklahoma City, and we lived in California. We received a phone call from our Aunt and Uncle in Oklahoma. They lived near my father and had recently discovered that his girlfriend had listed his house for sale on Zillow without his knowledge. She had committed fraud by claiming the house as the owner and listed all correspondence about his home to go to her phone number and email. Zillow also owns Trulia, which meant the house was listed on that site as well. Our dad's brother, also our Uncle, was named on our dad's checking account as a co-signer. Our Uncle also managed our dad's estate and shared a family trust with him. Our Uncle would often make sure our dad's account was not in the red and would make sure some of his more costly bills were paid for. In other words, he would deposit money into our dad's account intermittently when larger bills were due (i.e.-car/homeowners insurance). On the day we received the phone call our Uncle had found out from the bank that he had been removed as co-signer and my dad's girlfriend had now been added as both a co-signer and joint member of the account. The banker knew my Aunt and Uncle personally and shared concerns about my dad's girlfriend and more importantly concerns about my dad. Our Aunt and Uncle had also received a phone call from their insurance agent. Our dad had the same agent and inquired several times about getting a life insurance policy. They told him each time that they did not work with life insurance, only auto and homeowners insurance. They were worried that he seemed confused and continued to ask about it. Important to note, our father already had life insurance for years. And, lastly, the neighbor was worried about our dad. She had seen the listing on Zillow and asked if he was moving. He emphatically said, "No!" and then was shown the listing on Zillow. According to his neighbor/friend he immediately appeared confused. He was then asked by the neighbor if he was now married to his girlfriend. Again, he said, "No!" It was brought to his attention that the girlfriend was telling everyone they were now married. The combination of all of these things happening at once raised huge concerns by our Aunt and Uncle and prompted them to call me and my sister as soon as possible. When we were contacted we knew that our dad was planning a trip to Florida with his girlfriend, and they had planned to leave the next week on June 28th. On the same day our Aunt and Uncle called I had talked with my dad. He shared with me about his trip. It was a 10 day trip to The Villages in Florida. At some point in the conversation he said to me, "Who knows, maybe I'll just come live with you." I was confused and thought it was an odd statement, but didn't question it. I had room in my home now that 2 of my children were grown and moved out, so I responded with, "Of course, You can always come live with us." I found out later in the day that he had told my sister not to tell anyone that he was planning to move away to live at The Villages in Florida. It was peculiar that he didn't want to tell anyone, but my first thought was that he didn't want to upset my Aunt and Uncle that he was planning to move away. Now, in hindsight, I think his girlfriend wanted him to keep it a secret. We all, my sister, aunt and uncle met several times via zoom/group phone calls to discuss what we needed to do. Because of COVID neither my sister or I had traveled to see my dad, but now that we were all vaccinated we were in a better place to travel to Oklahoma immediately. Both my sister and I called our dad to express our concerns and begged him not to take the trip to Florida with his girlfriend. We also let him know that we would be out there to see him as soon as possible. He thanked my sister for initiating the conversation about our concerns and let her know that he had decided not to go to Florida. His girlfriend went without him which made it possible for us to immediately fly out to Oklahoma to see our dad. I was planning to visit him in July anyway, but not under these circumstances. He was open to a visit from both of us, but was also feeling that we were all "ganging up" on him, and was somewhat defensive when I arrived. When I arrived in Oklahoma I was horrified to see his extreme weight loss and unhealthy living conditions. His girlfriend had moved into the main bedroom with all of her furniture and clothing. The main bedroom was huge. It had room for a sitting area, sleeping area, and office space. Additionally, there was a large walk-in closet and very large bathroom. Nothing in there was his. There were photos on the wall of herself and all of her own framed wall hangings. There was a dresser that was my dad's (he bought it special with his second wife who had passed away in 2004) she was using for her own things. Otherwise, there was nothing of my dad's. He had moved all of his things into the small bedroom (the size of a small nursery) and was using the other bathroom for himself. He had a special custom made desk that his second wife had purchased for him on his 60th birthday that was nowhere to be found. It had been placed in storage to make room for all of his girlfriend's stuff. There was custom made, very expensive, dining room table that was completely covered with the girlfriend's art supplies. Boxes were placed underneath the table with more art supplies. The walls were covered with her art along with her family photos. The dining room was wall to wall with her arts and crafts, and it was difficult to walk around in there. The living room had a small couch of my dad's and his second wife's special chair. Everything else in there was unrecognizable. It was all his girlfriend's. One small section about the special chair had some framed artwork that was my dad's. There was a large bookcase with her family photos everywhere. I knew my dad had framed family pictures, but I couldn't find them anywhere on the bookshelf or on the walls. I then noticed way up high on the shelf at the far corner a framed photo of my sister, my dad and myself. I had given it to my dad many years ago, and it seemed hidden amongst all of her stuff. She had photos in the small hallway of herself and old pictures with her boyfriend from the 1970's, Clint Eastwood (yes it was the actor). She had a photo book that she had made and titled it "My Memories". Every single photo was just a picture of her. I then realized there were no photos of my dad with her. I started to look for some sign of one, and then I saw it. There was a framed photo of my dad and her when they went to Vegas in February 2020. I didn't recognize my dad. He was even thinner in the photo. He looked emaciated. It scared me. I had never seen him so thin and gaunt. Later on I saw in his medical records that his weight was one pound away from being considered malnourished at the time the photo was taken. During a visit from my dad in December 2018 he mentioned that his new girlfriend was a "life coach" and was using him as "kind of like a client". She had him stop drinking alcohol (which I was fine with), and also had him stop drinking coffee. My dad always loved his coffee so I thought that was a bit odd and questioned him about it. He seemed okay with it at the time, and because he seemed happy and healthy I never thought more about it, until this visit in 2021. Now looking back, I realize that was a red flag on how she was treating him. I went into his office, and saw a large massage chair that appeared to be very new. When asked about it my dad said they bought it together at the county/state fair. I asked if he actually used it, and he said "no." It is very unlike my dad's personality to make such an expensive purchase let alone use a chair like that. The chair was bought in his girlfriend's name for $6,000.00 on a payment plan. We discovered my dad was making monthly payments on the chair, not her. I also noticed in his office on the far wall to the side, were two canvas pictures of his grandkids. My sister and I each sent him one respectively (my 3 boys and her 2 daughters). It made sense to see them up on the wall, but those were really the only family photos of his in the entire house. I would say that 85% of the stuff in the house now was the girlfriend's. When asked about where his things were he said that they were in storage because there was no room for anything. His small bedroom was crammed with furniture, and clothing. In the corner behind a dresser were a lot of his own framed pictures that appeared to have been removed and placed in a corner. Many of them were purchased from artists and specially framed. They were now all shoved in a corner. When asked about the checking account he said that he was struggling with his bills and simply asked his girlfriend to take care of his finances. I asked if she had her own personal account and if she closed that to share finances with him. He said she did have her own account but "no, she did not share her finances." When I went to turn on the television I noticed it wasn't hooked up correctly and he had no idea how to use the remote controls. He had been unable to access television. When I figured out how to connect everything I saw there was a netflix account. I went to check for a movie and realized that the girlfriend and her adult children, adult grandson were using netflix. I discovered our dad was paying for directv along with netflix for the girlfriend and her family. I asked my dad if he ever watched tv. He said not a lot but he did like watching the show Monk a lot. I noticed in the corner of the living room a box with a dvd collection of several seasons of Monk. Was she keeping him from watching television and made him believe he was watching Monk on the tv all the time? My father seemed very confused and overwhelmed about everything. We were extremely worried about him. The girlfriend had three cats that she left with him to care for and administer medicine to. We discovered that she had traveled for approximately 8 weeks over the course of three months prior to our visit (Mid April to Mid June). She was in Colorado, Florida, Texas and Wyoming, and now Florida for 10 days. Before she left for Florida she and my dad went together for a routine doctor's appointment for my dad. During the visit she requested to be added to the list of emergency contacts in his records. She then proceeded to ask the doctor to do a memory test. She obviously knew he was struggling with his memory. When we went to the bank to meet with the banker regarding his account we discovered he had cashed out annuities from life insurance policies. There were large overpayments made on credit cards ($800 for a $100 bill) and duplicate payments made to an AT&T account. This was based on statements since his girlfriend was added to the account. We were very concerned. We discovered that his girlfriend was trying to get on his account and have access to it since May 2021; however, her requests were over the phone because she was out of the state and needed to come in person to do so. She also requested a meeting with on of the Mortgage Brokers at the bank. Based on the Zillow listing we had reason to believe she was trying to add her name to the title. We contacted AT&T and found a bill from them, and discovered the girlfriend, her 56 year old daughter, and her daughter's 33 year old son were all on the account listed under my dad's name. They all had brand new iPhones. Plus the girlfriend had a new iWatch. Our dad had an older iPhone model, the iPhone 8, and he had two phones, one with a local area code, and the other was his phone number he had for 20+ years. He also had an iWatch which he "lost" and has no idea what happened to it. We discovered my dad was paying for a large storage unit (10'x20'). The majority of items belonged to the girlfriend. We also discovered that my dad's special custom made desk was in the storage along with a very nice couch he had with his wife. He had no room in his home for them, because the girlfriend took over the majority of the space in the house when she moved in. Along with a few boxes and a folded card table with 4 folding chairs, those were the only items that were his. The rest of the storage was packed with all of her things. There seemed to be absolutely no reason why he wouldn't be able to keep his special items with him in his home. Consequently, she was living rent free in his home and able to have free storage for all of her items. We discovered on a different checking account that he was making payments to the girlfriend for groceries and dinner. On one occasion he had paid for a $56 dinner on his bank card and then proceeded to pay her again for the same amount on the same day and listed in the memo "dinner". It appeared she was requesting he reimburse her for meals and groceries on a regular basis. While we were in Oklahoma the girl friend called our dad at night to let him know she was worried that a payment had not gone through for his Barclay credit card, and needed him to talk with Barclay to confirm the payment. The payment she was referring to was in fact the overpayment of $800 she made one week earlier. During the phone call there was a great deal of confusion, and our dad became anxious and confused. He would go into his office and close the door to talk with his girlfriend and then with Barclay's. My sister and I were still in a great deal of shock and confused ourselves as to what was happening. The next day we contacted Barclay's with our dad. Barclay had suspected fraudulent activity from the girlfriend and had shut the card down. When we found out we asked our dad where his credit cards were. He realized they were gone and we searched everywhere for them in the house. We asked if he gave them to the girlfriend, but his response was "No, I don't think so." We then suspected that the girlfriend had taken all of his credit cards with her to Florida, and believe she tried to use that specific card while in Florida and it was declined. We later discovered that she was then able to use his American Express card. There were several charges from The Villages on his card. The first few days of our visit in Oklahoma the girlfriend sent a text to our dad to share with us. The text stated that she was helping our father with his finances because he was struggling with them. She said her goal was to buy a place in Florida (The Villages) and to help him keep his home in Oklahoma so that he can live comfortably and go visit her. She continued by stating that she had "the book" (involving his finances) with her in Florida and that if we wanted to contact her she would go over everything with us. We were now very concerned. Why was his house for sale on Zillow/Trulia? Why does she have the book with her and why does she have all of his credit cards. We did not call her due to our lack of trust and concerns. At one point our father was busy on the phone with her, and I decided to go into her room to see if there was anything suspicious. I was standing by her desk and looked down to find a notepad with information about my father. I looked closer and found what appeared to be "the book" she said she had with her. She had everything noted about my father in the book, social security number, credit card numbers, life insurance policies and information about how much $ for each of them, usernames/passwords, checking account information, key events/information about my father often used for two-step verification on accounts (i.e.-mother's maiden name, favorite pet's name, father's birthdate). We were astounded and now very very concerned. He had no idea about the book and why all that information was listed on there. We discovered our father's mortgage payments were behind, and he had not paid his homeowners fees in months. His house was on lien and we needed to contact the mortgage company and homeowners association immediately. When we spoke with the HOA they said they had talked with our dad's girlfriend in May and stated that when she called she said, "I am his wife, well his fiancée, well I'm his girlfriend. Well, I'm a lot of things to him." The HOA Representative then stated she asked for information on how to pay his debt, and was given a form to complete and return. The HOA never received a form and never received any payments after that. We discussed with the HOA our concerns and requested to meet with them to work through the current situation. The next day we also discovered that our father's name had been removed from the gate code key pad to his community. We instead found the girlfriend's last name added to gate code. We requested to remove her name immediately and reinstate our father's name. We also asked them to confirm there was no one else with the same last name living there. HOA confirmed that no one with that last name lived there, and inquired about it with the facilities management team. They informed us that the name was removed and replaced with our father's name. We believe the girlfriend removed his name. As the week progressed our concerns about our dad's health safety and overall well-being grew. We were very worried that he was not safe in the house alone with the girlfriend. We had no choice but to bring him back to California to sort through everything. We immediately bought him a ticket to come back home with me stay with us while we sorted through everything. We brought the book with us to California as it had all of his personal information. We quickly had a lawyer draw up the documents for Power of Attorney. We discussed with our father and had the documents signed and notarized. Next we had our father close out his joint account with her and open a new account with my sister and myself. First and foremost, we needed to keep our dad safe. He was very worried about what to tell her. When we said, "Let her know you are going to California to visit my grandkids and daughters for awhile", he was still worried and seemed afraid of how she might react. When we got to California his behavior was similar to something like Stockholm syndrome. Approximately two days after he arrived he contacted his girlfriend on the phone in front of me. She was loud enough that I could hear her. She said loudly to him, "They will take all of OUR money." There was then a pause in the conversation and she quickly and in a more quiet tone said, "Well, they will take all of your money." She had been upset that we brought the book home with us, not to mention our father was now safe with us. A few days later the girlfriend contacted my father and said there was a police officer parked in front of the house and she had thought my sister and I had contacted the police on her. She seemed to react in a paranoid way, and accused us of calling the police. When we told our father that we had no idea what she was talking about he did not believe us, and started to get angry with us. The very next day several cars were parked at our father's house, and his girl friend along with some of her friends proceeded to load up their cars with her things. It appeared that she was moving out very quickly. During that time, she purchased storage tubs and an electronic item for $350 using our father's American Express card. He had sent several text messages to her stating the following, "Please allow (her name) to use my American Express card for money owed to her." It appeared that she had coerced and manipulated him into sending the text message. Our father did not owe her any money. During this time of overwhelming chaos for our family, we asked the girlfriend and her family members to remove their phones from our father's AT&T account. We requested a "Transfer of Billing Responsibility" for all three of them, and asked them to take care of it in the next two weeks, giving them a deadline so their phone bills would not rollover into the next cycle. The girlfriend seemingly took care of it within a few days. The daughter asked us to change the name of her 33 year old son's phone to her name, and we asked her to take care of removing the phones immediately, she became agitated with us. She then stated that her son was a "minor with a disability" (neither of which were true) which we found incredibly odd. Reluctantly, I contacted AT&T myself and asked them to change the name. We just needed them to change their billing responsibility. After the two weeks had passed I went to check the bill to make sure they were all removed. None of them were. In fact, the girlfriend had created some type of "grandfather clause" account and placed her phone on a $2 per minute charge. The daughter had done nothing. The bill was now $1500 ($1200 for the girlfriend alone). I contacted AT&T and reported the situation. AT&T honored the request to remove t$1200 charge. They recommended shutting down their phones if they do not honor our request. Almost everyday for two weeks I was on the phone with AT&T and sending emails to the daughter to remove her two phones from our father's account. Important to note-Our father met the daughter one time on a visit to Colorado. He was in the relationship with the girlfriend for 2.5 years, and during that time she had traveled and been away for at least 12 months. In other words, the relationship was not long term, and she was often absent and away due to extended travel. I had sent emails stating that we would need to shut down the daughter's phone and her son's phone if they rolled over into the next billing cycle. And, let her know the cost of the phones since our dad would be held responsible for paying them off. At the final day I contacted AT&T and had the phones shut off. She did not do what we requested, and we extended the timeframe to one month to get it done. She was able to take care of it within the 24 hours that I made the call to disconnect their services, and she was eventually able to remove her phones. I received a disturbing correspondence from her, during the entire exchange. I spent hours dealing with her and AT&T. My dad would never have been able to keep up with the high AT&T bill or continue to be responsible for the girlfriend and her family. It was extremely exploitative in nature and abusive towards our father. Once all phones were removed we were relieved, but unfortunately our father still had two phones and a watch he still needed to make payments on. As a result, we had to keep the account until he had enough money to pay off everything and open a new account with just one phone. It was now been two months since we dealt with AT&T and my father received a phone call from his girlfriend asking to be reimbursed for payments she made to AT&T at the end of August and September. She asked our father to mail her a check. We were very worried about this request and let our father know that she was not on the account anymore. I went to look at the payment history and she had made unnecessary payments to his account. We contacted AT&T and reported her to the fraud department. We also explained to our father that we would not be able to reimburse her the money due to her prior history. We did not want any money, especially checks/debit card numbers to be exchanged with her. She was not to be trusted. I sent her an email and asked that she stop asking for money from our father and that she would need to work it out with her bank and AT&T. It was not our father's responsibility. She still continued to make monthly payments and again asked our father to reimburse her. We finally were able to close his AT&T account and closed it down in December of 2021. Prior to closing it down we let the girlfriend know and told her she would need to stop making payments to the account. We made our final payment in January 2022 and noticed she was still making payments on the account. I continued to report her to the fraud department. A few weeks later we received a gift card from AT&T to reimburse us for the overpayment of $85 on the account, which was the amount she had paid. Again, I called the fraud department with AT&T and again she made a payment for $85. It was exhausting and frustrating. We continued to receive reimbursements in the form of a gift card, and then she stopped doing it in April and May. She started again from June 2022 through August 2022 and then mysteriously stopped making the payments. Note-She had moved to Las Vegas in April and May, and then moved to Florida in September 2022. Payments stopped each time she moved. In between moves they started up again. I was curious if she still had the same phone number and when I looked her up in the White Pages her phone number was listed under a different name from a previous marriage. I returned all gift cards to AT&T as we did not want anything connected to a potential scam. We had spent close to 14 months dealing with our father's AT&T account, and several of those months were spent dealing with the account after it had closed. The girlfriend also had a connection with a dance instructor in Oklahoma City. The girlfriend was a former "professional" dancer and during COVID she had asked her dance instructor friend to work with our father. According to our father he was paying this "instructor" for weekly dance lessons during COVID. Our father has never enjoyed doing anything like that which had us concerned. During COVID the dance instructor would go to our father's house often and would sometimes load a car/truck with items from our dad's house. Neighbors had made the observation on numerous occasions and shared this information with our Aunt and Uncle. The instructor was also asked to do "odd jobs" around the house and asked to take care of a landscaping project in the back yard. While we were in Oklahoma he had called our father to discuss picking up a check from him for some of the work he was doing. When he arrived our father handed the dance instructor a check for $500 and while they were talking the instructor proceeded to make a mobile deposit off of his phone in front of me and my dad. I found it unprofessional and suspicious. After further research we had discovered our dad had paid this person in checks alone $5900. Our dad was surprised and confused, and told us that he couldn't believe that amount of money over the course of one year. Plus, he had paid him in cash as well, and realized the amount was much higher. Three months after our dad was living with us (October 2021) his girlfriend would call him and ask that he contact the dance instructor about a small yard statue of hers that he was going to fix. My father was confused, but offered to call the instructor. He would ask the instructor if he owed him any money to which the instructor replied, "Yes, you owe me $500". Even though he had not completed the landscaping project he was still asking our dad for money. Was the girlfriend trying to get our dad to give money to the dance instructor who would then give money to her? Was he her money mule? We also learned that a computer specialist and small business owner was tasked to setup and connect our dad's computer to WIFI and a personal printer. Our father had trusted him since he was referred by a friend. We later discovered that our dad gave this person a bag of watches, some of them valuable family heirlooms, to get fixed. Evidently the computer specialist also specialized in watch repair? Both my dad and I had tried to contact the individual with no success. I eventually received a phone call response from his assistant to which she responded, "call back in two weeks. He is out of the office." I called back two weeks later to inquire about the watches only to get this response, "He does have the watches, but your dad still owes him a lot of money." I asked how much money since I saw a zero balance on their online invoice. She did not have a response for me, and said she would call back or I can call back in the next week. I called back and they never returned my phonecalls. I sent messages via LinkedIn and Facebook messenger to ask about the watches. No response. I contacted the police department, but since we did not photos or documentation of the watches we could not file a report. I later discovered that our dad was making monthly payments to this person and made approximately $1300 in payments to him for computer setup. While looking through our dad's financial statements we noticed some suspicious banking activity in May of 2021. During that time his girlfriend was traveling a lot, and I was often told she was visiting family. We noticed a mobile deposit was made to our dad's from a check made out to him by his girlfriend (note-this was his own personal account). The girlfriend wrote in the memo section, "Loan". There were two signatures on the back of the check on each end of the check. This was all very suspicious because our dad does not know how to do a mobile deposit and always goes directly to the bank to make an in-person deposit. The signatures appear to be forged, his girlfriend had been traveling during that time, and wrote the check to him, and the deposit was made exactly four minutes after a message from a different bank was sent stating they suspected fraud from this specific person due to a request to make a "bill pay" to her. The deposit went through and the bill pay was made 24/48 hours later for $1038.75 which was the exact amount of money in our dad's account at the time the bill pay check was requested. Just to recap that check incident; A "loan" was mobile deposit for $996 (written as a "Loan") was made to a bank in Oklahoma 5 minutes after a bank in Ohio suspected fraud by that same person. Approximately one/two days later a payment was made in the amount $1038.75 to that same person they suspected fraudulent activity from. This left our dad with a zero balance in his account in Ohio. We believe the girlfriend was out of state, possibly in Colorado, at the time all of these transactions took place. Phone records show that she was calling both banks during that time frame. On July 5th, more than one year later we learned that she had made her phone number the main source of contact for his bank in Ohio. We had been in contact with them on numerous occasions but never saw any documentation of her contact information on file or in his online portal. When we learned of it the bank immediately filed a police report for fraud. We had the police at our house the very next day along with APS. They suggested we file a restraining order on her. The family justice center turned down our request since our father continued to text her on a regular basis and the court would not take the request as serious enough.

Share all of it! The fraud, the abuse, the isolation and manipulation. Share everything I have stated in the first question. Also, share that we filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. She continued to contact him via text/phone calls. Our dad sent her text messages all the time that were brief and vague about how he was doing and what was new with him. The truth was that he couldn't remember and did not have the cognitive ability to recall his day/week. She would send him photos of her with other male friends and share about how much they helped her with a move or took care of her. In May of 2022 she had sent a text to our father from Las Vegas. She had recently moved there and stated she was caring for a woman with Alzheimer's and how difficult it was to care for her. I was very worried for that person and contacted the police in Las Vegas to report my concerns, but they didn't want to hear about it unless I had the name of the potential victim. I then called Adult Protective Services and they had the same response. Two weeks later she sent our dad a text at around 2:30am stating that she had to move because her roommate learned she was allergic to her cats. She had lived in Las Vegas for about two months and very quickly left to temporarily live with her son and his family in S. Padre Islands, Texas. I was very worried about the safety and well-being of the person she said she was caring for. She seemed settled in Vegas one minute and then abruptly moved away the next minute. She continued to talk with my dad which made it difficult for him to move forward and to understand what she had done to him. He couldn't remember from day to day what she had done and would reach out to her like a drug addict seeking their next fix. We contacted Adult Protective Services immediately. We called the police department to report the real estate listing on Zillow along with the unusual bank activity and credit card usage. We had filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. The police did in fact get proof of fraud on Zillow and presented it to the DA's office. The District Attorney chose not to take the case because no money was exchanged. We were even given a contact person at the FBI, but after talking with them they were not interested and never returned our phone calls after that. Our father was able to sell his house and is now able to have that money to live off of. He lives with me and my family and has his own bedroom/bathroom and an office where he can display his photos and memorabilia. Every single agency, doctors, bankers, APS, law enforcement, and the FBI have all agreed unanimously that our father was being abused and financially exploited. Unfortunately, there have been no consequences for the behavior of his girlfriend other than the fact that she can no longer abuse our father. We believe she is still doing the same scam/con with other elderly men, and will continue to do so. We have read about a recent case of elder abuse that is very similar to our story, but they are now facing actual criminal charges because they took a lot of money. It fear that the type of abuse our dad's girlfriend committed is all too common and overlooked if there isn't an excessive amount of money involved. We are grateful for our Aunt and Uncle and all of the friends and neighbors who stepped in to help our father. Had they not, I truly believe he would not be here with us today. Thankfully, we have finally been successful in removing her from any communication with our father. Unfortunately, much of that is because our father's memory has declined and he cannot remember her phone number anymore.

If you suspect anything is off or wrong trust your instincts. Call Adult Protective Services immediately. It can be overwhelming and scary. Find friends and support groups to connect with. You are not alone! Be persistent. Also, make sure to get the proper medical care and evaluations for your loved one. Our father was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's and also has other physical ailments that need medical care and treatment. Make sure to rule out any type of dementia/alzheimer's. Get as many resources as possible in your local area including the neighborhood Senior center. It's important to have a support system for your loved one and yourself. Document everything about the fraud, and share your story like I am here. The more we get the information out there the more knowledge people will have. We believe this was similar to a Romance Scam. Our dad's girlfriend was introduced to him by a mutual friend. Our dad originally met the mutual friend through an online dating site/chat room. That mutual friend is connected to the dance instructor, the computer person and the girlfriend. APS believes it is some type of ring of people collectively helping one another with their own personal scams. As I get older I see the importance of having documents such as a living trust and power of attorney all in place before I have any type of cognitive decline.

I hope the laws start to actually protect all of our elderly. What good is the law if there are no consequences for criminal actions. I am dismayed, disappointed and saddened that we spent a better part of 1.5 years talking with the very institutions designed to protect people like our father only to discover they don't want to get involved. Can we hold people accountable for their actions? It seems the victim is often left dealing with the behavior of the abuser. I am hoping someday there will be stronger protections under the law for these types of crimes.

I have purposely not added names to my information to protect my father and my family. I do not trust this person, or her family.

I was watching a program the other day about Harvey Wienstien, listening to the women talk about the pain, hurt, humiliatiin they lived with in silence until they got justice. I will never really know thier pain, but i do certainly know what it is like trying to go on living with the unbearable pain of extreme injustice tearing you apart inside, having walked into a hospital with my most beautiful precious beloved mom with nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all, only to see her be gruesomely killed by a doctors most blatant gross severe neglect, malpractice that there ever could be. And as if that isn't bad enough, the soul-wrenching betrayal of Livanta/CMS/HHS/AARP twisting a thousand hot irons in your heart, using thier full power and influence to deny, disguise, do anything they can to cover-up for and protect my moms killer from accountability, aa if they have no conscience, no heart at all, and either don't recognize, or just don't care, that even if they have the power and connections to get away with it on paper, nothing in this world, nothing that they do, goes unseen by The One who nothing is hidden from, who knows all truth about everything. It truly baffles and confounds my mind to think how/where they find personel capable to even do these jobs which require a total compromise of all human decency and basic principles that I thought was reserved for the rare psycopath serial killer types, somehow lacking the critical inherent component of civil human beings, a nature that renders us incapable of comitting atrocities against others, be it our soul, conscience, heart, compassion. Scary to think these highly dangerous types may be much more common than i thought, including working, holding powerful positions within the systems we rely on to keep us, and our loved ones safe from being killed by bad doctors/hospitals The staff at Livanta/CMS/HHS would have to be full of them, as no person of quality with any measure of integrity, principles at all, could accept a paycheck for helping to cover for someone who blatantly killed my mom. The pain of losing a loved one is hard enough. When that loved one is killed by another person, it's a lot harder. There are no words to begin to convey how many times over much harder still it is watching the greatest love of your life, my precious beloved mom, being torturously killed, screaming HELP MEEE, AAAAA, HEEELLLP MEEE, in excruciating agony, all because of the gross extreme neglect, malpractice of a doctor who refused to see her against the adamant urgings of me and a profesional home nurse asking, begging that she needs and requires immeadiate attention. I assure you it is an unimaginable heartwrenching soul crushing indescribable hell that is hard to even go on living with, ONLY MULTIPLIED EVEN MORE MANY TIMES OVER BY THE EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA PROTECTING MY MOMS KILLER RATHER THAN HOLDING THAT DOCTOR ACCOUNTABLE, WHO I WATCHED, AND HAVE A PROFESSIONAL NURSES WRITTEN STATEMENT, AND A NEW RECENTLY RECIEVED DESCRIPTIVE OUTLINE FROM A NATIONALY RENOWNED HOSPITAL SAFETY & RESEARCH ORGANIZATION DETAILING HOW THE HORRIBLE NEGLECT AND MALPRACTICE OF A DOCTOR KILLED MY MOM, AFTER WALKING INTO THAT HOSPITAL WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE ANYTHING ANYWHERE NEAR LIFE-THREATENING WRONG WITH HER AT ALL. ENTRUSTING HER HEALTH INTO THE HANDS OF AN INCOMPETENT DOCTOR, WHO GRUESOMELY KILLED HER, DYING 100% FROM THINGS DONE TO HER. I FIND IT DISTURBING TO THINK THAT YOU WERE EVEN ABLE TO FIND PERSONEL TO ACCEPT PAYCHECKS FOR BEING ACCOMPLICES TO PROVEN, KNOWN, BLATANT, NEGLIGENT MANSLAUGHTER HOMICIDE, EFFECTIVELY ASSURING AND ENCOURAGING EVEN WORSENING HOSPITAL CONDITIONS AND FURTHER HYPER-ESCALATION OF WRONFUL DEATHS ESPECIALLY OF THE PRECIOUS BELOVED VULNERABLE ELDERLY BECAUSE OF WHAT THE HEARTLESS, SOULESS, SICK EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA, CMS, HHS, AARP FUNCTIONALLY AND EFFECTIVELY DO. Truly and Sincerely, Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I was watching a program the other day about Harvey Wienstien, listening to the women talk about the pain, hurt, humiliatiin they lived with in silence until they got justice. I will never really know thier pain, but i do certainly know what it is like trying to go on living with the unbearable pain of extreme injustice tearing you apart inside, having walked into a hospital with my most beautiful precious beloved mom with nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all, only to see her be gruesomely killed by a doctors most blatant gross severe neglect, malpractice that there ever could be. And as if that isn't bad enough, the soul-wrenching betrayal of Livanta/CMS/HHS/AARP twisting a thousand hot irons in your heart, using thier full power and influence to deny, disguise, do anything they can to cover-up for and protect my moms killer from accountability, aa if they have no conscience, no heart at all, and either don't recognize, or just don't care, that even if they have the power and connections to get away with it on paper, nothing in this world, nothing that they do, goes unseen by The One who nothing is hidden from, who knows all truth about everything. It truly baffles and confounds my mind to think how/where they find personel capable to even do these jobs which require a total compromise of all human decency and basic principles that I thought was reserved for the rare psycopath serial killer types, somehow lacking the critical inherent component of civil human beings, a nature that renders us incapable of comitting atrocities against others, be it our soul, conscience, heart, compassion. Scary to think these highly dangerous types may be much more common than i thought, including working, holding powerful positions within the systems we rely on to keep us, and our loved ones safe from being killed by bad doctors/hospitals The staff at Livanta/CMS/HHS would have to be full of them, as no person of quality with any measure of integrity, principles at all, could accept a paycheck for helping to cover for someone who blatantly killed my mom. The pain of losing a loved one is hard enough. When that loved one is killed by another person, it's a lot harder. There are no words to begin to convey how many times over much harder still it is watching the greatest love of your life, my precious beloved mom, being torturously killed, screaming HELP MEEE, AAAAA, HEEELLLP MEEE, in excruciating agony, all because of the gross extreme neglect, malpractice of a doctor who refused to see her against the adamant urgings of me and a profesional home nurse asking, begging that she needs and requires immeadiate attention. I assure you it is an unimaginable heartwrenching soul crushing indescribable hell that is hard to even go on living with, ONLY MULTIPLIED EVEN MORE MANY TIMES OVER BY THE EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA PROTECTING MY MOMS KILLER RATHER THAN HOLDING THAT DOCTOR ACCOUNTABLE, WHO I WATCHED, AND HAVE A PROFESSIONAL NURSES WRITTEN STATEMENT, AND A NEW RECENTLY RECIEVED DESCRIPTIVE OUTLINE FROM A NATIONALY RENOWNED HOSPITAL SAFETY & RESEARCH ORGANIZATION DETAILING HOW THE HORRIBLE NEGLECT AND MALPRACTICE OF A DOCTOR KILLED MY MOM, AFTER WALKING INTO THAT HOSPITAL WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE ANYTHING ANYWHERE NEAR LIFE-THREATENING WRONG WITH HER AT ALL. ENTRUSTING HER HEALTH INTO THE HANDS OF AN INCOMPETENT DOCTOR, WHO GRUESOMELY KILLED HER, DYING 100% FROM THINGS DONE TO HER. I FIND IT DISTURBING TO THINK THAT YOU WERE EVEN ABLE TO FIND PERSONEL TO ACCEPT PAYCHECKS FOR BEING ACCOMPLICES TO PROVEN, KNOWN, BLATANT, NEGLIGENT MANSLAUGHTER HOMICIDE, EFFECTIVELY ASSURING AND ENCOURAGING EVEN WORSENING HOSPITAL CONDITIONS AND FURTHER HYPER-ESCALATION OF WRONFUL DEATHS ESPECIALLY OF THE PRECIOUS BELOVED VULNERABLE ELDERLY BECAUSE OF WHAT THE HEARTLESS, SOULESS, SICK EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA, CMS, HHS, AARP FUNCTIONALLY AND EFFECTIVELY DO. Truly and Sincerely, Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I was watching a program the other day about Harvey Wienstien, listening to the women talk about the pain, hurt, humiliatiin they lived with in silence until they got justice. I will never really know thier pain, but i do certainly know what it is like trying to go on living with the unbearable pain of extreme injustice tearing you apart inside, having walked into a hospital with my most beautiful precious beloved mom with nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all, only to see her be gruesomely killed by a doctors most blatant gross severe neglect, malpractice that there ever could be. And as if that isn't bad enough, the soul-wrenching betrayal of Livanta/CMS/HHS/AARP twisting a thousand hot irons in your heart, using thier full power and influence to deny, disguise, do anything they can to cover-up for and protect my moms killer from accountability, aa if they have no conscience, no heart at all, and either don't recognize, or just don't care, that even if they have the power and connections to get away with it on paper, nothing in this world, nothing that they do, goes unseen by The One who nothing is hidden from, who knows all truth about everything. It truly baffles and confounds my mind to think how/where they find personel capable to even do these jobs which require a total compromise of all human decency and basic principles that I thought was reserved for the rare psycopath serial killer types, somehow lacking the critical inherent component of civil human beings, a nature that renders us incapable of comitting atrocities against others, be it our soul, conscience, heart, compassion. Scary to think these highly dangerous types may be much more common than i thought, including working, holding powerful positions within the systems we rely on to keep us, and our loved ones safe from being killed by bad doctors/hospitals The staff at Livanta/CMS/HHS would have to be full of them, as no person of quality with any measure of integrity, principles at all, could accept a paycheck for helping to cover for someone who blatantly killed my mom. The pain of losing a loved one is hard enough. When that loved one is killed by another person, it's a lot harder. There are no words to begin to convey how many times over much harder still it is watching the greatest love of your life, my precious beloved mom, being torturously killed, screaming HELP MEEE, AAAAA, HEEELLLP MEEE, in excruciating agony, all because of the gross extreme neglect, malpractice of a doctor who refused to see her against the adamant urgings of me and a profesional home nurse asking, begging that she needs and requires immeadiate attention. I assure you it is an unimaginable heartwrenching soul crushing indescribable hell that is hard to even go on living with, ONLY MULTIPLIED EVEN MORE MANY TIMES OVER BY THE EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA PROTECTING MY MOMS KILLER RATHER THAN HOLDING THAT DOCTOR ACCOUNTABLE, WHO I WATCHED, AND HAVE A PROFESSIONAL NURSES WRITTEN STATEMENT, AND A NEW RECENTLY RECIEVED DESCRIPTIVE OUTLINE FROM A NATIONALY RENOWNED HOSPITAL SAFETY & RESEARCH ORGANIZATION DETAILING HOW THE HORRIBLE NEGLECT AND MALPRACTICE OF A DOCTOR KILLED MY MOM, AFTER WALKING INTO THAT HOSPITAL WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE ANYTHING ANYWHERE NEAR LIFE-THREATENING WRONG WITH HER AT ALL. ENTRUSTING HER HEALTH INTO THE HANDS OF AN INCOMPETENT DOCTOR, WHO GRUESOMELY KILLED HER, DYING 100% FROM THINGS DONE TO HER. I FIND IT DISTURBING TO THINK THAT YOU WERE EVEN ABLE TO FIND PERSONEL TO ACCEPT PAYCHECKS FOR BEING ACCOMPLICES TO PROVEN, KNOWN, BLATANT, NEGLIGENT MANSLAUGHTER HOMICIDE, EFFECTIVELY ASSURING AND ENCOURAGING EVEN WORSENING HOSPITAL CONDITIONS AND FURTHER HYPER-ESCALATION OF WRONFUL DEATHS ESPECIALLY OF THE PRECIOUS BELOVED VULNERABLE ELDERLY BECAUSE OF WHAT THE HEARTLESS, SOULESS, SICK EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA, CMS, HHS, AARP FUNCTIONALLY AND EFFECTIVELY DO. Truly and Sincerely, Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I was watching a program the other day about Harvey Wienstien, listening to the women talk about the pain, hurt, humiliatiin they lived with in silence until they got justice. I will never really know thier pain, but i do certainly know what it is like trying to go on living with the unbearable pain of extreme injustice tearing you apart inside, having walked into a hospital with my most beautiful precious beloved mom with nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all, only to see her be gruesomely killed by a doctors most blatant gross severe neglect, malpractice that there ever could be. And as if that isn't bad enough, the soul-wrenching betrayal of Livanta/CMS/HHS/AARP twisting a thousand hot irons in your heart, using thier full power and influence to deny, disguise, do anything they can to cover-up for and protect my moms killer from accountability, aa if they have no conscience, no heart at all, and either don't recognize, or just don't care, that even if they have the power and connections to get away with it on paper, nothing in this world, nothing that they do, goes unseen by The One who nothing is hidden from, who knows all truth about everything. It truly baffles and confounds my mind to think how/where they find personel capable to even do these jobs which require a total compromise of all human decency and basic principles that I thought was reserved for the rare psycopath serial killer types, somehow lacking the critical inherent component of civil human beings, a nature that renders us incapable of comitting atrocities against others, be it our soul, conscience, heart, compassion. Scary to think these highly dangerous types may be much more common than i thought, including working, holding powerful positions within the systems we rely on to keep us, and our loved ones safe from being killed by bad doctors/hospitals The staff at Livanta/CMS/HHS would have to be full of them, as no person of quality with any measure of integrity, principles at all, could accept a paycheck for helping to cover for someone who blatantly killed my mom. The pain of losing a loved one is hard enough. When that loved one is killed by another person, it's a lot harder. There are no words to begin to convey how many times over much harder still it is watching the greatest love of your life, my precious beloved mom, being torturously killed, screaming HELP MEEE, AAAAA, HEEELLLP MEEE, in excruciating agony, all because of the gross extreme neglect, malpractice of a doctor who refused to see her against the adamant urgings of me and a profesional home nurse asking, begging that she needs and requires immeadiate attention. I assure you it is an unimaginable heartwrenching soul crushing indescribable hell that is hard to even go on living with, ONLY MULTIPLIED EVEN MORE MANY TIMES OVER BY THE EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA PROTECTING MY MOMS KILLER RATHER THAN HOLDING THAT DOCTOR ACCOUNTABLE, WHO I WATCHED, AND HAVE A PROFESSIONAL NURSES WRITTEN STATEMENT, AND A NEW RECENTLY RECIEVED DESCRIPTIVE OUTLINE FROM A NATIONALY RENOWNED HOSPITAL SAFETY & RESEARCH ORGANIZATION DETAILING HOW THE HORRIBLE NEGLECT AND MALPRACTICE OF A DOCTOR KILLED MY MOM, AFTER WALKING INTO THAT HOSPITAL WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE ANYTHING ANYWHERE NEAR LIFE-THREATENING WRONG WITH HER AT ALL. ENTRUSTING HER HEALTH INTO THE HANDS OF AN INCOMPETENT DOCTOR, WHO GRUESOMELY KILLED HER, DYING 100% FROM THINGS DONE TO HER. I FIND IT DISTURBING TO THINK THAT YOU WERE EVEN ABLE TO FIND PERSONEL TO ACCEPT PAYCHECKS FOR BEING ACCOMPLICES TO PROVEN, KNOWN, BLATANT, NEGLIGENT MANSLAUGHTER HOMICIDE, EFFECTIVELY ASSURING AND ENCOURAGING EVEN WORSENING HOSPITAL CONDITIONS AND FURTHER HYPER-ESCALATION OF WRONFUL DEATHS ESPECIALLY OF THE PRECIOUS BELOVED VULNERABLE ELDERLY BECAUSE OF WHAT THE HEARTLESS, SOULESS, SICK EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA, CMS, HHS, AARP FUNCTIONALLY AND EFFECTIVELY DO. Truly and Sincerely, Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I was watching a program the other day about Harvey Wienstien, listening to the women talk about the pain, hurt, humiliatiin they lived with in silence until they got justice. I will never really know thier pain, but i do certainly know what it is like trying to go on living with the unbearable pain of extreme injustice tearing you apart inside, having walked into a hospital with my most beautiful precious beloved mom with nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all, only to see her be gruesomely killed by a doctors most blatant gross severe neglect, malpractice that there ever could be. And as if that isn't bad enough, the soul-wrenching betrayal of Livanta/CMS/HHS/AARP twisting a thousand hot irons in your heart, using thier full power and influence to deny, disguise, do anything they can to cover-up for and protect my moms killer from accountability, aa if they have no conscience, no heart at all, and either don't recognize, or just don't care, that even if they have the power and connections to get away with it on paper, nothing in this world, nothing that they do, goes unseen by The One who nothing is hidden from, who knows all truth about everything. It truly baffles and confounds my mind to think how/where they find personel capable to even do these jobs which require a total compromise of all human decency and basic principles that I thought was reserved for the rare psycopath serial killer types, somehow lacking the critical inherent component of civil human beings, a nature that renders us incapable of comitting atrocities against others, be it our soul, conscience, heart, compassion. Scary to think these highly dangerous types may be much more common than i thought, including working, holding powerful positions within the systems we rely on to keep us, and our loved ones safe from being killed by bad doctors/hospitals The staff at Livanta/CMS/HHS would have to be full of them, as no person of quality with any measure of integrity, principles at all, could accept a paycheck for helping to cover for someone who blatantly killed my mom. The pain of losing a loved one is hard enough. When that loved one is killed by another person, it's a lot harder. There are no words to begin to convey how many times over much harder still it is watching the greatest love of your life, my precious beloved mom, being torturously killed, screaming HELP MEEE, AAAAA, HEEELLLP MEEE, in excruciating agony, all because of the gross extreme neglect, malpractice of a doctor who refused to see her against the adamant urgings of me and a profesional home nurse asking, begging that she needs and requires immeadiate attention. I assure you it is an unimaginable heartwrenching soul crushing indescribable hell that is hard to even go on living with, ONLY MULTIPLIED EVEN MORE MANY TIMES OVER BY THE EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA PROTECTING MY MOMS KILLER RATHER THAN HOLDING THAT DOCTOR ACCOUNTABLE, WHO I WATCHED, AND HAVE A PROFESSIONAL NURSES WRITTEN STATEMENT, AND A NEW RECENTLY RECIEVED DESCRIPTIVE OUTLINE FROM A NATIONALY RENOWNED HOSPITAL SAFETY & RESEARCH ORGANIZATION DETAILING HOW THE HORRIBLE NEGLECT AND MALPRACTICE OF A DOCTOR KILLED MY MOM, AFTER WALKING INTO THAT HOSPITAL WITH ABSOLUTELY NOTHING LIKE ANYTHING ANYWHERE NEAR LIFE-THREATENING WRONG WITH HER AT ALL. ENTRUSTING HER HEALTH INTO THE HANDS OF AN INCOMPETENT DOCTOR, WHO GRUESOMELY KILLED HER, DYING 100% FROM THINGS DONE TO HER. I FIND IT DISTURBING TO THINK THAT YOU WERE EVEN ABLE TO FIND PERSONEL TO ACCEPT PAYCHECKS FOR BEING ACCOMPLICES TO PROVEN, KNOWN, BLATANT, NEGLIGENT MANSLAUGHTER HOMICIDE, EFFECTIVELY ASSURING AND ENCOURAGING EVEN WORSENING HOSPITAL CONDITIONS AND FURTHER HYPER-ESCALATION OF WRONFUL DEATHS ESPECIALLY OF THE PRECIOUS BELOVED VULNERABLE ELDERLY BECAUSE OF WHAT THE HEARTLESS, SOULESS, SICK EVIL DEPRAVED PEOPLE AT LIVANTA, CMS, HHS, AARP FUNCTIONALLY AND EFFECTIVELY DO. Truly and Sincerely, Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

My mom was 88yrs old, very able and capable, either no life threatening medical problems.

There is no way that the extreme disturbing events of this can be exagersted. There are no words strong, powerful, deep enough to convey the depths of sick, evil, depravity that took place at times that would make the devil himself envious. And the more time goes by, the more i am recigizing the depth of impact it has all done to me that only grows worse, not better. There is one thing unquestionably, indisputably clear and certain.My beautiful most sweet, kind, gentle, loving, wonderful mom walked into Penn Medicine's West Chester Pa facility, Chester County Hospital, just about 3-months ago with nothing anywhere near life threatening, and suffered such gross neglect, malpractice, and even emotional abuse, that just about 3-months later, the last month of which she spent in excruciating extreme agony, pain and suffering, she is now dead at their hands. My beautiful, gentle & kind, most loving, caring, wonderful, greatest mom in the whole world, came home from the initially surgery seemingly fine, before beginng to complain of feeling weak and have some pain. Then when the home nurse noticed her incision was infected, and felt so strongly that this needed prompt attention that she took a picture and sent it to the Chester County surgeon urging him to address the infected incision, but he just absolutely refused and said he'd see her in a week at her next scheduled appointment. I called his office begging and pleading, but he just refused to see her. I called her family doctor, and Urgent Care, but they both told me only the surgeon can address that. Unfortunately my mom didn't make it to that appointment before collapsing on the ground in extreme pain, infection throughout her whole body. All I could do was wrap a robe around her, and call an ambulance which took her right back to Chester County where the same surgeon then admitted that yes we were right, it's infected, at this point so badly, and deeply, that he had to do another operation to cut out the infection, leaving a big hole in my mom's inner leg, and give her antibiotics and a wound vac, but he botched it again, as we later found out, when the rehab that they discharged my mom way too early into against my wishes, after a few days sent her right back by ambulance again, which is when we had her transfered to Upenn Philly, where an expert surgeon seemed upset himself that the Chester County surgeon had not immediately removed the apparent source of the infection, the artificial vein graft put in by the Chester County surgeon. Although that Upenn surgeon did remove that infected graft, and debride the incision again, by this time my mom was developing C-diff from all the antibiotics, and not being on any kind of a proper anti-bedsore mattress, nor ever once being turned or adjusted as I later found out too late they should've been doing every 2-hours, my mom, who went into Upenn Philly never having ever had a bedsore in her life, developed a bedsore that was allowed to grow into a massive, hideous, stage 4, excruciatingly painful, life threatening bedsore, which they would never mention, or change the dressing on in front of me, until I finally said hey whats behind this big bandage on my mom's back, and discovered it, and when I went to take a picture so I could compare it to later to be sure it's healing,, as I had done all along everytime they changed the dressing on her infected incision with no problem, they bizarrley freaked out, got security to escort me out of the hospital, not only robbing my poor sick mom of her constant support having been by her side helping and encouraging her all day every day for months now since this all started, but upset her so much I later found out she was throwing up all that night, and eventually confronted me outside with a whole pack of goons threatening and intimidating me off of the property, threatening to have me arrested if I even call to check on my mom's condition. I just could not believe that especially a hospital could be capable of such complete depravity, more like something from a fictional horror film than how you would think anybody with any degree of human qualities, compassion and and a conscience at all would be capable to behave, even if they were being paid, and from there it kept getting so much more and more profoundly sick and just so downright evil it was just truly very scarey. Even when I called Philadelphia Elder Care they called me right back saying the hospital says your mom is not in there, and I discovered they had actually removed my mom from thier computer system so that when anyone called the switchboard would say, we cannot put you through, there's no one here by that name. My poor sick mom inside alone and scared and me outside worried to death what is going on, how could this be happening. It was sheer horror, and in the end, they killed her. From there she went to a rehab in Exton, having walked into a West Chester facility just about a couple months prior with very non-life threatening health issues, expecting to have my mom around for many more good years, as her whole family commonly lives to 100+ years old, was lying there in a rehab bed, with a feeding tube in her stomach, a wound vac on her leg, screaming in constant severe agony from the giant 4 inch wide, down to the muscle bedsore hole in her back, looking like she belonged more in an intensuve care unit, for a couple days before being ambulanced again back to Chester County Hospital when her vital signs declined overnight, where I watched my poor mom, my most beautiful, kind, loving, most wonderful, sweet, gentle, person you could ever meet, greatest mom ever in the whole world, die and pass away. Gone forever, way too soon, in a torturous excruciating end of the greatest mom that God ever made, my mom, my world, and I can't even imagine how I'm going to even go on myself without her. No words could ever even begin to approach the sickening, disturbing imposible horror of this overall experience that I wouldn't even think would go on in some backwoods underdeveloped lawless place, let alone right here in Pennsylvania, USA.I would be compelled and obligated to every other future mother and son, to work with you, show you what pictures I did get, and cooperate fully to try to bring to light, and hopefully avoid anyone else ever again from having to go through this what killed my sweet wonderful mom, ruined my world, and if it doesn't kill me as it feels like it will, certainly will at least leave me very deeply and permanently scarred, and missing my mom. Sincerely,
Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I wish I could tell my whole story on national/ international media to let everyone know that Dr Hayes, along with Penn Medicine for not care about having principles, values, doing the right thing, only money, and they are very evil to the core of thier souls, if they even have them.

Dr Hayes will go to jail for life for manslaughter, and Penn Medicine will be shut-down, or at least massively fined sending a clear message through the Healthcare industry.

I would very greatly appreciate if you could help me reach as big an audience as possible on every level and type of media. I have no qualms at all about using my name and info. In fact I prefer to use my name and full contact info, as you also may please do. I will sign any type of release forms immediately for that if necessary. Please contact me with any and every person, organization that you know of who may be capable of, or be in contact with anyone else who is capable of, using the law, media, people in power, any possible thing that can raise awareness, make a difference in what is going on that this may never happen again to anyone else please.

My mother-in-law was diagnosed with moderate to severe Alzheimer's dementia type in October of 2015. Within 2 weeks my brother-in-law and his wife (who took her to the diagnosed neurologist appointment) took her to her bank and began changing beneficiaries on accounts. Since that time they have had her sign to replace her long hired attorney, changed beneficiaries on all her bank accounts, closed out some accounts and moved them out of state, hired 2 new attorneys, changed POA, trustees of trust, revoked the trust, had her sign a new will, placed her in a nursing home and refuses to let us see her, took the farming operation away from my husband (, (who had farmed it with his father all his life, my fil passed away in 2007 and my husband continued to farm for his mother on an oral contract). We were advised to get guardianship. That fell through b/c of a technicality. We took them to court in2006, and we are still fighting to get things put back the way they were. We were told to report them to APS. we did but when APS went to my mil house, she said nothing was wrong and referred APS to her POA(her son who is taking advantage). Her son also took her to local businesses and wrote checks for larger amounts over the purchases to have extra cash. He also did not rebuild her house that was damaged by straight line winds. He put the insurance check into an account that will go to him when his mother passes away. This house was to be left to another brother and now is worthless. As I said, we reported to APS and one of her banks reported, as well as our State Representative Norrine Hammonds office and the APS office in Peria Il. that is over the local APS office in Quincy Illinois that we delt with.

Reporting to our local APS was a waste of time. My mil does not know anything about what goes on in the world, she cannot make financial decisions (this was documented by a GAL report and by several health care professionals), and her only concern when APS visited her house was where she was going to get a ride to the local coffee shop b/c that is what the sister in law did for her daily after the sister in law quit her job at a local university. This was a plan that they decided to do and has cost us money for attorneys, loss of income from the farm for 5 years and has taken a mental toll on not only my husband and myself but our 3 grown children. APS needs to talk to all family members.

This type of abuse is planned by family members and kept secretive about making changes. By the time we found out about several discrepancies it was difficult to get anything reversed. Even though my mil attorney sent letters out to all of us to leave her estate plan alone. It was what she wanted. He even threatened how the mis use of POA can bring certain charges. It seems like it is difficult to "prove" my mil state of mind and they knew it was going to be an arduous task for us to prove they had brainwashed her and get the changes they made reversed. They were smart enough to always have my mil sign all documents. I know in my heart she did not know what she was signing.

That APS can interview family members. They should have sat with us and asked appropriate questions. They should have taken into account that a bank, state rep office and a higher APS office made the request to look into this family problem. When an elderly person has dementia, they cannot think or rationalize clearly. It should not matter what degree of cognitive disability they have.

We are also so frustrated with the court system. We are placed on delays constantly. We would like to be involved with making some changes about elderly that have a cognitive diagnosis and at least asking all immediate family members to be involved in decision making. APS needs to be able to talk to the elderly person without consent from the POA. They also should reach out to other family members to understand the scope of the problem.

I am being emotionally, financially and psychologically abused by my adopted daughter and her boyfriend and someone else who they are working with. She said that she wants to create a a story that I am crazy and put me away. When I was sick for a while I told her how awful I felt. Her answer was - "I want to see the will. I want to see how much I'm getting." She googled a site that tells you how to get your name on a deed. I have been pickpocketed, tracked and followed, my devices have been hacked and all of my jewelry, financial papers and a suitcase full of clothes have been stolen. They have violated and victimized me in all ways. They also jammed my security cameras and are able to get through all locks. The authorities haven't helped me. I need these criminals to be investigated. I have loved, protected given my all to my daughter. I saved her life. This is not how I thought my life and hers would be .

I have two master's degrees. I am still teaching and directing productions. To have anyone say demeaning things about me is very destructive. I feel that I am in a cruel game. I'm not free to live my life. She is drinking now and her once beautiful faced is puffed and distorted. Her boyfriend is cruel and controlling.
In addition, they abused and killed my beautiful cat.
Everything they do are traits of sociopaths and I am the target.

I have called attorneys, security personnel, the elder hotline and others for gel and have gotten nowhere. I am all alone in this. I need some help.

My hope is for people in power to listen and understand the pure grief that I'm experiencing every day. I have a log of everything these criminals have perpetrated.

My story needs light. I need to get it out there. I need the broken system to work. Agencies that are supposed to help do not come through.