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Hacked computer. Nearly cost us thousands of dollars.

Received a pop-up notice allegedly from Apple (Apple does NOT send these) stating that my computer was hacked. The notice told me to call a rep. The rep gave his full name and false Apple ID number. (Real Apple reps don't do that). He suggested my bank account may have also been hacked. He asked me to give the toll-free bank member service number, which I did. (Golden 1 Credit Union). He said he would transfer me to a customer service rep at the bank. The person who answered was NOT a customer service rep. He told me my checking account had been hacked for more than $15,000. He said the only way to stop it was to withdraw $15,000 from my account and await further instructions. Fortunately, by that time, I got suspicious. So I visited my branch and talked to the manager. He agreed that this was a scam. I gave the names of the fraudulent agents and their phone numbers to the FTC.

My parents live together in their marital home. My father has Parkinson's Disease. My mother has a high school education, but it appears that she might have had a learning disability when it comes to language and math skills.

My parents have been the victims of financial exploitation twice. The first time my father clicked on something on the computer which allowed the scammers to take over his computer. He provided them with gift cards to "fix the problem with the computer".

The second time my mother was contacted by phone. The scammers told her that their IP address had been used to look at porn in other countries and that the FBI was investigating them. They told my parents not to tell anyone because if they did whoever they told might be in danger. They told my parents their financial information had been compromised and they would be sending them a check ledger. My mother bought over $12,000 in gift cards and provided those numbers to the scammers.
My mother has gone back to work at 73 as a school bus driver due to the financial damage this scam did to her and my father. My father is a retired federal employee. He is 81 years old. He took early retirement at the age of 55. This second round of financial exploitation has caused them significant financial harm.

Elder abuse, neglect and fraud are horrible actions. The perpetrators prey on vulnerable adults. All forms of elder abuse are horrific. Exploitation or fraud might only appear to affect a person financially, but it does affect them emotionally. There are feelings of embarrassment, shame, self doubt, and other negative thoughts.

My hope is that the Federal Government recognizes the importance of funding adult protective services programs across the US and its territories. This is to respond to adult abuse, neglect and exploitation, as well as educate the public about these horrific acts. Adults deserve to live a life of dignity and respect.

My daughter sold my home in Pocatello, Idaho. I was not ready to do that, and I did need some help. I had surgery in Salt Lake, I had my leg amputated. Shortly after, I just needed somebody to be with me till I got over that awful pain. She said I gotta leave, and I said Leslie, find me somebody to help, and she sold my home. She rented me a place. It's not my home!

She made me sign, but I didn't want to sell my home. I was scared to be alone. Then she took me with her to Salem, and then I stayed with my son in California. I was comfortable, but I always wanted to come back home. Now I can take care of myself, I walk with a walker and I can drive.

I want them to know your own family can do this to you! I never dreamed my child could do this to me.
I wish I would have called my doctor or someone else in town at that time. I don't know if there's some way to prepare so this wouldn't happen.

My funds are dwindling and I want to have her pay for the rest to get my home back. I want her charged with something. I want to be able to live at home and spend time in the garden.

Three days before Christmas of 2023, I signed for a certified legal letter with a threat to evict me unless I complied with certain conditions dictated by my son-in-law and daughter. They own this run-down casita that I have called home since 2021. I immediately replied to the threat by citing legal precedent and sending their attorney a copy of the checks that I contributed toward the purchase of this property. I assured their lawyer that I would contest any formal eviction myself in a court of law. Soon this esquire informed me that he no longer represented my family. At the time, I was 70 years old with no husband or income other than social security.

It should be noted that my only child was born out of conflict, not love. I fornicated with a cruel and creative man because I was homeless; I could not abort. The father of my child was pathological with money–a trait he passed on to his only child and so much more insidious than the beautiful blue eyes she inherited from him. My daughter insisted that if I did not vacate this casita voluntarily, that no landlord would ever rent to me again. Her attempt to play into my biggest fear–homelessness–was also a form of abuse perpetrated with malicious intent in my humble opinion.

During the pandemic, I contributed a large portion of my savings toward the purchase of this historic property in Silver City. An agreement was made in good faith–I would reside in the smallest dwelling place. However, when I finally set foot into that tiny space, I realized it would feel as if I were confined to a prison cell. I opted to spend the final chapter of my life in a three-room casita on this property built in 1877. Initially this was acceptable, but greed surfaced. A source of contention was my survival after my second heart surgery in 2021. My daughter asked me what I believe to have been an abusive question: “What if you live another 20 years?” I assured her that I didn’t have the money or desire to live into extreme old age. Unsatisfied, she persisted: “But what if you do?”

Despite having no criminal history, it was decided that I can no longer have contact with my only grandchild. I believe this is a form of punishment for not complying with their demands. The structures on this land are high maintenance, in constant need of repair. The resident handyman yelled, cursed and raised his hand at me in a threatening gesture. My family refused to evict or run a criminal background check on him. Eventually this angry man yelled at an 80-year-old Air B and B cleaner working on this property. Appalled and concerned for our safety, I then decided to file a complaint against Handy-Andy with the local police. Was my son-in-law's refusal to evict/background check this verbally abusive worker elder abuse? You decide.

My hope for the future is to live out the rest of my life without ever being homeless again.

I am reaching out to bring awareness to the heartbreaking story of my grandmother Margaret Jennings, a beloved mother who was betrayed by three of her own children over money and property. Despite winning her legal battle in Jennings v. Jennings, No.
B327268 (Cal. Ct. App. Dec. 28, 2023), justice remains incomplete. Her children were found guilty of fraud and financial elder abuse, yet they refused to pay what they owed, instead choosing to wait for her to pass.

Margaret spent the last years of her life grieving the loss of her children-not through death, but through their own abandonment. They never sought forgiveness, never attempted to make things right. And now, after ignoring her for over five years, they want control over her funeral arrangements which is being held March 4th, 2025.

Even in death, her fight for justice continues. Margaret's attorneys have been unable to locate one of the defendants to serve her, delaying the accountability she deserved. Elder abuse is a silent epidemic, and Margaret's story is proof of how the legal system often fails to fully protect victims.

This is not just about Margaret-it is about every vulnerable elder who is financially exploited by those they trust most. We need to shed light on her story to prevent this from happening to others. I would love to discuss this further and provide any necessary documentation, including court records and personal testimonies.
Please help us bring justice to Margaret Jennings and raise awareness about elder financial abuse. Let's make sure her story is heard.
Thank you for your time and consideration.

My grandmother died with a broken heart a day before her birthday

02/14/26-2/13/2025

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There should be something in place where elders no matter their financial status can have resources and help

As a retiree of an agency that investigated abuse and neglect of person's with disabilities, the multitude of stories regarding elders and the disabled populations are endless. It is amazing how many people know about abuses, but not how to report or proceed with assisting. Since retiring a year ago and returning part-time to the agency, I work in a role that involves program monitoring. Doing listening sessions throughout the state revealed that an unusually high number of people don't know that an agency exist to help elders and disabled going through such situations. Allegations consist of physical abuse, sexual abuse, exploitation, extortion, and neglect.

Although people like to be shielded from hearing the reality of the hurt and pain that our revered, who deserves our deepest respect, are enduring - it might benefit society to be more open in that there might be more assistance provided to protect, prevent, and help in the recovery of abuses. So many victims suffer in silence as the heartbreaking fact of the matter is that the abuses are, many times, committed by close family members. Societal and cultural beliefs can often determine a person's position on letting another family member - let alone law enforcement and the like - know about what is occurring. As in the issue of Child Protective Services programs, the victim may be further abuse by threats from the perpetrator should the victim report. Children feel further abused by being removed from their home; leaving their school; leaving the family pet(s); being ostracized by family; feeling sneered at by others who might know the situation; etc. The same applies to the adult population. Also, sad as it might be, it is not guaranteed that those who receive certain reports will handle the matter correctly and not make the situation worse. The hard truth of the matter is that there needs to be an offer of resources to the victim that will create positive permanency that just might not exist. Whereas, the victim may be left in the physical care of the accused. Advocacy of the highest level is a must.

I wish that people understood that it does not take a scholar to determine that someone's needs are not being met and that this include medical, nutrition, shelter, emotional, financial, etc. Knowing when and whom to report is key. Turning a blind eye does not make the situation better. Some - including me - may find empathizing and placing themselves in the same situation. To effectuate a change can often be as simple as determining how would you want yourself or a loved-one to be treated? Would you appreciate someone walking away if it was your mother? Would you be happy to hear that the alleged victim died due to something that you could have reported? You do not have to have a "Holier than though" attitude to submit to decency and love for your fellow brethren.

Ultimately, it is not being realistic that we will live in a utopia of euphoria. However, I'm hopeful that we will put more effort into taking care of our less fortunate devoid race, religion, aesthetics, financial status, etc. This would involved city, county, state, federal participation. If we could revisit yesteryear when it took a village to make this thing called life work, I believe that it would make our existence so much better.

As I work in an agency whose policies involve designated employees to speak to media, I cannot talk to such groups. With agency permission, I can advocate for the agency by being a part of a panel, presentation, and the like.

My 90 year old Mother started to experience elder neglect after my brother contracted with Homewatch Caregivers of Beachwood, OH in May 2023. I noticed the neglect when a caregiver rushed out of my Mother's home after answering her questions on her phone and after she clocked out on her phone. We had put my Mother in her wheelchair and brought her to the dining room table, but she wouldn't even help me put my Mother back into her bed after my Mother finished eating her meal. I had to have assistance from my brother and from my aunt even though my Mother was paying for the services from Homewatch Caregivers. I experienced more issues with the caregivers. The caregivers were immature and unprofessional. One caregiver talked about her problems with her boyfriend. Another caregiver talked on the phone too much. She talked to someone about the problems that he was giving her friend who had children. It was extremely unprofessional for them to talk on the phone when they were getting paid to take care of my Mother. A girl lit a candle in the living room because she didn't like the smell of the dirty wipes and the dirty diapers in the trash basket near my Mother's bed. All she had to do was get out of the chair and remove the trash in the basket. She and the other girls did not remove the trash, did not do laundry or perform other job duties until I asked them to perform their job duties. Another girl would eat dinner and do things on her phone instead of removing the trash, instead of doing laundry and instead of checking my Mother's diaper due to her incontinence issues. All of the caregivers fell asleep during their shifts except for one caregiver. I called the agency to complain that the caregivers were sleeping overnight during their overnight shifts. The woman who I spoke with at Homewatch Caregivers never rectified the problems. The caregivers still fell asleep overnight when they assured me that they would wake up to take care of my Mother. They even told me that they would wake me up when I told them that they should wake me up so that we could take care of my Mother together. My Mother had dementia, sleep apnea, congestive heart failure, chronic kidney disease and a pressure ulcer. There was a wound doctor's order to reposition my Mother every 2 hours and to check my Mother's diaper due to her incontinence issues. The caregivers neglected my Mother because they fell asleep instead of keeping a close watch over my Mother and instead of attending to her many health issues. On June 2, 2023 a caregiver who I did not like arrived for the 9:00 p.m. shift one hour early, but she could barely keep her eyes open. She was substituting for the original caregiver who was scheduled for the 9:00 p.m. shift. We changed my Mother's diaper and repositioned my Mother when she arrived. I was tired and I was resting in another room. She was supposed to keep an extremely close watch over my Mother as well as check her diaper continuously. The caregiver called me into the living room sometime before 11:30 p.m. I saw that my Mother was unconscious on the floor next to her bed. I said to the caregiver "I thought you were watching her." She said "I was but." I called 911. The caregiver would not tell me what happened. She was withholding extremely important information from me. She was keeping a secret from me. The EMS took my Mother to the hospital. My Mother died one hour later in the emergency room. When I called the owner of the home care agency he asked the caregiver what happened because I wanted answers and an explanation. She told him that my Mother had gathered the strength to get up on her own and by the time she got there she couldn't prevent her from falling. I was disgusted that the owner told me that he thought that my Mother had gathered the strength to get up and then she fell. That is elderly neglect. The woman was paid to keep my Mother clean, safe and comfortable. The woman was sitting in a chair next to my Mother's bed. My Mother had been laying in the bed. The woman should have prevented my Mother from falling off the bed. That was her job. I was disgusted by the woman's remark "That was her last bm." I think that there is a liklihood that the woman dropped my Mother carelessly. The woman was untrustworthy, selfish and inconsiderate. The owner of the agency sent an unqualified woman to take care of my Mother and to help me. I believe that she was not trained properly on how to take care of an elderly woman with dementia and with health issues. I called the owner to file a complaint, but he will not return my phone calls.

I could not file a complaint about the elderly neglect with the Ohio Department of Health because the ODH holds the license over Homewatch Caregivers of Beachwood, OH but when the legislation when into place the state of Ohio did not give ODH the authority to investigate Homewatch Caregivers. The agency is not Medicare certified, and someone told me that my Mother did not have Medicaid. I could not file a complaint with Medicare because Medicare doesn't investigate private pay home care agencies. I could not complain that the caregivers were neglecting my 90 year old Mother who had died. I could not complain that the caregivers were not supervising my Mother appropriately. I could not complain that they were not attending to the needs of my Mother. I believe that the caregivers were not trained properly to take care of a 90 year old woman who had dementia, sleep apnea, congestive heart failure, chronic kidney disease and a pressure ulcer. I feel that the owner did not inform the caregivers of my Mother's serious health issues. I haven't found a lawyer who will take the case because I was not power of attorney and because the death certificate shows a natural cause of death, congestive heart failure. The caregiver told the EMS that my Mother fell off the bed, but I don't know if the ER physicians knew that my Mother fell off the bed. My Mother had a DNR order so there were no xrays or cat scans. I have to call Adult Protective Services Collaborative for an investigation to take place. This is what I have to do if I want to get the answers to my questions. This is what I have to do if I want to have my complaints heard. I have to report the elderly neglect after my Mother died if I want an investigation because of elderly neglect by the caregivers who worked for Homewatch Caregivers in Beachwood, OH. The owner should take responsibility for his role in the neglect. He did not fix the problems with the caregivers when I addressed the issues. The owner should take responsibilty for sending untrained and unqualified individuals to take care of my Mom. They neglected my Mother while they were being paid to supervise my Mother and to keep an extremely close watch over my Mother due to her health issues. I want to be able to file a complaint with the home care agency even though I was not power of attorney. I should be able to get my questions answered. I should be able to get my questions answered by the owner of the home care agency. I love my Mother. I should be taken seriously because I am a concerned daughter. I will always be my Mother's daughter. I will always love my Mother. It should be easier for a concerned daughter to get her questions answered because her Mother was neglected by paid caregivers. I know that I have
the right to find out the details regarding the elderly neglect incident that happened on June 2, 2023 before my Mother died.

Elderly neglect is an extremely important issue that more people should be aware of. Elderly neglect is more common than people think. Adult children should be aware of elderly neglect. Adult children should be prepared to encounter elderly neglect if their parents are taken care of by caregivers that are paid to supervise them and to help them. Elder abuse and elderly neglect must be reported immediately. The lives of the elderly and the lives of the disabled must be protected. Elderly individuals and disabled individuals deserve love, support and respect. Their lives matter. People that abuse and neglect the elderly and disabled individuals must be held accountable for their actions. The owners of the home care agencies should be held accountable for providing individuals and families with untrained, unqualified and incompetent employees. The employees are paid to provide the necessary services to individuals and to families.

I hope that it will be easier for adult children to file complaints with home care agencies if they are not power of attorney. I hope that the Ohio Department of Health will have the authority to investigate elderly neglect incidents that are perpetrated by employees of Homewatch Caregivers of Beachwood, OH. The caregivers that are provided by Homewatch Caregivers should be investigated immediately when there is a concerned family member. There should be an immediate investigation if the elderly parent has died when there are accusations of elderly abuse or neglect. All children of elderly parents should be heard and listened to when there are concerns of elderly abuse or neglect.

Complaints should be heard and addressed even if adult children were not power of attorney for an elderly parent. I have more difficulty being heard because I was not power of attorney for my Mother. I can't receive the EMS records of the incident that happened when a caregiver called me into the living room when my sweet beautiful Mother was unconscious on the floor next to her bed. I was devastated. I will always be upset by the incident that happened in my Mother's home. I do not know all of the details regarding the incident. I hope that my Mother was peaceful. I hope that she did not experience pain that night. I know that my Mother will always be safe with the Lord.

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After the sudden death of my father in March 2018, my mother returned from Pennsylvania back to her primary residence in Florida. My parents also owned property in Ocean City NJ, where they resided during the summer months. Upon returning to Florida my mother redid her will and estate, as well as adding both myself and sister to both her bank accounts. Both my sister and I reside in Pennsylvania. During early 2020, she was experiencing depression and anxiety but insisted she was OK and wanted to remain in Florida. We spoke every day. She was seeing doctors in Florida and working on different medications. Shortly after the covid 19 pandemic occured my mother called me and said she was in Ocean City NJ. She told me that my sister and brother in law went down unexpectedly as a surprise to bring her up to her NJ home. A few months later she was upset that her electric bill was over 500 dollars and she told me she was calling the electric company. As my sister and her family were at the shore those months I told her that was probably the reason. She didn't want to say anything. My mother was scheduled to see a neurologist in late August. Earlier in August, my mother told me that my sister made a room for her at her house. She believed this was to make it easier for my sister to take her to the upcoming doctor appointment. I went over to see her and her room. I thought it was good for her to be around people rather than alone in Florida or New Jersey. It was the middle of covid and the only person wearing a mask was my mother in her room. When my nephew arrived he did not have a mask. Neither did my niece. My mother told me that she just stayed in her room and always wore her mask. We were both a little concerned but again she didn't want to say anything. Due to covid I was told that I could not attend the appointment only one person was allowed to go. She called me after and said the neurologist wanted some testing done, which was scheduled for late August. Although I asked my sister to please keep me informed, she did not. Most of my information was given to me by my mom. It was difficult visiting her with covid so we mostly talked on the phone all the time. After she had the testing the neurologists provided a 19 page written report, which they also went over in depth with my sister present. My mother told my sister to email me a copy of the report. She called me after the appointment and was a little upset because she couldn't drive anymore. Her diagnosis was dimentia. The report noted multiple things, one being at risk for both benevolent exploitation as well as by others. Her cognitive abilities were very impaired and she needed help in decision making. Several suggestions were made, including that she was not to be alone. It was suggested that a home care person be hired. I was told that they had it covered. However, it was evident that every time I spoke to her she was alone. My mom did not want me to say anything. Shortly after, my mom called me and said she just got back from the hospital. She fell down the steps and broke her ankle, she had to call 911 as again no one was there. She now had to have physical therapy. Then in November of 2020 she called me from the shore and said that my sister had covid so my niece took her to the shore. It was just a matter of time. I have no idea what they were doing with her at this point. I think they took her to a testing site and she was now positive also as well as my sisters husband and daughter. In December, my mother called me upset that her eyes itched and she didn't have an eye doctor in PA. Again, no one was there. I told her I would call her back and called my eye doctor's office who scheduled a tele appointment for later that day. She called me after the appointment and thanked me she really liked the doctor and he said it was common for covid to spread to the eyes. A couple days later I asked her how the drops were working and she said she didn't have them yet. I couldn't beleive it. No one was there. I told her I would go get them and leave on the step but she seemed afraid and told me no she thought someone was picking them up that day. She never wanted me to say anything. I now know why. In March 2021, she told me she was going to a new doctor in Springfield because she didn't have a family doctor here in PA. She called me after the doctor and told me her blood work was good and the doctor also gave her xanax. Knowing that medication was not recommended and specifically mentioned in the 19 page report of August 2020, I was starting to get concerned. We had plans in May if covid was less restrictive to spend some time at the shore together for my birthday. Prior to my birthday my mom asked if we could reschedule the shore but wanted me to come over on my birthday. I went to see her on May 14, 2021 that afternoon. We sat outside talking and I noticed at times she had a blank stare. Something seemed wrong. My sister came home and they were in a rush to go to the shore. My mom said things were not going well and she had 2 doctors appointment the following Monday and Tuesday. I asked her if I could take her and she said she would really like that. I hugged her and left. This was a Friday. I called her Sunday at about 10 PM, hoping it wasn't too late. She said no she was still up. Something didn't seem right and I wanted to make sure she was OK. When I asked her if I could take her to the doctor I could hear my neice in the background saying "tell her you have a ride". She told me I could take her to the next one.
Later that week she called and mentioned that my sister and brother in law were talking about buying her Florida house so she could help me. I didn't need any help and I told her I did not think it was a good idea right now. After being hung up on several times all of a sudden my calls went straight to her voicemail without ringing. My sister had her at the shore. This continued for several days and then I learned that my number was blocked from her phone. Being unable to contact her I became pretty upset. My sister then used the police to keep me from seeing her at her home and I was told that I would have to go through the court system because my sister said something to them about on going problems. Although I told the officier I was being kept from my mother who had dementia by my sister. Unsure what to do, several attorneys said that it was imperitive to contact COSA, the local agency in my area. I was a little hesitant because I didn't want to hurt my mom. I thought to myself no one can keep a person from their mom this is crazy. Then I received a notice in the mail that a PFA was denied. I couldn't believe it. Unsure of what was going on I thought I better let her attorney know in an effort to protect her estate from anything happening so I emailed the attorney informing him of her condition and mention of selling her house in which I was a 50% beneficiary. He replied asking me the names and then told me he couldn't speak to me as I was not his client. Then my phone which was on a family plan with my mom was cancelled. They had access to my phone, my mother's phone, her emails, her properties which locks were changed, and continued to isolate my mother from all communication with me. I was able to get my number back from AT T on June 18, 2021 at which time I decided to stop at both of my mothers banks to see if any changes were made. One bank told me I didn't exist and could not tell me anything else. The second bank told me that all my access was changed and I was not even authorized to make a balance inquiry, but was still on the account. He further said that if he were me he would run to a lawyer. I could not believe this was happening. At this point I did contact COSA, which was supposed to be confidential. I was told an investigation including bank accounts would be done. Then all of a sudden police were storming up my house because a call was made saying I was going to commit suicide. I told them what was going on and again was ignored. This was the first false police report. The day the investigator went to the home, the police again were called with lies about texting threats of killing myself to my mother. No such texts exist. All the while being told this is a civil matter. My friend thought I better go to the District Attorney's office so he drove me up there. The woman there was a disgrace to say the least. It was to much effort for her to write anything down let alone listen to what was happening. It was very deeming and unfriendly and this was supposed to be the person in charge of the so called "elder exploitation unit". What a sad experience. I received multiple nasty messages from my mothers phone as if it was her now accusing me of multiple criminal things and threats to file charges. I continued to receive threats from a relative in Wisconsin, which my lawyer was able to find out who the number belonged to. I noticed on facebook that every family relative disappeared, cousins I haven't talked to in years. Although, I went to the police about the false reports no one could do anything about it. What is scary is that they could actually use my sick mother to say or do anything. After following up with COSA I became very uncomfortable and hired an attorney. Til this day, my phone receives non stop messages from unknow numbers, email texts with explicite content, and all types of things. My mom was my best friend and only family I had left. When I texted my sister asking why her bank accounts were changed, they actually had her call me then took the phone and started screaming oh my god your stealing moms money. I knew now that this was real and my mother was being lied to. The worst part is nobody could help her or me. Then unsure where they had her I called to have a wellness check done. The police officier told me she was OK but never even saw her. Can you imagine. This is a person's loved one and my mother was not there she was in Florida with my sister. Knowing something didn't seem right the next day I called both New Jersey and Florida and Florida was able to confirm that she was at the Florida residence with my sisters family. That week in Florida, my sister took her to the attorney. She was actually the one who drove her there flew her there having full knowledge of the 19 page neurology report and being present at all doctors appointments knowing my mother's disease progressed, while isolating her from her other daughter, and provided a note with one sentence from a different doctor and changed everything on my mother's estate to herself and added her husband to my mothers financial power of attorney. She was now 100% beneficiary of my mothers home in Florida. She didn't stop there though. My father's pension beneficiaries were changed to her children and I was removed from my mom's 401k making my sister 100% of excess of 40,000 dollars. These changes all were made via email communications from my mother's email, which my sister had control of. It did not stop after Florida. I still am not sure about my parent's property in Ocean City. Sadly, as of today and my many attempts for justice my mother still resides with the very abusers who did this. I was attacked for contacting COSA, which I thought was confidential and treated like a criminal throughout the entire court proceeding. Every effort taken failed. No one did anything to help my mom or myself. In fact, doctors wrote letters saying that my mother said I was stealing her money. How pathetic is that. Of course, they will all be reported. Dispite the fact that a second doctor confirmed everything from the original August 2020 report my mother continues to be a victim and remains residing with the very people who did this. My mom continues to be isolated from her daughter knowing the damage caused by such isolation. She continues to be told lies about me so she will say "she doesn't want to see me" despite her progressive dimentia. So when I hear about how all this progress has been made and new task forces focusing on exploiting an elder, it makes me sick. I was forced to testify that I called COSA, which again is CONFIDENTIAL. Their own doctor who wrote a paragraph in his report of what my sister said defaming me with lies and then added his own opinion stating I sounded drunk on a phone message she played for him. This was during an evaluation in which this same doctor said my mom was fine but yet she didn't pass a single test. This is the very agency who is supposed to help my mom. My mother continues to be isolated from me. May of this year will now be 2 years. Evil does not describe what has happened. This is beyond sick and unthinkable. No amount of money can ever give me the time lost with my mother.

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How it is that a person can be prevented from seeing a parent, and for no reason at all be denied any information regarding their parent's health is unconstitutional. I would like to know how that can happen. A child should not have to pay attorney's to see their parent who they had a healthy loving relationship with. The second a person can not reach their parent something should be done immediately by law enforcement. I am sorry to say that Pennsylvania has failed my mother and myself and I live with emptiness and sadness and will probably never see my mom again. I want everyone to know what has happened to me and my mom and how every effort I took failed. I want answers myself as to how this can happen. I am not sure what my hopes are other than people who do this belong in jail. Not in civil court. There has to be a remedy of prison. I will continue to fight for my mother's justice. I want people to know the truth. Not a single agency helped. NOT ONE!!!!!! Please tell me who I can contact for help. Can congress help? Who? I would like to know.

Help me tell my story

My name is Melissa and my mother has been in Assisted living facilities in Colorado for the past 15 years. She is going to be 90 years old in May 2024,and my story is a travesty and perfect example of why reform is desperately needed. I am 57-years old and because of our experience in the past 3.5 years I have made the decision to go to law school and specialize in Elder Law. I am so disappointed in the way our elderly are treated. And I’m going to be in her position sooner rather than later so I’m determined to help bring about some much needed change in the way we care for our elders and what facilities are not allowed to do. So here’s some highlights of what my story includes. If you want my full story please let me know. It’s worth the read.

My story about my journey with my mother starts in Colorado approx 3.5 years ago. I stated earlier she has been assisted living for 25/years after being run over by a van in a parking lot on her way to an AA meeting. She was working out 3x a week, roller blading and once the accident happened, breaking her hip and the drs fracturing her femur hammering in too large of a rod and not realizing it until I ordered an xray on Christmas Eve after fighting with the facility to get one performed and demanding the resident Dr., be on site by the time I arrived from Lakewood with them to get her to the hospital instead of bedrest until after Christmas and just Ambo cab it to her doctors office I mean it was ridiculous, but then she fell out of her shoes, turning her blinds at her house, and that’s when my brother and I had put up her house up for sale and put her in assisted-living so she could be monitored and then in the assisted-living facility they didn’t keep an eye on her and she got impacted a couple months after being there and so they sent her to the hospital to the emergency room and when I went saw her there, they released her and the facility wouldn’t come pick us up when come pick her up they said that they didn’t have any type of protocol and place to get the residence home after 6 o’clock if they’re at the hospital and I said you’re telling me that I pay $8000 a month and you can’t even get my mother home from the hospital which is right across the highway and they said yup and I was fit to be tied and I said OK I’m gonna bring her in my car and she’s going to the bathroom in my car so you better have a wheelchair ready and somebody to help me bathe her because I can’t do it. I’m just not that kind of a person so they better be waiting for me when I got when I get there and like I said, it was just cross the highway. I rolled up and nobody was there. They were all of the caregivers were sitting around talking to each other, and it was a glass door, and it was locked I was so mad and so they saw me and they sign. Oh yeah, I forgot and they got on the radio to get me a wheelchair and come unlock the door and that was a nightmare because if I could do that I would be caregiver, but I can’t do that kind of stuff. I’m not that kind of person
That’s why it was being $8000 a month. I noticed that her medication’s were not right and they were running meds out to people in the parking lot. They would come and pick her up and not even asking who they were and they were running narcotics out there so I brought this to the attention of the corporate office and they paid me $10,000 to go away and I accepted it and I regretted every day since and this was 15 years ago because all I could think about was all the people I was leaving behind, we don’t have advocates And that started our journey the next place we took her to. She was up for 10 years seven years and I became more involved in her care than I had been and my brother had been doing it and again I started noticing these medication issues, so I started collecting Namar and narcotic count sheets because of my experience at the other place my brother just wasn’t paying attention because it’s inconvenient and so sure enough I could I created a spreadsheet and I could see when her medication‘s were going missing and who was taking them by drawing correlations from my spreadsheet and I told my brother I said that’s it. We’re moving her and I contacted the district attorney and then we had instead of going into this detail I’ll just tell you 120 of her OxyContin went missing they were stolen the executive Director told us and I said well I called the pharmacy and I can tell you who signed for the medication and I can tell you exactly who took it. Here’s my spreadsheet I’ve been working on and she said oh it looks like you put a lot of working into it but yeah, no I don’t need to see that And so the district attorney looked up and said no there was no police report filed. She said that there was he said no she didn’t file one he said, but there is one in here for elder abuse and I was like oh my God and so I asked the executive director for copy she said no I couldn’t have one because other families are named in the Report and HIPAA I received internal emails from staff saying take this to a higher level, because for the residents had their narcotics, go missing as well. I went to Denver police and I obtained a copy of the police report and it was a completely false police report because nobody ever talked to us. There was nobody named in the police report. The facility was the victim and she put on there. The executive Director put that she caught in caregiver changing the labels from Aspirin to oxy and so she fired her which was not what happened at all and so then my mother started. I’m sleeping really late into the afternoon and my the facility started having meetings with my brother and I saying that it’s probably time for hospice and I just about fell out of my chair said no she’s not hospice material. I told my brother were moving her the DA told me get her out of there and then will start. You know working on a case and I said great so I found another place for her. All my brother tried to get me removed as the attorney in fact because he didn’t want to move her because it was too much trouble. I was assuming at the time and I told him he brought the executive Director in on it too, because she wouldn’t be at office POA as well because she knows that I know she follow false police report Anyway they couldn’t do it and I said no we’re not moving her into hospice so we moved her to a new place a really nice place. I’m on a golf course and we moved her in and for five days nobody even came and checked on her nobody came and gave her a shower nothing and she can hardly walk. She has a walker and they put her on the third floor About a mile away from the dining room anyway I had called and left the executive Director numerous messages. We were finally supposed to meet because I wouldn’t sign the arbitration agreement and so I had to meet with the executive director but she was a no call no show and three days after that she was leaving the property and somebody said her name and that’s how I knew who she was and I was like hi remember me I we were supposed to meet and you didn’t show up and she said yeah and I mean she just did not care and she was on her way out so she was mad that I had grabbed her on her way out so we went back into her office and I had scratch out a bunch of stuff throughout the whole contract and she said you have to sign all these you know I can’t change these and I said well I’m not signing the arbitration agreement and she goes. Yeah you need to sign that I said, in the state of Colorado, I don’t have to and I said, and I’m not signing away my mothers rights, and so she slid up next to me And she talked real low and she said let me put it to you this way if you don’t sign, you could have a very unhealthy relationship here I could not believe it. I was being threatened by the executive Director lol I felt like she was a Guido or something so then she proceeded to show me a flip around her laptop and show me this thing on arbitration agreements, but it was geared towards the facility not for the consumer and it was talking about how our but she goes. You know just sign it and then all it says is that we’re going to mediate I mean, don’t you trust us and I said well, that’s not That’s not what’s the problem here it’s the principal and I said yeah I trust you but you know I never know what’s gonna happen and she goes well if you don’t like with the mediator, if you don’t like the decision, they make you can always just take it to court, but I was reading on the website right there that it said the decision is final and you cannot take it to court and I said that to her and she goes yes so she was speaking and then it said the reason why they have the arbitration agreement is to cut down on the press it’s quicker so there’s not a lot of time for the press to get their stories together and it’s just better for the facility so I also saw that I had 90 days to resend it so I went ahead and signed it because my mother needed the whole reason why nobody had checked on her as they hadn’t checked her in because there was no contract so Then I started keeping an eye on her meds, and at the other facility I had run everybody’s names that were on these Yueting medication’s through the Colorado health departments website to make sure that they were all certified as QA and only two out of 10 of them were certified so I started doing that at this place too because they kept bringing in temporary help because they didn’t have enough staff and so this executive Director did not like that 2 1/2 weeks in she called a special meeting and they flew in the head of nursing from Utah And I had the head of nursing the executive Director and for staff people and me and they had a big cardboard box and the executive director looked at me and said I don’t think we’re gonna be able to meet your expectations here but I can arrange for a tour for you at a facility that’s right up the street she was I know it’s the same company as the place that you just left but I’m sure they don’t talk to each other And I was stunned and I said are you kicking us out and she goes no we’re not going we don’t we’re not turfing you I just don’t think that your mom’s gonna be happy here and I said I think you’re wrong I said you know I’m she goes. I heard that you ran everybody’s name Ran his background at the last place and didn’t run anybody background around their names through the Colorado and then she finished my sentence for me and she goes yeah and I go it’s public knowledge and she goes. Yes you’re right, but yeah we stopped taking care of your mom today at 2:00 PM and it was 2:30 PM and she pushed this cardboard box across the table to me and it was Full of my mom‘s medication‘s and she goes. I have another meeting to get to and I’m gonna need everybody with me so we have to go and I wait a second how do I even order her meds and she goes we can call the pharmacy they’ll tell you what to do and that was it so I had to come home and make little packets out of wrapping paper And go through all of my mom‘s meds and create dosage, dosing packets, and for different times of the day and then my brother and I had to go and drive to the facility five times a day to dose my mother so we were paying 11,000 I think $9500 a month to do And so my mom couldn’t participate in anything there was nobody doing anything for her so then I started looking for another place and I found a place over this place was on Quincy in the new place that I had found the next new place was on Alameda so the new place that I found referred a moving company for us and I told the Moving I could talk to the moving company I said we’re gonna need help packing because it was a two bedroom apartment and the guy says OK so the day we’re moving out I wrote a scathing letter to The executive Director and everybody I CCed everybody in Utah in Denver. Oh my gosh and the mover comes in and he looks around and he’s like OK and I took him down to the loading dock and I said just bring your truck up to the loading dock, and then we can just take everything down this way And I’m standing there waiting for them and I see the truck driving down Quincy and I called them and I go. Did you just leave and he goes? Yeah that’s way too much work. I had to send two guys to another job this morning and there’s no way I can do it all and I said well that’s not my fault I told you and he goes. Yeah I’m not gonna be coming. Sorry about that and hung up on me and I’m like oh my God you don’t understand we have to get out today and so my brother found All my sons Moving that brought five people over with them to move us and they charged us $4500 to move my mother from Quincy to Alameda and they didn’t even finish and they broke the elevators and I was stuck in memory care with furniture and having to carry furniture over the peoples heads that were eating and having people walk up to me and asked me if I can put their dishes away it was absolutely terrible and nobody could get back up to their rooms on the upper floors after dinner and so they were really mad at me on top of the letter that I had wrote so I had to go back there by myself and move her the rest of her stuff because my brother is on oxygen, so he never helped and he was mad that I was moving her again and so he just sat and watched looked out the window while the movers were there, not even keeping an eye on them, and my mother wasn’t feeling well so we moved her into this new place and we had met with the nurse and I told her the issues that we were having so my mother got sick the first day we got there and announced to us the nurse had resigned the day that we moved in so another day goes by and I ask one of the caregivers if they could please take her temperature and they said no, we can’t do that we don’t have a thermometer on the property somebody stole ours and I’m like oh my God you only have one. Oh Jesus so the next day I’m at home and I called dispatch health to see if they’ll go check on her and they said let’s give her a call so we called her and we could barely hear her and the lady from the dispatch house said you need to call an ambulance right away and get her into the hospital so I did they went picked her up and by the time I got to the hospital one of the nurses was sobbing and I’m like what what’s going on and she’s like your mother she’s an angel and I go. Yeah I know what’s wrong And she goes I don’t know if she’s gonna make it. She had pneumonia and it was so bad that she went septic and they didn’t think she was gonna make it through the night but she did and she was in the hospital for two weeks and then she had to go on IV antibiotics for seven weeks and the place she was only up for two days doesn’t do IVs, so they discharged her from the hospital to Rehab facility out on Monaco and we were in Lakewood so she goes out to that place. I asked my brother to please get all of her meds and check them in at the new place while he didn’t do that so I get over there and there’s there’s people wandering around in the lobby screaming and rocking back-and-forth and and there’s no when you call for one of the caregivers there’s no sound so they look up on the wall like a waitress would for her number when her order is ready They have to look up and see if any of the lights are on on any of the rooms and whatever room is lit up there they’re needing help but if they don’t look up, they have no idea and it’s way up at the top towards the ceiling and the back of a hallway. It’s so crazy so my mom is not is incontinent as well and nobody was coming to help her so I would have to go over there and change her and bathe her and change her sheets and one time I’m changing her sheets in the caregiver stood there, talking to me while I change the sheets lol telling me that she has no idea what she’s doing. she’s an accountant I’m like please don’t tell me that lol anyway, her meds went missing again and then that rehab facility discharged her three weeks early back to the place that she got sick at that doesn’t do IVs so they tried to show me how to do it and there was no IV pole so I had to hang her bag on a hanger and hang it from her bed and I said I am so not comfortable with us. I mean people go to school a really long time to learn how to do this and I don’t want to do this and so I told my mom I loved her but I was gonna have to send her back to the hospital so she said that’s OK honey I understand so I send her back to the hospital she was in there for four more days and they discharged her back to the rehab facility that had just discharged her. It’s so crazy so anyway She finished her IV antibiotics and the facility that she was up for two days that they discharged her to and and didn’t do. IVs told me that they did not want her back because her level of care had increased too much and I said it was just IV antibiotic. She’s not on them now and they wouldn’t accept her back so before she discharged from that rehab facility we had to find another assisted living facility so we found a residential assisted living, which was new a new concept for us I had made my brother go out and look with toured every single assisted living in Denver and but he hasn’t. He was just leaving that up to me so I made him look at a couple, and he looked at some that had cement walls and ceilings, and one little closet and he was like oh my God no I got I know it’s you have to it’s not as easy finding a place as you think and we want to make sure that it’s appropriate so anyway we found this assisted-living residential place so my mother went from a two bedroom apartment to a bedroom And they charged us $12,600 a month for a bedroom and what she got served for dinner was baked beans and chicken nuggets or salad. The caregiver that worked during the day her and her husband lived in the basement the owners owned six of these houses here in Denver. There was nine people at this house, and it was a nice house, but what they would do is Wake my mom up and have her walk 1015 feet to a chair and put her in front of the TV all day long and that was it. They had an activities Director that I saw maybe four times and the first six months they lost three people three people died and so I texted the owner one night asking her what the heck was going on over there because we come from a place that has three or 400 people and in 10 years maybe lost four people my mom‘s been there for six months and there’s only nine of them and they lost three And she said to me in a text well I understand death is hard for a lot of people to accept but that’s what happens in hospice and I go hospice. Oh that’s another thing so when they wanted to put my mom in hospice back at the place downtown and I said no and moved her out. I looked back through and the narcotic count sheets for that period of time and they had stopped giving her her Ritalin. She’s on Ritalin. She takes Ritalin three times a day, and they had stopped giving it to her but yet they were filling out the narcotic count sheet as if they were giving it to her for three months And that’s why she was sleeping but they wanted to move her into hospice and I thought wow I wonder if they’re doing that to other people you know not giving them their meds and so their bodies start to shut down and so they recommend their own hospice or memory care, and that’s more money, and then they create a new revenue stream by renting out there Apartments again and I thought no that’s really reaching so at the place that we got kicked out of on the golf course. I became friends with the head of the dining room because she and I used to be flight attendants together for American 20 years ago and she told me one day she said melissa you wouldn’t believe the amount of people they’ve been moving into memory care and I go really she goes. Oh it’s so sad and I go. Oh my God that’s what they’re doing. I was thinking about the other place so anyway The owner of this place says that’s what happens in hospice and hospice. My mom is not in hospice I go your science is assisted-living your paperwork says assisted-living. We just had a care meeting and you never mentioned anything about hospice and none of our doctors are on a hospice regimen. She’s not in hospice and she goes well yes melissa that’s what we do. We specialize in end-of-life care And I was like oh my God so they’re not giving her meds and her body shutting down is that what’s happening so I started doing med counts and taking pictures and her pain doctor prescribes her oxy they gave her a urine and she ended up with a drug in her system. That’s not on her drug list that when combined with oxycodone is lethal, and so That can be explained then then one day I walked in and this is about a urine because she was there for year and a half and my mom and one other resident or ambulatory one of the residents that was not only ambulant ambulatory, but paralyzed from the neck down She had a black eye she had stitches above. Her eye in the whole side of her face was black and blue and I was like oh my God what happened to Victoria? They told me she fell out of bed that night. OK I turn around and the other another resident who is who walks around she’s got a black guy and I oh my God what happened to Dot and they said she fell out of bed and then I turn around in the third lady that’s in a wheelchair has a broken arm and I’m like oh my God what happened to Billy she fell out of bed three people at the same time fell out of bed so I was like oh my God two of those three people are not here anymore the time that my mother was there any year and a half they lost seven people seven and I started getting really nervous that my mom was going to be next and I got really sick over there over right before Christmas and I was complaining to the owner and all of a sudden they tell me that my mom has Covid and I said OK so what do you do for people with Covid well the nurse they have a nurse that comes and does rounds and they call her a doctor. There is no doctor on staff at this place Even ask them, so do you do what happens in a fire I mean do you do fire drills or oh yeah, we do them once a month we have to OK. I’ve never seen them do a fire drill. I never saw them give my mother any medication either and that’s what really started getting me concerned I saw the caregivers packing up their cars with people who passed away with their and the owner not professional take that with that the lady she drove around a brand new Corvette. The husband drove around the brand new huge truck, so she said the nurse put her on something some kind of Covid medicine medicine so the next day I asked if she got started on it and she said no we went ahead and gave everybody a Z-Pak and I go my mom sounds really congested and she needs to be seen immediately because she is predisposed for pneumonia, and the owner says no The nurse isn’t gonna be going out there because there’s an active Covid case and I got oh my God I go off I need to make sure she doesn’t get pneumonia and that I’ll check in on her for you the next day. I asked how my mom was doing and nothing I received no response. The next day was Christmas I said merry Christmas. Have you checked on my mom she responded with merry Christmas that was it so the next day I said that’s it. I’m calling an ambulance so I called an ambulance and They told me that they had just done a chest x-ray on her and I asked why nobody told me that, but I sent her to the hospital anyway and sure enough my mother had pneumonia. She was dehydrated and her kidney functions had gone through the roof because of her dehydration, I said that’s it she’s not going back my brother was beside himself. He said I’m not helping you at all I said that’s OK. I had to move my mother out of her second floor, two bedroom apartment at the place where she got pneumonia last time I’ll buy myself into a U-Haul. It took me two times when I went back to the facility on the golf course to finish moving out the rest of the stuff they hated me so much they locked up all the Bell carts so I had to string together, wheelchairs to move her stuff out and a trashcan on wheels. I used as well and then I couldn’t get my trunk closed one time so I had to go to lost and found and tie. It closed with a sweater I mean it’s just been a ridiculous journey anyway so this time my mom is in Highlands Ranch Hospital she’s there for a week and they discharge her to a rehab facility in Lafayette and I have made the decision to bring her home. I’ve just had it with these places and the only thing is if she couldn’t fit into the bathroom with her walker so I said that’s OK I’m gonna remodel the bathroom real quick. I’ll be done by Thanksgiving and she she’ll be home Well she still up in Lafayette today. Her insurance kicked her out of the rehab two days after she got there when she was supposed to be there for three weeks giving me three weeks to get the bathroom done yeah, no two days later so they were gracious enough to let her move into their assisted-living upstairs from their rehab. Well now I have structural I’m in a 1956 home And doing this bathroom I’m pretty far in but now I’ve created I’ve found all kinds of stuff wrong with this house, so I have a structural engineer coming out tomorrow to look at the foundation. Meanwhile, my mother also has dementia and all of this moving is not been good and I understand that, but I’m just trying to get her the best care possible and I have an in-home care agency lined up to help me when I bring her home but I don’t know how I’m gonna get her home and that’s my story so far so I am so frustrated with everything that I have enrolled in a prep course for the LSAT I’ve been talking with DU law and I plan on Starting my schooling for my JD degree in the fall of 2025 and like I said I will be specializing in elder care because for one I’m gonna be very relatable by the time I graduate I will be 61 years old when I graduate but wanna make sure that I’m not gonna get treated like this and We’re gonna need me. I’m gonna make sure that some changes happen I talk to a lawyer about all of this. Oh the DA dropped me just like a hot potato never returned any of my calls. Once I moved my mom I couldn’t believe it so yeah we definitely need to change and people should not be able to get away with anything close to what we’ve been through And there’s even more issues at the place that she’s at now I mean somethings gotta change and that’s my story pretty much the whole thing I left some stuff out it was like a domino affect and she just never was able to get back to normal. We tried to keep her at home ySo after being at one facility for 7/years, I became more involved with her care due to my personal life changing and that’s when I started noticing discrepancies in her medications. She is prescribed roughly 35 different medications and is dosed 5x a day. Yes it’s a lot.,she suffers from a multitude of issues from mental health to physical.

Elder abuse is rampant and it’s not just in facilities it’s even at home kids taking advantage of their elderly parents or you know neglecting them and spending their money. I was driving around one of my father‘s friends who is 98 years old and he’s getting ready to drill an oil well lol and he’s jumping in and out of my car on the way to Nebraska at these farms looking at drilling equipment Because he’s very thrifty so he’s buying used equipment. He’s so funny but he was living by himself and his son lives in Washington and they just found him wandering on Valentine’s Day. I just found that out today and so the sun came out and packed them up and moved them out to Washington in the last three days And I was heartbroken and her son, his son hired some neighbor to go through all of the house and get rid of everything and I don’t even know if the guy remembers what was in his house he didn’t he but he told me today on the phone that he’s coming back to run the Boulder Boulder lol so More power to him but it’s everywhere and people turn a blind eye to it because they’re not there they’re not at that stage in their life and they’re gonna be, and they better start paying attention because it’s terrible right now, and if you don’t have an advocate, you’re at the mercy of these corporations and of these people that are in the wrong positions as far as career goes a lot of them. Are there some good ones but the good ones are overworked and taken advantage of and they end up quitting

My hope for the future is to create communities of support and giving advocates or families more rights to hold these places accountable, and to keep them from taking advantage or neglecting or doing anything that is inappropriate or you wouldn’t do to anyone I mean the stuff that I have seen you wouldn’t do to an enemy much less you’re an elderly person People can add so much to offer and everything that they’ve seen all the changes that they’ve experienced over their lifetime can add so much value to our society or community or nation or world and I would like to see programs implemented where they are a part of what’s going on people act like they’re already dead and they’re not they’re many are lucid even the ones that aren’t lucid still have something to offer we can’t just throw them away when they reach you know 70 years old my God that only gives me a few years left lol but we can harness some really good power. We can harness some great ideas we can harness some lessons we can harness some thinking out of the box or going back to basics type styles of approaching our problems are our community problems or who knows they’re so many there’s so much potential that , our elderly can do for our communities that were not paying attention to and we’re not taking advantage of and and I hope to be a huge piece of change for all of this for all of us and I hope my story makes some people pay pay attention to what’s happening and want to want to see this change and there’s plenty of revenue streams. You don’t have to make revenue streams out of peoples death or such extremes. There’s plenty of revenue streams to support a community. I’m even thinking about turning my house into a residential assisted living for me and my friends so I know where I’m gonna be going, and I know it’s going to be good care because I’ll hire everybody you know I even know if people that are buying land and creating communities for all their friends for when they get older some ladies out in Oklahoma. I mean that’s a great idea to get it all set up now you know make some gardens and have it self sustaining and my son tells me all the time I can I can build a granny pad out here you and grandma can come stay at my place where he lives, and I just think that’s so sweet .

I also took care of my father before he passed away eight years ago by myself and I work I had to stay home and I didn’t realize hospice only came an hour a day, and when I researched in-home care agencies, it was gonna cost us $1 million a year and I was like it’s OK. Dad don’t worry about it all. I’ll stay here and it was, an amazing time because it gave me time to make amends and it gave me time to talk with him and tell him how much I was going to miss him and I really had no idea how much I was gonna miss him. I miss him every single day, but You know there’s gotta be some thing that we can design. They can keep people at home but not put such a strain on the family or I don’t know I just know that there’s so much potential and it right now it’s archaic. It’s like an orphanage where these people are and nobody , the staff and most of the staff is not there because of the job they’re there because of the paycheck and when you’re working with people that’s not that’s not how it should be can’t just fill positions to be filled so you can get your tax credits or whatever that should be illegal or enforced something that residential assisted living to she was certify her own caregivers as QMAP. I watched her son one time the lady that was paralyzed pick her up. She was slumped over in her wheelchair at the dinner table. I saw him pick her up by her head I mean , it’s just ridiculous. What happens in these places and I’m not really sure how much I can share. I probably should’ve shared all that but people need to know because I was gonna report them. I haven’t reported them yet because I literally just moved my mother out of that place again by myself with a U-Haul at midnight , not even a week ago so I just haven’t had time. I have a lot of other issues going on in my life but I’m bringing my mom home. Yes use me all you want because like I said, I’m determined to make a change in all of this, but I’m not gonna graduate until 2028 lol and if I can be a catalyst for change now, I’m in! I also saved every single text from the owner of the last facility so you can how self-absorbed and felt like she was un-touchable. Really, that’s how many of them acted, like they were untouchable. And little did I know they currently are. I was also wondering if the Governor was involved somehow in the desires of the communities to keep families from their loved ones and from monitoring their health and medication management on purpose because if some of the mandates he was enacting at the time which didn’t fit the environment. And please remind me to tell you what happened during Covid when the facility left the front door unlocked, when my mother would get her oxygen delivered by a man who would not be escorted into her room while she was sleeping numerous times, how my mom watched a caregiver stealing her silverware and wanting a nanny cam and my brother and I blowing it off thibkjbig she was going crazy! Hurts my heart I did that. If their store stories sound off the wall, they’re probably true and we believe the children we need to believe our elderly too. Thank you for wanting to hear my story.

GUARDIANSHIP ABUSE:
I am a 69 year old woman who looks and acts very much younger. If unlawful discrimination is abuse, then i am abused. My son is a victim of unlawful discrimination as found in a court of law. Unlawful discrimination against him is unlawful discrimination against me as ine who is associated with him.
I just started the petition: To eradicate Guardianship, a restrictive means of care that violates the U.S. Constitution, the International Human Rights Laws and the integration mandate of Title II of the "ADA". I wanted to see if you could help by adding your name.

My goal is to reach loads of signatures and I need more support. Guardianship is a CRUEL, EVIL process that in Julian Coatley and his mothers experience with it, Guardianship is NOT PROTECTION but is instead EXPLOITATION. You can read more and sign the petition here: You will also be able to listen to the podcast of a critical case of inhumanity, the "Julian Coatley Story, which can also be Googled and read online. Thanks so very much.

https://www.change.org/Justiceforjuliancoatley

Sincerely;

Denise Fitzpatrick

"Carolinians on Channel 17 news, calls Guardianship a "SICK, TWISTED, process"
I agree

The kink above in the communication tells it all. Please open the link which will also allow you to kisten in podcast to the "Julian Coatley Story".

They know to know that it is a critical act of inhumanity that seriously needs the communities to intervene in peaceful protests nationwide to lead to eradication of abuse as inn Guardianship against the elderly. There are so many organizations that claim to uphold the Civil and Human Rights of the elderly, yet they do not seem to go the extra mile in fighting for the eradication of Guardianship abuse towards them.

I am truly giving all that I have mentality, physically and spiritually as I fight tirelessly against abuse towards the elderly. Guardianship abuse stories are everywhere. Carolinians on Channel 17 News here in Raleigh, NC call Guardianship a TWISTED, SICK process. The many stories of Guardianship abuse with Guardianship being a restrictive means of care in violation of the U.S. Constitution is a problem nationwide. To my knowledge and understanding, Guardianship also violates the International Human Rights Laws and rhe integration mandate of Title II of the "ADA". Again, I dedicate all of me in the fight for protection of the elderly. Please share this story as you see fit as I expose and raise awareness.

In September 2020, I moved in with my then 89-year-old mother to help her with the necessities of daily living. On January 2, 2022, my mother fell and broke her hip. Kaiser Permanente's medical negligence crippled her. She has been in and out of hospitals, skilled nursing facilities and a board and care ever since. In February 2023, I extricated her from Kaiser, switching her to Anthem Blue Cross, which went into effect on March 1, 2023. Two days before the switch, Kaiser took her out of the (out-of-network) hospital against medical advice and, over my objections, stuck her in one of the worst skilled nursing facilities in Los Angeles County. The SNF withheld my mother's blood thinners (she's genetically predisposed to clots) without medical justification, causing her to have a stroke. No one noticed she'd had a stroke, making her ineligible for the medication which could have reversed the stroke. They told EMTs my mother had a DNR, knowing she did not. They also committed Medi-Cal fraud.

Kaiser Permanente, one of the largest health care providers in the U.S., is committing Medicare fraud, tax fraud and health care fraud, involving out-of-network hospitalizations.

On June 27, 2022, my mother was a patient at Sherwood Oaks Post Acute in Thousand Oaks, California. She was sent there by Kaiser Woodland Hills, ostensibly to receive physical therapy after she broke her hip. (Kaiser selected Sherwood Oaks. Because of limited availabilities due to the COVID pandemic, Kaiser sent her to a skilled nursing facility which was out-of-network.)

While she was a patient at Sherwood Oaks, my mother went into septic shock and was taken by ambulance to Los Robles Regional Medical Center in Thousand Oaks. (Los Robles was the closest hospital to Sherwood Oaks, and is out-of-network.) She was diagnosed with bi-lateral kidney stones in her kidneys and ureters, her right kidney was inflamed.

Los Robles saved my mother’s life. She was a patient there for twenty-five (25) days, eventually being discharged to Kaiser Panorama City on July 22, 2022.

The amount claimed by Kaiser for reimbursement from Medicare does not match the amount Kaiser paid Los Robles as settlement of their bill for my mother’s care.

Per Medicare, Kaiser filed a claim for my mother’s stay at Los Robles in the amount of $893,868.25. Medicare approved the claim in full, and reimbursed Kaiser $0.00. Per the Explanations of Benefits (EOBs) prepared by Kaiser, Kaiser paid Los Robles $59,261.79 for my mother’s hospital stay. Kaiser’s Medicare claim for this out-of-network hospital stay was $843,246.46 more than what they actually paid Los Robles to settle the bill, a difference of 1508%.

This was not an isolated incident. On August 25, 2022, my mother was taken by ambulance to Northridge Hospital Medical Center, where she was diagnosed with a urinary tract infection. She was transferred to Kaiser Panorama City on August 27, 2022.

Per Medicare, Kaiser filed a claim for my mother’s stay at Northridge Hospital in the amount of $54,342.00. Medicare approved the claim in full, and reimbursed Kaiser $144.81. Per the EOBs prepared by Kaiser, Kaiser paid Northridge Hospital $9,814.32 for my mother’s hospital stay. Kaiser’s Medicare claim for this out-of-network hospital stay was $44,527.68 more than they actually paid Northridge Hospital to settle the bill, a difference of 554%.

It would be reasonable for Los Robles and Northridge Hospital to be able to take tax write-offs for the difference between the amounts they billed Kaiser (as my mother’s Medicare provider) and the amounts Kaiser actually paid them for my mother’s care. It is not reasonable for Kaiser to file Medicare claims for reimbursement of amounts higher than they actually paid Los Robles and Northridge Hospital.

If Kaiser did what I think they did, Kaiser’s grossly inflated Medicare claims were filed to facilitate filing falsified tax write-offs, write-offs for money they never paid.

I can provide you with copies of Kaiser’s Medicare claims for my mother’s hospital stays at Los Robles Regional Medical Center and Northridge Hospital Medical Center (dba Dignity Community Care), along with Kaiser’s EOBs for July 2022, August 2022, September 2022, October 2022 and December 2022. I can also provide you with copies of my mother’s financial and health care powers-of-attorney, as well as her signed HIPAA Release.

I have already filed complaints with Medicare, the IRS, the Franchise Tax Board and the Department of Justice.

I am currently organizing my evidence regarding Kaiser’s actions to get out of paying for my mother’s care at Sherwood Oaks. When completed, I will be filing complaints against Kaiser and Sherwood Oaks for perjury (to Livanta), falsification of medical records and HIPAA violation with the FBI, the California Attorney General, and the Los Angeles and Ventura County District Attorneys. (Kaiser and Sherwood Oaks sent Livanta medical records indicating my mother received weeks of physical and occupational therapy, before deciding she had plateaued and would not benefit from additional therapy. Kaiser's EOBs prove my mother received only two PT/OT sessions, one as part of her evaluation the day she was admitted.)

So-called "health care" companies need to be held accountable for their actions. Kaiser routinely discriminates against the elderly, the disabled and the chronically ill. Kaiser has no interest in the health and welfare of their members, only in how much money they can make off of them.

I want justice for my mother. I want Kaiser and Sherwood Oaks held accountable for their actions. I want the laws changed to protect our most vulnerable citizens.

I do not wish to remain anonymous. I want everyone to know what Kaiser has done, and am willing to tell anyone who will listen.

The abuse became concerning to my grandmother when Margie husband died, her daughter started asking for large sums of money but wasn't being attentive to her. It became noticeable to me when her daughter told her to visit with her in Seattle for a while but then she never returned and lost control of all her assets and freedom of life.

To whom it may concern;

My dear elderly friend Margie L. Smith who lives in Seattle, WA, who's been a friend of my family for 80 years isn't being treated with respect, dignity and honor at the golden age of 99. She's been deliberately deprived of her cell phone so I have no way of knowing her current status. To say the least, I'm heart broken and want to shine a light on this elderly injustice. The perpetrators is her narcissist daughter a retired performing Arts teacher in Seattle and son-in-law who is medical doctor, active license with conditions. I filed a complaint on June 23, 2022 with dshs and from my knowledge the investigator didn't go to the house until September 27, 2022, which give them enough time to cover up the abuse. I'm baffled at how this doctor uses multiple names and pictures to deceive the public and get away with it. I've reached out to her daughter and son-in-law asking if I can talk to her or come to see her and they sent me a text message describing criminal trespassing. I feel powerless, when challenging a physician and feel justice will not be served because of his title. My daughter and I have traveled to Seattle three times last year 2022 and the last visit they refused to let us visit, despite the police going to the house and Margie telling the officers she would like to see me. The daughter and son-in-law made false claims about me to the officers. This has been traumatizing and heartbreaking for us. We were very close, like family. 

DSHS/APS hasn't given me an explanation for their delayed response in visiting Margie and there findings. I would like an investigation of DSHS/APS files pertaining to this case and how it was conducted.

I have photos, video, text messages and audio recordings.

What is important for people to know about elder abuse, neglect and fraud is that it can happen to anybody, no matter there professional background and assets. The perpetrators are not only unrelated but most case are from family members.

That all elders will live their best life with dignity, respect, love and support. I hope that one day all elders will have access to assist living care if needed.

I will like a law in all 50 states that enforce for any individual 90 years old or more bi-annual in home visits from a hospital gerontology social worker and a in hospital annual visit with a geriatrics doctor.
gerontology annual visit

Adult Protective services policies and procedures need updating and more accountability for their case decisions.

I have pictures depicting the abuse my dear friend had to endure. How can I get them to you via email?