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My father's Sister,Daughter,and his POA forged signatures stealing all of childrens inheritance, properties, and starved, abused, and put pills in his mouth, Killing him. I went to his home, and was attacked by his So called POA,, wife and brother with a gun, beating me, telling me they were going to kill me like they did my dad, they killed my family!! And will kill me, when they catch me

They shot and killed my 17 yr old son and covered it up as suicide in Livingston parish Louisiana, with all along with all my possessions being stolen and the sheriff said,that the evidence that I have was probably contaminated. They all got away with murder, crime, human trafficking, stealing peoples properties, bank account, Inheritances

I am a senior citizen who lives in Rhode Island is a victim of power-based abuse. My daughter attacked me a fee weeks ago and was arrested. I am trying to flee but I haven't any income. I am living in an apartment without heat and sleeping on the floor. The abusers are her father's celebrant family. I need help.

My situation concerns my 87 yr old mother who has a guardian under what I consider fraudulent circumstances. Her guardian (nephew) has abused his power and authority. Has a civic suit against me alleging all sorts of things. He was ultimately granted a preliminary injunction against me without the benefit of being heard that basically denies my mother and I access to one another. This case has been ongoing since March 28th.2022. My mother was taken from our home on May 18th 23 allegedly for her safety/ protection from me, but ultimately returned on August 31th. 23.
Present circumstances, she was taken by EMS to the emergency room on 10-10-23 and I've been banned from seeing or speaking to her, without anything warranting sure actions by the guardian.
I've made reports after reports to no avail.
My mother was diagnosed with dementia 6-30-22 and the torture/ torment she has suffered at the hands of her guardian, her son and a woman she legally placed up for adoption 66 yrs. Ago
This has been absolutely the most horrifying experience for first and foremost, my mom and myself.
I have compelling/ Conclusive evidence to support my statements.
There has been no interest in the well being/ best interest of my mother. Their only concern has been property that was gifted to me by my mother and the plaintiff, her son and the legally adopted woman have been after.
So much more to this horrific story.

My father is 87 years he lives in contra costa county he worked hard his entire life set up his retirement and believed he would be able to spend the rest of his life enjoying it. But that did not happen, my father was almost killed by a women who over dosed him with pills in the attempt to try and kill him as he was worth alot to her dead she had changed his trust documents with her attorney she took many life insurance policies out on him. I was contacted by a family friend who witnessed all this he got concerned about his safety and called me, my father ws not in good shape he was taken to walnut creek kaiser as he was so drugged up that he could not even walk we have reports from kaiser stating unknown pills where in his system. this women jill moses got scared and thought she was going to jail so she went and got a attorney and with out no notice to my father and family he was placed under a conservertership our contra costa county superior court is the most corrupt department Judge Virgina George and her clan of corrupt attorneys Konstaintine demiris, joe morell, lara heisler, Terrence murphy John Balquest, Mathew talbot, which we have proved everything that lara heisler and jill moses had stated but they keep it all going we have spent our life savings to theses attorneys all for doing nothing they even made me sign documents giving up any inheritence i might have gotten they are now wanting over 600,000 in more fees and these people have done nothing, MY FATHER WAS ABUSED AND THE COURT SYSTEM DOES NOTHING ABOUT IT ACCEPT KEEP ABUSING THE VICTIM AND LET THE ABUSER GET AWAY WITH IT ALL SHE HAS DONE THIS TO SO MANY PEOPLE ALREADY OUR SYSTEM IS SO MESSED UP. I HAVE BEEN CONTACTED BY MANY OTHER VICTIMS THAT HAVE ALSO BEEN THROUGH PURE HELL THIS IS ORGANIZED CRIME AND NEEDS TO BE STOPPED.
I WOULD NOT WISH THIS ON ANYBODY THESE PEOPLE PRAY ON THE ELDERLY DISABLED AND CHILDREN THE MOST VULNERABLE PEOPLE IT NEEDS TO STOP. MY NAME IS MICHELYNE KUYKENDALL I DONT NEED TO BE PRIVATE I WILL DO ANYTHING TO STOP THIS ABUSE TO THE ELDERLY. MY NUMBER IS 925 206 8882
Thanks so much
Michelyne kuykendall

THE CORRUPTION IN OUR CONTRA COSTA COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT DEPARTMENT 30

I have so much evidence there is alot more to this story with evidence I also have many other victims that want to get there story out so hopefully we can stop the abuse in our court system

Sis s plan poa trustee exe 5000 acre farm sold 2million farm machinery household house farm changed will took caddy she is tak n 50000000 in property need help real evil person

HELP

From: Anders, James
Sent: Sunday, November 27, 2022 2:16 PM
To: Anders, James
Subject: VonUlrich

1514 Burke Road Baltimore Maryland 21220 – Freeze Accounts of Andrew von Ulrich – Elder Financial Exploitation investigation

History and facts – last 10 years

After my mother died – and prior to her death – for 45 years of marriage – I was essentially the only child living near them or actively in their day-to-day life. I participated in their day-to-day life (especially in navigating any legal or financial or transaction type events) – including all of their estate and financial planning. It became clear – that after years of marriage, separating assets into two buckets – his and hers from prior to marriage made no sense and they comingled all assets. Ninety percent of all assets came from my mother and her family (She had several houses – and money from her parents and an aunt). However, having been married for years and aging togethers as well as the legal documents and process required to prepared and maintain separate assets but to also provide for lifetime care for each other was no longer important. What was priority and important was care for life for both and sharing any remaining equally among 4 children – without exception even if the relationship was stressed or even estranged. I being a CPA (as was my mother), I participated in on all estate discussions and Wills and titling of assets. It was a focus and not a neglect of Regina von Ulrich or Andrew von Ulrich. They understood the importance of making sure their wishes were reflected in any documents. All Wills and all accounts were set up – and I participated in the strategy – to pass any remaining assets by way of beneficiary designation – and that remaining dollars were to be divided (I have copies) into 25% percent to each child. Much discussion happened around Christine in the early years as she was estranged from Andy and my mother. However, that became a topic that was decided about 15 or 20 years ago – the decision was --- all would be included. However, primary was care for life for both – and preservation of monies. All the trust and all the legal efforts to keep my mother’s money separate was stopped – although there are many Wills which had those conditions included. Andy and my mother committed to each other in front of me – and the attorneys (at that time) that they would never violate the joint wishes as a sole survivor. Melanie and I were always the two designated to insure this.

After my mother died and Andy was living alone – I visited regularly and had dinner – and watched (or pretended to watch and enjoy) his old movies. There were a few things that were important to him (he was a simple man of needs) – however, he knew that he needed to move to be supervised and monitored - for reasons related to age but also to a health diagnosis (to be highlighted below). I was – other than my mother – the only person who knew his health issue and prognosis (and also the cause of his death – however he was age 94 and had lived longer than the average from his cancer and the prognosis from the medical professionals).
We discussed Erickson Retirement Communities as an option – as I was a founding member of the Board of Directors for 21 years during the start-up and growth phase (built into a National Company) and we established the CCRC national community model of care and financing for seniors and a model designed for aging in place - (Continuing Care Retirement Community). I also Chaired the board of directors. However, he didn’t want to live in an old age home as he called it (BTW our communities are not old age homes and are very healthy active communities 😊). I also know things like - he had a face lift in his 60’s – again only my mother and I knew of this. He was a proud person and he wanted to live in the in-law cottage I had built for aging-in-place – which was only10 steps to my front door but independent living with safeguards and 24/7 monitoring.

Christine von Ulrich’s framing of the last 4 to 5 years as motivated by her goals – did not reflect the last 45 years or even the last 7 years. She doesn’t know the history and was not involved. She only started limited visits during the last 5 years. Although they had some prior contact over phone and internet – and an few visits by Andy to their houses to spend time – a few holidays. After a few visits – Christine talked to Andy about buying a house with (for) her and Andy to live – in Richmond VA. That was 4 or 5 years ago. Andy visited her – and came home upset – that Christine wanted him to move into a house they would purchase and she would take care of him. He wanted nothing to do with the idea – and said he wanted to stay in the in-law cottage. He was not happy at her persistence.

The Cottage is on a waterfront property with waterfront views – designed and built based on Erickson Retirement Community standards – note my son and I are both certified aging in place specialist. The Cottage was built for my mother in-law – and was designed as an aging in place cottage with a full bath and laundry and bedroom and kitchen – with all the safety features including an intercom system linked to my house. The front door is 10 steps from my front door and could be monitored 24/7. That is how I was able to find withing the day - Andy when he died. It has an emergency generator – internet – and all the features of senior living cottage – all on one level (no steps or obstacles). It has a separate HVAC system and a back-up generator for power. This was built special for aging in place seniors – and family. It is not a rental.

Andy was living in a mobile home park – double wide with my mother when she died. It was 30 minutes from my home and I was the only relative nearby. It cost him $600 a month to rent the pad (land space only) plus utilities and maintenance – he was spending more than $1,000 a month.
I was called regularly by park management if something happened. The park management called often – as Andy was often reported by neighbors for exposure or peeping Tom concerns. I would talk to Andy and he indicated he was outside peeing in the bushes. I of course told him he could not do this. Melanie living in Florida was called as well (She and I had always been the people to notify) – but all she could do was call me. Christine was not involved in his life at the time. When my mother-in-law died – Andy asked if he could move into the cottage – indicating he needed a place as he was getting older – it was also helpful to me – since we could monitor 24/7. I helped and my family helped – with selling the mobile home – and moving him. He liked the furniture my mother-in-law had – and he said he wanted the bed, living room furniture and kitchen table/chairs – including the recliner my mother-in-law had (ironically mentioned by Christine as Andy’s – of course she had no idea since she was not involved – it is soiled and trash at this point). Andy was also monitored by our neighbors – we are a waterfront community on a peninsula and at the very end of the peninsula. If he fell walking – neighbors would bring him home. They all knew him.

Christine didn’t know any of the history and definitely doesn’t know that the Cottage was built as am aging-in-place Cottage for our family (however it has a sign – and painting of a lighthouse – with the word’s – Granny’s Cottage 😊). Comments about rushing to get things removed so I can rent the apartment demonstrates her behavior of quickly removing all valuables and paperwork that contained anything that suggested she exploited Andy or any evidence of her actions. I told her no rush. We documented all phones calls – have all text and emails – and they are enlightening (especially during the first 2 weeks after he died). Melanie had no idea at that point of the changes made. And could not understand Christine’s insistence on need to quickly remove anything he had in his apartment. Of course, given the fiduciary responsibilities we all have to the estate – including Christine – simple elements such as an inventory of all assets in the apartment – jewelry, rare coin collects, silver and others – never happened. In one day – Christine came in an removed all valuables and the laptop with all his information and bank accounts – and did not remove anything that was trash. It should be noted, we have documentation of all calls – especially the 2 weeks immediately after his death – her many text asking to visit immediately to clean out his apartment – again we said no, there was no rush and we had time – plus we were going to sport events with out grandchildren. Her insistence and many texts suggest she wanted to get something out of the apartment quickly. Very odd – even Melanie said that there was no rush (until 2 weeks later when Christine told her that everything was now in only their names – changed during the last 3 years) Melanie then went “radio silent”.

Health Information and Cause of Death – known only to his doctor and myself – and the coroner.

Andy was in final stages of Malignant Neoplasm of Prostrate. Diagnosed about 15 years ago – but he is now at age 94 – and during the last 5 years – it was obvious he was slowing down significantly and impaired – all of his senses were significantly declining. Andy had a hard time hearing, his eyesight had deteriorated (he could not read without telescope lenses – and then only very slowly), he slept much of the day – and he was very slow understanding or knowing what he was being told. He spent a lot of money (which we paid on our account) playing with the TV and purchasing streaming services or movies or whatever – and even though he could not see TV well. He had an added speaker – that was so loud that we could hear from our house 😊. His walk was a shuffle and only very short shuffle steps. He cognitive understanding was slow – but he also never wanted anyone to know. When telling him something he often just said “yes” or “ok” – and I never knew if he really understood what I said.
I knew he had terminal cancer – he knew he had terminal cancer – and we all knew that when age 80 – maybe this slow cancer (not treated for age and protocol reasons 15 years ago) would give him 5 to 7 years – but he wanted to be somewhere – like this Cottage where we would monitor him 24/7. His wallet had 2 phone numbers for emergency contact – My wife and my phone number (no others). The night we found him – the police was at our home for 6 hours – and we needed his files and wallet – and the police had full access to everything as well. The last 5 to 7 years – Andy knew he was deteriorating – and the visits 3 or 4 times a year by Christine for a day would not provide her information into Andy (other than he was fragile and very slow) – but he condition and her not engaging much as he was maintaining his daily routine while she did whatever she did - allowed her to purchase a new laptop and work the entire day while Andy slept mostly or watched TV (most listened) while she sat on patio – going thru his files – and changing the banking verification numbers to her phone – or including her number as well. She had full access to all his passwords and accounts – and honestly, we all trusted her intentions – even though she was not a very social person with anyone while visiting – we knew that was just her.

The death certificate – which I have. I was managing his affairs and called the police and worked with the coroner. The police contacted his primary physician based on the records we provided that night. This was not important and Christine would not really know - she didn’t live with him nor did she have information or history. She did not know what caused his death and would never have guessed it was the cancer. She continued to ask during the 2 weeks we talked – do I know what caused his death. Without the coroner and his primary care physician – I didn’t discuss his medical history or condition with her.

Andy had all the signs of end of life and was in final stages of his malignant cancer and cause of death. In addition to not recognizing people (unless he saw them regularly and even then, it took him time to study to person), he was fatigued, maintained a routine and he had cognitive impairment. Cognitive impairment is a key factor in why older adults are targeted and why perpetrators succeed in victimizing them (most often relatives are the perpetrators – a very classic and documented statistic) . Even mild cognitive impairment (MCI) can significantly impact the capacity of older people to manage their finances and to judge whether something is a scam or a fraud. Mild cognitive impairment is an intermediate stage between the expected cognitive decline of normal aging and the more serious decline of dementia.13 Studies indicate that 22 percent of Americans over age 70 have MCI and about one third of Americans age 85 and over have Alzheimer’s disease. At age 90 to 94 – and being in the absolute final stages of cancer – Andy was a prime and easy target. However, I and Melanie knew the 45-year plan and goals of my mother and Andy (However, Melanie is now compromised – during the first 2 weeks after Andy’s death Melanie was clear on the wishes and plan as outlined for 45 years).

Will and Beneficiaries

As indicated earlier – every estate decision ever made was done with intent – and a significant amount of money was spent on legal fees – mostly to avoid this exact situation – but also to save on taxes. Their estate is not of a size that really needed much planning – however both my mother and Andy wanted to avoid conflict – how ironic this is just what they wanted to avoid. Christine during the first 2 weeks after Andy’s death said a few things that indicated she was struggling with the process and how to even tell Melanie and I of what has been changed during the last 3 years – and to somehow express it as she had no idea until now. Ironically, when she discussed it with the attorney helping with probate – she had information about the last 3 years? 🙂 I was the one that said she better get expert help with probate given the situation – and she called the local firm who helped make the changes to the Will 3 years ago – a Will of no value since all of the estate has been changed to reflect different beneficiaries – and to enrich Christine. I also recommended that his pension might have a life insurance element – and she called. From a fiduciary point of view – we want all assets accounted for. I actually think Christine and Melanie would benefit from a collective mutually friendly settlement of the estate – as we were doing for the first 2 weeks after Andy’s Death – prior to learning what Christine has been doing. However, the Will is not as important – and not material – since all assets have been removed from the estate (except maybe one bank account). It should be noted this strategy to designate as beneficiaries the heirs (all 4 children – 25% each) was planned long before Christine arrived back in Andy’s life – and was done with Andy and my mother and myself. What was changed during the last 3 years – as a fragile – late-stage cancer and 94-year-old man slept – were the beneficiaries. This now requires active forensic investigation by the Federal and State agencies – the banking regulators – the financial institutions – and honestly the involvement of national advocacy groups who are focused on a National Crisis as our population ages.

The executor has a fiduciary duty to an estate, and to its beneficiaries, when settling an estate plan. A fiduciary is someone in a position of trust and power, and the law recognizes this and so places an added burden on that person or institution to act with honesty, integrity, good faith, fairness and loyalty.
The fiduciary accepts legal responsibility for duties of care, loyalty, good faith, confidentiality, and more when serving the best interests of a beneficiary. Strict care must be taken to ensure that no conflict of interest arises to jeopardize those interests.
When administering an estate, an executor must give notice to creditors and pay the debts of the estate. The executor must also gather all assets together, prepare and file tax returns, distribute assets and close the estate. At all times, the executor must account for all assets of the estate.
Hiding and mismanaging assets, and a host of other deceptive, unfair, or negligent actions by an executor can result in litigation and could be illegal. These are crimes that federal and state regulations and various laws are designed to protest the estate and all potential beneficiaries.

We already know – fact – that assets have been removed from the estate and Andy’s legal residence – without inventory and without a valuation. Are they material in value? However, without following the process required legally in settling an estate – we don’t know for sure. I have inventory of coins – not sure it is a complete list of all the coins. However, the efforts to change beneficiaries during the last 3 years that removed two of the beneficiaries and increase the amount to 50% for both Christine and Melanie does have all the signs of Elderly Financial Abuse of:

1. A 94-year-old man in final stages of a Malignant cancer – frail and fragile – with signs of cognitive decline – significant hearing loss – and significant eyesight issues. During a 3-year period changed $500,000 in bank accounts to have Christine and Melanie be beneficiaries of entire amount – reversing 45 years of history and known intention of the deceased. There are prior estate legal documents with Register of Wills that help document – and even Melanie said she had a copy 3 weeks ago. Note: Christine told Melanie – on the phone with me – not to e-mail me what she had – email was not safe. 😊

There are list and examples of crimes published by Federal and State agencies – and this is a National Crisis.
• providing true but misleading information that influences the elder person's use or assignment of assets (Dessin, 2000);
• persuading an impaired elder person to change a will or bank accounts or insurance policy to alter who benefits from the will or policy (Central California Legal Services, 2001; Frolik, 2001; Smith, 1999);
Current Situation
During the last few weeks, Christine and Melanie have stopped all communication. Your office was investigating and just sent an email/letter. We all have a fiduciary responsibility – and as such – we have initiated and reported this situation to a number of Federal, State and Financial Authorities. One financial institution has already reached out several times. The United States Postal Service has opened a case – on Mail Fraud to investigate. They have requested that we keep all the records we have for use in their investigation. A report has been filed with the FBI – and we are waiting for triage -which might result in them referring to another Law Enforcement Agency, and The Maryland Department of Aging/Adult Protective Services also has been notified.
The urgency of removing the balance of contents is silly as they are of no value – Christine has already removed all valuables – and especially the computer laptop. I cannot release the files – but copies can be made. It is in the best interest of all concerned to be 100 transparent and to work together. We can mitigate cost of settling estate (even if we never talk again – we will be honoring the wishes of our parents and grandparents). My moral compass and North Star are to do the right thing for everyone – especially the fragile such as elderly and disabled. My goal is definitely not financial and 100% of my portion will go to legal cost or charity. For the Record: The reference to me being a millionaire and calling me a millionaire made me smile. I have only been called that once in my entire life – and that was by Christine via Melanie. Andy would never have said that or referred that – or make reference to a name “label” such as you are a millionaire. Insulting comment to me --- yes – but it does not reflect my values or my focus or who I am. That comment was from someone who does not know me – and was not said as a compliment. And if anything – Andy always bragged about my career at Kennedy Krieger Institute and my involvement at Erickson Retirement Communities. And the comment about Cristy – my deceased brother’s daughter – not being involved – that too was not Andy’s words. I would ask him about Christy – and he would say – I know Melanie talks to her and visits her – they are friends. And it was never a negative comment from Andy. Again, that was not Andy. Your investigation must have been an interview with Christine as I can hear her words in those quotes.
Proposal and next step
1. I have also been reviewing everything with two separate attorneys – and have considered engaging them – on a contingency basis.
2. The financial institutions need to continue their work – as this is serious for financial institutions – and much has been written and recent laws requiring them to take a more active role in stopping Elderly Financial Exploitation
3. The regulatory process – we have notified a few – and have a list of several others we are told to notify.
4. Advocacy groups – national – we have a list to include and have talked in the phone to 2 of them.
5. The Attorney General’s Office and state legislators – many of whom I know – need to understand how serious this national crisis has become – and if this case can be an example or help them understand the issue so as to involve the legislature – than that would be a win for me and the elderly. I am in a phase of life that impacting public policy and helping the most fragile is important to me and my last phase of career.
I know that these issues are important (I know the Elderly are fragile and at risk of abuse in so many ways. My entire life was focused on the Elderly and Disabled and most fragile of society. I know that those with disabilities and the elderly need advocates and people to look for ways to protect them from exploitation. Ironically – I never thought I would see it in my back yard. Fortunately, I personally have been blessed in life with many things – people and relationships are the most important. Blessings are not money or things – and doing the right thing ‘Always” should be our North Star.
I would hope that Christine and now Melanie would think about this – remember their duty as fiduciaries – and their legacy as well. I hope they find their North Star – and we are prepared to work with them – talk to them – and settle the estate – doing the right thing.

The Federal and State laws and regulations combined with Banking regulation and procedures - actually help those committing Elder Financial Abuse - since most are relatives - and can gain access to accounts and passwords - online changes to accounts and beneficiaries are easy. Even if the Elderly person cannot hear well or see well - and if something is required to be signed - trust of a 94 year old is easy as well. Paperless Banking also helps cover up - since no mail is received to open and see changes.

Don't trust - and always have 2 people involved - and financial institutions should not change bank accounts without notice to prior beneficiaries if the current owner is over a certain age. 94 years old is too old - statistically this person have cognitive issues.

Better oversight and regulatory control and an investigation unit that is combined efforts of State, Federal and Banking regulation. A single point that those can get help and a coordinated federal investigation - forensic in nature. Today computer trails are evidence and banks have those files and history.

We are currently in process of getting the interest of Federal and State and Banking. The amount taken is $500,000 and Andrew von Ulrich is not famous - so finding help is not easy. Ideas on who to call - all financial institutions have been notified and we hope assets frozen until an investigation is complete. Jim Anders

My mom was 88yrs old, very able and capable, either no life threatening medical problems.

There is no way that the extreme disturbing events of this can be exagersted. There are no words strong, powerful, deep enough to convey the depths of sick, evil, depravity that took place at times that would make the devil himself envious. And the more time goes by, the more i am recigizing the depth of impact it has all done to me that only grows worse, not better. There is one thing unquestionably, indisputably clear and certain.My beautiful most sweet, kind, gentle, loving, wonderful mom walked into Penn Medicine's West Chester Pa facility, Chester County Hospital, just about 3-months ago with nothing anywhere near life threatening, and suffered such gross neglect, malpractice, and even emotional abuse, that just about 3-months later, the last month of which she spent in excruciating extreme agony, pain and suffering, she is now dead at their hands. My beautiful, gentle & kind, most loving, caring, wonderful, greatest mom in the whole world, came home from the initially surgery seemingly fine, before beginng to complain of feeling weak and have some pain. Then when the home nurse noticed her incision was infected, and felt so strongly that this needed prompt attention that she took a picture and sent it to the Chester County surgeon urging him to address the infected incision, but he just absolutely refused and said he'd see her in a week at her next scheduled appointment. I called his office begging and pleading, but he just refused to see her. I called her family doctor, and Urgent Care, but they both told me only the surgeon can address that. Unfortunately my mom didn't make it to that appointment before collapsing on the ground in extreme pain, infection throughout her whole body. All I could do was wrap a robe around her, and call an ambulance which took her right back to Chester County where the same surgeon then admitted that yes we were right, it's infected, at this point so badly, and deeply, that he had to do another operation to cut out the infection, leaving a big hole in my mom's inner leg, and give her antibiotics and a wound vac, but he botched it again, as we later found out, when the rehab that they discharged my mom way too early into against my wishes, after a few days sent her right back by ambulance again, which is when we had her transfered to Upenn Philly, where an expert surgeon seemed upset himself that the Chester County surgeon had not immediately removed the apparent source of the infection, the artificial vein graft put in by the Chester County surgeon. Although that Upenn surgeon did remove that infected graft, and debride the incision again, by this time my mom was developing C-diff from all the antibiotics, and not being on any kind of a proper anti-bedsore mattress, nor ever once being turned or adjusted as I later found out too late they should've been doing every 2-hours, my mom, who went into Upenn Philly never having ever had a bedsore in her life, developed a bedsore that was allowed to grow into a massive, hideous, stage 4, excruciatingly painful, life threatening bedsore, which they would never mention, or change the dressing on in front of me, until I finally said hey whats behind this big bandage on my mom's back, and discovered it, and when I went to take a picture so I could compare it to later to be sure it's healing,, as I had done all along everytime they changed the dressing on her infected incision with no problem, they bizarrley freaked out, got security to escort me out of the hospital, not only robbing my poor sick mom of her constant support having been by her side helping and encouraging her all day every day for months now since this all started, but upset her so much I later found out she was throwing up all that night, and eventually confronted me outside with a whole pack of goons threatening and intimidating me off of the property, threatening to have me arrested if I even call to check on my mom's condition. I just could not believe that especially a hospital could be capable of such complete depravity, more like something from a fictional horror film than how you would think anybody with any degree of human qualities, compassion and and a conscience at all would be capable to behave, even if they were being paid, and from there it kept getting so much more and more profoundly sick and just so downright evil it was just truly very scarey. Even when I called Philadelphia Elder Care they called me right back saying the hospital says your mom is not in there, and I discovered they had actually removed my mom from thier computer system so that when anyone called the switchboard would say, we cannot put you through, there's no one here by that name. My poor sick mom inside alone and scared and me outside worried to death what is going on, how could this be happening. It was sheer horror, and in the end, they killed her. From there she went to a rehab in Exton, having walked into a West Chester facility just about a couple months prior with very non-life threatening health issues, expecting to have my mom around for many more good years, as her whole family commonly lives to 100+ years old, was lying there in a rehab bed, with a feeding tube in her stomach, a wound vac on her leg, screaming in constant severe agony from the giant 4 inch wide, down to the muscle bedsore hole in her back, looking like she belonged more in an intensuve care unit, for a couple days before being ambulanced again back to Chester County Hospital when her vital signs declined overnight, where I watched my poor mom, my most beautiful, kind, loving, most wonderful, sweet, gentle, person you could ever meet, greatest mom ever in the whole world, die and pass away. Gone forever, way too soon, in a torturous excruciating end of the greatest mom that God ever made, my mom, my world, and I can't even imagine how I'm going to even go on myself without her. No words could ever even begin to approach the sickening, disturbing imposible horror of this overall experience that I wouldn't even think would go on in some backwoods underdeveloped lawless place, let alone right here in Pennsylvania, USA.I would be compelled and obligated to every other future mother and son, to work with you, show you what pictures I did get, and cooperate fully to try to bring to light, and hopefully avoid anyone else ever again from having to go through this what killed my sweet wonderful mom, ruined my world, and if it doesn't kill me as it feels like it will, certainly will at least leave me very deeply and permanently scarred, and missing my mom. Sincerely,
Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I wish I could tell my whole story on national/ international media to let everyone know that Dr Hayes, along with Penn Medicine for not care about having principles, values, doing the right thing, only money, and they are very evil to the core of thier souls, if they even have them.

Dr Hayes will go to jail for life for manslaughter, and Penn Medicine will be shut-down, or at least massively fined sending a clear message through the Healthcare industry.

I would very greatly appreciate if you could help me reach as big an audience as possible on every level and type of media. I have no qualms at all about using my name and info. In fact I prefer to use my name and full contact info, as you also may please do. I will sign any type of release forms immediately for that if necessary. Please contact me with any and every person, organization that you know of who may be capable of, or be in contact with anyone else who is capable of, using the law, media, people in power, any possible thing that can raise awareness, make a difference in what is going on that this may never happen again to anyone else please.

My elderly mother had already made her Will out as she had a son and daughter disabled one by auto accident another by COPD and she wanted to make sure the two other adult children (I was one) that were guardians of the two disabled would make sure if anything happened to her would have the means to take care of the disabled ones. I was also POA/Patient Advocate for mother if she ever became incapacitated and other sibling POA for finances for our mother. To make a very long stiry shorter a greedy sister decided to become mothers chore person through DHS and started on a plan to put our mother under guardianship when she did not need one and had 2 sons living with her attending to some things. This sister did not get along with one of the brothers and started making false accusations of almost everybody whom she knew helped mom for many years as she was hardly ever around. We started confronting her about taking money, jewelry etc. snd she petitioned probate with slandering lies about the supportive siblings and ones mother put in charge in her end of life plans. She kidnapped mother out of her home took her to her home and isolated her away from even the disabled adult children. She recorded phone calls and monitored everything on a baby monitor in mothers room. When the court date came she had a good attorney with mothers estate and mother had court appointed attorney she did not bring mother to court as she started her on a antidepressant and started her plan to make her seem dementia wad going on. Mother had reported her to Social Security that she changed her address and bank with them without permission and mother was looking forward to tell het story to the judge. Well thst is when we realized the judge was corrupt snd along with sisters attorney in judges chamber already planned the outcome. The judge would not allow myself and other sister in charge of mothers plans. No due process was given we were not allowed to tell her mother had plans in place and did not need a guardian &/or Conservator. Whatever lies or not we do not know only that we were not able to have out day in court to speak the truth or show evidence bank records, end of life plans or anything and were treated like criminals slandered by the actually criminal petitioning the court in the first place. The worst part is our beautiful, trusting, vulnerable elderly mother was put under the racket of hospice and if you could see the picture I took of her when on rare occasion was able to pick her up to through a party for after bring with me for 2 weeks when the criminal went on vacation for het birthday the nurse could not believe she was the same person as I was not drugging her. My mother told the nurse the criminal was stealing her money, her purse and she did not even have a dollar or an ID. The nurse spoke to the criminal a year later mother was dead 58 pounds she had no heart or lung problems. Died from natural causes my ass she died from hospice cocktail caused by a greedy daughter. What I would like to see changed is no guardian petition should ever be accepted by any probate court without mediation first as that gives time fir the truth/evidence snd would have given my mother a voice or myself as Patient advocate/POA speak for her, also a judge should have to ask for these documents and put in writing why she will not honor this and lawyers should have to tell the people that a judge can void them at their own biases and there is nothing you can do about it. Put your plans on video that you do not want a professional guardian if you do not and who you want and where to find your documents or register them.

Pass Bills already written to this affect and make the judges follow the law.

It is mostly all about the money. They will still everything you worked for all your life and leave even your disabled adult children homeless.

For all these corrupt judges, lawyers, doctors, police, nurses, nursing home staff, social workers, professional or sibling guardians etc. get exposed and justice served. You could never believe or imagine the devastation it causes until it happens to you or a loved one. There is nobody immune even all the ones listed above can and do end up in this nightmare.

Save the vulnerable elderly and disabled from this abuse, because thes elder abuse tasks forces can not even pass the Bills.

After the sudden death of my father in March 2018, my mother returned from Pennsylvania back to her primary residence in Florida. My parents also owned property in Ocean City NJ, where they resided during the summer months. Upon returning to Florida my mother redid her will and estate, as well as adding both myself and sister to both her bank accounts. Both my sister and I reside in Pennsylvania. During early 2020, she was experiencing depression and anxiety but insisted she was OK and wanted to remain in Florida. We spoke every day. She was seeing doctors in Florida and working on different medications. Shortly after the covid 19 pandemic occured my mother called me and said she was in Ocean City NJ. She told me that my sister and brother in law went down unexpectedly as a surprise to bring her up to her NJ home. A few months later she was upset that her electric bill was over 500 dollars and she told me she was calling the electric company. As my sister and her family were at the shore those months I told her that was probably the reason. She didn't want to say anything. My mother was scheduled to see a neurologist in late August. Earlier in August, my mother told me that my sister made a room for her at her house. She believed this was to make it easier for my sister to take her to the upcoming doctor appointment. I went over to see her and her room. I thought it was good for her to be around people rather than alone in Florida or New Jersey. It was the middle of covid and the only person wearing a mask was my mother in her room. When my nephew arrived he did not have a mask. Neither did my niece. My mother told me that she just stayed in her room and always wore her mask. We were both a little concerned but again she didn't want to say anything. Due to covid I was told that I could not attend the appointment only one person was allowed to go. She called me after and said the neurologist wanted some testing done, which was scheduled for late August. Although I asked my sister to please keep me informed, she did not. Most of my information was given to me by my mom. It was difficult visiting her with covid so we mostly talked on the phone all the time. After she had the testing the neurologists provided a 19 page written report, which they also went over in depth with my sister present. My mother told my sister to email me a copy of the report. She called me after the appointment and was a little upset because she couldn't drive anymore. Her diagnosis was dimentia. The report noted multiple things, one being at risk for both benevolent exploitation as well as by others. Her cognitive abilities were very impaired and she needed help in decision making. Several suggestions were made, including that she was not to be alone. It was suggested that a home care person be hired. I was told that they had it covered. However, it was evident that every time I spoke to her she was alone. My mom did not want me to say anything. Shortly after, my mom called me and said she just got back from the hospital. She fell down the steps and broke her ankle, she had to call 911 as again no one was there. She now had to have physical therapy. Then in November of 2020 she called me from the shore and said that my sister had covid so my niece took her to the shore. It was just a matter of time. I have no idea what they were doing with her at this point. I think they took her to a testing site and she was now positive also as well as my sisters husband and daughter. In December, my mother called me upset that her eyes itched and she didn't have an eye doctor in PA. Again, no one was there. I told her I would call her back and called my eye doctor's office who scheduled a tele appointment for later that day. She called me after the appointment and thanked me she really liked the doctor and he said it was common for covid to spread to the eyes. A couple days later I asked her how the drops were working and she said she didn't have them yet. I couldn't beleive it. No one was there. I told her I would go get them and leave on the step but she seemed afraid and told me no she thought someone was picking them up that day. She never wanted me to say anything. I now know why. In March 2021, she told me she was going to a new doctor in Springfield because she didn't have a family doctor here in PA. She called me after the doctor and told me her blood work was good and the doctor also gave her xanax. Knowing that medication was not recommended and specifically mentioned in the 19 page report of August 2020, I was starting to get concerned. We had plans in May if covid was less restrictive to spend some time at the shore together for my birthday. Prior to my birthday my mom asked if we could reschedule the shore but wanted me to come over on my birthday. I went to see her on May 14, 2021 that afternoon. We sat outside talking and I noticed at times she had a blank stare. Something seemed wrong. My sister came home and they were in a rush to go to the shore. My mom said things were not going well and she had 2 doctors appointment the following Monday and Tuesday. I asked her if I could take her and she said she would really like that. I hugged her and left. This was a Friday. I called her Sunday at about 10 PM, hoping it wasn't too late. She said no she was still up. Something didn't seem right and I wanted to make sure she was OK. When I asked her if I could take her to the doctor I could hear my neice in the background saying "tell her you have a ride". She told me I could take her to the next one.
Later that week she called and mentioned that my sister and brother in law were talking about buying her Florida house so she could help me. I didn't need any help and I told her I did not think it was a good idea right now. After being hung up on several times all of a sudden my calls went straight to her voicemail without ringing. My sister had her at the shore. This continued for several days and then I learned that my number was blocked from her phone. Being unable to contact her I became pretty upset. My sister then used the police to keep me from seeing her at her home and I was told that I would have to go through the court system because my sister said something to them about on going problems. Although I told the officier I was being kept from my mother who had dementia by my sister. Unsure what to do, several attorneys said that it was imperitive to contact COSA, the local agency in my area. I was a little hesitant because I didn't want to hurt my mom. I thought to myself no one can keep a person from their mom this is crazy. Then I received a notice in the mail that a PFA was denied. I couldn't believe it. Unsure of what was going on I thought I better let her attorney know in an effort to protect her estate from anything happening so I emailed the attorney informing him of her condition and mention of selling her house in which I was a 50% beneficiary. He replied asking me the names and then told me he couldn't speak to me as I was not his client. Then my phone which was on a family plan with my mom was cancelled. They had access to my phone, my mother's phone, her emails, her properties which locks were changed, and continued to isolate my mother from all communication with me. I was able to get my number back from AT T on June 18, 2021 at which time I decided to stop at both of my mothers banks to see if any changes were made. One bank told me I didn't exist and could not tell me anything else. The second bank told me that all my access was changed and I was not even authorized to make a balance inquiry, but was still on the account. He further said that if he were me he would run to a lawyer. I could not believe this was happening. At this point I did contact COSA, which was supposed to be confidential. I was told an investigation including bank accounts would be done. Then all of a sudden police were storming up my house because a call was made saying I was going to commit suicide. I told them what was going on and again was ignored. This was the first false police report. The day the investigator went to the home, the police again were called with lies about texting threats of killing myself to my mother. No such texts exist. All the while being told this is a civil matter. My friend thought I better go to the District Attorney's office so he drove me up there. The woman there was a disgrace to say the least. It was to much effort for her to write anything down let alone listen to what was happening. It was very deeming and unfriendly and this was supposed to be the person in charge of the so called "elder exploitation unit". What a sad experience. I received multiple nasty messages from my mothers phone as if it was her now accusing me of multiple criminal things and threats to file charges. I continued to receive threats from a relative in Wisconsin, which my lawyer was able to find out who the number belonged to. I noticed on facebook that every family relative disappeared, cousins I haven't talked to in years. Although, I went to the police about the false reports no one could do anything about it. What is scary is that they could actually use my sick mother to say or do anything. After following up with COSA I became very uncomfortable and hired an attorney. Til this day, my phone receives non stop messages from unknow numbers, email texts with explicite content, and all types of things. My mom was my best friend and only family I had left. When I texted my sister asking why her bank accounts were changed, they actually had her call me then took the phone and started screaming oh my god your stealing moms money. I knew now that this was real and my mother was being lied to. The worst part is nobody could help her or me. Then unsure where they had her I called to have a wellness check done. The police officier told me she was OK but never even saw her. Can you imagine. This is a person's loved one and my mother was not there she was in Florida with my sister. Knowing something didn't seem right the next day I called both New Jersey and Florida and Florida was able to confirm that she was at the Florida residence with my sisters family. That week in Florida, my sister took her to the attorney. She was actually the one who drove her there flew her there having full knowledge of the 19 page neurology report and being present at all doctors appointments knowing my mother's disease progressed, while isolating her from her other daughter, and provided a note with one sentence from a different doctor and changed everything on my mother's estate to herself and added her husband to my mothers financial power of attorney. She was now 100% beneficiary of my mothers home in Florida. She didn't stop there though. My father's pension beneficiaries were changed to her children and I was removed from my mom's 401k making my sister 100% of excess of 40,000 dollars. These changes all were made via email communications from my mother's email, which my sister had control of. It did not stop after Florida. I still am not sure about my parent's property in Ocean City. Sadly, as of today and my many attempts for justice my mother still resides with the very abusers who did this. I was attacked for contacting COSA, which I thought was confidential and treated like a criminal throughout the entire court proceeding. Every effort taken failed. No one did anything to help my mom or myself. In fact, doctors wrote letters saying that my mother said I was stealing her money. How pathetic is that. Of course, they will all be reported. Dispite the fact that a second doctor confirmed everything from the original August 2020 report my mother continues to be a victim and remains residing with the very people who did this. My mom continues to be isolated from her daughter knowing the damage caused by such isolation. She continues to be told lies about me so she will say "she doesn't want to see me" despite her progressive dimentia. So when I hear about how all this progress has been made and new task forces focusing on exploiting an elder, it makes me sick. I was forced to testify that I called COSA, which again is CONFIDENTIAL. Their own doctor who wrote a paragraph in his report of what my sister said defaming me with lies and then added his own opinion stating I sounded drunk on a phone message she played for him. This was during an evaluation in which this same doctor said my mom was fine but yet she didn't pass a single test. This is the very agency who is supposed to help my mom. My mother continues to be isolated from me. May of this year will now be 2 years. Evil does not describe what has happened. This is beyond sick and unthinkable. No amount of money can ever give me the time lost with my mother.

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Be careful trust no one

How it is that a person can be prevented from seeing a parent, and for no reason at all be denied any information regarding their parent's health is unconstitutional. I would like to know how that can happen. A child should not have to pay attorney's to see their parent who they had a healthy loving relationship with. The second a person can not reach their parent something should be done immediately by law enforcement. I am sorry to say that Pennsylvania has failed my mother and myself and I live with emptiness and sadness and will probably never see my mom again. I want everyone to know what has happened to me and my mom and how every effort I took failed. I want answers myself as to how this can happen. I am not sure what my hopes are other than people who do this belong in jail. Not in civil court. There has to be a remedy of prison. I will continue to fight for my mother's justice. I want people to know the truth. Not a single agency helped. NOT ONE!!!!!! Please tell me who I can contact for help. Can congress help? Who? I would like to know.

Help me tell my story

I am 64 on disability yes my health is going down hill mental to I have complex PTSD.I have a trustee that committed fraud did not do roof replacement that insurance company gave him check.Now I am living in toxic mold mycotoxin home pets died I am next lost everything.hired lawyer took money did nothing.

My life life and reason to live life been destroyed I have no family so easy take advantage of I pray God I don't wake up in morning.i am tired of have my rights laws to protect me denied I did nothing wrong rule of law is a joke

That there is bad lawyers greedy lying don't care about life cruel and inhumane treatment of people that don't have recorces fight back there life has no value and gov adult protective services is a joke to don't care it's sad evil is in charge humans are few believe in good truth .

I have no future I am going to be homeless

When does rule of law apply to elders like me I have tons evidence didn't matter

I am a 75 year-old Army vetern, retired w/SCD. I am physically compromised by age, a mental weakness that allows me to trust those that are kind to me, and the loss of a couple of digits. Michael George and Traci Hynes are middle-aged, healthy people with children who, along with Traci's parents are living in two homes that are on his 14-acre hemp farm that adjoins my property.

At the time of my problems with my neighbors, Michael G. and Traci Hynes, I was living alone on my 4.38 acre property, attempting to repair and restore two homes in order to sell. I was overwhelmed by the enormity of my tasks, and compromesed by my diminished physical ability for construction labor, nd hampered by my inability to hire local workers to help me due to the COCID-19 epidemic. Michael convinced me to lend him a $90,000.00 business/personal loan for the purpose of freeing him of his $96,000.00 credit debt. He promised me that, once he payed off his debt, he would no longer have to work odd jobs in order to pay the monthly interest of these debts. Then he could spend more of his time helping me repair and restore my property. After I gave him the money, Michael tricked me into signing a "loan agreement" that enabled him and his wife to keep the $90,000.00 business/personal loan, allowing them to repaying the loan over 15 years, and paying me back with no intrest.

Dispite the state and federsl laws forbiding, or, at least, discouraging financial exploitation of the elderly, I have been unsucessful over the past two years in finding legal help, or a lawyer who is willing to help me. The Sheriff's Department (who has juristiction over Gloucester, NC) is that I signed a contract, and no crime has been committed that justifies their investigation. The Buncombe County magistrate's position is that she "wouldn't give money to my own children," and that I "am free to enter into a bad deal." The Carteret and Craven County District Attorny's position is that "everyone is free to embark on a bad deal," and that I need to get a lawyer. The Department of Social Services's position is that I "need a lawyer." The State Attorney's Elder Abuse division's position is that I need a lawyer.
I am reciving an army pension and SSI payments. I am not indigent, but, because I am $90,000.00 short, and have a sick spouse I support, and a home for which I pay and average of $3000.00 a month in utilities every month, I can not afford to hire a lawyer. I am not the only elderly person - suseptible to trusting perceived friends - who is juggling these sorts of expenses. How is anyone surprised that the increase in elder financial abuse is "on the rise?"

I hope that , in the future, all the entities that are "committed to abolishing elder financial abuse and holding their abusers accountable" actually start doing things to reach their state goal.

If anything positive comes from the time and effort I have spent filling out this form, I will probably keel over with a massive stroke.

My sister and I learned in June 2021 that our 83 year old father was being financially exploited and abused by his live in girlfriend. At the time he lived in Oklahoma City, and we lived in California. We received a phone call from our Aunt and Uncle in Oklahoma. They lived near my father and had recently discovered that his girlfriend had listed his house for sale on Zillow without his knowledge. She had committed fraud by claiming the house as the owner and listed all correspondence about his home to go to her phone number and email. Zillow also owns Trulia, which meant the house was listed on that site as well. Our dad's brother, also our Uncle, was named on our dad's checking account as a co-signer. Our Uncle also managed our dad's estate and shared a family trust with him. Our Uncle would often make sure our dad's account was not in the red and would make sure some of his more costly bills were paid for. In other words, he would deposit money into our dad's account intermittently when larger bills were due (i.e.-car/homeowners insurance). On the day we received the phone call our Uncle had found out from the bank that he had been removed as co-signer and my dad's girlfriend had now been added as both a co-signer and joint member of the account. The banker knew my Aunt and Uncle personally and shared concerns about my dad's girlfriend and more importantly concerns about my dad. Our Aunt and Uncle had also received a phone call from their insurance agent. Our dad had the same agent and inquired several times about getting a life insurance policy. They told him each time that they did not work with life insurance, only auto and homeowners insurance. They were worried that he seemed confused and continued to ask about it. Important to note, our father already had life insurance for years. And, lastly, the neighbor was worried about our dad. She had seen the listing on Zillow and asked if he was moving. He emphatically said, "No!" and then was shown the listing on Zillow. According to his neighbor/friend he immediately appeared confused. He was then asked by the neighbor if he was now married to his girlfriend. Again, he said, "No!" It was brought to his attention that the girlfriend was telling everyone they were now married. The combination of all of these things happening at once raised huge concerns by our Aunt and Uncle and prompted them to call me and my sister as soon as possible. When we were contacted we knew that our dad was planning a trip to Florida with his girlfriend, and they had planned to leave the next week on June 28th. On the same day our Aunt and Uncle called I had talked with my dad. He shared with me about his trip. It was a 10 day trip to The Villages in Florida. At some point in the conversation he said to me, "Who knows, maybe I'll just come live with you." I was confused and thought it was an odd statement, but didn't question it. I had room in my home now that 2 of my children were grown and moved out, so I responded with, "Of course, You can always come live with us." I found out later in the day that he had told my sister not to tell anyone that he was planning to move away to live at The Villages in Florida. It was peculiar that he didn't want to tell anyone, but my first thought was that he didn't want to upset my Aunt and Uncle that he was planning to move away. Now, in hindsight, I think his girlfriend wanted him to keep it a secret. We all, my sister, aunt and uncle met several times via zoom/group phone calls to discuss what we needed to do. Because of COVID neither my sister or I had traveled to see my dad, but now that we were all vaccinated we were in a better place to travel to Oklahoma immediately. Both my sister and I called our dad to express our concerns and begged him not to take the trip to Florida with his girlfriend. We also let him know that we would be out there to see him as soon as possible. He thanked my sister for initiating the conversation about our concerns and let her know that he had decided not to go to Florida. His girlfriend went without him which made it possible for us to immediately fly out to Oklahoma to see our dad. I was planning to visit him in July anyway, but not under these circumstances. He was open to a visit from both of us, but was also feeling that we were all "ganging up" on him, and was somewhat defensive when I arrived. When I arrived in Oklahoma I was horrified to see his extreme weight loss and unhealthy living conditions. His girlfriend had moved into the main bedroom with all of her furniture and clothing. The main bedroom was huge. It had room for a sitting area, sleeping area, and office space. Additionally, there was a large walk-in closet and very large bathroom. Nothing in there was his. There were photos on the wall of herself and all of her own framed wall hangings. There was a dresser that was my dad's (he bought it special with his second wife who had passed away in 2004) she was using for her own things. Otherwise, there was nothing of my dad's. He had moved all of his things into the small bedroom (the size of a small nursery) and was using the other bathroom for himself. He had a special custom made desk that his second wife had purchased for him on his 60th birthday that was nowhere to be found. It had been placed in storage to make room for all of his girlfriend's stuff. There was custom made, very expensive, dining room table that was completely covered with the girlfriend's art supplies. Boxes were placed underneath the table with more art supplies. The walls were covered with her art along with her family photos. The dining room was wall to wall with her arts and crafts, and it was difficult to walk around in there. The living room had a small couch of my dad's and his second wife's special chair. Everything else in there was unrecognizable. It was all his girlfriend's. One small section about the special chair had some framed artwork that was my dad's. There was a large bookcase with her family photos everywhere. I knew my dad had framed family pictures, but I couldn't find them anywhere on the bookshelf or on the walls. I then noticed way up high on the shelf at the far corner a framed photo of my sister, my dad and myself. I had given it to my dad many years ago, and it seemed hidden amongst all of her stuff. She had photos in the small hallway of herself and old pictures with her boyfriend from the 1970's, Clint Eastwood (yes it was the actor). She had a photo book that she had made and titled it "My Memories". Every single photo was just a picture of her. I then realized there were no photos of my dad with her. I started to look for some sign of one, and then I saw it. There was a framed photo of my dad and her when they went to Vegas in February 2020. I didn't recognize my dad. He was even thinner in the photo. He looked emaciated. It scared me. I had never seen him so thin and gaunt. Later on I saw in his medical records that his weight was one pound away from being considered malnourished at the time the photo was taken. During a visit from my dad in December 2018 he mentioned that his new girlfriend was a "life coach" and was using him as "kind of like a client". She had him stop drinking alcohol (which I was fine with), and also had him stop drinking coffee. My dad always loved his coffee so I thought that was a bit odd and questioned him about it. He seemed okay with it at the time, and because he seemed happy and healthy I never thought more about it, until this visit in 2021. Now looking back, I realize that was a red flag on how she was treating him. I went into his office, and saw a large massage chair that appeared to be very new. When asked about it my dad said they bought it together at the county/state fair. I asked if he actually used it, and he said "no." It is very unlike my dad's personality to make such an expensive purchase let alone use a chair like that. The chair was bought in his girlfriend's name for $6,000.00 on a payment plan. We discovered my dad was making monthly payments on the chair, not her. I also noticed in his office on the far wall to the side, were two canvas pictures of his grandkids. My sister and I each sent him one respectively (my 3 boys and her 2 daughters). It made sense to see them up on the wall, but those were really the only family photos of his in the entire house. I would say that 85% of the stuff in the house now was the girlfriend's. When asked about where his things were he said that they were in storage because there was no room for anything. His small bedroom was crammed with furniture, and clothing. In the corner behind a dresser were a lot of his own framed pictures that appeared to have been removed and placed in a corner. Many of them were purchased from artists and specially framed. They were now all shoved in a corner. When asked about the checking account he said that he was struggling with his bills and simply asked his girlfriend to take care of his finances. I asked if she had her own personal account and if she closed that to share finances with him. He said she did have her own account but "no, she did not share her finances." When I went to turn on the television I noticed it wasn't hooked up correctly and he had no idea how to use the remote controls. He had been unable to access television. When I figured out how to connect everything I saw there was a netflix account. I went to check for a movie and realized that the girlfriend and her adult children, adult grandson were using netflix. I discovered our dad was paying for directv along with netflix for the girlfriend and her family. I asked my dad if he ever watched tv. He said not a lot but he did like watching the show Monk a lot. I noticed in the corner of the living room a box with a dvd collection of several seasons of Monk. Was she keeping him from watching television and made him believe he was watching Monk on the tv all the time? My father seemed very confused and overwhelmed about everything. We were extremely worried about him. The girlfriend had three cats that she left with him to care for and administer medicine to. We discovered that she had traveled for approximately 8 weeks over the course of three months prior to our visit (Mid April to Mid June). She was in Colorado, Florida, Texas and Wyoming, and now Florida for 10 days. Before she left for Florida she and my dad went together for a routine doctor's appointment for my dad. During the visit she requested to be added to the list of emergency contacts in his records. She then proceeded to ask the doctor to do a memory test. She obviously knew he was struggling with his memory. When we went to the bank to meet with the banker regarding his account we discovered he had cashed out annuities from life insurance policies. There were large overpayments made on credit cards ($800 for a $100 bill) and duplicate payments made to an AT&T account. This was based on statements since his girlfriend was added to the account. We were very concerned. We discovered that his girlfriend was trying to get on his account and have access to it since May 2021; however, her requests were over the phone because she was out of the state and needed to come in person to do so. She also requested a meeting with on of the Mortgage Brokers at the bank. Based on the Zillow listing we had reason to believe she was trying to add her name to the title. We contacted AT&T and found a bill from them, and discovered the girlfriend, her 56 year old daughter, and her daughter's 33 year old son were all on the account listed under my dad's name. They all had brand new iPhones. Plus the girlfriend had a new iWatch. Our dad had an older iPhone model, the iPhone 8, and he had two phones, one with a local area code, and the other was his phone number he had for 20+ years. He also had an iWatch which he "lost" and has no idea what happened to it. We discovered my dad was paying for a large storage unit (10'x20'). The majority of items belonged to the girlfriend. We also discovered that my dad's special custom made desk was in the storage along with a very nice couch he had with his wife. He had no room in his home for them, because the girlfriend took over the majority of the space in the house when she moved in. Along with a few boxes and a folded card table with 4 folding chairs, those were the only items that were his. The rest of the storage was packed with all of her things. There seemed to be absolutely no reason why he wouldn't be able to keep his special items with him in his home. Consequently, she was living rent free in his home and able to have free storage for all of her items. We discovered on a different checking account that he was making payments to the girlfriend for groceries and dinner. On one occasion he had paid for a $56 dinner on his bank card and then proceeded to pay her again for the same amount on the same day and listed in the memo "dinner". It appeared she was requesting he reimburse her for meals and groceries on a regular basis. While we were in Oklahoma the girl friend called our dad at night to let him know she was worried that a payment had not gone through for his Barclay credit card, and needed him to talk with Barclay to confirm the payment. The payment she was referring to was in fact the overpayment of $800 she made one week earlier. During the phone call there was a great deal of confusion, and our dad became anxious and confused. He would go into his office and close the door to talk with his girlfriend and then with Barclay's. My sister and I were still in a great deal of shock and confused ourselves as to what was happening. The next day we contacted Barclay's with our dad. Barclay had suspected fraudulent activity from the girlfriend and had shut the card down. When we found out we asked our dad where his credit cards were. He realized they were gone and we searched everywhere for them in the house. We asked if he gave them to the girlfriend, but his response was "No, I don't think so." We then suspected that the girlfriend had taken all of his credit cards with her to Florida, and believe she tried to use that specific card while in Florida and it was declined. We later discovered that she was then able to use his American Express card. There were several charges from The Villages on his card. The first few days of our visit in Oklahoma the girlfriend sent a text to our dad to share with us. The text stated that she was helping our father with his finances because he was struggling with them. She said her goal was to buy a place in Florida (The Villages) and to help him keep his home in Oklahoma so that he can live comfortably and go visit her. She continued by stating that she had "the book" (involving his finances) with her in Florida and that if we wanted to contact her she would go over everything with us. We were now very concerned. Why was his house for sale on Zillow/Trulia? Why does she have the book with her and why does she have all of his credit cards. We did not call her due to our lack of trust and concerns. At one point our father was busy on the phone with her, and I decided to go into her room to see if there was anything suspicious. I was standing by her desk and looked down to find a notepad with information about my father. I looked closer and found what appeared to be "the book" she said she had with her. She had everything noted about my father in the book, social security number, credit card numbers, life insurance policies and information about how much $ for each of them, usernames/passwords, checking account information, key events/information about my father often used for two-step verification on accounts (i.e.-mother's maiden name, favorite pet's name, father's birthdate). We were astounded and now very very concerned. He had no idea about the book and why all that information was listed on there. We discovered our father's mortgage payments were behind, and he had not paid his homeowners fees in months. His house was on lien and we needed to contact the mortgage company and homeowners association immediately. When we spoke with the HOA they said they had talked with our dad's girlfriend in May and stated that when she called she said, "I am his wife, well his fiancée, well I'm his girlfriend. Well, I'm a lot of things to him." The HOA Representative then stated she asked for information on how to pay his debt, and was given a form to complete and return. The HOA never received a form and never received any payments after that. We discussed with the HOA our concerns and requested to meet with them to work through the current situation. The next day we also discovered that our father's name had been removed from the gate code key pad to his community. We instead found the girlfriend's last name added to gate code. We requested to remove her name immediately and reinstate our father's name. We also asked them to confirm there was no one else with the same last name living there. HOA confirmed that no one with that last name lived there, and inquired about it with the facilities management team. They informed us that the name was removed and replaced with our father's name. We believe the girlfriend removed his name. As the week progressed our concerns about our dad's health safety and overall well-being grew. We were very worried that he was not safe in the house alone with the girlfriend. We had no choice but to bring him back to California to sort through everything. We immediately bought him a ticket to come back home with me stay with us while we sorted through everything. We brought the book with us to California as it had all of his personal information. We quickly had a lawyer draw up the documents for Power of Attorney. We discussed with our father and had the documents signed and notarized. Next we had our father close out his joint account with her and open a new account with my sister and myself. First and foremost, we needed to keep our dad safe. He was very worried about what to tell her. When we said, "Let her know you are going to California to visit my grandkids and daughters for awhile", he was still worried and seemed afraid of how she might react. When we got to California his behavior was similar to something like Stockholm syndrome. Approximately two days after he arrived he contacted his girlfriend on the phone in front of me. She was loud enough that I could hear her. She said loudly to him, "They will take all of OUR money." There was then a pause in the conversation and she quickly and in a more quiet tone said, "Well, they will take all of your money." She had been upset that we brought the book home with us, not to mention our father was now safe with us. A few days later the girlfriend contacted my father and said there was a police officer parked in front of the house and she had thought my sister and I had contacted the police on her. She seemed to react in a paranoid way, and accused us of calling the police. When we told our father that we had no idea what she was talking about he did not believe us, and started to get angry with us. The very next day several cars were parked at our father's house, and his girl friend along with some of her friends proceeded to load up their cars with her things. It appeared that she was moving out very quickly. During that time, she purchased storage tubs and an electronic item for $350 using our father's American Express card. He had sent several text messages to her stating the following, "Please allow (her name) to use my American Express card for money owed to her." It appeared that she had coerced and manipulated him into sending the text message. Our father did not owe her any money. During this time of overwhelming chaos for our family, we asked the girlfriend and her family members to remove their phones from our father's AT&T account. We requested a "Transfer of Billing Responsibility" for all three of them, and asked them to take care of it in the next two weeks, giving them a deadline so their phone bills would not rollover into the next cycle. The girlfriend seemingly took care of it within a few days. The daughter asked us to change the name of her 33 year old son's phone to her name, and we asked her to take care of removing the phones immediately, she became agitated with us. She then stated that her son was a "minor with a disability" (neither of which were true) which we found incredibly odd. Reluctantly, I contacted AT&T myself and asked them to change the name. We just needed them to change their billing responsibility. After the two weeks had passed I went to check the bill to make sure they were all removed. None of them were. In fact, the girlfriend had created some type of "grandfather clause" account and placed her phone on a $2 per minute charge. The daughter had done nothing. The bill was now $1500 ($1200 for the girlfriend alone). I contacted AT&T and reported the situation. AT&T honored the request to remove t$1200 charge. They recommended shutting down their phones if they do not honor our request. Almost everyday for two weeks I was on the phone with AT&T and sending emails to the daughter to remove her two phones from our father's account. Important to note-Our father met the daughter one time on a visit to Colorado. He was in the relationship with the girlfriend for 2.5 years, and during that time she had traveled and been away for at least 12 months. In other words, the relationship was not long term, and she was often absent and away due to extended travel. I had sent emails stating that we would need to shut down the daughter's phone and her son's phone if they rolled over into the next billing cycle. And, let her know the cost of the phones since our dad would be held responsible for paying them off. At the final day I contacted AT&T and had the phones shut off. She did not do what we requested, and we extended the timeframe to one month to get it done. She was able to take care of it within the 24 hours that I made the call to disconnect their services, and she was eventually able to remove her phones. I received a disturbing correspondence from her, during the entire exchange. I spent hours dealing with her and AT&T. My dad would never have been able to keep up with the high AT&T bill or continue to be responsible for the girlfriend and her family. It was extremely exploitative in nature and abusive towards our father. Once all phones were removed we were relieved, but unfortunately our father still had two phones and a watch he still needed to make payments on. As a result, we had to keep the account until he had enough money to pay off everything and open a new account with just one phone. It was now been two months since we dealt with AT&T and my father received a phone call from his girlfriend asking to be reimbursed for payments she made to AT&T at the end of August and September. She asked our father to mail her a check. We were very worried about this request and let our father know that she was not on the account anymore. I went to look at the payment history and she had made unnecessary payments to his account. We contacted AT&T and reported her to the fraud department. We also explained to our father that we would not be able to reimburse her the money due to her prior history. We did not want any money, especially checks/debit card numbers to be exchanged with her. She was not to be trusted. I sent her an email and asked that she stop asking for money from our father and that she would need to work it out with her bank and AT&T. It was not our father's responsibility. She still continued to make monthly payments and again asked our father to reimburse her. We finally were able to close his AT&T account and closed it down in December of 2021. Prior to closing it down we let the girlfriend know and told her she would need to stop making payments to the account. We made our final payment in January 2022 and noticed she was still making payments on the account. I continued to report her to the fraud department. A few weeks later we received a gift card from AT&T to reimburse us for the overpayment of $85 on the account, which was the amount she had paid. Again, I called the fraud department with AT&T and again she made a payment for $85. It was exhausting and frustrating. We continued to receive reimbursements in the form of a gift card, and then she stopped doing it in April and May. She started again from June 2022 through August 2022 and then mysteriously stopped making the payments. Note-She had moved to Las Vegas in April and May, and then moved to Florida in September 2022. Payments stopped each time she moved. In between moves they started up again. I was curious if she still had the same phone number and when I looked her up in the White Pages her phone number was listed under a different name from a previous marriage. I returned all gift cards to AT&T as we did not want anything connected to a potential scam. We had spent close to 14 months dealing with our father's AT&T account, and several of those months were spent dealing with the account after it had closed. The girlfriend also had a connection with a dance instructor in Oklahoma City. The girlfriend was a former "professional" dancer and during COVID she had asked her dance instructor friend to work with our father. According to our father he was paying this "instructor" for weekly dance lessons during COVID. Our father has never enjoyed doing anything like that which had us concerned. During COVID the dance instructor would go to our father's house often and would sometimes load a car/truck with items from our dad's house. Neighbors had made the observation on numerous occasions and shared this information with our Aunt and Uncle. The instructor was also asked to do "odd jobs" around the house and asked to take care of a landscaping project in the back yard. While we were in Oklahoma he had called our father to discuss picking up a check from him for some of the work he was doing. When he arrived our father handed the dance instructor a check for $500 and while they were talking the instructor proceeded to make a mobile deposit off of his phone in front of me and my dad. I found it unprofessional and suspicious. After further research we had discovered our dad had paid this person in checks alone $5900. Our dad was surprised and confused, and told us that he couldn't believe that amount of money over the course of one year. Plus, he had paid him in cash as well, and realized the amount was much higher. Three months after our dad was living with us (October 2021) his girlfriend would call him and ask that he contact the dance instructor about a small yard statue of hers that he was going to fix. My father was confused, but offered to call the instructor. He would ask the instructor if he owed him any money to which the instructor replied, "Yes, you owe me $500". Even though he had not completed the landscaping project he was still asking our dad for money. Was the girlfriend trying to get our dad to give money to the dance instructor who would then give money to her? Was he her money mule? We also learned that a computer specialist and small business owner was tasked to setup and connect our dad's computer to WIFI and a personal printer. Our father had trusted him since he was referred by a friend. We later discovered that our dad gave this person a bag of watches, some of them valuable family heirlooms, to get fixed. Evidently the computer specialist also specialized in watch repair? Both my dad and I had tried to contact the individual with no success. I eventually received a phone call response from his assistant to which she responded, "call back in two weeks. He is out of the office." I called back two weeks later to inquire about the watches only to get this response, "He does have the watches, but your dad still owes him a lot of money." I asked how much money since I saw a zero balance on their online invoice. She did not have a response for me, and said she would call back or I can call back in the next week. I called back and they never returned my phonecalls. I sent messages via LinkedIn and Facebook messenger to ask about the watches. No response. I contacted the police department, but since we did not photos or documentation of the watches we could not file a report. I later discovered that our dad was making monthly payments to this person and made approximately $1300 in payments to him for computer setup. While looking through our dad's financial statements we noticed some suspicious banking activity in May of 2021. During that time his girlfriend was traveling a lot, and I was often told she was visiting family. We noticed a mobile deposit was made to our dad's from a check made out to him by his girlfriend (note-this was his own personal account). The girlfriend wrote in the memo section, "Loan". There were two signatures on the back of the check on each end of the check. This was all very suspicious because our dad does not know how to do a mobile deposit and always goes directly to the bank to make an in-person deposit. The signatures appear to be forged, his girlfriend had been traveling during that time, and wrote the check to him, and the deposit was made exactly four minutes after a message from a different bank was sent stating they suspected fraud from this specific person due to a request to make a "bill pay" to her. The deposit went through and the bill pay was made 24/48 hours later for $1038.75 which was the exact amount of money in our dad's account at the time the bill pay check was requested. Just to recap that check incident; A "loan" was mobile deposit for $996 (written as a "Loan") was made to a bank in Oklahoma 5 minutes after a bank in Ohio suspected fraud by that same person. Approximately one/two days later a payment was made in the amount $1038.75 to that same person they suspected fraudulent activity from. This left our dad with a zero balance in his account in Ohio. We believe the girlfriend was out of state, possibly in Colorado, at the time all of these transactions took place. Phone records show that she was calling both banks during that time frame. On July 5th, more than one year later we learned that she had made her phone number the main source of contact for his bank in Ohio. We had been in contact with them on numerous occasions but never saw any documentation of her contact information on file or in his online portal. When we learned of it the bank immediately filed a police report for fraud. We had the police at our house the very next day along with APS. They suggested we file a restraining order on her. The family justice center turned down our request since our father continued to text her on a regular basis and the court would not take the request as serious enough.

Share all of it! The fraud, the abuse, the isolation and manipulation. Share everything I have stated in the first question. Also, share that we filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. She continued to contact him via text/phone calls. Our dad sent her text messages all the time that were brief and vague about how he was doing and what was new with him. The truth was that he couldn't remember and did not have the cognitive ability to recall his day/week. She would send him photos of her with other male friends and share about how much they helped her with a move or took care of her. In May of 2022 she had sent a text to our father from Las Vegas. She had recently moved there and stated she was caring for a woman with Alzheimer's and how difficult it was to care for her. I was very worried for that person and contacted the police in Las Vegas to report my concerns, but they didn't want to hear about it unless I had the name of the potential victim. I then called Adult Protective Services and they had the same response. Two weeks later she sent our dad a text at around 2:30am stating that she had to move because her roommate learned she was allergic to her cats. She had lived in Las Vegas for about two months and very quickly left to temporarily live with her son and his family in S. Padre Islands, Texas. I was very worried about the safety and well-being of the person she said she was caring for. She seemed settled in Vegas one minute and then abruptly moved away the next minute. She continued to talk with my dad which made it difficult for him to move forward and to understand what she had done to him. He couldn't remember from day to day what she had done and would reach out to her like a drug addict seeking their next fix. We contacted Adult Protective Services immediately. We called the police department to report the real estate listing on Zillow along with the unusual bank activity and credit card usage. We had filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. The police did in fact get proof of fraud on Zillow and presented it to the DA's office. The District Attorney chose not to take the case because no money was exchanged. We were even given a contact person at the FBI, but after talking with them they were not interested and never returned our phone calls after that. Our father was able to sell his house and is now able to have that money to live off of. He lives with me and my family and has his own bedroom/bathroom and an office where he can display his photos and memorabilia. Every single agency, doctors, bankers, APS, law enforcement, and the FBI have all agreed unanimously that our father was being abused and financially exploited. Unfortunately, there have been no consequences for the behavior of his girlfriend other than the fact that she can no longer abuse our father. We believe she is still doing the same scam/con with other elderly men, and will continue to do so. We have read about a recent case of elder abuse that is very similar to our story, but they are now facing actual criminal charges because they took a lot of money. It fear that the type of abuse our dad's girlfriend committed is all too common and overlooked if there isn't an excessive amount of money involved. We are grateful for our Aunt and Uncle and all of the friends and neighbors who stepped in to help our father. Had they not, I truly believe he would not be here with us today. Thankfully, we have finally been successful in removing her from any communication with our father. Unfortunately, much of that is because our father's memory has declined and he cannot remember her phone number anymore.

If you suspect anything is off or wrong trust your instincts. Call Adult Protective Services immediately. It can be overwhelming and scary. Find friends and support groups to connect with. You are not alone! Be persistent. Also, make sure to get the proper medical care and evaluations for your loved one. Our father was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's and also has other physical ailments that need medical care and treatment. Make sure to rule out any type of dementia/alzheimer's. Get as many resources as possible in your local area including the neighborhood Senior center. It's important to have a support system for your loved one and yourself. Document everything about the fraud, and share your story like I am here. The more we get the information out there the more knowledge people will have. We believe this was similar to a Romance Scam. Our dad's girlfriend was introduced to him by a mutual friend. Our dad originally met the mutual friend through an online dating site/chat room. That mutual friend is connected to the dance instructor, the computer person and the girlfriend. APS believes it is some type of ring of people collectively helping one another with their own personal scams. As I get older I see the importance of having documents such as a living trust and power of attorney all in place before I have any type of cognitive decline.

I hope the laws start to actually protect all of our elderly. What good is the law if there are no consequences for criminal actions. I am dismayed, disappointed and saddened that we spent a better part of 1.5 years talking with the very institutions designed to protect people like our father only to discover they don't want to get involved. Can we hold people accountable for their actions? It seems the victim is often left dealing with the behavior of the abuser. I am hoping someday there will be stronger protections under the law for these types of crimes.

I have purposely not added names to my information to protect my father and my family. I do not trust this person, or her family.