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I was courted online over a period of 3 years and then the person came to my home. I have been financially exploited, harassed, stalked and emotionally traumatized by it all. I am a senior on the autism spectrum, with epilepsy, who is a lesbian. Towards the end I feared for my own life.

I was living at home and a woman I had been communicating with over 3 years was having difficulties and I offered for her to stay at my home for a couple months, when I planned to travel. The day after she arrived she asked me to legally adopt her. She is a middle aged woman and I said “No”. She then persuaded me to have her be property manager for renters at my home and in my Assessory dwelling Unit. She was very loud and persuasive. She requested to use my computer for a security system and soon had gone onto my amazon account. I got notification next of someone trying to use of my Lowe’s credit card. She cashed in items I had bought for over $350 at Target. She asked for borrowing money. First it was small sums then larger. It came out to over $15,000. When I got home and saw my bank statements I saw that it went to Redwood Sustainability, not to Ro Pereira, who had requested it via PayPal. Then she wrote that I had gifted her the money, as a tax write off. WRONG. Redwood Sustainability I did not authorize. Then she wrote an invoice for over $10,000 for one month of ‘work’ when she had been sick most of the time and staying in my personal studio. I no longer had free access to my own belongings. She talked me into giving notice to my housemate tenants. They were afraid of her and left in a few days. She was domineering and doing set ups to get me to believe my tenants were doing bad things to my home and writing harsh emails to them. I got scared and felt trapped. Then I fired her and told her she must leave by the end of the month. She said she would stay until September 1, per the contract, that I couldn’t make her leave. After my request for her to leave she sent me email sex messages and had someone stalk me and through stones at me in the park. I can’t prove it, but I know she did because she talked about it. She brought it up. I began to fear for my personal safety. I tried to get help from the police. They were no help. They told me I needed to give her notice to vote, which could take months. I finally realized I needed to get a protection order. There is no one here in bellingham washington to help with a protection order for domestic violence unless one has had sex with the perpetrator. I needed to spend thousands of dollars to hire an attorney to proceed in court for a one year protection order. The police had not served the protection order correctly and later told me that being a ‘vulnerable adult’ put it at low priority. The officer called the respondent and notified her and then came to my home 6-8 hours later. Of course she was gone by then and had not been served the protection order. There are NO resources for elder or vulnerable adult financial exploitation or abuse in Bellingham, WA. Adult Protective Services, did nothing to help me with a protection order. Domestic Violence Sexual Assault Center, would not help me, since I did not have sex with this woman who lived in my home. There are NO public resources in this city to protect seniors or disabled from domestic violence from a person living in their home, whom they do not have a sexual relationship with, even if that person was ‘courting’ them.

That there may be state laws to protect, but in reality there is a lack of priority, interest in or public funding to protect elders. Why does the Domestic Violence center exclude victims of domestic violence perpetrators, unless they had sexual intercourse with them?!
We are vulnerable due not only to aging and disabilities, but also because we may have retirement funds, to live on for the remainder of our lives, which is very tempting and easy access, with little or no repercussions for perpetrators breaking the law.

I would like to see that every domestic violence center will provide services to victims of domestic violence, financial exploitation within the home, to include who do not have an intimate relationship with the perpetrator. I would like to have adult protective services help us. I would like to have senior centers have a volunteer who would show us what to do and how to get help. The senior center coud have someone who arranges with the domestic violence center. A volunteer could go with the senior to court. The police need to put domestic violence of a vulnerable adult as high priority. The senior center needs to have a place for the elders to go to be safe during the serving of the protection order and then arrange a plan with them to be safe at home. Someone needs to go through things with the senior and find out if there has been identity theft and help the senior report it online and to the police. There needs to be counseling and support services for the aftermath and ptsd recovery.

The police need to investigate and prosecute elder abuse and financial exploitation. They need to recognize that it’s not just the money but its human lives. Research demonstrates that elder financial exploitation correlates with shortening one’s life by a significant number of years. FTC needs to bridge the gap between states. In my case this woman has been financially exploiting in California for years. Now up here on Washington. Who knows what other states? She claims to be poor, but on reality she changes names, uses supposedly real non-profits to claim tax deduction, and is on the move.

My name is Samantha and I have been working in the senior living industry for several years. I recently came across a distressing situation involving an elderly lady in need of assistance, and I am reaching out to you in the hope that you or your organization may be able to help.
The woman in question, let's refer to her as Mrs. G. is currently facing a challenging situation. She is without family support, as her husband has passed away, and her son has been exploiting her financially for years. Mrs. G is in her 80s, and her struggles have been exacerbated by a lack of awareness and guidance.
In 2017, she entered into an agreement with a company called Unison, which is listed as a home investment group. They provided her with what they termed a "$40,000.00 loan" under the guise of an investment. The terms are troubling, as there are no interest or payment requirements until the sale of her home. However, upon selling, Unison intends to charge a staggering 61.75% of the growth of the home. The estimated repayment, based on the current home value of $425,000.00, would amount to $168,440.00.
Given Mrs. G's circumstances, this repayment scheme leaves her with inadequate funds to cover the costs of Assisted Living, which she desperately needs. What's more concerning is that she did not receive proper counsel before entering into this agreement, and her vulnerability was exploited.
I am reaching out to you in the hope that your expertise and influence may help bring attention to this situation. It is my sincere belief that the terms of this agreement are exploitative and unjust, especially considering Mrs. G's vulnerable state and lack of proper guidance during the signing process.
I would greatly appreciate any assistance, advice, or advocacy you can offer to help rectify this situation and prevent further exploitation of vulnerable seniors. If you require additional information or if there's a specific channel through which I should address this matter, please let me know.
Thank you for your time and consideration. I look forward to any support you may be able to provide in helping Mrs. G. navigate this challenging situation.

That seniors are being taken advantage of - Senior living is SO expensive and when someone plans to sell their house to pay for it and you find this out - it is sentencing her to death in her house. She will certainly fall and not be able to get help.

That is happens all the time. It is so easy to scam people and the interest rate of 61.75% should be illegal.

That I can save this lady and help her get into an assisted living community.

Please help.

My father is 87 years he lives in contra costa county he worked hard his entire life set up his retirement and believed he would be able to spend the rest of his life enjoying it. But that did not happen, my father was almost killed by a women who over dosed him with pills in the attempt to try and kill him as he was worth alot to her dead she had changed his trust documents with her attorney she took many life insurance policies out on him. I was contacted by a family friend who witnessed all this he got concerned about his safety and called me, my father ws not in good shape he was taken to walnut creek kaiser as he was so drugged up that he could not even walk we have reports from kaiser stating unknown pills where in his system. this women jill moses got scared and thought she was going to jail so she went and got a attorney and with out no notice to my father and family he was placed under a conservertership our contra costa county superior court is the most corrupt department Judge Virgina George and her clan of corrupt attorneys Konstaintine demiris, joe morell, lara heisler, Terrence murphy John Balquest, Mathew talbot, which we have proved everything that lara heisler and jill moses had stated but they keep it all going we have spent our life savings to theses attorneys all for doing nothing they even made me sign documents giving up any inheritence i might have gotten they are now wanting over 600,000 in more fees and these people have done nothing, MY FATHER WAS ABUSED AND THE COURT SYSTEM DOES NOTHING ABOUT IT ACCEPT KEEP ABUSING THE VICTIM AND LET THE ABUSER GET AWAY WITH IT ALL SHE HAS DONE THIS TO SO MANY PEOPLE ALREADY OUR SYSTEM IS SO MESSED UP. I HAVE BEEN CONTACTED BY MANY OTHER VICTIMS THAT HAVE ALSO BEEN THROUGH PURE HELL THIS IS ORGANIZED CRIME AND NEEDS TO BE STOPPED.
I WOULD NOT WISH THIS ON ANYBODY THESE PEOPLE PRAY ON THE ELDERLY DISABLED AND CHILDREN THE MOST VULNERABLE PEOPLE IT NEEDS TO STOP. MY NAME IS MICHELYNE KUYKENDALL I DONT NEED TO BE PRIVATE I WILL DO ANYTHING TO STOP THIS ABUSE TO THE ELDERLY. MY NUMBER IS 925 206 8882
Thanks so much
Michelyne kuykendall

THE CORRUPTION IN OUR CONTRA COSTA COUNTY SUPERIOR COURT DEPARTMENT 30

I have so much evidence there is alot more to this story with evidence I also have many other victims that want to get there story out so hopefully we can stop the abuse in our court system

Once an adult; twice a child.
My name is Jeanine Thomas Castle, and I have 3 separate stories in 3 separate counties in California.
1st story - Compton, Los Angeles County approximately over a 10-year period (1990's - early 2000) My Uncle, John Thomas "Papa" a widower. No children. He owned his home outright and his small pension and social security supported his simple lifestyle. Then others began to remove items from his home. When he died. Someone else owned his home. Another person told the funeral home she was his daughter. The death certificated stated this. I was named in his Will and couldn't do anything being informed after his death. I was informed of his funeral. He died by a fall in a hole at a neighbor's home. Despite several broken bones, no food in his home and his house being refinanced multiple times Adult Protective Services couldn't and didn't protect him.

2nd Story - Fresno, Fresno County 2020 - 2023. My childhood neighbor, Filiberto 'Gilbert' Olivarez began being neglected - isolation, pandemic, no longer driving in his 90's. I documented little to no food in the home. No AC in the Fresno area triple degree summer. The District's Attorney's office did agree to an investigation. By that time, he had dementia and was residing in a residential care home. Despite having given Power of Attorney to one daughter for years another was able to convince him to sign one giving her full authority over his finances and sell his home far below market value to cousins of her children's father. The investigator NEVER spoke with Filiberto's brother who lived next door or other blood relatives.

3rd Story - Richmond, Contra Costa County 2024. My 97-year-old Aunt Margaret Horsley had been living in her home for 70 years. Her 63-year-old, alcoholic son resided with her. She is a strong woman of faith had hoped he would stop the drinking and smoking. At one point in the last 10 years, she was awarded a restraining order because he hit her. She agreed to allow him to stay for a few days after the order expired and those days turned into years. Frustrated she reached out to myself and a nephew. Contra Costa APS came out met with both and weren't able to do anything. There was no working landline phone. No hot water. They heated food on an inverted heater. The front door had a damaged frame that didn't allow the door to open and close easily or lock. On 8/30/24 there was a fire and fortunately no deaths, but the home has been declared "unoccupiable" by the fire department and boarded up.

Sometimes our elderly MUST have someone just like a child does to say, NO MORE. WE are removing you for your safety and best interests - Once an adult and twice a child. I believe every person in these three stories would have been relieved to have someone, anyone but themselves step in for them. THERE was/is an element of fear in all of these stories.

I'm retired. Aside from being one of three caregivers to my 93-year-old Mom. I want to do my part to make a difference in the lives of others.

I want them to KNOW that Adult Protective Services IS able to make a difference. That something will be done just like a child has protection.

Change in the power of APS and legislation to protect the elderly.

As a social worker, counselor and caregiver I know how important it is to advocate for others when they are struggling. I also know how hard and challenging it can be to on the other side of the situation and not have power to do something.

My sister and I learned in June 2021 that our 83 year old father was being financially exploited and abused by his live in girlfriend. At the time he lived in Oklahoma City, and we lived in California. We received a phone call from our Aunt and Uncle in Oklahoma. They lived near my father and had recently discovered that his girlfriend had listed his house for sale on Zillow without his knowledge. She had committed fraud by claiming the house as the owner and listed all correspondence about his home to go to her phone number and email. Zillow also owns Trulia, which meant the house was listed on that site as well. Our dad's brother, also our Uncle, was named on our dad's checking account as a co-signer. Our Uncle also managed our dad's estate and shared a family trust with him. Our Uncle would often make sure our dad's account was not in the red and would make sure some of his more costly bills were paid for. In other words, he would deposit money into our dad's account intermittently when larger bills were due (i.e.-car/homeowners insurance). On the day we received the phone call our Uncle had found out from the bank that he had been removed as co-signer and my dad's girlfriend had now been added as both a co-signer and joint member of the account. The banker knew my Aunt and Uncle personally and shared concerns about my dad's girlfriend and more importantly concerns about my dad. Our Aunt and Uncle had also received a phone call from their insurance agent. Our dad had the same agent and inquired several times about getting a life insurance policy. They told him each time that they did not work with life insurance, only auto and homeowners insurance. They were worried that he seemed confused and continued to ask about it. Important to note, our father already had life insurance for years. And, lastly, the neighbor was worried about our dad. She had seen the listing on Zillow and asked if he was moving. He emphatically said, "No!" and then was shown the listing on Zillow. According to his neighbor/friend he immediately appeared confused. He was then asked by the neighbor if he was now married to his girlfriend. Again, he said, "No!" It was brought to his attention that the girlfriend was telling everyone they were now married. The combination of all of these things happening at once raised huge concerns by our Aunt and Uncle and prompted them to call me and my sister as soon as possible. When we were contacted we knew that our dad was planning a trip to Florida with his girlfriend, and they had planned to leave the next week on June 28th. On the same day our Aunt and Uncle called I had talked with my dad. He shared with me about his trip. It was a 10 day trip to The Villages in Florida. At some point in the conversation he said to me, "Who knows, maybe I'll just come live with you." I was confused and thought it was an odd statement, but didn't question it. I had room in my home now that 2 of my children were grown and moved out, so I responded with, "Of course, You can always come live with us." I found out later in the day that he had told my sister not to tell anyone that he was planning to move away to live at The Villages in Florida. It was peculiar that he didn't want to tell anyone, but my first thought was that he didn't want to upset my Aunt and Uncle that he was planning to move away. Now, in hindsight, I think his girlfriend wanted him to keep it a secret. We all, my sister, aunt and uncle met several times via zoom/group phone calls to discuss what we needed to do. Because of COVID neither my sister or I had traveled to see my dad, but now that we were all vaccinated we were in a better place to travel to Oklahoma immediately. Both my sister and I called our dad to express our concerns and begged him not to take the trip to Florida with his girlfriend. We also let him know that we would be out there to see him as soon as possible. He thanked my sister for initiating the conversation about our concerns and let her know that he had decided not to go to Florida. His girlfriend went without him which made it possible for us to immediately fly out to Oklahoma to see our dad. I was planning to visit him in July anyway, but not under these circumstances. He was open to a visit from both of us, but was also feeling that we were all "ganging up" on him, and was somewhat defensive when I arrived. When I arrived in Oklahoma I was horrified to see his extreme weight loss and unhealthy living conditions. His girlfriend had moved into the main bedroom with all of her furniture and clothing. The main bedroom was huge. It had room for a sitting area, sleeping area, and office space. Additionally, there was a large walk-in closet and very large bathroom. Nothing in there was his. There were photos on the wall of herself and all of her own framed wall hangings. There was a dresser that was my dad's (he bought it special with his second wife who had passed away in 2004) she was using for her own things. Otherwise, there was nothing of my dad's. He had moved all of his things into the small bedroom (the size of a small nursery) and was using the other bathroom for himself. He had a special custom made desk that his second wife had purchased for him on his 60th birthday that was nowhere to be found. It had been placed in storage to make room for all of his girlfriend's stuff. There was custom made, very expensive, dining room table that was completely covered with the girlfriend's art supplies. Boxes were placed underneath the table with more art supplies. The walls were covered with her art along with her family photos. The dining room was wall to wall with her arts and crafts, and it was difficult to walk around in there. The living room had a small couch of my dad's and his second wife's special chair. Everything else in there was unrecognizable. It was all his girlfriend's. One small section about the special chair had some framed artwork that was my dad's. There was a large bookcase with her family photos everywhere. I knew my dad had framed family pictures, but I couldn't find them anywhere on the bookshelf or on the walls. I then noticed way up high on the shelf at the far corner a framed photo of my sister, my dad and myself. I had given it to my dad many years ago, and it seemed hidden amongst all of her stuff. She had photos in the small hallway of herself and old pictures with her boyfriend from the 1970's, Clint Eastwood (yes it was the actor). She had a photo book that she had made and titled it "My Memories". Every single photo was just a picture of her. I then realized there were no photos of my dad with her. I started to look for some sign of one, and then I saw it. There was a framed photo of my dad and her when they went to Vegas in February 2020. I didn't recognize my dad. He was even thinner in the photo. He looked emaciated. It scared me. I had never seen him so thin and gaunt. Later on I saw in his medical records that his weight was one pound away from being considered malnourished at the time the photo was taken. During a visit from my dad in December 2018 he mentioned that his new girlfriend was a "life coach" and was using him as "kind of like a client". She had him stop drinking alcohol (which I was fine with), and also had him stop drinking coffee. My dad always loved his coffee so I thought that was a bit odd and questioned him about it. He seemed okay with it at the time, and because he seemed happy and healthy I never thought more about it, until this visit in 2021. Now looking back, I realize that was a red flag on how she was treating him. I went into his office, and saw a large massage chair that appeared to be very new. When asked about it my dad said they bought it together at the county/state fair. I asked if he actually used it, and he said "no." It is very unlike my dad's personality to make such an expensive purchase let alone use a chair like that. The chair was bought in his girlfriend's name for $6,000.00 on a payment plan. We discovered my dad was making monthly payments on the chair, not her. I also noticed in his office on the far wall to the side, were two canvas pictures of his grandkids. My sister and I each sent him one respectively (my 3 boys and her 2 daughters). It made sense to see them up on the wall, but those were really the only family photos of his in the entire house. I would say that 85% of the stuff in the house now was the girlfriend's. When asked about where his things were he said that they were in storage because there was no room for anything. His small bedroom was crammed with furniture, and clothing. In the corner behind a dresser were a lot of his own framed pictures that appeared to have been removed and placed in a corner. Many of them were purchased from artists and specially framed. They were now all shoved in a corner. When asked about the checking account he said that he was struggling with his bills and simply asked his girlfriend to take care of his finances. I asked if she had her own personal account and if she closed that to share finances with him. He said she did have her own account but "no, she did not share her finances." When I went to turn on the television I noticed it wasn't hooked up correctly and he had no idea how to use the remote controls. He had been unable to access television. When I figured out how to connect everything I saw there was a netflix account. I went to check for a movie and realized that the girlfriend and her adult children, adult grandson were using netflix. I discovered our dad was paying for directv along with netflix for the girlfriend and her family. I asked my dad if he ever watched tv. He said not a lot but he did like watching the show Monk a lot. I noticed in the corner of the living room a box with a dvd collection of several seasons of Monk. Was she keeping him from watching television and made him believe he was watching Monk on the tv all the time? My father seemed very confused and overwhelmed about everything. We were extremely worried about him. The girlfriend had three cats that she left with him to care for and administer medicine to. We discovered that she had traveled for approximately 8 weeks over the course of three months prior to our visit (Mid April to Mid June). She was in Colorado, Florida, Texas and Wyoming, and now Florida for 10 days. Before she left for Florida she and my dad went together for a routine doctor's appointment for my dad. During the visit she requested to be added to the list of emergency contacts in his records. She then proceeded to ask the doctor to do a memory test. She obviously knew he was struggling with his memory. When we went to the bank to meet with the banker regarding his account we discovered he had cashed out annuities from life insurance policies. There were large overpayments made on credit cards ($800 for a $100 bill) and duplicate payments made to an AT&T account. This was based on statements since his girlfriend was added to the account. We were very concerned. We discovered that his girlfriend was trying to get on his account and have access to it since May 2021; however, her requests were over the phone because she was out of the state and needed to come in person to do so. She also requested a meeting with on of the Mortgage Brokers at the bank. Based on the Zillow listing we had reason to believe she was trying to add her name to the title. We contacted AT&T and found a bill from them, and discovered the girlfriend, her 56 year old daughter, and her daughter's 33 year old son were all on the account listed under my dad's name. They all had brand new iPhones. Plus the girlfriend had a new iWatch. Our dad had an older iPhone model, the iPhone 8, and he had two phones, one with a local area code, and the other was his phone number he had for 20+ years. He also had an iWatch which he "lost" and has no idea what happened to it. We discovered my dad was paying for a large storage unit (10'x20'). The majority of items belonged to the girlfriend. We also discovered that my dad's special custom made desk was in the storage along with a very nice couch he had with his wife. He had no room in his home for them, because the girlfriend took over the majority of the space in the house when she moved in. Along with a few boxes and a folded card table with 4 folding chairs, those were the only items that were his. The rest of the storage was packed with all of her things. There seemed to be absolutely no reason why he wouldn't be able to keep his special items with him in his home. Consequently, she was living rent free in his home and able to have free storage for all of her items. We discovered on a different checking account that he was making payments to the girlfriend for groceries and dinner. On one occasion he had paid for a $56 dinner on his bank card and then proceeded to pay her again for the same amount on the same day and listed in the memo "dinner". It appeared she was requesting he reimburse her for meals and groceries on a regular basis. While we were in Oklahoma the girl friend called our dad at night to let him know she was worried that a payment had not gone through for his Barclay credit card, and needed him to talk with Barclay to confirm the payment. The payment she was referring to was in fact the overpayment of $800 she made one week earlier. During the phone call there was a great deal of confusion, and our dad became anxious and confused. He would go into his office and close the door to talk with his girlfriend and then with Barclay's. My sister and I were still in a great deal of shock and confused ourselves as to what was happening. The next day we contacted Barclay's with our dad. Barclay had suspected fraudulent activity from the girlfriend and had shut the card down. When we found out we asked our dad where his credit cards were. He realized they were gone and we searched everywhere for them in the house. We asked if he gave them to the girlfriend, but his response was "No, I don't think so." We then suspected that the girlfriend had taken all of his credit cards with her to Florida, and believe she tried to use that specific card while in Florida and it was declined. We later discovered that she was then able to use his American Express card. There were several charges from The Villages on his card. The first few days of our visit in Oklahoma the girlfriend sent a text to our dad to share with us. The text stated that she was helping our father with his finances because he was struggling with them. She said her goal was to buy a place in Florida (The Villages) and to help him keep his home in Oklahoma so that he can live comfortably and go visit her. She continued by stating that she had "the book" (involving his finances) with her in Florida and that if we wanted to contact her she would go over everything with us. We were now very concerned. Why was his house for sale on Zillow/Trulia? Why does she have the book with her and why does she have all of his credit cards. We did not call her due to our lack of trust and concerns. At one point our father was busy on the phone with her, and I decided to go into her room to see if there was anything suspicious. I was standing by her desk and looked down to find a notepad with information about my father. I looked closer and found what appeared to be "the book" she said she had with her. She had everything noted about my father in the book, social security number, credit card numbers, life insurance policies and information about how much $ for each of them, usernames/passwords, checking account information, key events/information about my father often used for two-step verification on accounts (i.e.-mother's maiden name, favorite pet's name, father's birthdate). We were astounded and now very very concerned. He had no idea about the book and why all that information was listed on there. We discovered our father's mortgage payments were behind, and he had not paid his homeowners fees in months. His house was on lien and we needed to contact the mortgage company and homeowners association immediately. When we spoke with the HOA they said they had talked with our dad's girlfriend in May and stated that when she called she said, "I am his wife, well his fiancée, well I'm his girlfriend. Well, I'm a lot of things to him." The HOA Representative then stated she asked for information on how to pay his debt, and was given a form to complete and return. The HOA never received a form and never received any payments after that. We discussed with the HOA our concerns and requested to meet with them to work through the current situation. The next day we also discovered that our father's name had been removed from the gate code key pad to his community. We instead found the girlfriend's last name added to gate code. We requested to remove her name immediately and reinstate our father's name. We also asked them to confirm there was no one else with the same last name living there. HOA confirmed that no one with that last name lived there, and inquired about it with the facilities management team. They informed us that the name was removed and replaced with our father's name. We believe the girlfriend removed his name. As the week progressed our concerns about our dad's health safety and overall well-being grew. We were very worried that he was not safe in the house alone with the girlfriend. We had no choice but to bring him back to California to sort through everything. We immediately bought him a ticket to come back home with me stay with us while we sorted through everything. We brought the book with us to California as it had all of his personal information. We quickly had a lawyer draw up the documents for Power of Attorney. We discussed with our father and had the documents signed and notarized. Next we had our father close out his joint account with her and open a new account with my sister and myself. First and foremost, we needed to keep our dad safe. He was very worried about what to tell her. When we said, "Let her know you are going to California to visit my grandkids and daughters for awhile", he was still worried and seemed afraid of how she might react. When we got to California his behavior was similar to something like Stockholm syndrome. Approximately two days after he arrived he contacted his girlfriend on the phone in front of me. She was loud enough that I could hear her. She said loudly to him, "They will take all of OUR money." There was then a pause in the conversation and she quickly and in a more quiet tone said, "Well, they will take all of your money." She had been upset that we brought the book home with us, not to mention our father was now safe with us. A few days later the girlfriend contacted my father and said there was a police officer parked in front of the house and she had thought my sister and I had contacted the police on her. She seemed to react in a paranoid way, and accused us of calling the police. When we told our father that we had no idea what she was talking about he did not believe us, and started to get angry with us. The very next day several cars were parked at our father's house, and his girl friend along with some of her friends proceeded to load up their cars with her things. It appeared that she was moving out very quickly. During that time, she purchased storage tubs and an electronic item for $350 using our father's American Express card. He had sent several text messages to her stating the following, "Please allow (her name) to use my American Express card for money owed to her." It appeared that she had coerced and manipulated him into sending the text message. Our father did not owe her any money. During this time of overwhelming chaos for our family, we asked the girlfriend and her family members to remove their phones from our father's AT&T account. We requested a "Transfer of Billing Responsibility" for all three of them, and asked them to take care of it in the next two weeks, giving them a deadline so their phone bills would not rollover into the next cycle. The girlfriend seemingly took care of it within a few days. The daughter asked us to change the name of her 33 year old son's phone to her name, and we asked her to take care of removing the phones immediately, she became agitated with us. She then stated that her son was a "minor with a disability" (neither of which were true) which we found incredibly odd. Reluctantly, I contacted AT&T myself and asked them to change the name. We just needed them to change their billing responsibility. After the two weeks had passed I went to check the bill to make sure they were all removed. None of them were. In fact, the girlfriend had created some type of "grandfather clause" account and placed her phone on a $2 per minute charge. The daughter had done nothing. The bill was now $1500 ($1200 for the girlfriend alone). I contacted AT&T and reported the situation. AT&T honored the request to remove t$1200 charge. They recommended shutting down their phones if they do not honor our request. Almost everyday for two weeks I was on the phone with AT&T and sending emails to the daughter to remove her two phones from our father's account. Important to note-Our father met the daughter one time on a visit to Colorado. He was in the relationship with the girlfriend for 2.5 years, and during that time she had traveled and been away for at least 12 months. In other words, the relationship was not long term, and she was often absent and away due to extended travel. I had sent emails stating that we would need to shut down the daughter's phone and her son's phone if they rolled over into the next billing cycle. And, let her know the cost of the phones since our dad would be held responsible for paying them off. At the final day I contacted AT&T and had the phones shut off. She did not do what we requested, and we extended the timeframe to one month to get it done. She was able to take care of it within the 24 hours that I made the call to disconnect their services, and she was eventually able to remove her phones. I received a disturbing correspondence from her, during the entire exchange. I spent hours dealing with her and AT&T. My dad would never have been able to keep up with the high AT&T bill or continue to be responsible for the girlfriend and her family. It was extremely exploitative in nature and abusive towards our father. Once all phones were removed we were relieved, but unfortunately our father still had two phones and a watch he still needed to make payments on. As a result, we had to keep the account until he had enough money to pay off everything and open a new account with just one phone. It was now been two months since we dealt with AT&T and my father received a phone call from his girlfriend asking to be reimbursed for payments she made to AT&T at the end of August and September. She asked our father to mail her a check. We were very worried about this request and let our father know that she was not on the account anymore. I went to look at the payment history and she had made unnecessary payments to his account. We contacted AT&T and reported her to the fraud department. We also explained to our father that we would not be able to reimburse her the money due to her prior history. We did not want any money, especially checks/debit card numbers to be exchanged with her. She was not to be trusted. I sent her an email and asked that she stop asking for money from our father and that she would need to work it out with her bank and AT&T. It was not our father's responsibility. She still continued to make monthly payments and again asked our father to reimburse her. We finally were able to close his AT&T account and closed it down in December of 2021. Prior to closing it down we let the girlfriend know and told her she would need to stop making payments to the account. We made our final payment in January 2022 and noticed she was still making payments on the account. I continued to report her to the fraud department. A few weeks later we received a gift card from AT&T to reimburse us for the overpayment of $85 on the account, which was the amount she had paid. Again, I called the fraud department with AT&T and again she made a payment for $85. It was exhausting and frustrating. We continued to receive reimbursements in the form of a gift card, and then she stopped doing it in April and May. She started again from June 2022 through August 2022 and then mysteriously stopped making the payments. Note-She had moved to Las Vegas in April and May, and then moved to Florida in September 2022. Payments stopped each time she moved. In between moves they started up again. I was curious if she still had the same phone number and when I looked her up in the White Pages her phone number was listed under a different name from a previous marriage. I returned all gift cards to AT&T as we did not want anything connected to a potential scam. We had spent close to 14 months dealing with our father's AT&T account, and several of those months were spent dealing with the account after it had closed. The girlfriend also had a connection with a dance instructor in Oklahoma City. The girlfriend was a former "professional" dancer and during COVID she had asked her dance instructor friend to work with our father. According to our father he was paying this "instructor" for weekly dance lessons during COVID. Our father has never enjoyed doing anything like that which had us concerned. During COVID the dance instructor would go to our father's house often and would sometimes load a car/truck with items from our dad's house. Neighbors had made the observation on numerous occasions and shared this information with our Aunt and Uncle. The instructor was also asked to do "odd jobs" around the house and asked to take care of a landscaping project in the back yard. While we were in Oklahoma he had called our father to discuss picking up a check from him for some of the work he was doing. When he arrived our father handed the dance instructor a check for $500 and while they were talking the instructor proceeded to make a mobile deposit off of his phone in front of me and my dad. I found it unprofessional and suspicious. After further research we had discovered our dad had paid this person in checks alone $5900. Our dad was surprised and confused, and told us that he couldn't believe that amount of money over the course of one year. Plus, he had paid him in cash as well, and realized the amount was much higher. Three months after our dad was living with us (October 2021) his girlfriend would call him and ask that he contact the dance instructor about a small yard statue of hers that he was going to fix. My father was confused, but offered to call the instructor. He would ask the instructor if he owed him any money to which the instructor replied, "Yes, you owe me $500". Even though he had not completed the landscaping project he was still asking our dad for money. Was the girlfriend trying to get our dad to give money to the dance instructor who would then give money to her? Was he her money mule? We also learned that a computer specialist and small business owner was tasked to setup and connect our dad's computer to WIFI and a personal printer. Our father had trusted him since he was referred by a friend. We later discovered that our dad gave this person a bag of watches, some of them valuable family heirlooms, to get fixed. Evidently the computer specialist also specialized in watch repair? Both my dad and I had tried to contact the individual with no success. I eventually received a phone call response from his assistant to which she responded, "call back in two weeks. He is out of the office." I called back two weeks later to inquire about the watches only to get this response, "He does have the watches, but your dad still owes him a lot of money." I asked how much money since I saw a zero balance on their online invoice. She did not have a response for me, and said she would call back or I can call back in the next week. I called back and they never returned my phonecalls. I sent messages via LinkedIn and Facebook messenger to ask about the watches. No response. I contacted the police department, but since we did not photos or documentation of the watches we could not file a report. I later discovered that our dad was making monthly payments to this person and made approximately $1300 in payments to him for computer setup. While looking through our dad's financial statements we noticed some suspicious banking activity in May of 2021. During that time his girlfriend was traveling a lot, and I was often told she was visiting family. We noticed a mobile deposit was made to our dad's from a check made out to him by his girlfriend (note-this was his own personal account). The girlfriend wrote in the memo section, "Loan". There were two signatures on the back of the check on each end of the check. This was all very suspicious because our dad does not know how to do a mobile deposit and always goes directly to the bank to make an in-person deposit. The signatures appear to be forged, his girlfriend had been traveling during that time, and wrote the check to him, and the deposit was made exactly four minutes after a message from a different bank was sent stating they suspected fraud from this specific person due to a request to make a "bill pay" to her. The deposit went through and the bill pay was made 24/48 hours later for $1038.75 which was the exact amount of money in our dad's account at the time the bill pay check was requested. Just to recap that check incident; A "loan" was mobile deposit for $996 (written as a "Loan") was made to a bank in Oklahoma 5 minutes after a bank in Ohio suspected fraud by that same person. Approximately one/two days later a payment was made in the amount $1038.75 to that same person they suspected fraudulent activity from. This left our dad with a zero balance in his account in Ohio. We believe the girlfriend was out of state, possibly in Colorado, at the time all of these transactions took place. Phone records show that she was calling both banks during that time frame. On July 5th, more than one year later we learned that she had made her phone number the main source of contact for his bank in Ohio. We had been in contact with them on numerous occasions but never saw any documentation of her contact information on file or in his online portal. When we learned of it the bank immediately filed a police report for fraud. We had the police at our house the very next day along with APS. They suggested we file a restraining order on her. The family justice center turned down our request since our father continued to text her on a regular basis and the court would not take the request as serious enough.

Share all of it! The fraud, the abuse, the isolation and manipulation. Share everything I have stated in the first question. Also, share that we filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. She continued to contact him via text/phone calls. Our dad sent her text messages all the time that were brief and vague about how he was doing and what was new with him. The truth was that he couldn't remember and did not have the cognitive ability to recall his day/week. She would send him photos of her with other male friends and share about how much they helped her with a move or took care of her. In May of 2022 she had sent a text to our father from Las Vegas. She had recently moved there and stated she was caring for a woman with Alzheimer's and how difficult it was to care for her. I was very worried for that person and contacted the police in Las Vegas to report my concerns, but they didn't want to hear about it unless I had the name of the potential victim. I then called Adult Protective Services and they had the same response. Two weeks later she sent our dad a text at around 2:30am stating that she had to move because her roommate learned she was allergic to her cats. She had lived in Las Vegas for about two months and very quickly left to temporarily live with her son and his family in S. Padre Islands, Texas. I was very worried about the safety and well-being of the person she said she was caring for. She seemed settled in Vegas one minute and then abruptly moved away the next minute. She continued to talk with my dad which made it difficult for him to move forward and to understand what she had done to him. He couldn't remember from day to day what she had done and would reach out to her like a drug addict seeking their next fix. We contacted Adult Protective Services immediately. We called the police department to report the real estate listing on Zillow along with the unusual bank activity and credit card usage. We had filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. The police did in fact get proof of fraud on Zillow and presented it to the DA's office. The District Attorney chose not to take the case because no money was exchanged. We were even given a contact person at the FBI, but after talking with them they were not interested and never returned our phone calls after that. Our father was able to sell his house and is now able to have that money to live off of. He lives with me and my family and has his own bedroom/bathroom and an office where he can display his photos and memorabilia. Every single agency, doctors, bankers, APS, law enforcement, and the FBI have all agreed unanimously that our father was being abused and financially exploited. Unfortunately, there have been no consequences for the behavior of his girlfriend other than the fact that she can no longer abuse our father. We believe she is still doing the same scam/con with other elderly men, and will continue to do so. We have read about a recent case of elder abuse that is very similar to our story, but they are now facing actual criminal charges because they took a lot of money. It fear that the type of abuse our dad's girlfriend committed is all too common and overlooked if there isn't an excessive amount of money involved. We are grateful for our Aunt and Uncle and all of the friends and neighbors who stepped in to help our father. Had they not, I truly believe he would not be here with us today. Thankfully, we have finally been successful in removing her from any communication with our father. Unfortunately, much of that is because our father's memory has declined and he cannot remember her phone number anymore.

If you suspect anything is off or wrong trust your instincts. Call Adult Protective Services immediately. It can be overwhelming and scary. Find friends and support groups to connect with. You are not alone! Be persistent. Also, make sure to get the proper medical care and evaluations for your loved one. Our father was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's and also has other physical ailments that need medical care and treatment. Make sure to rule out any type of dementia/alzheimer's. Get as many resources as possible in your local area including the neighborhood Senior center. It's important to have a support system for your loved one and yourself. Document everything about the fraud, and share your story like I am here. The more we get the information out there the more knowledge people will have. We believe this was similar to a Romance Scam. Our dad's girlfriend was introduced to him by a mutual friend. Our dad originally met the mutual friend through an online dating site/chat room. That mutual friend is connected to the dance instructor, the computer person and the girlfriend. APS believes it is some type of ring of people collectively helping one another with their own personal scams. As I get older I see the importance of having documents such as a living trust and power of attorney all in place before I have any type of cognitive decline.

I hope the laws start to actually protect all of our elderly. What good is the law if there are no consequences for criminal actions. I am dismayed, disappointed and saddened that we spent a better part of 1.5 years talking with the very institutions designed to protect people like our father only to discover they don't want to get involved. Can we hold people accountable for their actions? It seems the victim is often left dealing with the behavior of the abuser. I am hoping someday there will be stronger protections under the law for these types of crimes.

I have purposely not added names to my information to protect my father and my family. I do not trust this person, or her family.

I am reaching out to bring awareness to the heartbreaking story of my grandmother Margaret Jennings, a beloved mother who was betrayed by three of her own children over money and property. Despite winning her legal battle in Jennings v. Jennings, No.
B327268 (Cal. Ct. App. Dec. 28, 2023), justice remains incomplete. Her children were found guilty of fraud and financial elder abuse, yet they refused to pay what they owed, instead choosing to wait for her to pass.

Margaret spent the last years of her life grieving the loss of her children-not through death, but through their own abandonment. They never sought forgiveness, never attempted to make things right. And now, after ignoring her for over five years, they want control over her funeral arrangements which is being held March 4th, 2025.

Even in death, her fight for justice continues. Margaret's attorneys have been unable to locate one of the defendants to serve her, delaying the accountability she deserved. Elder abuse is a silent epidemic, and Margaret's story is proof of how the legal system often fails to fully protect victims.

This is not just about Margaret-it is about every vulnerable elder who is financially exploited by those they trust most. We need to shed light on her story to prevent this from happening to others. I would love to discuss this further and provide any necessary documentation, including court records and personal testimonies.
Please help us bring justice to Margaret Jennings and raise awareness about elder financial abuse. Let's make sure her story is heard.
Thank you for your time and consideration.

My grandmother died with a broken heart a day before her birthday

02/14/26-2/13/2025

It typically done by trusted love ones.

There should be something in place where elders no matter their financial status can have resources and help

My daughter sold my home in Pocatello, Idaho. I was not ready to do that, and I did need some help. I had surgery in Salt Lake, I had my leg amputated. Shortly after, I just needed somebody to be with me till I got over that awful pain. She said I gotta leave, and I said Leslie, find me somebody to help, and she sold my home. She rented me a place. It's not my home!

She made me sign, but I didn't want to sell my home. I was scared to be alone. Then she took me with her to Salem, and then I stayed with my son in California. I was comfortable, but I always wanted to come back home. Now I can take care of myself, I walk with a walker and I can drive.

I want them to know your own family can do this to you! I never dreamed my child could do this to me.
I wish I would have called my doctor or someone else in town at that time. I don't know if there's some way to prepare so this wouldn't happen.

My funds are dwindling and I want to have her pay for the rest to get my home back. I want her charged with something. I want to be able to live at home and spend time in the garden.

My name is Melissa and my mother has been in Assisted living facilities in Colorado for the past 15 years. She is going to be 90 years old in May 2024,and my story is a travesty and perfect example of why reform is desperately needed. I am 57-years old and because of our experience in the past 3.5 years I have made the decision to go to law school and specialize in Elder Law. I am so disappointed in the way our elderly are treated. And I’m going to be in her position sooner rather than later so I’m determined to help bring about some much needed change in the way we care for our elders and what facilities are not allowed to do. So here’s some highlights of what my story includes. If you want my full story please let me know. It’s worth the read.

My story about my journey with my mother starts in Colorado approx 3.5 years ago. I stated earlier she has been assisted living for 25/years after being run over by a van in a parking lot on her way to an AA meeting. She was working out 3x a week, roller blading and once the accident happened, breaking her hip and the drs fracturing her femur hammering in too large of a rod and not realizing it until I ordered an xray on Christmas Eve after fighting with the facility to get one performed and demanding the resident Dr., be on site by the time I arrived from Lakewood with them to get her to the hospital instead of bedrest until after Christmas and just Ambo cab it to her doctors office I mean it was ridiculous, but then she fell out of her shoes, turning her blinds at her house, and that’s when my brother and I had put up her house up for sale and put her in assisted-living so she could be monitored and then in the assisted-living facility they didn’t keep an eye on her and she got impacted a couple months after being there and so they sent her to the hospital to the emergency room and when I went saw her there, they released her and the facility wouldn’t come pick us up when come pick her up they said that they didn’t have any type of protocol and place to get the residence home after 6 o’clock if they’re at the hospital and I said you’re telling me that I pay $8000 a month and you can’t even get my mother home from the hospital which is right across the highway and they said yup and I was fit to be tied and I said OK I’m gonna bring her in my car and she’s going to the bathroom in my car so you better have a wheelchair ready and somebody to help me bathe her because I can’t do it. I’m just not that kind of a person so they better be waiting for me when I got when I get there and like I said, it was just cross the highway. I rolled up and nobody was there. They were all of the caregivers were sitting around talking to each other, and it was a glass door, and it was locked I was so mad and so they saw me and they sign. Oh yeah, I forgot and they got on the radio to get me a wheelchair and come unlock the door and that was a nightmare because if I could do that I would be caregiver, but I can’t do that kind of stuff. I’m not that kind of person
That’s why it was being $8000 a month. I noticed that her medication’s were not right and they were running meds out to people in the parking lot. They would come and pick her up and not even asking who they were and they were running narcotics out there so I brought this to the attention of the corporate office and they paid me $10,000 to go away and I accepted it and I regretted every day since and this was 15 years ago because all I could think about was all the people I was leaving behind, we don’t have advocates And that started our journey the next place we took her to. She was up for 10 years seven years and I became more involved in her care than I had been and my brother had been doing it and again I started noticing these medication issues, so I started collecting Namar and narcotic count sheets because of my experience at the other place my brother just wasn’t paying attention because it’s inconvenient and so sure enough I could I created a spreadsheet and I could see when her medication‘s were going missing and who was taking them by drawing correlations from my spreadsheet and I told my brother I said that’s it. We’re moving her and I contacted the district attorney and then we had instead of going into this detail I’ll just tell you 120 of her OxyContin went missing they were stolen the executive Director told us and I said well I called the pharmacy and I can tell you who signed for the medication and I can tell you exactly who took it. Here’s my spreadsheet I’ve been working on and she said oh it looks like you put a lot of working into it but yeah, no I don’t need to see that And so the district attorney looked up and said no there was no police report filed. She said that there was he said no she didn’t file one he said, but there is one in here for elder abuse and I was like oh my God and so I asked the executive director for copy she said no I couldn’t have one because other families are named in the Report and HIPAA I received internal emails from staff saying take this to a higher level, because for the residents had their narcotics, go missing as well. I went to Denver police and I obtained a copy of the police report and it was a completely false police report because nobody ever talked to us. There was nobody named in the police report. The facility was the victim and she put on there. The executive Director put that she caught in caregiver changing the labels from Aspirin to oxy and so she fired her which was not what happened at all and so then my mother started. I’m sleeping really late into the afternoon and my the facility started having meetings with my brother and I saying that it’s probably time for hospice and I just about fell out of my chair said no she’s not hospice material. I told my brother were moving her the DA told me get her out of there and then will start. You know working on a case and I said great so I found another place for her. All my brother tried to get me removed as the attorney in fact because he didn’t want to move her because it was too much trouble. I was assuming at the time and I told him he brought the executive Director in on it too, because she wouldn’t be at office POA as well because she knows that I know she follow false police report Anyway they couldn’t do it and I said no we’re not moving her into hospice so we moved her to a new place a really nice place. I’m on a golf course and we moved her in and for five days nobody even came and checked on her nobody came and gave her a shower nothing and she can hardly walk. She has a walker and they put her on the third floor About a mile away from the dining room anyway I had called and left the executive Director numerous messages. We were finally supposed to meet because I wouldn’t sign the arbitration agreement and so I had to meet with the executive director but she was a no call no show and three days after that she was leaving the property and somebody said her name and that’s how I knew who she was and I was like hi remember me I we were supposed to meet and you didn’t show up and she said yeah and I mean she just did not care and she was on her way out so she was mad that I had grabbed her on her way out so we went back into her office and I had scratch out a bunch of stuff throughout the whole contract and she said you have to sign all these you know I can’t change these and I said well I’m not signing the arbitration agreement and she goes. Yeah you need to sign that I said, in the state of Colorado, I don’t have to and I said, and I’m not signing away my mothers rights, and so she slid up next to me And she talked real low and she said let me put it to you this way if you don’t sign, you could have a very unhealthy relationship here I could not believe it. I was being threatened by the executive Director lol I felt like she was a Guido or something so then she proceeded to show me a flip around her laptop and show me this thing on arbitration agreements, but it was geared towards the facility not for the consumer and it was talking about how our but she goes. You know just sign it and then all it says is that we’re going to mediate I mean, don’t you trust us and I said well, that’s not That’s not what’s the problem here it’s the principal and I said yeah I trust you but you know I never know what’s gonna happen and she goes well if you don’t like with the mediator, if you don’t like the decision, they make you can always just take it to court, but I was reading on the website right there that it said the decision is final and you cannot take it to court and I said that to her and she goes yes so she was speaking and then it said the reason why they have the arbitration agreement is to cut down on the press it’s quicker so there’s not a lot of time for the press to get their stories together and it’s just better for the facility so I also saw that I had 90 days to resend it so I went ahead and signed it because my mother needed the whole reason why nobody had checked on her as they hadn’t checked her in because there was no contract so Then I started keeping an eye on her meds, and at the other facility I had run everybody’s names that were on these Yueting medication’s through the Colorado health departments website to make sure that they were all certified as QA and only two out of 10 of them were certified so I started doing that at this place too because they kept bringing in temporary help because they didn’t have enough staff and so this executive Director did not like that 2 1/2 weeks in she called a special meeting and they flew in the head of nursing from Utah And I had the head of nursing the executive Director and for staff people and me and they had a big cardboard box and the executive director looked at me and said I don’t think we’re gonna be able to meet your expectations here but I can arrange for a tour for you at a facility that’s right up the street she was I know it’s the same company as the place that you just left but I’m sure they don’t talk to each other And I was stunned and I said are you kicking us out and she goes no we’re not going we don’t we’re not turfing you I just don’t think that your mom’s gonna be happy here and I said I think you’re wrong I said you know I’m she goes. I heard that you ran everybody’s name Ran his background at the last place and didn’t run anybody background around their names through the Colorado and then she finished my sentence for me and she goes yeah and I go it’s public knowledge and she goes. Yes you’re right, but yeah we stopped taking care of your mom today at 2:00 PM and it was 2:30 PM and she pushed this cardboard box across the table to me and it was Full of my mom‘s medication‘s and she goes. I have another meeting to get to and I’m gonna need everybody with me so we have to go and I wait a second how do I even order her meds and she goes we can call the pharmacy they’ll tell you what to do and that was it so I had to come home and make little packets out of wrapping paper And go through all of my mom‘s meds and create dosage, dosing packets, and for different times of the day and then my brother and I had to go and drive to the facility five times a day to dose my mother so we were paying 11,000 I think $9500 a month to do And so my mom couldn’t participate in anything there was nobody doing anything for her so then I started looking for another place and I found a place over this place was on Quincy in the new place that I had found the next new place was on Alameda so the new place that I found referred a moving company for us and I told the Moving I could talk to the moving company I said we’re gonna need help packing because it was a two bedroom apartment and the guy says OK so the day we’re moving out I wrote a scathing letter to The executive Director and everybody I CCed everybody in Utah in Denver. Oh my gosh and the mover comes in and he looks around and he’s like OK and I took him down to the loading dock and I said just bring your truck up to the loading dock, and then we can just take everything down this way And I’m standing there waiting for them and I see the truck driving down Quincy and I called them and I go. Did you just leave and he goes? Yeah that’s way too much work. I had to send two guys to another job this morning and there’s no way I can do it all and I said well that’s not my fault I told you and he goes. Yeah I’m not gonna be coming. Sorry about that and hung up on me and I’m like oh my God you don’t understand we have to get out today and so my brother found All my sons Moving that brought five people over with them to move us and they charged us $4500 to move my mother from Quincy to Alameda and they didn’t even finish and they broke the elevators and I was stuck in memory care with furniture and having to carry furniture over the peoples heads that were eating and having people walk up to me and asked me if I can put their dishes away it was absolutely terrible and nobody could get back up to their rooms on the upper floors after dinner and so they were really mad at me on top of the letter that I had wrote so I had to go back there by myself and move her the rest of her stuff because my brother is on oxygen, so he never helped and he was mad that I was moving her again and so he just sat and watched looked out the window while the movers were there, not even keeping an eye on them, and my mother wasn’t feeling well so we moved her into this new place and we had met with the nurse and I told her the issues that we were having so my mother got sick the first day we got there and announced to us the nurse had resigned the day that we moved in so another day goes by and I ask one of the caregivers if they could please take her temperature and they said no, we can’t do that we don’t have a thermometer on the property somebody stole ours and I’m like oh my God you only have one. Oh Jesus so the next day I’m at home and I called dispatch health to see if they’ll go check on her and they said let’s give her a call so we called her and we could barely hear her and the lady from the dispatch house said you need to call an ambulance right away and get her into the hospital so I did they went picked her up and by the time I got to the hospital one of the nurses was sobbing and I’m like what what’s going on and she’s like your mother she’s an angel and I go. Yeah I know what’s wrong And she goes I don’t know if she’s gonna make it. She had pneumonia and it was so bad that she went septic and they didn’t think she was gonna make it through the night but she did and she was in the hospital for two weeks and then she had to go on IV antibiotics for seven weeks and the place she was only up for two days doesn’t do IVs, so they discharged her from the hospital to Rehab facility out on Monaco and we were in Lakewood so she goes out to that place. I asked my brother to please get all of her meds and check them in at the new place while he didn’t do that so I get over there and there’s there’s people wandering around in the lobby screaming and rocking back-and-forth and and there’s no when you call for one of the caregivers there’s no sound so they look up on the wall like a waitress would for her number when her order is ready They have to look up and see if any of the lights are on on any of the rooms and whatever room is lit up there they’re needing help but if they don’t look up, they have no idea and it’s way up at the top towards the ceiling and the back of a hallway. It’s so crazy so my mom is not is incontinent as well and nobody was coming to help her so I would have to go over there and change her and bathe her and change her sheets and one time I’m changing her sheets in the caregiver stood there, talking to me while I change the sheets lol telling me that she has no idea what she’s doing. she’s an accountant I’m like please don’t tell me that lol anyway, her meds went missing again and then that rehab facility discharged her three weeks early back to the place that she got sick at that doesn’t do IVs so they tried to show me how to do it and there was no IV pole so I had to hang her bag on a hanger and hang it from her bed and I said I am so not comfortable with us. I mean people go to school a really long time to learn how to do this and I don’t want to do this and so I told my mom I loved her but I was gonna have to send her back to the hospital so she said that’s OK honey I understand so I send her back to the hospital she was in there for four more days and they discharged her back to the rehab facility that had just discharged her. It’s so crazy so anyway She finished her IV antibiotics and the facility that she was up for two days that they discharged her to and and didn’t do. IVs told me that they did not want her back because her level of care had increased too much and I said it was just IV antibiotic. She’s not on them now and they wouldn’t accept her back so before she discharged from that rehab facility we had to find another assisted living facility so we found a residential assisted living, which was new a new concept for us I had made my brother go out and look with toured every single assisted living in Denver and but he hasn’t. He was just leaving that up to me so I made him look at a couple, and he looked at some that had cement walls and ceilings, and one little closet and he was like oh my God no I got I know it’s you have to it’s not as easy finding a place as you think and we want to make sure that it’s appropriate so anyway we found this assisted-living residential place so my mother went from a two bedroom apartment to a bedroom And they charged us $12,600 a month for a bedroom and what she got served for dinner was baked beans and chicken nuggets or salad. The caregiver that worked during the day her and her husband lived in the basement the owners owned six of these houses here in Denver. There was nine people at this house, and it was a nice house, but what they would do is Wake my mom up and have her walk 1015 feet to a chair and put her in front of the TV all day long and that was it. They had an activities Director that I saw maybe four times and the first six months they lost three people three people died and so I texted the owner one night asking her what the heck was going on over there because we come from a place that has three or 400 people and in 10 years maybe lost four people my mom‘s been there for six months and there’s only nine of them and they lost three And she said to me in a text well I understand death is hard for a lot of people to accept but that’s what happens in hospice and I go hospice. Oh that’s another thing so when they wanted to put my mom in hospice back at the place downtown and I said no and moved her out. I looked back through and the narcotic count sheets for that period of time and they had stopped giving her her Ritalin. She’s on Ritalin. She takes Ritalin three times a day, and they had stopped giving it to her but yet they were filling out the narcotic count sheet as if they were giving it to her for three months And that’s why she was sleeping but they wanted to move her into hospice and I thought wow I wonder if they’re doing that to other people you know not giving them their meds and so their bodies start to shut down and so they recommend their own hospice or memory care, and that’s more money, and then they create a new revenue stream by renting out there Apartments again and I thought no that’s really reaching so at the place that we got kicked out of on the golf course. I became friends with the head of the dining room because she and I used to be flight attendants together for American 20 years ago and she told me one day she said melissa you wouldn’t believe the amount of people they’ve been moving into memory care and I go really she goes. Oh it’s so sad and I go. Oh my God that’s what they’re doing. I was thinking about the other place so anyway The owner of this place says that’s what happens in hospice and hospice. My mom is not in hospice I go your science is assisted-living your paperwork says assisted-living. We just had a care meeting and you never mentioned anything about hospice and none of our doctors are on a hospice regimen. She’s not in hospice and she goes well yes melissa that’s what we do. We specialize in end-of-life care And I was like oh my God so they’re not giving her meds and her body shutting down is that what’s happening so I started doing med counts and taking pictures and her pain doctor prescribes her oxy they gave her a urine and she ended up with a drug in her system. That’s not on her drug list that when combined with oxycodone is lethal, and so That can be explained then then one day I walked in and this is about a urine because she was there for year and a half and my mom and one other resident or ambulatory one of the residents that was not only ambulant ambulatory, but paralyzed from the neck down She had a black eye she had stitches above. Her eye in the whole side of her face was black and blue and I was like oh my God what happened to Victoria? They told me she fell out of bed that night. OK I turn around and the other another resident who is who walks around she’s got a black guy and I oh my God what happened to Dot and they said she fell out of bed and then I turn around in the third lady that’s in a wheelchair has a broken arm and I’m like oh my God what happened to Billy she fell out of bed three people at the same time fell out of bed so I was like oh my God two of those three people are not here anymore the time that my mother was there any year and a half they lost seven people seven and I started getting really nervous that my mom was going to be next and I got really sick over there over right before Christmas and I was complaining to the owner and all of a sudden they tell me that my mom has Covid and I said OK so what do you do for people with Covid well the nurse they have a nurse that comes and does rounds and they call her a doctor. There is no doctor on staff at this place Even ask them, so do you do what happens in a fire I mean do you do fire drills or oh yeah, we do them once a month we have to OK. I’ve never seen them do a fire drill. I never saw them give my mother any medication either and that’s what really started getting me concerned I saw the caregivers packing up their cars with people who passed away with their and the owner not professional take that with that the lady she drove around a brand new Corvette. The husband drove around the brand new huge truck, so she said the nurse put her on something some kind of Covid medicine medicine so the next day I asked if she got started on it and she said no we went ahead and gave everybody a Z-Pak and I go my mom sounds really congested and she needs to be seen immediately because she is predisposed for pneumonia, and the owner says no The nurse isn’t gonna be going out there because there’s an active Covid case and I got oh my God I go off I need to make sure she doesn’t get pneumonia and that I’ll check in on her for you the next day. I asked how my mom was doing and nothing I received no response. The next day was Christmas I said merry Christmas. Have you checked on my mom she responded with merry Christmas that was it so the next day I said that’s it. I’m calling an ambulance so I called an ambulance and They told me that they had just done a chest x-ray on her and I asked why nobody told me that, but I sent her to the hospital anyway and sure enough my mother had pneumonia. She was dehydrated and her kidney functions had gone through the roof because of her dehydration, I said that’s it she’s not going back my brother was beside himself. He said I’m not helping you at all I said that’s OK. I had to move my mother out of her second floor, two bedroom apartment at the place where she got pneumonia last time I’ll buy myself into a U-Haul. It took me two times when I went back to the facility on the golf course to finish moving out the rest of the stuff they hated me so much they locked up all the Bell carts so I had to string together, wheelchairs to move her stuff out and a trashcan on wheels. I used as well and then I couldn’t get my trunk closed one time so I had to go to lost and found and tie. It closed with a sweater I mean it’s just been a ridiculous journey anyway so this time my mom is in Highlands Ranch Hospital she’s there for a week and they discharge her to a rehab facility in Lafayette and I have made the decision to bring her home. I’ve just had it with these places and the only thing is if she couldn’t fit into the bathroom with her walker so I said that’s OK I’m gonna remodel the bathroom real quick. I’ll be done by Thanksgiving and she she’ll be home Well she still up in Lafayette today. Her insurance kicked her out of the rehab two days after she got there when she was supposed to be there for three weeks giving me three weeks to get the bathroom done yeah, no two days later so they were gracious enough to let her move into their assisted-living upstairs from their rehab. Well now I have structural I’m in a 1956 home And doing this bathroom I’m pretty far in but now I’ve created I’ve found all kinds of stuff wrong with this house, so I have a structural engineer coming out tomorrow to look at the foundation. Meanwhile, my mother also has dementia and all of this moving is not been good and I understand that, but I’m just trying to get her the best care possible and I have an in-home care agency lined up to help me when I bring her home but I don’t know how I’m gonna get her home and that’s my story so far so I am so frustrated with everything that I have enrolled in a prep course for the LSAT I’ve been talking with DU law and I plan on Starting my schooling for my JD degree in the fall of 2025 and like I said I will be specializing in elder care because for one I’m gonna be very relatable by the time I graduate I will be 61 years old when I graduate but wanna make sure that I’m not gonna get treated like this and We’re gonna need me. I’m gonna make sure that some changes happen I talk to a lawyer about all of this. Oh the DA dropped me just like a hot potato never returned any of my calls. Once I moved my mom I couldn’t believe it so yeah we definitely need to change and people should not be able to get away with anything close to what we’ve been through And there’s even more issues at the place that she’s at now I mean somethings gotta change and that’s my story pretty much the whole thing I left some stuff out it was like a domino affect and she just never was able to get back to normal. We tried to keep her at home ySo after being at one facility for 7/years, I became more involved with her care due to my personal life changing and that’s when I started noticing discrepancies in her medications. She is prescribed roughly 35 different medications and is dosed 5x a day. Yes it’s a lot.,she suffers from a multitude of issues from mental health to physical.

Elder abuse is rampant and it’s not just in facilities it’s even at home kids taking advantage of their elderly parents or you know neglecting them and spending their money. I was driving around one of my father‘s friends who is 98 years old and he’s getting ready to drill an oil well lol and he’s jumping in and out of my car on the way to Nebraska at these farms looking at drilling equipment Because he’s very thrifty so he’s buying used equipment. He’s so funny but he was living by himself and his son lives in Washington and they just found him wandering on Valentine’s Day. I just found that out today and so the sun came out and packed them up and moved them out to Washington in the last three days And I was heartbroken and her son, his son hired some neighbor to go through all of the house and get rid of everything and I don’t even know if the guy remembers what was in his house he didn’t he but he told me today on the phone that he’s coming back to run the Boulder Boulder lol so More power to him but it’s everywhere and people turn a blind eye to it because they’re not there they’re not at that stage in their life and they’re gonna be, and they better start paying attention because it’s terrible right now, and if you don’t have an advocate, you’re at the mercy of these corporations and of these people that are in the wrong positions as far as career goes a lot of them. Are there some good ones but the good ones are overworked and taken advantage of and they end up quitting

My hope for the future is to create communities of support and giving advocates or families more rights to hold these places accountable, and to keep them from taking advantage or neglecting or doing anything that is inappropriate or you wouldn’t do to anyone I mean the stuff that I have seen you wouldn’t do to an enemy much less you’re an elderly person People can add so much to offer and everything that they’ve seen all the changes that they’ve experienced over their lifetime can add so much value to our society or community or nation or world and I would like to see programs implemented where they are a part of what’s going on people act like they’re already dead and they’re not they’re many are lucid even the ones that aren’t lucid still have something to offer we can’t just throw them away when they reach you know 70 years old my God that only gives me a few years left lol but we can harness some really good power. We can harness some great ideas we can harness some lessons we can harness some thinking out of the box or going back to basics type styles of approaching our problems are our community problems or who knows they’re so many there’s so much potential that , our elderly can do for our communities that were not paying attention to and we’re not taking advantage of and and I hope to be a huge piece of change for all of this for all of us and I hope my story makes some people pay pay attention to what’s happening and want to want to see this change and there’s plenty of revenue streams. You don’t have to make revenue streams out of peoples death or such extremes. There’s plenty of revenue streams to support a community. I’m even thinking about turning my house into a residential assisted living for me and my friends so I know where I’m gonna be going, and I know it’s going to be good care because I’ll hire everybody you know I even know if people that are buying land and creating communities for all their friends for when they get older some ladies out in Oklahoma. I mean that’s a great idea to get it all set up now you know make some gardens and have it self sustaining and my son tells me all the time I can I can build a granny pad out here you and grandma can come stay at my place where he lives, and I just think that’s so sweet .

I also took care of my father before he passed away eight years ago by myself and I work I had to stay home and I didn’t realize hospice only came an hour a day, and when I researched in-home care agencies, it was gonna cost us $1 million a year and I was like it’s OK. Dad don’t worry about it all. I’ll stay here and it was, an amazing time because it gave me time to make amends and it gave me time to talk with him and tell him how much I was going to miss him and I really had no idea how much I was gonna miss him. I miss him every single day, but You know there’s gotta be some thing that we can design. They can keep people at home but not put such a strain on the family or I don’t know I just know that there’s so much potential and it right now it’s archaic. It’s like an orphanage where these people are and nobody , the staff and most of the staff is not there because of the job they’re there because of the paycheck and when you’re working with people that’s not that’s not how it should be can’t just fill positions to be filled so you can get your tax credits or whatever that should be illegal or enforced something that residential assisted living to she was certify her own caregivers as QMAP. I watched her son one time the lady that was paralyzed pick her up. She was slumped over in her wheelchair at the dinner table. I saw him pick her up by her head I mean , it’s just ridiculous. What happens in these places and I’m not really sure how much I can share. I probably should’ve shared all that but people need to know because I was gonna report them. I haven’t reported them yet because I literally just moved my mother out of that place again by myself with a U-Haul at midnight , not even a week ago so I just haven’t had time. I have a lot of other issues going on in my life but I’m bringing my mom home. Yes use me all you want because like I said, I’m determined to make a change in all of this, but I’m not gonna graduate until 2028 lol and if I can be a catalyst for change now, I’m in! I also saved every single text from the owner of the last facility so you can how self-absorbed and felt like she was un-touchable. Really, that’s how many of them acted, like they were untouchable. And little did I know they currently are. I was also wondering if the Governor was involved somehow in the desires of the communities to keep families from their loved ones and from monitoring their health and medication management on purpose because if some of the mandates he was enacting at the time which didn’t fit the environment. And please remind me to tell you what happened during Covid when the facility left the front door unlocked, when my mother would get her oxygen delivered by a man who would not be escorted into her room while she was sleeping numerous times, how my mom watched a caregiver stealing her silverware and wanting a nanny cam and my brother and I blowing it off thibkjbig she was going crazy! Hurts my heart I did that. If their store stories sound off the wall, they’re probably true and we believe the children we need to believe our elderly too. Thank you for wanting to hear my story.

I am a 62 yo disabled woman in Kingston, Ok. I own 2 1/2 acres with my house and mine and Mom's old house. My mother was my sole caregiver most of my life. Until she was beaten to death in Madill, Ok. nursing home In 2017. After that my family was torn apart leaving me alone. But I was fine until October of 2021 when strangers come to my property and just moved in to my old home without my permission. I told them on day one they were trespassing and to get off of my private property but they stayed and and immediately began stealing my electric and water. I called the sheriff and APS and they came right out and he told me he knew them and they cook meth but he lost track of them! I told him to please make them leave! But I never heard from them again! There were 4 men, a woman and 2 children. The woman's name is Tiffany Broadhead and I wasn't afraid of the men so much but she truly is a psychopath and on researching I found her name was even on a gov watchlist. And her sister is a now an under sheriff in my my county! As time went on they would punish me every time I made them mad like move my trash can and/or use it so I couldn't. They got my OGE acct that I've had for 40 years and opened me a new one and I had no idea, it took me months to figure it out and it's still not fixed! I had to pay a 1000.00 oge bill one month! I can't afford all this! They rigged the electric box stealing mine first and that caused damage to my home so half the electric in my home has been off ever since. I couldn't get oge to understand and I've been locked out of my acct. to this day! Some months later I got a new bill with a new acct and had to pay that thousand dollar bill. I did find out her sister was a jailer! Everything just got worse from there because my brain shut down and I had a water leak and didn't know it so my home is now destroyed so I have to move because of mold and my rare lung disease and heart failure. There's so much more and one man was still here till a couple weeks ago. But not one person in DHS or APS would help me and it's been over a year and I don't understand! I have 3 notebooks of notes and would only converse with them by texts and took pics of everything! Tiffany was jailed a few months back for assult! Her sister was also just bumped up to undersheriff. And because of how I've been treated something smells there too! I went to college in aeronautical engineering so I'm not stupid! Just old and disabled and now severely abused and mad as hell! Please consider helping me. All the stress has made my heart failure so much worse and I know it can't be fixed. Thank you for your time! I'm scared to death to leave my home but I must because my pharmacy just will not deliver my meds anymore and post traumatic stress makes it impossible for me to go outside. I no longer believe that I'm in my USA because I can't fathom what in the world I'm supposed to do because these people felt entitled and my home is destroyed and no one will HELP ME!!!!!!!
Thank you!
Jackie Oliver
580-564-7555
9746 Rattler Ridge, Kingston, OK. 73439

That I'm on SSI and I own my that's paid for but now has to be demolished because of mold! And I just do not understand why my government has allowed it because I've been screaming at the top of my lungs for help for over a year! And now I'll have to find a place to live and the government will have to help me when I owned my own home! They were trespassers and should have been removed from my property the day I call the sheriff! I'm not even sure this world is worth kiving in anymore if people are allowed to do this to me here! I'm not safe anywhere!

That it's devastating to my life and my health and my home!

That the people who done this to me goes to prison!!!!!

I know I do not have much more time on this earth solely because of the severe psychological and financial abuse I endured for over a year while no one would help me! So not only did they steal my land and property, they stold my life! Just like my mother and my sole caretaker who was murdered in the Madill Oklahoma nusing home in 2017 and the same sheriff that wouldn't help me also refused to investigate her death, her murder! Something is seriously wrong here and you couldn't prove to me that I am living in the USA if you tried!!!

My mother was admitted to an LTAC (Long Term Acute Care Hospital) in early June 2015 from complications that occurred after her bypass surgery on May 18th, 2015. She was on a ventilator and had wounds on both of her legs, her stomach, and her chest. She was also on dialysis for acute renal failure which can happen after bypass surgery. The wounds on her legs were from the leg compression devices used during surgery which left water blisters on her legs. She had a wound vac on her stomach after having to have part of her colon removed after it perforated after her bypass surgery. It left her with a colostomy.
Mom had health issues before the bypass surgery including diabetes, COPD, and peripheral artery disease. All of these played a role in the post-surgical complications that mom endured. None of these are what caused her death.

During mom's stay at the LTAC, she was denied food, fluids, therapies, and proper care. All my brother and I heard from the nurses, doctors and even administrators was to put mom in hospice. That isn't what mom wanted. When we made complaints, they tried to tell us that we were crazy or that we couldn't accept what was happening with our mother. Mom was transferred to the LTAC from the post-surgical unit of the hospital where she had her surgery. She was doing well while in the post-surgical unit despite her complications. They had given her a trach so she could eat and drink after passing her swallow test. They had her sitting up in the patient chair and she was even doing her crosswords, word finds, and signing her own paperwork. I have pictures of her two days before her transfer to the LTAC. After her transfer, we had to sign her transfer papers. For some reason, they wouldn't let her sign them. She had been there for two days before we could visit and they had continued the care she received before her transfer. My brother signed them and then went to her room to see her. He wasn't in there but maybe five minutes before a nurse came in and took mom's tray (while she was eating) and put NPO on the door. That was June 12, 2015. Mom wouldn't get her tray of food back until July 4th, 2015. That's how long it took my brother and me to figure out what to do. Neither one of us had ever dealt with anything like this before. I had already called every attorney I could find with no help. I even called the state attorney's office, the hospital abuse hotline, the health department, etc., and could not get any assistance from anyone. Calling to report elder abuse to social services never even occurred to me and no one that I called even mentioned it to me.
Here is a list of things they did to mom during her stay there:
They restrained her wrists to the bed using straps. They would leave her like that for an unknown amount of time. Every time we went to visit we would remove the restraints. There was no one in the room with her while she was restrained and there was no reason for her to be restrained. They would always tell us it was for her own good.
They clipped mom's fingernails down to the quick. She always had beautiful normal length nails. Again no explanation for them cutting her nails that short.
The RN's lied to us when we called to check in on her. We lived hours away from where she was hospitalized. One RN told us that mom had opened her stomach wound (which was on wound vac). Mom didn't and wouldn't do that.
They told us that mom was incoherent but she had numerous conversations with us either writing things to us or whispering to us. Mom had a trach so her voice was gone. She always complained she was hungry and thirsty. We begged the hospital (even the CEO) to give her food tray back. She was on a liquid diet and there was no reason to take it away. They tried to tell us she had stomach issues when she didn't.
They had her as DNR when she wasn't.
Eventually, I fired the doctor that was on her case originally. He didn't even know that she was female and kept referring to her as him. He had lied to us numerous times and during the time I was staying there with mom, he never once came into her room to assess her or anything.
July 3, 2015 a new doctor came on. He assessed mom and the first words out of his mouth were that she was very malnourished and dehydrated. Her wounds, all of them were infected. She had a pressure sore on her back that was also infected.
There is so much that happened that I can't tell everything here. After the new doctor came on, mom was off the ventilator within a week. He had to put a feeding tube down her nose for a few days until she passed another swallow test and eventually made it to eating mechanical food. Within a month she was off dialysis and her kidneys were functioning again. She eventually was transferred to the regular hospital. Her wounds were slowly getting better except for her legs and feet. Her feet were black from blood flow loss and her legs eventually turned gangrene and had to be amputated. If she had received proper care during her entire stay at the LTAC her story might have turned out differently. They had weakened her body with starvation/dehydration. Three days after her double amputation surgery she went into respiratory distress and had to be put back on the ventilator. She was in the ICU again. When she finally became stable she gave up. She was tired of fighting.
She had fought sepsis three times and had numerous other infections during her stay at LTAC. With the malnourishment, she had another small heart attack after having triple bypass surgery weeks before. She almost died several times during their care and they weakened her to the point that she gave up.

I wish I had known more about it then. I always heard about elder abuse/neglect in nursing homes but never expected it from a hospital setting. When my brother first told me he suspected they were starving our mother I didn't believe him. I told him that they couldn't or wouldn't do that. I didn't even know who to call to get help and those I did call never told me who to call to get help. This LTAC has done what it did to my mother and too many other patients. I couldn't even get an attorney to talk to my mother while she was alive. I now have PTSD from the whole experience. I stayed a month in the hospital with my mom 24/7. I now distrust hospitals, doctors, and nurses which have interfered with my own health.

I want people to realize that abuse/neglect can happen to their loved ones even in the hospital. Stay vigilant in your loved ones' care. It shouldn't be allowed to happen and most of those who have done it, are protected.

I've tried reaching out to the media in regard to what happened to my mother. She isn't the only victim of an LTAC. No one listens to her story. I have written blogs about it, even when it occurred. It's sad that so many in the medical field get away with abusing and neglecting those they're supposed to care for. Things need to change. This LTAC also deletes negative reviews (there have been quite a few) from their FB page and other sites. I want others to know my mom's story. She was important and her story is important. It could help save others.

Sis s plan poa trustee exe 5000 acre farm sold 2million farm machinery household house farm changed will took caddy she is tak n 50000000 in property need help real evil person

HELP

I am 64 on disability yes my health is going down hill mental to I have complex PTSD.I have a trustee that committed fraud did not do roof replacement that insurance company gave him check.Now I am living in toxic mold mycotoxin home pets died I am next lost everything.hired lawyer took money did nothing.

My life life and reason to live life been destroyed I have no family so easy take advantage of I pray God I don't wake up in morning.i am tired of have my rights laws to protect me denied I did nothing wrong rule of law is a joke

That there is bad lawyers greedy lying don't care about life cruel and inhumane treatment of people that don't have recorces fight back there life has no value and gov adult protective services is a joke to don't care it's sad evil is in charge humans are few believe in good truth .

I have no future I am going to be homeless

When does rule of law apply to elders like me I have tons evidence didn't matter