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My elderly mother moved in with my older sister in 2016. My older sister did not live in the area. She lived out of town for years. My mother and I were always very close. When my father died in 2000, my family and I took care of my mom's needs with some help from my brothers, who lived in the area. I took my mom to all of her appointments, we had dinner at my house at least once a week if not more, went to grandchildren's events and family members were able to freely visit her at her home. For 16 years, I was her major support. When my sister moved back to the area, she asked my mother to move in with she and her wife. My mother accepted. At first things were ok. There did not seem to be a problem visiting my mom and I was able to still take my mom for some appointments, but not as many as my sister because she was retired and I worked full-time. As time progressed, it appeared that my sister's wife had bipolar disorder. I empathize with anyone dealing with mental health issues; however, this should not affect relationships with my mom. It started to become more difficult to see my mother. In 2010, my eldest brother died and he had been in charge of my mom's finances which he had no problem sharing information with this siblings. My mom was still aware of her own finances so things were pretty much handled by her. When my sister returned in 2016, a year later she took my mom to sign papers making her the POA and she took over her finances. My sister would not share anything about my mom's finances. My sister and her wife began causing issues with the family. After my brother died, my sister took my mom to the attorney and had my brother's kids removed from the will. (No one was told of this before this action was taken because the rest of the family would have differed. My sister did it because she had a falling out with our nephew, my deceased brother's son. She and her wife even recorded a song on my nephew's wife's phone, singing how happy they were that they were out of the family.) This caused a lot of pain for the family and the family began to divide. My sister and her wife would not allow my nephew in their home. Then it began to include my nieces and sister-in-law. Then my sister would allow them to visit my mom sporadically. Then my sister's wife began saying that she did not want me in her home. That I had to make appointments to see my mom when in the beginning when my mom was moving in, I was told that I would be able to see my mom any time. My mom was a negative woman so I know that they were feeling stress as caretakers. Things began to get worse. If I had a suggestion or idea, or was the voice for my mom because my mom was scared of my sister, I was denied access to see my mom. It was like I was grounded for awhile. I was told that I don't want to see your face around here for two weeks. Things like that began happening. We tried to sit down to talk, but my sister always controlled every conversation. My mom was very aware of what was going on and at one point spoke up for me. In August of 2020, my mother asked me to ask my sister if my brother, my husband and I could attend a meeting at the house to discuss her money...a financial advisor was coming to their home. I did as my mom asked and my sister blew her top. She denied any of us to come to the house. She and her wife were also having marriage difficulties at the same time which my cousins were told about because my sister and her wife would go to them to talk. My sister's wife had given her until September 1st to have my mother out or she was going to leave her. My mother was kicked out of their home and given 2 days to move out. She was brought to our home. My brother picked her up. Blair Senior Services was called and they were told that my brother and I removed my mother from their home against her will. This was not true. My sister had a mover drop off all of our mother's things to our home. My sister said she was removing herself from being POA and Executrix of mom's will. So my brother and I took these things over. We discussed options with my mom. Our home was not set up for a 90-year old woman with a walker so we would have to renovate if the decision was to stay at our home. The three options given were:
1. Go to a home because with all the stress in the family, this may be the best option for all family members to visit. The downside was that COVID was raging and we were not sure if this would be the best option.
2. Stay with us in a small bedroom, but realize you will be sharing a bathroom with 5 people.
3. My husband suggested giving up our garage and his home office to create a mother-in-law suite, but we would need financial support from her to make this happen. We would pay for half.
My mom chose option 3. We had meetings with an attorney and discussed this as well as fair market value.
We got a contractor, but that did not work out due to COVID and his schedule, so we actually had to do the renovations ourselves. This then took longer.

In the meantime, my sister did not contact my mom for over 4 months. My mom began ruminating about being kicked out. She would play the scene over and over in her mind. After 4 months of doing this, her memory was affected. In fact, she even forgot who I was and what my name was. This would happen in spurts. I contacted her doctor and the doctor suggested that she experienced a traumatic event and she seemed to be experiencing a post traumatic stress event. She tried several different medications which did not work for her. Zoloft made her anxious and Remeron made her even more forgetful. My mom was taken for cognitive testing. I kept my siblings abreast of everything that was happening. The testing results were that my mother had moderate to severe Alzheimer's. My mother was very upset that I took her for cognitive testing and at this point my sister began calling my mom. My sister had nothing nice to say about her siblings to my mom. My brother took over her finances and I took over the medical. We shared the responsibility. When Blair Senior Services was called on us again, the agency found nothing wrong, but told us that we should put mom' money into a trust. We had been checking into this so we did this. My sister, over the phone, convinced mom that Tim and I were cheating her out of money and that she shouldn't be living here. She told my mom that I was trying to have her deemed incapacitated when I was only trying to help her with her memory issues. 10 months later, my mom's attitude was very negative toward us. This was the time; however, when the cognitive testing was done. I got my mom on medicine for anxiety that helped her and medicine for Alzheimer's. She had just been prescribed it when my sister convinced her that I was stealing money from her. I would only use my mom's debit card because we were told this was an easy way to keep track of her expenditures for the 5-year look back. My mom was convinced that I stole from her and lied to her. She called my sister to come get her. My sister said that she was only taking mom for a few days and then she would bring her back. My mom never came back and this has been over two years that things have been made difficult for immediate family and extended family to see my mom.
My sister has had my mom change the POA and Will during that same week. It took less than 3 days for this to occur and it was done in secret. This alerted TD Ameritrade where my brother and husband had placed the money. Since my husband is an advisor, and my brother's oldest son had died, they discussed with mom managing the money together. My brother would share what he wanted and my husband would make the trades. My mom thought this was a good idea. Anyway, when my sister had everything changed in secret, TD Ameritrade put a freeze on the money. My sister blamed my husband for doing this and this began the poisoning of my mother against us. My mother convinced my mom that Trusts were bad and that none of her other family members had her best interests at heart.

Since then, anyone who has tried to speak to my sister about her unreasonableness had been cut off from my mom. She has not cut my brother and I out yet, but she had made it very uncomfortable and unsafe for us to visit my mom.
Undue influence is rampant. My sister has verbally told my brother and I that if we are on their property we will be arrested. She has issued No Trespassing to my husband and two cousins. She has issued Cease and Desist letters to my cousins and has blocked many family from being able to contact my mom. She has control of the phone and some family members are not even allowed to send mail. She has done this all by using my mom and taking her to an attorney to have these drawn up. My mom said that my sister scares her, but she just says what she is told to say so that there aren't any problems. My mom's memory is much better on her medication and her anxiety medication has totally changed her.

My family knows that we are not welcome there. My sister tells a narrative that paints a terrible picture of all other family members when this couldn't be further from the truth.

I would like to share that Blair Senior Services is not equipped to handle undue influence. They don't have the training or the staff to make this happen so all this isolation is allowed to happen. In fact, Blair Senior Services has been rude to us at times when we are just seeking support. We have just wanted to call to talk to someone, not necessarily make a report, but they just keep pressing for a report. Make a report or get off the phone. I have been disheartened by their lack of empathy.

Also, Blair Senior Services directed us to get an attorney because this was out of their scope. We did so and then we were treated poorly. I do not understand why my sister was not given the same message. Blair Senior Services than demanded the financial records that we had already turned into my mom's attorney. My sister wants the control of my mom's money and she will most likely not follow my mom's wishes. She was trying to get information that was already turned in to attorneys and then Blair Senior Services treated my family poorly for following their advice. It just doesn't make sense.

Also, the court system is not helpful either because if the elderly person cannot be declared incapacitated, then you cannot go for guardianship. This also makes no sense any way. When a person is in their golden years, why would anyone want to put them through this drama? They would have to testify and be tested cognitively by doctors on both sides and then the case could last a year and a half to two years. Who wants to put an elderly person through this? And...why does a person have to be incapacitated? A person's mind can be unduly influenced and still be competent...I feel this needs to change.

Doctors are also not held accountable for taking an active role in helping the elder...it is as if they turn a blind eye.

I wish that people understood the damage that psychological abuse can do.
I wish that attorneys, doctors and social workers were held to a higher standard when recognizing signs of undue influence. (California has the CUIST, which at least helps these key players understand and be held accountable for removing older adults from these situations.)
I wish that attorneys would not take cases that they shouldn't. My sister got my mom a different attorney and this attorney should have never taken the case. If he had training in undue influence and if attorneys were held to a higher standard concerning this, then it wouldn't make it easy for controlling family members to take actions such as these.
I wish that family members who have mental illness would be held accountable for actions taken.
I wish that Aging Agencies had the power to mandate family counseling/mediation and give families the tools for conflict resolution.
I wish that one controlling person in a family, that has destroyed an entire family unit, would be held accountable.
I wish that past patterns of suing and causing problems at work and in relationships would be considered.
I wish that the red flags of undue influence were a part of training for social workers and that they would be held to a higher standard where this is concerned.
I wish that there was some mediation in place that is out of the hands of the POA, especially when the POA is destructive.
I wish that the court system had other recourses besides guardianship. Many families cannot even afford the minimum $20,000 that this could cost.
I wish there was a place for dysfunctional families in the system. The family member who has never learned how to play fairly in the sandbox, ends up on top because it is easy to manipulate the Aging Agencies and the Court System in their favor. For example, if my mother lives with my sister, it becomes easy to deny access to people because my mom doesn't own the property.
That Aging Agencies take accountability for their recommendations. Why hasn't Blair Senior Services told my sister that they recommended a Trust...Is this because they could be sued? Are Aging Agencies allowed to give advice like this?

My hopes for the future...
That legislation is passed that helps key players detect undue influence.
That perpetrators are held accountable for the break up of families and having family members have to grieve for an elderly parent who is still alive. Ambiguous grief is a terrible experience.
That mental illness is considered when a person has a controlling personality and is unreasonable. And that this family member gets the help that he or she needs. All family members deserve to have an authentic relationship with parents.
That POAs are changed to have checks and balances. One person should not be able to control everything. My brother and I, according to my sister, are not worthy to know about my mom's health.
Because of these actions, my mother has lost access to other grandchildren and extended family...well family that my sister does not want her to see anyway.
This is something that can be prevented with the proper training, communication, and interviewing of all family members, not just one.
I really hope that things change for the future. My mom is 93 and she will most likely die before anything can be done, but if my voice can help to promote change, I hope that even one voice can matter.

I would like to add that my sister has a habit of suing people. I have contacted state representatives and state senators about this topic. I have heard from Senator Bob Casey and his office suggested that I write an OpEd for the newspaper. I have a rough draft, but do not want to get sued. My husband and I got an attorney to even be able to see my mom. We are not rich, so I do have a concern about being sued. If I could be guaranteed or protected in some way from this, I would be willing to use my name and tell my story further. Undue influence is an insidious form of mental abuse that needs to stop. I have shed a lot of tears missing my mom. Two years later I am changing. I have built up a wall to protect myself. My sister has strong characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. I cannot diagnose her, but I can tell you that the text messages, emails and phone calls that I receive have been nothing but derogatory and demeaning. It is not safe to be around her. She would not hesitate to make up some type of story that I harmed my mom and this is not out of her realm. She has been known to fudge data on reports about her own teaching/administerial evaluations. She is savvy and her goal is to win at all costs without any empathy for the people who are trying to rationalize with her. It has been tough growing up with her. She holds jealousy and animosity in her heart for her family. I feel that she is a dangerous person in this way, but if you can help me with the legalities of sharing my name, which I have an attorney looking at my editorial to try to ensure that I cannot be sued, I would be more reassured.

I am actually requesting a call back. I feel that there is so much information and that I am rambling because there is finally someone asking us to share. Thank you for this!

My elderly mother had already made her Will out as she had a son and daughter disabled one by auto accident another by COPD and she wanted to make sure the two other adult children (I was one) that were guardians of the two disabled would make sure if anything happened to her would have the means to take care of the disabled ones. I was also POA/Patient Advocate for mother if she ever became incapacitated and other sibling POA for finances for our mother. To make a very long stiry shorter a greedy sister decided to become mothers chore person through DHS and started on a plan to put our mother under guardianship when she did not need one and had 2 sons living with her attending to some things. This sister did not get along with one of the brothers and started making false accusations of almost everybody whom she knew helped mom for many years as she was hardly ever around. We started confronting her about taking money, jewelry etc. snd she petitioned probate with slandering lies about the supportive siblings and ones mother put in charge in her end of life plans. She kidnapped mother out of her home took her to her home and isolated her away from even the disabled adult children. She recorded phone calls and monitored everything on a baby monitor in mothers room. When the court date came she had a good attorney with mothers estate and mother had court appointed attorney she did not bring mother to court as she started her on a antidepressant and started her plan to make her seem dementia wad going on. Mother had reported her to Social Security that she changed her address and bank with them without permission and mother was looking forward to tell het story to the judge. Well thst is when we realized the judge was corrupt snd along with sisters attorney in judges chamber already planned the outcome. The judge would not allow myself and other sister in charge of mothers plans. No due process was given we were not allowed to tell her mother had plans in place and did not need a guardian &/or Conservator. Whatever lies or not we do not know only that we were not able to have out day in court to speak the truth or show evidence bank records, end of life plans or anything and were treated like criminals slandered by the actually criminal petitioning the court in the first place. The worst part is our beautiful, trusting, vulnerable elderly mother was put under the racket of hospice and if you could see the picture I took of her when on rare occasion was able to pick her up to through a party for after bring with me for 2 weeks when the criminal went on vacation for het birthday the nurse could not believe she was the same person as I was not drugging her. My mother told the nurse the criminal was stealing her money, her purse and she did not even have a dollar or an ID. The nurse spoke to the criminal a year later mother was dead 58 pounds she had no heart or lung problems. Died from natural causes my ass she died from hospice cocktail caused by a greedy daughter. What I would like to see changed is no guardian petition should ever be accepted by any probate court without mediation first as that gives time fir the truth/evidence snd would have given my mother a voice or myself as Patient advocate/POA speak for her, also a judge should have to ask for these documents and put in writing why she will not honor this and lawyers should have to tell the people that a judge can void them at their own biases and there is nothing you can do about it. Put your plans on video that you do not want a professional guardian if you do not and who you want and where to find your documents or register them.

Pass Bills already written to this affect and make the judges follow the law.

It is mostly all about the money. They will still everything you worked for all your life and leave even your disabled adult children homeless.

For all these corrupt judges, lawyers, doctors, police, nurses, nursing home staff, social workers, professional or sibling guardians etc. get exposed and justice served. You could never believe or imagine the devastation it causes until it happens to you or a loved one. There is nobody immune even all the ones listed above can and do end up in this nightmare.

Save the vulnerable elderly and disabled from this abuse, because thes elder abuse tasks forces can not even pass the Bills.

My father's Sister,Daughter,and his POA forged signatures stealing all of childrens inheritance, properties, and starved, abused, and put pills in his mouth, Killing him. I went to his home, and was attacked by his So called POA,, wife and brother with a gun, beating me, telling me they were going to kill me like they did my dad, they killed my family!! And will kill me, when they catch me

They shot and killed my 17 yr old son and covered it up as suicide in Livingston parish Louisiana, with all along with all my possessions being stolen and the sheriff said,that the evidence that I have was probably contaminated. They all got away with murder, crime, human trafficking, stealing peoples properties, bank account, Inheritances

My mom was 88yrs old, very able and capable, either no life threatening medical problems.

There is no way that the extreme disturbing events of this can be exagersted. There are no words strong, powerful, deep enough to convey the depths of sick, evil, depravity that took place at times that would make the devil himself envious. And the more time goes by, the more i am recigizing the depth of impact it has all done to me that only grows worse, not better. There is one thing unquestionably, indisputably clear and certain.My beautiful most sweet, kind, gentle, loving, wonderful mom walked into Penn Medicine's West Chester Pa facility, Chester County Hospital, just about 3-months ago with nothing anywhere near life threatening, and suffered such gross neglect, malpractice, and even emotional abuse, that just about 3-months later, the last month of which she spent in excruciating extreme agony, pain and suffering, she is now dead at their hands. My beautiful, gentle & kind, most loving, caring, wonderful, greatest mom in the whole world, came home from the initially surgery seemingly fine, before beginng to complain of feeling weak and have some pain. Then when the home nurse noticed her incision was infected, and felt so strongly that this needed prompt attention that she took a picture and sent it to the Chester County surgeon urging him to address the infected incision, but he just absolutely refused and said he'd see her in a week at her next scheduled appointment. I called his office begging and pleading, but he just refused to see her. I called her family doctor, and Urgent Care, but they both told me only the surgeon can address that. Unfortunately my mom didn't make it to that appointment before collapsing on the ground in extreme pain, infection throughout her whole body. All I could do was wrap a robe around her, and call an ambulance which took her right back to Chester County where the same surgeon then admitted that yes we were right, it's infected, at this point so badly, and deeply, that he had to do another operation to cut out the infection, leaving a big hole in my mom's inner leg, and give her antibiotics and a wound vac, but he botched it again, as we later found out, when the rehab that they discharged my mom way too early into against my wishes, after a few days sent her right back by ambulance again, which is when we had her transfered to Upenn Philly, where an expert surgeon seemed upset himself that the Chester County surgeon had not immediately removed the apparent source of the infection, the artificial vein graft put in by the Chester County surgeon. Although that Upenn surgeon did remove that infected graft, and debride the incision again, by this time my mom was developing C-diff from all the antibiotics, and not being on any kind of a proper anti-bedsore mattress, nor ever once being turned or adjusted as I later found out too late they should've been doing every 2-hours, my mom, who went into Upenn Philly never having ever had a bedsore in her life, developed a bedsore that was allowed to grow into a massive, hideous, stage 4, excruciatingly painful, life threatening bedsore, which they would never mention, or change the dressing on in front of me, until I finally said hey whats behind this big bandage on my mom's back, and discovered it, and when I went to take a picture so I could compare it to later to be sure it's healing,, as I had done all along everytime they changed the dressing on her infected incision with no problem, they bizarrley freaked out, got security to escort me out of the hospital, not only robbing my poor sick mom of her constant support having been by her side helping and encouraging her all day every day for months now since this all started, but upset her so much I later found out she was throwing up all that night, and eventually confronted me outside with a whole pack of goons threatening and intimidating me off of the property, threatening to have me arrested if I even call to check on my mom's condition. I just could not believe that especially a hospital could be capable of such complete depravity, more like something from a fictional horror film than how you would think anybody with any degree of human qualities, compassion and and a conscience at all would be capable to behave, even if they were being paid, and from there it kept getting so much more and more profoundly sick and just so downright evil it was just truly very scarey. Even when I called Philadelphia Elder Care they called me right back saying the hospital says your mom is not in there, and I discovered they had actually removed my mom from thier computer system so that when anyone called the switchboard would say, we cannot put you through, there's no one here by that name. My poor sick mom inside alone and scared and me outside worried to death what is going on, how could this be happening. It was sheer horror, and in the end, they killed her. From there she went to a rehab in Exton, having walked into a West Chester facility just about a couple months prior with very non-life threatening health issues, expecting to have my mom around for many more good years, as her whole family commonly lives to 100+ years old, was lying there in a rehab bed, with a feeding tube in her stomach, a wound vac on her leg, screaming in constant severe agony from the giant 4 inch wide, down to the muscle bedsore hole in her back, looking like she belonged more in an intensuve care unit, for a couple days before being ambulanced again back to Chester County Hospital when her vital signs declined overnight, where I watched my poor mom, my most beautiful, kind, loving, most wonderful, sweet, gentle, person you could ever meet, greatest mom ever in the whole world, die and pass away. Gone forever, way too soon, in a torturous excruciating end of the greatest mom that God ever made, my mom, my world, and I can't even imagine how I'm going to even go on myself without her. No words could ever even begin to approach the sickening, disturbing imposible horror of this overall experience that I wouldn't even think would go on in some backwoods underdeveloped lawless place, let alone right here in Pennsylvania, USA.I would be compelled and obligated to every other future mother and son, to work with you, show you what pictures I did get, and cooperate fully to try to bring to light, and hopefully avoid anyone else ever again from having to go through this what killed my sweet wonderful mom, ruined my world, and if it doesn't kill me as it feels like it will, certainly will at least leave me very deeply and permanently scarred, and missing my mom. Sincerely,
Robert Snodgrass 484-252-9596

I wish I could tell my whole story on national/ international media to let everyone know that Dr Hayes, along with Penn Medicine for not care about having principles, values, doing the right thing, only money, and they are very evil to the core of thier souls, if they even have them.

Dr Hayes will go to jail for life for manslaughter, and Penn Medicine will be shut-down, or at least massively fined sending a clear message through the Healthcare industry.

I would very greatly appreciate if you could help me reach as big an audience as possible on every level and type of media. I have no qualms at all about using my name and info. In fact I prefer to use my name and full contact info, as you also may please do. I will sign any type of release forms immediately for that if necessary. Please contact me with any and every person, organization that you know of who may be capable of, or be in contact with anyone else who is capable of, using the law, media, people in power, any possible thing that can raise awareness, make a difference in what is going on that this may never happen again to anyone else please.

My sister and I learned in June 2021 that our 83 year old father was being financially exploited and abused by his live in girlfriend. At the time he lived in Oklahoma City, and we lived in California. We received a phone call from our Aunt and Uncle in Oklahoma. They lived near my father and had recently discovered that his girlfriend had listed his house for sale on Zillow without his knowledge. She had committed fraud by claiming the house as the owner and listed all correspondence about his home to go to her phone number and email. Zillow also owns Trulia, which meant the house was listed on that site as well. Our dad's brother, also our Uncle, was named on our dad's checking account as a co-signer. Our Uncle also managed our dad's estate and shared a family trust with him. Our Uncle would often make sure our dad's account was not in the red and would make sure some of his more costly bills were paid for. In other words, he would deposit money into our dad's account intermittently when larger bills were due (i.e.-car/homeowners insurance). On the day we received the phone call our Uncle had found out from the bank that he had been removed as co-signer and my dad's girlfriend had now been added as both a co-signer and joint member of the account. The banker knew my Aunt and Uncle personally and shared concerns about my dad's girlfriend and more importantly concerns about my dad. Our Aunt and Uncle had also received a phone call from their insurance agent. Our dad had the same agent and inquired several times about getting a life insurance policy. They told him each time that they did not work with life insurance, only auto and homeowners insurance. They were worried that he seemed confused and continued to ask about it. Important to note, our father already had life insurance for years. And, lastly, the neighbor was worried about our dad. She had seen the listing on Zillow and asked if he was moving. He emphatically said, "No!" and then was shown the listing on Zillow. According to his neighbor/friend he immediately appeared confused. He was then asked by the neighbor if he was now married to his girlfriend. Again, he said, "No!" It was brought to his attention that the girlfriend was telling everyone they were now married. The combination of all of these things happening at once raised huge concerns by our Aunt and Uncle and prompted them to call me and my sister as soon as possible. When we were contacted we knew that our dad was planning a trip to Florida with his girlfriend, and they had planned to leave the next week on June 28th. On the same day our Aunt and Uncle called I had talked with my dad. He shared with me about his trip. It was a 10 day trip to The Villages in Florida. At some point in the conversation he said to me, "Who knows, maybe I'll just come live with you." I was confused and thought it was an odd statement, but didn't question it. I had room in my home now that 2 of my children were grown and moved out, so I responded with, "Of course, You can always come live with us." I found out later in the day that he had told my sister not to tell anyone that he was planning to move away to live at The Villages in Florida. It was peculiar that he didn't want to tell anyone, but my first thought was that he didn't want to upset my Aunt and Uncle that he was planning to move away. Now, in hindsight, I think his girlfriend wanted him to keep it a secret. We all, my sister, aunt and uncle met several times via zoom/group phone calls to discuss what we needed to do. Because of COVID neither my sister or I had traveled to see my dad, but now that we were all vaccinated we were in a better place to travel to Oklahoma immediately. Both my sister and I called our dad to express our concerns and begged him not to take the trip to Florida with his girlfriend. We also let him know that we would be out there to see him as soon as possible. He thanked my sister for initiating the conversation about our concerns and let her know that he had decided not to go to Florida. His girlfriend went without him which made it possible for us to immediately fly out to Oklahoma to see our dad. I was planning to visit him in July anyway, but not under these circumstances. He was open to a visit from both of us, but was also feeling that we were all "ganging up" on him, and was somewhat defensive when I arrived. When I arrived in Oklahoma I was horrified to see his extreme weight loss and unhealthy living conditions. His girlfriend had moved into the main bedroom with all of her furniture and clothing. The main bedroom was huge. It had room for a sitting area, sleeping area, and office space. Additionally, there was a large walk-in closet and very large bathroom. Nothing in there was his. There were photos on the wall of herself and all of her own framed wall hangings. There was a dresser that was my dad's (he bought it special with his second wife who had passed away in 2004) she was using for her own things. Otherwise, there was nothing of my dad's. He had moved all of his things into the small bedroom (the size of a small nursery) and was using the other bathroom for himself. He had a special custom made desk that his second wife had purchased for him on his 60th birthday that was nowhere to be found. It had been placed in storage to make room for all of his girlfriend's stuff. There was custom made, very expensive, dining room table that was completely covered with the girlfriend's art supplies. Boxes were placed underneath the table with more art supplies. The walls were covered with her art along with her family photos. The dining room was wall to wall with her arts and crafts, and it was difficult to walk around in there. The living room had a small couch of my dad's and his second wife's special chair. Everything else in there was unrecognizable. It was all his girlfriend's. One small section about the special chair had some framed artwork that was my dad's. There was a large bookcase with her family photos everywhere. I knew my dad had framed family pictures, but I couldn't find them anywhere on the bookshelf or on the walls. I then noticed way up high on the shelf at the far corner a framed photo of my sister, my dad and myself. I had given it to my dad many years ago, and it seemed hidden amongst all of her stuff. She had photos in the small hallway of herself and old pictures with her boyfriend from the 1970's, Clint Eastwood (yes it was the actor). She had a photo book that she had made and titled it "My Memories". Every single photo was just a picture of her. I then realized there were no photos of my dad with her. I started to look for some sign of one, and then I saw it. There was a framed photo of my dad and her when they went to Vegas in February 2020. I didn't recognize my dad. He was even thinner in the photo. He looked emaciated. It scared me. I had never seen him so thin and gaunt. Later on I saw in his medical records that his weight was one pound away from being considered malnourished at the time the photo was taken. During a visit from my dad in December 2018 he mentioned that his new girlfriend was a "life coach" and was using him as "kind of like a client". She had him stop drinking alcohol (which I was fine with), and also had him stop drinking coffee. My dad always loved his coffee so I thought that was a bit odd and questioned him about it. He seemed okay with it at the time, and because he seemed happy and healthy I never thought more about it, until this visit in 2021. Now looking back, I realize that was a red flag on how she was treating him. I went into his office, and saw a large massage chair that appeared to be very new. When asked about it my dad said they bought it together at the county/state fair. I asked if he actually used it, and he said "no." It is very unlike my dad's personality to make such an expensive purchase let alone use a chair like that. The chair was bought in his girlfriend's name for $6,000.00 on a payment plan. We discovered my dad was making monthly payments on the chair, not her. I also noticed in his office on the far wall to the side, were two canvas pictures of his grandkids. My sister and I each sent him one respectively (my 3 boys and her 2 daughters). It made sense to see them up on the wall, but those were really the only family photos of his in the entire house. I would say that 85% of the stuff in the house now was the girlfriend's. When asked about where his things were he said that they were in storage because there was no room for anything. His small bedroom was crammed with furniture, and clothing. In the corner behind a dresser were a lot of his own framed pictures that appeared to have been removed and placed in a corner. Many of them were purchased from artists and specially framed. They were now all shoved in a corner. When asked about the checking account he said that he was struggling with his bills and simply asked his girlfriend to take care of his finances. I asked if she had her own personal account and if she closed that to share finances with him. He said she did have her own account but "no, she did not share her finances." When I went to turn on the television I noticed it wasn't hooked up correctly and he had no idea how to use the remote controls. He had been unable to access television. When I figured out how to connect everything I saw there was a netflix account. I went to check for a movie and realized that the girlfriend and her adult children, adult grandson were using netflix. I discovered our dad was paying for directv along with netflix for the girlfriend and her family. I asked my dad if he ever watched tv. He said not a lot but he did like watching the show Monk a lot. I noticed in the corner of the living room a box with a dvd collection of several seasons of Monk. Was she keeping him from watching television and made him believe he was watching Monk on the tv all the time? My father seemed very confused and overwhelmed about everything. We were extremely worried about him. The girlfriend had three cats that she left with him to care for and administer medicine to. We discovered that she had traveled for approximately 8 weeks over the course of three months prior to our visit (Mid April to Mid June). She was in Colorado, Florida, Texas and Wyoming, and now Florida for 10 days. Before she left for Florida she and my dad went together for a routine doctor's appointment for my dad. During the visit she requested to be added to the list of emergency contacts in his records. She then proceeded to ask the doctor to do a memory test. She obviously knew he was struggling with his memory. When we went to the bank to meet with the banker regarding his account we discovered he had cashed out annuities from life insurance policies. There were large overpayments made on credit cards ($800 for a $100 bill) and duplicate payments made to an AT&T account. This was based on statements since his girlfriend was added to the account. We were very concerned. We discovered that his girlfriend was trying to get on his account and have access to it since May 2021; however, her requests were over the phone because she was out of the state and needed to come in person to do so. She also requested a meeting with on of the Mortgage Brokers at the bank. Based on the Zillow listing we had reason to believe she was trying to add her name to the title. We contacted AT&T and found a bill from them, and discovered the girlfriend, her 56 year old daughter, and her daughter's 33 year old son were all on the account listed under my dad's name. They all had brand new iPhones. Plus the girlfriend had a new iWatch. Our dad had an older iPhone model, the iPhone 8, and he had two phones, one with a local area code, and the other was his phone number he had for 20+ years. He also had an iWatch which he "lost" and has no idea what happened to it. We discovered my dad was paying for a large storage unit (10'x20'). The majority of items belonged to the girlfriend. We also discovered that my dad's special custom made desk was in the storage along with a very nice couch he had with his wife. He had no room in his home for them, because the girlfriend took over the majority of the space in the house when she moved in. Along with a few boxes and a folded card table with 4 folding chairs, those were the only items that were his. The rest of the storage was packed with all of her things. There seemed to be absolutely no reason why he wouldn't be able to keep his special items with him in his home. Consequently, she was living rent free in his home and able to have free storage for all of her items. We discovered on a different checking account that he was making payments to the girlfriend for groceries and dinner. On one occasion he had paid for a $56 dinner on his bank card and then proceeded to pay her again for the same amount on the same day and listed in the memo "dinner". It appeared she was requesting he reimburse her for meals and groceries on a regular basis. While we were in Oklahoma the girl friend called our dad at night to let him know she was worried that a payment had not gone through for his Barclay credit card, and needed him to talk with Barclay to confirm the payment. The payment she was referring to was in fact the overpayment of $800 she made one week earlier. During the phone call there was a great deal of confusion, and our dad became anxious and confused. He would go into his office and close the door to talk with his girlfriend and then with Barclay's. My sister and I were still in a great deal of shock and confused ourselves as to what was happening. The next day we contacted Barclay's with our dad. Barclay had suspected fraudulent activity from the girlfriend and had shut the card down. When we found out we asked our dad where his credit cards were. He realized they were gone and we searched everywhere for them in the house. We asked if he gave them to the girlfriend, but his response was "No, I don't think so." We then suspected that the girlfriend had taken all of his credit cards with her to Florida, and believe she tried to use that specific card while in Florida and it was declined. We later discovered that she was then able to use his American Express card. There were several charges from The Villages on his card. The first few days of our visit in Oklahoma the girlfriend sent a text to our dad to share with us. The text stated that she was helping our father with his finances because he was struggling with them. She said her goal was to buy a place in Florida (The Villages) and to help him keep his home in Oklahoma so that he can live comfortably and go visit her. She continued by stating that she had "the book" (involving his finances) with her in Florida and that if we wanted to contact her she would go over everything with us. We were now very concerned. Why was his house for sale on Zillow/Trulia? Why does she have the book with her and why does she have all of his credit cards. We did not call her due to our lack of trust and concerns. At one point our father was busy on the phone with her, and I decided to go into her room to see if there was anything suspicious. I was standing by her desk and looked down to find a notepad with information about my father. I looked closer and found what appeared to be "the book" she said she had with her. She had everything noted about my father in the book, social security number, credit card numbers, life insurance policies and information about how much $ for each of them, usernames/passwords, checking account information, key events/information about my father often used for two-step verification on accounts (i.e.-mother's maiden name, favorite pet's name, father's birthdate). We were astounded and now very very concerned. He had no idea about the book and why all that information was listed on there. We discovered our father's mortgage payments were behind, and he had not paid his homeowners fees in months. His house was on lien and we needed to contact the mortgage company and homeowners association immediately. When we spoke with the HOA they said they had talked with our dad's girlfriend in May and stated that when she called she said, "I am his wife, well his fiancée, well I'm his girlfriend. Well, I'm a lot of things to him." The HOA Representative then stated she asked for information on how to pay his debt, and was given a form to complete and return. The HOA never received a form and never received any payments after that. We discussed with the HOA our concerns and requested to meet with them to work through the current situation. The next day we also discovered that our father's name had been removed from the gate code key pad to his community. We instead found the girlfriend's last name added to gate code. We requested to remove her name immediately and reinstate our father's name. We also asked them to confirm there was no one else with the same last name living there. HOA confirmed that no one with that last name lived there, and inquired about it with the facilities management team. They informed us that the name was removed and replaced with our father's name. We believe the girlfriend removed his name. As the week progressed our concerns about our dad's health safety and overall well-being grew. We were very worried that he was not safe in the house alone with the girlfriend. We had no choice but to bring him back to California to sort through everything. We immediately bought him a ticket to come back home with me stay with us while we sorted through everything. We brought the book with us to California as it had all of his personal information. We quickly had a lawyer draw up the documents for Power of Attorney. We discussed with our father and had the documents signed and notarized. Next we had our father close out his joint account with her and open a new account with my sister and myself. First and foremost, we needed to keep our dad safe. He was very worried about what to tell her. When we said, "Let her know you are going to California to visit my grandkids and daughters for awhile", he was still worried and seemed afraid of how she might react. When we got to California his behavior was similar to something like Stockholm syndrome. Approximately two days after he arrived he contacted his girlfriend on the phone in front of me. She was loud enough that I could hear her. She said loudly to him, "They will take all of OUR money." There was then a pause in the conversation and she quickly and in a more quiet tone said, "Well, they will take all of your money." She had been upset that we brought the book home with us, not to mention our father was now safe with us. A few days later the girlfriend contacted my father and said there was a police officer parked in front of the house and she had thought my sister and I had contacted the police on her. She seemed to react in a paranoid way, and accused us of calling the police. When we told our father that we had no idea what she was talking about he did not believe us, and started to get angry with us. The very next day several cars were parked at our father's house, and his girl friend along with some of her friends proceeded to load up their cars with her things. It appeared that she was moving out very quickly. During that time, she purchased storage tubs and an electronic item for $350 using our father's American Express card. He had sent several text messages to her stating the following, "Please allow (her name) to use my American Express card for money owed to her." It appeared that she had coerced and manipulated him into sending the text message. Our father did not owe her any money. During this time of overwhelming chaos for our family, we asked the girlfriend and her family members to remove their phones from our father's AT&T account. We requested a "Transfer of Billing Responsibility" for all three of them, and asked them to take care of it in the next two weeks, giving them a deadline so their phone bills would not rollover into the next cycle. The girlfriend seemingly took care of it within a few days. The daughter asked us to change the name of her 33 year old son's phone to her name, and we asked her to take care of removing the phones immediately, she became agitated with us. She then stated that her son was a "minor with a disability" (neither of which were true) which we found incredibly odd. Reluctantly, I contacted AT&T myself and asked them to change the name. We just needed them to change their billing responsibility. After the two weeks had passed I went to check the bill to make sure they were all removed. None of them were. In fact, the girlfriend had created some type of "grandfather clause" account and placed her phone on a $2 per minute charge. The daughter had done nothing. The bill was now $1500 ($1200 for the girlfriend alone). I contacted AT&T and reported the situation. AT&T honored the request to remove t$1200 charge. They recommended shutting down their phones if they do not honor our request. Almost everyday for two weeks I was on the phone with AT&T and sending emails to the daughter to remove her two phones from our father's account. Important to note-Our father met the daughter one time on a visit to Colorado. He was in the relationship with the girlfriend for 2.5 years, and during that time she had traveled and been away for at least 12 months. In other words, the relationship was not long term, and she was often absent and away due to extended travel. I had sent emails stating that we would need to shut down the daughter's phone and her son's phone if they rolled over into the next billing cycle. And, let her know the cost of the phones since our dad would be held responsible for paying them off. At the final day I contacted AT&T and had the phones shut off. She did not do what we requested, and we extended the timeframe to one month to get it done. She was able to take care of it within the 24 hours that I made the call to disconnect their services, and she was eventually able to remove her phones. I received a disturbing correspondence from her, during the entire exchange. I spent hours dealing with her and AT&T. My dad would never have been able to keep up with the high AT&T bill or continue to be responsible for the girlfriend and her family. It was extremely exploitative in nature and abusive towards our father. Once all phones were removed we were relieved, but unfortunately our father still had two phones and a watch he still needed to make payments on. As a result, we had to keep the account until he had enough money to pay off everything and open a new account with just one phone. It was now been two months since we dealt with AT&T and my father received a phone call from his girlfriend asking to be reimbursed for payments she made to AT&T at the end of August and September. She asked our father to mail her a check. We were very worried about this request and let our father know that she was not on the account anymore. I went to look at the payment history and she had made unnecessary payments to his account. We contacted AT&T and reported her to the fraud department. We also explained to our father that we would not be able to reimburse her the money due to her prior history. We did not want any money, especially checks/debit card numbers to be exchanged with her. She was not to be trusted. I sent her an email and asked that she stop asking for money from our father and that she would need to work it out with her bank and AT&T. It was not our father's responsibility. She still continued to make monthly payments and again asked our father to reimburse her. We finally were able to close his AT&T account and closed it down in December of 2021. Prior to closing it down we let the girlfriend know and told her she would need to stop making payments to the account. We made our final payment in January 2022 and noticed she was still making payments on the account. I continued to report her to the fraud department. A few weeks later we received a gift card from AT&T to reimburse us for the overpayment of $85 on the account, which was the amount she had paid. Again, I called the fraud department with AT&T and again she made a payment for $85. It was exhausting and frustrating. We continued to receive reimbursements in the form of a gift card, and then she stopped doing it in April and May. She started again from June 2022 through August 2022 and then mysteriously stopped making the payments. Note-She had moved to Las Vegas in April and May, and then moved to Florida in September 2022. Payments stopped each time she moved. In between moves they started up again. I was curious if she still had the same phone number and when I looked her up in the White Pages her phone number was listed under a different name from a previous marriage. I returned all gift cards to AT&T as we did not want anything connected to a potential scam. We had spent close to 14 months dealing with our father's AT&T account, and several of those months were spent dealing with the account after it had closed. The girlfriend also had a connection with a dance instructor in Oklahoma City. The girlfriend was a former "professional" dancer and during COVID she had asked her dance instructor friend to work with our father. According to our father he was paying this "instructor" for weekly dance lessons during COVID. Our father has never enjoyed doing anything like that which had us concerned. During COVID the dance instructor would go to our father's house often and would sometimes load a car/truck with items from our dad's house. Neighbors had made the observation on numerous occasions and shared this information with our Aunt and Uncle. The instructor was also asked to do "odd jobs" around the house and asked to take care of a landscaping project in the back yard. While we were in Oklahoma he had called our father to discuss picking up a check from him for some of the work he was doing. When he arrived our father handed the dance instructor a check for $500 and while they were talking the instructor proceeded to make a mobile deposit off of his phone in front of me and my dad. I found it unprofessional and suspicious. After further research we had discovered our dad had paid this person in checks alone $5900. Our dad was surprised and confused, and told us that he couldn't believe that amount of money over the course of one year. Plus, he had paid him in cash as well, and realized the amount was much higher. Three months after our dad was living with us (October 2021) his girlfriend would call him and ask that he contact the dance instructor about a small yard statue of hers that he was going to fix. My father was confused, but offered to call the instructor. He would ask the instructor if he owed him any money to which the instructor replied, "Yes, you owe me $500". Even though he had not completed the landscaping project he was still asking our dad for money. Was the girlfriend trying to get our dad to give money to the dance instructor who would then give money to her? Was he her money mule? We also learned that a computer specialist and small business owner was tasked to setup and connect our dad's computer to WIFI and a personal printer. Our father had trusted him since he was referred by a friend. We later discovered that our dad gave this person a bag of watches, some of them valuable family heirlooms, to get fixed. Evidently the computer specialist also specialized in watch repair? Both my dad and I had tried to contact the individual with no success. I eventually received a phone call response from his assistant to which she responded, "call back in two weeks. He is out of the office." I called back two weeks later to inquire about the watches only to get this response, "He does have the watches, but your dad still owes him a lot of money." I asked how much money since I saw a zero balance on their online invoice. She did not have a response for me, and said she would call back or I can call back in the next week. I called back and they never returned my phonecalls. I sent messages via LinkedIn and Facebook messenger to ask about the watches. No response. I contacted the police department, but since we did not photos or documentation of the watches we could not file a report. I later discovered that our dad was making monthly payments to this person and made approximately $1300 in payments to him for computer setup. While looking through our dad's financial statements we noticed some suspicious banking activity in May of 2021. During that time his girlfriend was traveling a lot, and I was often told she was visiting family. We noticed a mobile deposit was made to our dad's from a check made out to him by his girlfriend (note-this was his own personal account). The girlfriend wrote in the memo section, "Loan". There were two signatures on the back of the check on each end of the check. This was all very suspicious because our dad does not know how to do a mobile deposit and always goes directly to the bank to make an in-person deposit. The signatures appear to be forged, his girlfriend had been traveling during that time, and wrote the check to him, and the deposit was made exactly four minutes after a message from a different bank was sent stating they suspected fraud from this specific person due to a request to make a "bill pay" to her. The deposit went through and the bill pay was made 24/48 hours later for $1038.75 which was the exact amount of money in our dad's account at the time the bill pay check was requested. Just to recap that check incident; A "loan" was mobile deposit for $996 (written as a "Loan") was made to a bank in Oklahoma 5 minutes after a bank in Ohio suspected fraud by that same person. Approximately one/two days later a payment was made in the amount $1038.75 to that same person they suspected fraudulent activity from. This left our dad with a zero balance in his account in Ohio. We believe the girlfriend was out of state, possibly in Colorado, at the time all of these transactions took place. Phone records show that she was calling both banks during that time frame. On July 5th, more than one year later we learned that she had made her phone number the main source of contact for his bank in Ohio. We had been in contact with them on numerous occasions but never saw any documentation of her contact information on file or in his online portal. When we learned of it the bank immediately filed a police report for fraud. We had the police at our house the very next day along with APS. They suggested we file a restraining order on her. The family justice center turned down our request since our father continued to text her on a regular basis and the court would not take the request as serious enough.

Share all of it! The fraud, the abuse, the isolation and manipulation. Share everything I have stated in the first question. Also, share that we filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. She continued to contact him via text/phone calls. Our dad sent her text messages all the time that were brief and vague about how he was doing and what was new with him. The truth was that he couldn't remember and did not have the cognitive ability to recall his day/week. She would send him photos of her with other male friends and share about how much they helped her with a move or took care of her. In May of 2022 she had sent a text to our father from Las Vegas. She had recently moved there and stated she was caring for a woman with Alzheimer's and how difficult it was to care for her. I was very worried for that person and contacted the police in Las Vegas to report my concerns, but they didn't want to hear about it unless I had the name of the potential victim. I then called Adult Protective Services and they had the same response. Two weeks later she sent our dad a text at around 2:30am stating that she had to move because her roommate learned she was allergic to her cats. She had lived in Las Vegas for about two months and very quickly left to temporarily live with her son and his family in S. Padre Islands, Texas. I was very worried about the safety and well-being of the person she said she was caring for. She seemed settled in Vegas one minute and then abruptly moved away the next minute. She continued to talk with my dad which made it difficult for him to move forward and to understand what she had done to him. He couldn't remember from day to day what she had done and would reach out to her like a drug addict seeking their next fix. We contacted Adult Protective Services immediately. We called the police department to report the real estate listing on Zillow along with the unusual bank activity and credit card usage. We had filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. The police did in fact get proof of fraud on Zillow and presented it to the DA's office. The District Attorney chose not to take the case because no money was exchanged. We were even given a contact person at the FBI, but after talking with them they were not interested and never returned our phone calls after that. Our father was able to sell his house and is now able to have that money to live off of. He lives with me and my family and has his own bedroom/bathroom and an office where he can display his photos and memorabilia. Every single agency, doctors, bankers, APS, law enforcement, and the FBI have all agreed unanimously that our father was being abused and financially exploited. Unfortunately, there have been no consequences for the behavior of his girlfriend other than the fact that she can no longer abuse our father. We believe she is still doing the same scam/con with other elderly men, and will continue to do so. We have read about a recent case of elder abuse that is very similar to our story, but they are now facing actual criminal charges because they took a lot of money. It fear that the type of abuse our dad's girlfriend committed is all too common and overlooked if there isn't an excessive amount of money involved. We are grateful for our Aunt and Uncle and all of the friends and neighbors who stepped in to help our father. Had they not, I truly believe he would not be here with us today. Thankfully, we have finally been successful in removing her from any communication with our father. Unfortunately, much of that is because our father's memory has declined and he cannot remember her phone number anymore.

If you suspect anything is off or wrong trust your instincts. Call Adult Protective Services immediately. It can be overwhelming and scary. Find friends and support groups to connect with. You are not alone! Be persistent. Also, make sure to get the proper medical care and evaluations for your loved one. Our father was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's and also has other physical ailments that need medical care and treatment. Make sure to rule out any type of dementia/alzheimer's. Get as many resources as possible in your local area including the neighborhood Senior center. It's important to have a support system for your loved one and yourself. Document everything about the fraud, and share your story like I am here. The more we get the information out there the more knowledge people will have. We believe this was similar to a Romance Scam. Our dad's girlfriend was introduced to him by a mutual friend. Our dad originally met the mutual friend through an online dating site/chat room. That mutual friend is connected to the dance instructor, the computer person and the girlfriend. APS believes it is some type of ring of people collectively helping one another with their own personal scams. As I get older I see the importance of having documents such as a living trust and power of attorney all in place before I have any type of cognitive decline.

I hope the laws start to actually protect all of our elderly. What good is the law if there are no consequences for criminal actions. I am dismayed, disappointed and saddened that we spent a better part of 1.5 years talking with the very institutions designed to protect people like our father only to discover they don't want to get involved. Can we hold people accountable for their actions? It seems the victim is often left dealing with the behavior of the abuser. I am hoping someday there will be stronger protections under the law for these types of crimes.

I have purposely not added names to my information to protect my father and my family. I do not trust this person, or her family.

Please see my newly published book.
Shattered Dreams: A Three-Pronged Injustice. By Pam Trainor

I was merely assisting a former high school teacher of mine, when a half sister and adopted nephew falsely accused my of elder abuse.

It is a true story of fraudulent guardianship. I am exposing
law enforcement, lawyers, prosecutors, perjury , hospitals and emergency medical evaluations, assisted living facilities, and actual family members who have done this to their own elder, out of greed.

I was an auxiliary police officer, a volunteer firefighter, and a fire safety inspector for daycare homes and centers, with a long history of helping friends, neighbors, and family. All the false accusations could have been and should have been investigated and validated as false, within 24hr.. but they werent.

What happened to me and my former teacher...could happen to anyone... this is absolutely FRIGHTENING.

I had the resources to fight it, but it took 3 years, and the police and prosecutors maliciously prosecuted me with absolutely no evidence. They actually charged me with Extortion to arrest me, and then changed it to Elder Financial Abuse, when bank statements proved that false, they changed it to "Intent" to steal.
The felony charges terminated my job and I was unable to get any employment for 3 years.

I hope my requests (to the FBI and DOJ in 4 states) for investigation and prosecution and immediate removal as a guardianof the eldee, and of those involved, who lied and who failed to protect the senior even knowing that there was a hearing for a protective order in place, are held accountable and given serious consequences for their abuse. And that what I have exposed in great detain and supported with solid documentation, helps to change policy, procedure and training of law enforcement, prosecutors, hospitals, doctors, lawyers, and the courts. Civil liberty violations against seniors is running rampant in the US. It has to stop. Everything I write in the book is fully documented. Nothing has been embellished. Reviews have been, "it's gut wrenching" and "it brought us to tears"

I have contacted (and sent a book to) local tv (wbal, wmar, wbff, wjz, Fox Nation Nancy Grace, Ben Crumb, Wect news in Wilmington NC, the Brunswick Beacon in Sunset Beach NC, the FBI, and the DOJ In MD, NC, FL, PA and TX as well as President Biden and former President Trump.

My book is avail on Amazon in ebook and paperback. I will send you a copy if you send me your physical address. The book sells for just $10, as I wanted it to be affordable for all.

My story is grand theft, financial abuse from a 52 year old man who was 46 when he tricked me. The full story is at Q2, it's also at Gofundme titled "Scammed Elderly" as I'm trying to raise funds to hire lawyers to take him to court and achieve justice and/or he pays what he owes which is $105,000.

Hi, I'm Myrna Sumiran Lavoie of Pittsburg, California, I'm 82 years old. A very warm and heartfelt greetings to all. I'm asking for help because I was scammed badly by a 52 year old man named Kulwinder Shergill Singh (or KSS).

I wrote my Congressman John Garamendi & Josh Harder of Stockton in February 2023, also wrote CA Senator Alex Padilla and Governor Gavin Newsome's office. Their reps said it's out of their jurisdiction. I wrote pres. Biden and VP Harris, White House staff wrote back, stated my case has been forwarded to the proper Fed agency but I haven't received any call or email up to now. I wrote to all news outlet, only one replied on Feb. 2023 yet never contacted me again.

I filed an FTC complaint in April, also wrote CA. Attorney General Rob Bonta but they all can't help me. I called the FBI, they recommended CA. state bar association. I called them, the rep said it will cost over $75,000, same with other lawyers. I called the Elderly Fraud Hotline, they can't help, suggested the Department Of Justice. I filed a fraud/grand theft report to the DOJ on Apr. 29, 2023 and a 3949-A form (tax violation) with the IRS in mid May, no reply up to now. I hope someone can help me make KSS face justice, there's no other entities I can turn to.

Below is the story.

Back in June 2017, while my car was being serviced at KSS car shop in Stockton (he was 46 then), I mentioned to him my plan to sell my house in Stockton for $140,000. I had a breast cancer in late 2016, underwent double mastectomy and radiation therapy. Was finally in remission by June 2017, needed to sell the house which my youngest son bought in 2012 per my request to keep me active. But I can no longer maintain it due to poor health.

I took my old car to KSS's shop whenever it needed oil change and inflating tires, he and his fiance were nice & friendly. He always brought me cold water to drink, spent time to talk which I rarely get from my two sons who are always busy at work.

He inspected my property in July 2017 and offered $125,000 which I accepted. I agreed to his request not to hire a realty agent and title company, it saves 6% commission charge by the 2 party's realty brokers plus the title company's fees. This equates to around $15,000 which allowed the house to be lowered from $140,00 to $125,000. I agreed to his request as he's really kind & nice. He promised to pay with a Bank Of America cashier's check from a joint account of him and his mom on or before Aug. 2017. He told me they have over $100,000 which came from sold properties in India.

However, before KSS scheduled date to pay his initial downpayment, he gave me a Purchase Agreement which he asked me to have my son sign being the owner of the property. This Purchase Agreement states that my son is selling his house to KSS for $50,000 only. The document was prepared by KSS's Notary whom he borrowed $20,000 from for the downpayment. He said he needs a $50,000 Purchase Agreement so he can borrow $50,000 from an Indian friend who has a Financial Service Co. that also lends money. He told me he needs this extra cash as the joint bank account between him and his mom containing +$100,000 will be depleted in fully paying me. He said he shouldn't be low in cash being a car shop owner, always needing back up money for his business. I agreed to this Purchase Agreement to help him, also to get the transaction going. Thus, I coaxed my son to sign the Grant Deed and be notarized under KSS name as well as to sign the Purchase Agreement.

When KSS and I went to Bank of America in August 2017 using my car, he didn't let me go with him to the cashier's window, had me wait at the bank's lounge chair. When he returned, he said his mother withdrew $100,000 from their joint account. We then went to his car shop where I had to use the bathroom as there's none in the bank, Ieaving my papers in my big brown envelope inside my car. I couldn't find the Grant Deed in my brown envelope 2-3 days later. I think he took it while I was in the bathroom. When I went to the County Recorder's office, I was told my house was already recorded in his name.

When I went to him to ask about this transfer, he had a sudden change of personality. He was no longer nice, demanded I leave and never see him again. But I went again to his shop a few days later, he was so loud and nasty. He threatened something real bad will happen to me or any of my offsprings if I don't stop going to his shop, pursuing this matter. He sold my house a year later (August 2018) for $140,000 after renting it out for 1 year. My biggest mistake was coaxing my son to sign the Grant Deed and $50,000 Purchase Agreement that KSS made thru his Notary, telling my son that KSS is a trustworthy, kind, nice man. He promised to pay the $125,000 that we both agreed to, there's no way my son and I will sell the house for only $50,000 since my son spent over $60,000 in buying and fixing that house in 2012. Also, houses of that size in Stockton were selling over $140,000 in 2017.

Yet in spite of the $50,000 Purchase Agreement, KSS only paid $20,000 that was borrowed from his Notary. Hence, everything he told me was a lie, to convince me to sell the house to him. KSS methodically tricked me step by step by offering things that seemed advantageous to us both when it only benefitted him. He kept giving proposals which I agreed to being so trustful of him, not realizing he's already defrauding me. First, by offering to buy the house for $125,000 which was ok, having proposed a way to save $15,000 via not using a realtor and title company. Then he said he and his mother has a joint bank account containing over $100,000 from sold properties in India which I believed due to him having a car shop.

Then he convinced me to a $50,000 Purchase Agreement so that he won't be short of money for his shop. I was concerned of his business and thus, agreed to his requests. It's only later on that I realized he will have a legal document to show ($50,000 Purchase Agreement) in case he reneges on our $125,000 agreement. My biggest mistake was being so trusting & naive. But that's how we elderlies are as seen by our numerous scam stories not only here at Go Fund Me but anywhere in USA.

Overall, his promise to pay the remaining balance ($105,000) was a big lie just like the many other things he said. He methodically set me up badly step by step even if he knew I recently had breast cancer. He profited huge by selling my house in August 2018 for $140,000, also rented it out for 1 year before selling it.

He caused me severe emotional stress since mid 2017 after recovering from breast cancer, I wasted the last 5 years doing attorney-like, legal papers so as to take him to court. I don't have $75,000 for attorney fees and thus, I had to do the papers myself when I'm not even a lawyer. I have 3 big boxes of all these papers as seen at my photo. I've been to the doctor many times starting mid 2017 due to high BP, high blood sugar, lack of sleep/rest, frequent nausea, vomiting, dizziness, light headedness, etc. All due to the stress KSS caused me, was even hospitalized. I have records of all visits to the MD and hospital since mid 2017.

I also feared for my life and my sons if I visit KSS again. But a 76 year old lady friend encouraged me to pursue justice. Hence, we went to his abode in 2021. He got mad at me for still pursuing him; told us he no longer has the money ($140,000), used them to pay his debts to people he defrauded before me. Even the previous D.A. was after him, he told me in front of my 76 year old friend to stop the D.A. from harassing him. I reported him to Stockton police in 2017 who turned it to the D.A.

When I went to his shop in early 2021, it was already closed. I stopped pursuing him in 2018 after his threats, it's only now that I have the courage to pursue again. I told this to his 17 year old son Lakhbir Shergill (nicknamed Bir, he's 23 now) in 2017, asked him to help me. He said he can't interfere with his dad's affairs. I went to KSS brother's shop called Gill's Tires & Auto Repair also in Stockton, he also said he can't interfere with KSS affair.

I contacted several news outlets hoping some or one features this story so that it doesn't happen to others especially elderlies. I also wrote Bay Area representatives hoping someone takes interest and author a bill requiring County recorder employees to contact the previous owner or family members first to verify the transfer of a property before recording it under the new owner (i.e. the grant deed named to) so as to prevent fraud, theft.

Any help, no matter how small, is greatly appreciated. The money will be used to hire lawyers to finally bring KSS to justice as the statute of limitation for elder scam or abuse is 10 years plus any other charges the attorneys can come up with. Will be great to hire high profile lawyers like Gloria Allred, et al who fights scam-abuse on women. I will return all the money donated or donate them to all the other scammed elderlies at Gofundme once KSS finally pays the $105K he owes or the law trace where he wired the money (e.g. an associate) from selling my house.

If Bir happens to read this, I hope he's a good adult now and do the right thing via paying what his dad owe. KSS always said in 2016-17 he pays for Lakbir's upbringing and eventual college attendance. Bir also told me this on why he can't interfere with his dad's affairs being dependent on him.

KSS needs to be brought to justice or put in jail (it's 4-5 years for financial elder abuse), he's getting brazen, his crimes are increasing. I googled him, he has many, was even booked this Sept. for assault with a deadly weapon. I failed to google him in 2017, some or many of us elderlies are tech unsavvy but I'm trying to improve. It won't be long when KSS scams and/or physically hurt another person, he needs to spend time in prison to make him change.

Misdemeanors are only given 6 months max, or he simply may have been booked and spend a few days in jail, won't change him. If I take him to court with your help, he will be compelled to pay what he owes or be jailed 4-5 years. Bir, his brother who's also a car shop owner, and others can help him, lend him money then he pays them later being his family.

Please help me bring KSS to justice, it will also be victory for folks he victimized before & after me. We immigrants vowed not to do harm upon migration here in USA, be an asset or contribute to it, not victimizing others. Yet he keeps getting away with his rotten, evil deeds. Won't be long when KSS has a new heinous case online, he needs to be stopped instead of always thinking he's untouchable, can beat/escape the law or the law doesn't apply to him or the law will never catch up to him, knowing how to evade it.

He's also known as Lucky (his nickname) to his family and community. His old shop in Stockton was called Lucky's Tireshop & Auto Repair. His luck of always successfully victimizing others, evading justice, knowing his way around US laws, making a mockery of them or getting away with his foul deeds need to end. Thanks and God bless you all.

Be very careful of person(s) who are so nice to you when it comes to properties and/or money matters. Chances are, they're after what you have. Don't easily trust anyone, always use a lawyer or a 3rd party who handles financial matters so that you won't get tricked, scammed, deceived like me.

Kulwinder face justice and/or he pays the $105,000 he owes. I need media exposure for it to happen.

Please help me, I need media exposure to finally achieve justice. I'm still within 10 years statute for elder abuse. Thanks & Happy Holidays.

My name is Melissa and my mother has been in Assisted living facilities in Colorado for the past 15 years. She is going to be 90 years old in May 2024,and my story is a travesty and perfect example of why reform is desperately needed. I am 57-years old and because of our experience in the past 3.5 years I have made the decision to go to law school and specialize in Elder Law. I am so disappointed in the way our elderly are treated. And I’m going to be in her position sooner rather than later so I’m determined to help bring about some much needed change in the way we care for our elders and what facilities are not allowed to do. So here’s some highlights of what my story includes. If you want my full story please let me know. It’s worth the read.

My story about my journey with my mother starts in Colorado approx 3.5 years ago. I stated earlier she has been assisted living for 25/years after being run over by a van in a parking lot on her way to an AA meeting. She was working out 3x a week, roller blading and once the accident happened, breaking her hip and the drs fracturing her femur hammering in too large of a rod and not realizing it until I ordered an xray on Christmas Eve after fighting with the facility to get one performed and demanding the resident Dr., be on site by the time I arrived from Lakewood with them to get her to the hospital instead of bedrest until after Christmas and just Ambo cab it to her doctors office I mean it was ridiculous, but then she fell out of her shoes, turning her blinds at her house, and that’s when my brother and I had put up her house up for sale and put her in assisted-living so she could be monitored and then in the assisted-living facility they didn’t keep an eye on her and she got impacted a couple months after being there and so they sent her to the hospital to the emergency room and when I went saw her there, they released her and the facility wouldn’t come pick us up when come pick her up they said that they didn’t have any type of protocol and place to get the residence home after 6 o’clock if they’re at the hospital and I said you’re telling me that I pay $8000 a month and you can’t even get my mother home from the hospital which is right across the highway and they said yup and I was fit to be tied and I said OK I’m gonna bring her in my car and she’s going to the bathroom in my car so you better have a wheelchair ready and somebody to help me bathe her because I can’t do it. I’m just not that kind of a person so they better be waiting for me when I got when I get there and like I said, it was just cross the highway. I rolled up and nobody was there. They were all of the caregivers were sitting around talking to each other, and it was a glass door, and it was locked I was so mad and so they saw me and they sign. Oh yeah, I forgot and they got on the radio to get me a wheelchair and come unlock the door and that was a nightmare because if I could do that I would be caregiver, but I can’t do that kind of stuff. I’m not that kind of person
That’s why it was being $8000 a month. I noticed that her medication’s were not right and they were running meds out to people in the parking lot. They would come and pick her up and not even asking who they were and they were running narcotics out there so I brought this to the attention of the corporate office and they paid me $10,000 to go away and I accepted it and I regretted every day since and this was 15 years ago because all I could think about was all the people I was leaving behind, we don’t have advocates And that started our journey the next place we took her to. She was up for 10 years seven years and I became more involved in her care than I had been and my brother had been doing it and again I started noticing these medication issues, so I started collecting Namar and narcotic count sheets because of my experience at the other place my brother just wasn’t paying attention because it’s inconvenient and so sure enough I could I created a spreadsheet and I could see when her medication‘s were going missing and who was taking them by drawing correlations from my spreadsheet and I told my brother I said that’s it. We’re moving her and I contacted the district attorney and then we had instead of going into this detail I’ll just tell you 120 of her OxyContin went missing they were stolen the executive Director told us and I said well I called the pharmacy and I can tell you who signed for the medication and I can tell you exactly who took it. Here’s my spreadsheet I’ve been working on and she said oh it looks like you put a lot of working into it but yeah, no I don’t need to see that And so the district attorney looked up and said no there was no police report filed. She said that there was he said no she didn’t file one he said, but there is one in here for elder abuse and I was like oh my God and so I asked the executive director for copy she said no I couldn’t have one because other families are named in the Report and HIPAA I received internal emails from staff saying take this to a higher level, because for the residents had their narcotics, go missing as well. I went to Denver police and I obtained a copy of the police report and it was a completely false police report because nobody ever talked to us. There was nobody named in the police report. The facility was the victim and she put on there. The executive Director put that she caught in caregiver changing the labels from Aspirin to oxy and so she fired her which was not what happened at all and so then my mother started. I’m sleeping really late into the afternoon and my the facility started having meetings with my brother and I saying that it’s probably time for hospice and I just about fell out of my chair said no she’s not hospice material. I told my brother were moving her the DA told me get her out of there and then will start. You know working on a case and I said great so I found another place for her. All my brother tried to get me removed as the attorney in fact because he didn’t want to move her because it was too much trouble. I was assuming at the time and I told him he brought the executive Director in on it too, because she wouldn’t be at office POA as well because she knows that I know she follow false police report Anyway they couldn’t do it and I said no we’re not moving her into hospice so we moved her to a new place a really nice place. I’m on a golf course and we moved her in and for five days nobody even came and checked on her nobody came and gave her a shower nothing and she can hardly walk. She has a walker and they put her on the third floor About a mile away from the dining room anyway I had called and left the executive Director numerous messages. We were finally supposed to meet because I wouldn’t sign the arbitration agreement and so I had to meet with the executive director but she was a no call no show and three days after that she was leaving the property and somebody said her name and that’s how I knew who she was and I was like hi remember me I we were supposed to meet and you didn’t show up and she said yeah and I mean she just did not care and she was on her way out so she was mad that I had grabbed her on her way out so we went back into her office and I had scratch out a bunch of stuff throughout the whole contract and she said you have to sign all these you know I can’t change these and I said well I’m not signing the arbitration agreement and she goes. Yeah you need to sign that I said, in the state of Colorado, I don’t have to and I said, and I’m not signing away my mothers rights, and so she slid up next to me And she talked real low and she said let me put it to you this way if you don’t sign, you could have a very unhealthy relationship here I could not believe it. I was being threatened by the executive Director lol I felt like she was a Guido or something so then she proceeded to show me a flip around her laptop and show me this thing on arbitration agreements, but it was geared towards the facility not for the consumer and it was talking about how our but she goes. You know just sign it and then all it says is that we’re going to mediate I mean, don’t you trust us and I said well, that’s not That’s not what’s the problem here it’s the principal and I said yeah I trust you but you know I never know what’s gonna happen and she goes well if you don’t like with the mediator, if you don’t like the decision, they make you can always just take it to court, but I was reading on the website right there that it said the decision is final and you cannot take it to court and I said that to her and she goes yes so she was speaking and then it said the reason why they have the arbitration agreement is to cut down on the press it’s quicker so there’s not a lot of time for the press to get their stories together and it’s just better for the facility so I also saw that I had 90 days to resend it so I went ahead and signed it because my mother needed the whole reason why nobody had checked on her as they hadn’t checked her in because there was no contract so Then I started keeping an eye on her meds, and at the other facility I had run everybody’s names that were on these Yueting medication’s through the Colorado health departments website to make sure that they were all certified as QA and only two out of 10 of them were certified so I started doing that at this place too because they kept bringing in temporary help because they didn’t have enough staff and so this executive Director did not like that 2 1/2 weeks in she called a special meeting and they flew in the head of nursing from Utah And I had the head of nursing the executive Director and for staff people and me and they had a big cardboard box and the executive director looked at me and said I don’t think we’re gonna be able to meet your expectations here but I can arrange for a tour for you at a facility that’s right up the street she was I know it’s the same company as the place that you just left but I’m sure they don’t talk to each other And I was stunned and I said are you kicking us out and she goes no we’re not going we don’t we’re not turfing you I just don’t think that your mom’s gonna be happy here and I said I think you’re wrong I said you know I’m she goes. I heard that you ran everybody’s name Ran his background at the last place and didn’t run anybody background around their names through the Colorado and then she finished my sentence for me and she goes yeah and I go it’s public knowledge and she goes. Yes you’re right, but yeah we stopped taking care of your mom today at 2:00 PM and it was 2:30 PM and she pushed this cardboard box across the table to me and it was Full of my mom‘s medication‘s and she goes. I have another meeting to get to and I’m gonna need everybody with me so we have to go and I wait a second how do I even order her meds and she goes we can call the pharmacy they’ll tell you what to do and that was it so I had to come home and make little packets out of wrapping paper And go through all of my mom‘s meds and create dosage, dosing packets, and for different times of the day and then my brother and I had to go and drive to the facility five times a day to dose my mother so we were paying 11,000 I think $9500 a month to do And so my mom couldn’t participate in anything there was nobody doing anything for her so then I started looking for another place and I found a place over this place was on Quincy in the new place that I had found the next new place was on Alameda so the new place that I found referred a moving company for us and I told the Moving I could talk to the moving company I said we’re gonna need help packing because it was a two bedroom apartment and the guy says OK so the day we’re moving out I wrote a scathing letter to The executive Director and everybody I CCed everybody in Utah in Denver. Oh my gosh and the mover comes in and he looks around and he’s like OK and I took him down to the loading dock and I said just bring your truck up to the loading dock, and then we can just take everything down this way And I’m standing there waiting for them and I see the truck driving down Quincy and I called them and I go. Did you just leave and he goes? Yeah that’s way too much work. I had to send two guys to another job this morning and there’s no way I can do it all and I said well that’s not my fault I told you and he goes. Yeah I’m not gonna be coming. Sorry about that and hung up on me and I’m like oh my God you don’t understand we have to get out today and so my brother found All my sons Moving that brought five people over with them to move us and they charged us $4500 to move my mother from Quincy to Alameda and they didn’t even finish and they broke the elevators and I was stuck in memory care with furniture and having to carry furniture over the peoples heads that were eating and having people walk up to me and asked me if I can put their dishes away it was absolutely terrible and nobody could get back up to their rooms on the upper floors after dinner and so they were really mad at me on top of the letter that I had wrote so I had to go back there by myself and move her the rest of her stuff because my brother is on oxygen, so he never helped and he was mad that I was moving her again and so he just sat and watched looked out the window while the movers were there, not even keeping an eye on them, and my mother wasn’t feeling well so we moved her into this new place and we had met with the nurse and I told her the issues that we were having so my mother got sick the first day we got there and announced to us the nurse had resigned the day that we moved in so another day goes by and I ask one of the caregivers if they could please take her temperature and they said no, we can’t do that we don’t have a thermometer on the property somebody stole ours and I’m like oh my God you only have one. Oh Jesus so the next day I’m at home and I called dispatch health to see if they’ll go check on her and they said let’s give her a call so we called her and we could barely hear her and the lady from the dispatch house said you need to call an ambulance right away and get her into the hospital so I did they went picked her up and by the time I got to the hospital one of the nurses was sobbing and I’m like what what’s going on and she’s like your mother she’s an angel and I go. Yeah I know what’s wrong And she goes I don’t know if she’s gonna make it. She had pneumonia and it was so bad that she went septic and they didn’t think she was gonna make it through the night but she did and she was in the hospital for two weeks and then she had to go on IV antibiotics for seven weeks and the place she was only up for two days doesn’t do IVs, so they discharged her from the hospital to Rehab facility out on Monaco and we were in Lakewood so she goes out to that place. I asked my brother to please get all of her meds and check them in at the new place while he didn’t do that so I get over there and there’s there’s people wandering around in the lobby screaming and rocking back-and-forth and and there’s no when you call for one of the caregivers there’s no sound so they look up on the wall like a waitress would for her number when her order is ready They have to look up and see if any of the lights are on on any of the rooms and whatever room is lit up there they’re needing help but if they don’t look up, they have no idea and it’s way up at the top towards the ceiling and the back of a hallway. It’s so crazy so my mom is not is incontinent as well and nobody was coming to help her so I would have to go over there and change her and bathe her and change her sheets and one time I’m changing her sheets in the caregiver stood there, talking to me while I change the sheets lol telling me that she has no idea what she’s doing. she’s an accountant I’m like please don’t tell me that lol anyway, her meds went missing again and then that rehab facility discharged her three weeks early back to the place that she got sick at that doesn’t do IVs so they tried to show me how to do it and there was no IV pole so I had to hang her bag on a hanger and hang it from her bed and I said I am so not comfortable with us. I mean people go to school a really long time to learn how to do this and I don’t want to do this and so I told my mom I loved her but I was gonna have to send her back to the hospital so she said that’s OK honey I understand so I send her back to the hospital she was in there for four more days and they discharged her back to the rehab facility that had just discharged her. It’s so crazy so anyway She finished her IV antibiotics and the facility that she was up for two days that they discharged her to and and didn’t do. IVs told me that they did not want her back because her level of care had increased too much and I said it was just IV antibiotic. She’s not on them now and they wouldn’t accept her back so before she discharged from that rehab facility we had to find another assisted living facility so we found a residential assisted living, which was new a new concept for us I had made my brother go out and look with toured every single assisted living in Denver and but he hasn’t. He was just leaving that up to me so I made him look at a couple, and he looked at some that had cement walls and ceilings, and one little closet and he was like oh my God no I got I know it’s you have to it’s not as easy finding a place as you think and we want to make sure that it’s appropriate so anyway we found this assisted-living residential place so my mother went from a two bedroom apartment to a bedroom And they charged us $12,600 a month for a bedroom and what she got served for dinner was baked beans and chicken nuggets or salad. The caregiver that worked during the day her and her husband lived in the basement the owners owned six of these houses here in Denver. There was nine people at this house, and it was a nice house, but what they would do is Wake my mom up and have her walk 1015 feet to a chair and put her in front of the TV all day long and that was it. They had an activities Director that I saw maybe four times and the first six months they lost three people three people died and so I texted the owner one night asking her what the heck was going on over there because we come from a place that has three or 400 people and in 10 years maybe lost four people my mom‘s been there for six months and there’s only nine of them and they lost three And she said to me in a text well I understand death is hard for a lot of people to accept but that’s what happens in hospice and I go hospice. Oh that’s another thing so when they wanted to put my mom in hospice back at the place downtown and I said no and moved her out. I looked back through and the narcotic count sheets for that period of time and they had stopped giving her her Ritalin. She’s on Ritalin. She takes Ritalin three times a day, and they had stopped giving it to her but yet they were filling out the narcotic count sheet as if they were giving it to her for three months And that’s why she was sleeping but they wanted to move her into hospice and I thought wow I wonder if they’re doing that to other people you know not giving them their meds and so their bodies start to shut down and so they recommend their own hospice or memory care, and that’s more money, and then they create a new revenue stream by renting out there Apartments again and I thought no that’s really reaching so at the place that we got kicked out of on the golf course. I became friends with the head of the dining room because she and I used to be flight attendants together for American 20 years ago and she told me one day she said melissa you wouldn’t believe the amount of people they’ve been moving into memory care and I go really she goes. Oh it’s so sad and I go. Oh my God that’s what they’re doing. I was thinking about the other place so anyway The owner of this place says that’s what happens in hospice and hospice. My mom is not in hospice I go your science is assisted-living your paperwork says assisted-living. We just had a care meeting and you never mentioned anything about hospice and none of our doctors are on a hospice regimen. She’s not in hospice and she goes well yes melissa that’s what we do. We specialize in end-of-life care And I was like oh my God so they’re not giving her meds and her body shutting down is that what’s happening so I started doing med counts and taking pictures and her pain doctor prescribes her oxy they gave her a urine and she ended up with a drug in her system. That’s not on her drug list that when combined with oxycodone is lethal, and so That can be explained then then one day I walked in and this is about a urine because she was there for year and a half and my mom and one other resident or ambulatory one of the residents that was not only ambulant ambulatory, but paralyzed from the neck down She had a black eye she had stitches above. Her eye in the whole side of her face was black and blue and I was like oh my God what happened to Victoria? They told me she fell out of bed that night. OK I turn around and the other another resident who is who walks around she’s got a black guy and I oh my God what happened to Dot and they said she fell out of bed and then I turn around in the third lady that’s in a wheelchair has a broken arm and I’m like oh my God what happened to Billy she fell out of bed three people at the same time fell out of bed so I was like oh my God two of those three people are not here anymore the time that my mother was there any year and a half they lost seven people seven and I started getting really nervous that my mom was going to be next and I got really sick over there over right before Christmas and I was complaining to the owner and all of a sudden they tell me that my mom has Covid and I said OK so what do you do for people with Covid well the nurse they have a nurse that comes and does rounds and they call her a doctor. There is no doctor on staff at this place Even ask them, so do you do what happens in a fire I mean do you do fire drills or oh yeah, we do them once a month we have to OK. I’ve never seen them do a fire drill. I never saw them give my mother any medication either and that’s what really started getting me concerned I saw the caregivers packing up their cars with people who passed away with their and the owner not professional take that with that the lady she drove around a brand new Corvette. The husband drove around the brand new huge truck, so she said the nurse put her on something some kind of Covid medicine medicine so the next day I asked if she got started on it and she said no we went ahead and gave everybody a Z-Pak and I go my mom sounds really congested and she needs to be seen immediately because she is predisposed for pneumonia, and the owner says no The nurse isn’t gonna be going out there because there’s an active Covid case and I got oh my God I go off I need to make sure she doesn’t get pneumonia and that I’ll check in on her for you the next day. I asked how my mom was doing and nothing I received no response. The next day was Christmas I said merry Christmas. Have you checked on my mom she responded with merry Christmas that was it so the next day I said that’s it. I’m calling an ambulance so I called an ambulance and They told me that they had just done a chest x-ray on her and I asked why nobody told me that, but I sent her to the hospital anyway and sure enough my mother had pneumonia. She was dehydrated and her kidney functions had gone through the roof because of her dehydration, I said that’s it she’s not going back my brother was beside himself. He said I’m not helping you at all I said that’s OK. I had to move my mother out of her second floor, two bedroom apartment at the place where she got pneumonia last time I’ll buy myself into a U-Haul. It took me two times when I went back to the facility on the golf course to finish moving out the rest of the stuff they hated me so much they locked up all the Bell carts so I had to string together, wheelchairs to move her stuff out and a trashcan on wheels. I used as well and then I couldn’t get my trunk closed one time so I had to go to lost and found and tie. It closed with a sweater I mean it’s just been a ridiculous journey anyway so this time my mom is in Highlands Ranch Hospital she’s there for a week and they discharge her to a rehab facility in Lafayette and I have made the decision to bring her home. I’ve just had it with these places and the only thing is if she couldn’t fit into the bathroom with her walker so I said that’s OK I’m gonna remodel the bathroom real quick. I’ll be done by Thanksgiving and she she’ll be home Well she still up in Lafayette today. Her insurance kicked her out of the rehab two days after she got there when she was supposed to be there for three weeks giving me three weeks to get the bathroom done yeah, no two days later so they were gracious enough to let her move into their assisted-living upstairs from their rehab. Well now I have structural I’m in a 1956 home And doing this bathroom I’m pretty far in but now I’ve created I’ve found all kinds of stuff wrong with this house, so I have a structural engineer coming out tomorrow to look at the foundation. Meanwhile, my mother also has dementia and all of this moving is not been good and I understand that, but I’m just trying to get her the best care possible and I have an in-home care agency lined up to help me when I bring her home but I don’t know how I’m gonna get her home and that’s my story so far so I am so frustrated with everything that I have enrolled in a prep course for the LSAT I’ve been talking with DU law and I plan on Starting my schooling for my JD degree in the fall of 2025 and like I said I will be specializing in elder care because for one I’m gonna be very relatable by the time I graduate I will be 61 years old when I graduate but wanna make sure that I’m not gonna get treated like this and We’re gonna need me. I’m gonna make sure that some changes happen I talk to a lawyer about all of this. Oh the DA dropped me just like a hot potato never returned any of my calls. Once I moved my mom I couldn’t believe it so yeah we definitely need to change and people should not be able to get away with anything close to what we’ve been through And there’s even more issues at the place that she’s at now I mean somethings gotta change and that’s my story pretty much the whole thing I left some stuff out it was like a domino affect and she just never was able to get back to normal. We tried to keep her at home ySo after being at one facility for 7/years, I became more involved with her care due to my personal life changing and that’s when I started noticing discrepancies in her medications. She is prescribed roughly 35 different medications and is dosed 5x a day. Yes it’s a lot.,she suffers from a multitude of issues from mental health to physical.

Elder abuse is rampant and it’s not just in facilities it’s even at home kids taking advantage of their elderly parents or you know neglecting them and spending their money. I was driving around one of my father‘s friends who is 98 years old and he’s getting ready to drill an oil well lol and he’s jumping in and out of my car on the way to Nebraska at these farms looking at drilling equipment Because he’s very thrifty so he’s buying used equipment. He’s so funny but he was living by himself and his son lives in Washington and they just found him wandering on Valentine’s Day. I just found that out today and so the sun came out and packed them up and moved them out to Washington in the last three days And I was heartbroken and her son, his son hired some neighbor to go through all of the house and get rid of everything and I don’t even know if the guy remembers what was in his house he didn’t he but he told me today on the phone that he’s coming back to run the Boulder Boulder lol so More power to him but it’s everywhere and people turn a blind eye to it because they’re not there they’re not at that stage in their life and they’re gonna be, and they better start paying attention because it’s terrible right now, and if you don’t have an advocate, you’re at the mercy of these corporations and of these people that are in the wrong positions as far as career goes a lot of them. Are there some good ones but the good ones are overworked and taken advantage of and they end up quitting

My hope for the future is to create communities of support and giving advocates or families more rights to hold these places accountable, and to keep them from taking advantage or neglecting or doing anything that is inappropriate or you wouldn’t do to anyone I mean the stuff that I have seen you wouldn’t do to an enemy much less you’re an elderly person People can add so much to offer and everything that they’ve seen all the changes that they’ve experienced over their lifetime can add so much value to our society or community or nation or world and I would like to see programs implemented where they are a part of what’s going on people act like they’re already dead and they’re not they’re many are lucid even the ones that aren’t lucid still have something to offer we can’t just throw them away when they reach you know 70 years old my God that only gives me a few years left lol but we can harness some really good power. We can harness some great ideas we can harness some lessons we can harness some thinking out of the box or going back to basics type styles of approaching our problems are our community problems or who knows they’re so many there’s so much potential that , our elderly can do for our communities that were not paying attention to and we’re not taking advantage of and and I hope to be a huge piece of change for all of this for all of us and I hope my story makes some people pay pay attention to what’s happening and want to want to see this change and there’s plenty of revenue streams. You don’t have to make revenue streams out of peoples death or such extremes. There’s plenty of revenue streams to support a community. I’m even thinking about turning my house into a residential assisted living for me and my friends so I know where I’m gonna be going, and I know it’s going to be good care because I’ll hire everybody you know I even know if people that are buying land and creating communities for all their friends for when they get older some ladies out in Oklahoma. I mean that’s a great idea to get it all set up now you know make some gardens and have it self sustaining and my son tells me all the time I can I can build a granny pad out here you and grandma can come stay at my place where he lives, and I just think that’s so sweet .

I also took care of my father before he passed away eight years ago by myself and I work I had to stay home and I didn’t realize hospice only came an hour a day, and when I researched in-home care agencies, it was gonna cost us $1 million a year and I was like it’s OK. Dad don’t worry about it all. I’ll stay here and it was, an amazing time because it gave me time to make amends and it gave me time to talk with him and tell him how much I was going to miss him and I really had no idea how much I was gonna miss him. I miss him every single day, but You know there’s gotta be some thing that we can design. They can keep people at home but not put such a strain on the family or I don’t know I just know that there’s so much potential and it right now it’s archaic. It’s like an orphanage where these people are and nobody , the staff and most of the staff is not there because of the job they’re there because of the paycheck and when you’re working with people that’s not that’s not how it should be can’t just fill positions to be filled so you can get your tax credits or whatever that should be illegal or enforced something that residential assisted living to she was certify her own caregivers as QMAP. I watched her son one time the lady that was paralyzed pick her up. She was slumped over in her wheelchair at the dinner table. I saw him pick her up by her head I mean , it’s just ridiculous. What happens in these places and I’m not really sure how much I can share. I probably should’ve shared all that but people need to know because I was gonna report them. I haven’t reported them yet because I literally just moved my mother out of that place again by myself with a U-Haul at midnight , not even a week ago so I just haven’t had time. I have a lot of other issues going on in my life but I’m bringing my mom home. Yes use me all you want because like I said, I’m determined to make a change in all of this, but I’m not gonna graduate until 2028 lol and if I can be a catalyst for change now, I’m in! I also saved every single text from the owner of the last facility so you can how self-absorbed and felt like she was un-touchable. Really, that’s how many of them acted, like they were untouchable. And little did I know they currently are. I was also wondering if the Governor was involved somehow in the desires of the communities to keep families from their loved ones and from monitoring their health and medication management on purpose because if some of the mandates he was enacting at the time which didn’t fit the environment. And please remind me to tell you what happened during Covid when the facility left the front door unlocked, when my mother would get her oxygen delivered by a man who would not be escorted into her room while she was sleeping numerous times, how my mom watched a caregiver stealing her silverware and wanting a nanny cam and my brother and I blowing it off thibkjbig she was going crazy! Hurts my heart I did that. If their store stories sound off the wall, they’re probably true and we believe the children we need to believe our elderly too. Thank you for wanting to hear my story.

My father is 87 years he lives in contra costa county he worked hard his entire life set up his retirement and believed he would be able to spend the rest of his life enjoying it. But that did not happen, my father was almost killed by a women who over dosed him with pills in the attempt to try and kill him as he was worth alot to her dead she had changed his trust documents with her attorney she took many life insurance policies out on him. I was contacted by a family friend who witnessed all this he got concerned about his safety and called me, my father ws not in good shape he was taken to walnut creek kaiser as he was so drugged up that he could not even walk we have reports from kaiser stating unknown pills where in his system. this women jill moses got scared and thought she was going to jail so she went and got a attorney and with out no notice to my father and family he was placed under a conservertership our contra costa county superior court is the most corrupt department Judge Virgina George and her clan of corrupt attorneys Konstaintine demiris, joe morell, lara heisler, Terrence murphy John Balquest, Mathew talbot, which we have proved everything that lara heisler and jill moses had stated but they keep it all going we have spent our life savings to theses attorneys all for doing nothing they even made me sign documents giving up any inheritence i might have gotten they are now wanting over 600,000 in more fees and these people have done nothing, MY FATHER WAS ABUSED AND THE COURT SYSTEM DOES NOTHING ABOUT IT ACCEPT KEEP ABUSING THE VICTIM AND LET THE ABUSER GET AWAY WITH IT ALL SHE HAS DONE THIS TO SO MANY PEOPLE ALREADY OUR SYSTEM IS SO MESSED UP. I HAVE BEEN CONTACTED BY MANY OTHER VICTIMS THAT HAVE ALSO BEEN THROUGH PURE HELL THIS IS ORGANIZED CRIME AND NEEDS TO BE STOPPED.
I WOULD NOT WISH THIS ON ANYBODY THESE PEOPLE PRAY ON THE ELDERLY DISABLED AND CHILDREN THE MOST VULNERABLE PEOPLE IT NEEDS TO STOP. MY NAME IS MICHELYNE KUYKENDALL I DONT NEED TO BE PRIVATE I WILL DO ANYTHING TO STOP THIS ABUSE TO THE ELDERLY. MY NUMBER IS 925 206 8882
Thanks so much
Michelyne kuykendall

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I have so much evidence there is alot more to this story with evidence I also have many other victims that want to get there story out so hopefully we can stop the abuse in our court system

My husband (now deceased) and I bought a house at a local retirement community that advertised care and various conditions that never existed.
Their fraudulent advertising continues to this day and to add insult to injury they are using pictures of us on line to promote continued sales of said properties! We had no knowledge they were being used! We moved but they continue using our ‘likeness’ to sell properties to other unsuspecting seniors- a violation of federal law - and they are getting away with it! I reported them to BBB but their false advertising continues! Thanks for helping seniors who are being victimized! I will gladly testify to the above facts.

My hope is to see the government help seniors who are being victimized.

I am more than happy to testify to the above facts. I have documents that will show what happened and is continuing to happen. Please contact me 🙏

This is the story of my mother being in Lake Taylor transitional care Hospital in Norfolk Virginia. Her name is Sofia Dimovich. She first was admitted to Lake Taylor transitional care hospital for rehabilitation. But due to the fact that she has stage four breast cancer congestive heart failure and stage 5/6 dementia.It was determined that she needs skilled nursing home care 24 seven.
My mother first was in the dogwood unit at Lake Taylor. This was the start of her demise. She had developed numerous bedsores because she was left in the bed for days. Their reasoning was that she did not want to get out of bed. This person has dementia. There is a special way of talking to an individual with dementia. The situation even got worse because she became dehydrated and had to go to the ER.
She had additional visits to the ER because of her decrease in health which was contributed by the lack of care (lack of basic care)and neglect from the staff at Lake Taylor nursing home. Her health had deteriorated oh rapidly that she is now on palliative care. But she is not being taken care of with palliative care. I have witnessed many occasions where her food was left on the tray with out helping her eat. She is supposed to be checked every 2 to 3 hours.II have to ask if they’re going to give her a shower. I have continuously asked to have her dressed daily and placed in a chair to avoid bedsores from getting worse. but with the worst is is that they don’t know what she ate when someone supposed to be sitting with her.
On One occasion I was told that if they” got her up that they could not put her back into bed until after the second shift “,which I knew it was a lie. There has been many times when she has been soiled and has rang her bell for a long period of time without being taken care of. She has even fallen out of her bed. The act of care during her meal time is cruelty. She is supposed to be watched or helped during meal time. She is supposed to have a Magic dessert that has high protein during two of her meals. But this is not always the case.
After returning from another stay in the ICU unit at the hospital her weight was 130 on the day of her arrival in January by March she had lost another 15 pounds she is currently down to 113. This is pure neglect. They don’t want to take the time to help her during feeding time. She is a very picky eater but if you just give her a magic dessert and Ensure that would at least help maintain her weight. They continuously make excuses that she does not wanna get out of bed. Of course she doesn’t because of fear.Plus she has dementia.

The reason why I am sharing the story is because I have met other family members at Lake Taylor transitional Hospital that have had the same experience with the staff. I think that it would help if the facility provided appropriate staff training to implement proper care of patients with dementia or Alzheimer’s. This shouldn’t just be a reason to take money from elderly people without caring for them. I want people to remember that when you have a family member with dementia that it’s your responsibility to be their advocate. People should not be afraid to speak out in order to improve living conditions for the elderly in any type of facility.

That it does happen. And that someday we all are going to get old and that we need family ,friends ,even strangers to be able to address abuse ,neglect or fraud. Please Remember that a facility does have an obligation to treat their patients with consideration ,respect and dignity no matter what their acute illnesses may be. It does matter.

My hopes for the future is that there is more training for staff members. Higher pay for caretakers in nursing homes or assistant living. And elimination of shortage of staffing problems. Developing respect and appropriate care for aging population.

Learning to be kind and taking the time to speak out.

To whom it may concern;

My dear elderly friend Margie L. Smith who lives in Seattle, WA, who's been a friend of my family for 80 years isn't being treated with respect, dignity and honor at the golden age of 99. She's been deliberately deprived of her cell phone so I have no way of knowing her current status. To say the least, I'm heart broken and want to shine a light on this elderly injustice. The perpetrators is her narcissist daughter a retired performing Arts teacher at Seattle Academy and son-in-law who is medical doctor, active license with conditions. I filed a complaint on June 23, 2022 with dshs and from my knowledge the investigator didn't go to the house until September 27, 2022, which give them enough time to cover up the abuse. I'm baffled at how this doctor uses multiple names and pictures to deceive the public and get away with it. I've reached out to her daughter and son-in-law asking if I can talk to her or come to see her and they sent me a text message describing criminal trespassing. I feel powerless, when challenging a physician and feel justice will not be served because of his title. My daughter and I have traveled to Seattle three times last year 2022 and the last visit they refused to let us visit, despite the police going to the house and Margie telling the officers she would like to see me. The daughter and son-in-law made false claims about me. This has been traumatizing and heartbreaking for us. We were very close, like family.
DSHS/APS hasn't given me an explanation for their delayed response in visiting Margie and there findings. I would like an investigation of DSHS/APS files pertaining to this case and how it was conducted. Please help me, help my elderly friend. If you have any questions please email or call me @773.425.8487.

Respectful,

Liza Hicks

Elder abuse is real and not only happens to individuals from low income families or persons in nursing homes. Friends can be closer than family but the law doesn't recognize such relationships. Grieving a live person is the hardest thing I've endured in my life.

I wish I was more knowledgeable/aware about emotional abuse.

That elder abuse would be taken more seriously and that elders are treated with the respect, dignity and love they deserve.

Please contact me with any questions, I have audio recordings and photos to back up my words. Thank you.