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Walked into the hospital with my most beautiful precious beloved mom with absolutely nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all.

My experience trying to get justice.

Due to complete systematic failure and refusal to enforce laws in place to protect the public, our most precious beloved vulnerable elderly are being mass slaughtered at numbers over ten times higher than ever before in history in Pennsylvania hospitals completely unchecked and unrestrained.

The doctor that killed my mom gets arrested and properly charged, and nobody again has to go through what I have, and am still suffering.

Please contact me please !!!! Thank you.
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Why is 20% rise in malaria in Africa from natural causes, or a select few cases of measles in Texas captures the solemn attention of local and world news, top scientists, the World Health Organization...ect, BUT ASTRONOMICALLY HYPER-ESCALATED, MORE THAN TEN TIMES HIGHER THAN EVER BEFORE NUMBERS OF OUR MOST PRECIOUS BELOVED ELDERLY, BEING WRONGFULLY KILLED IN PENNSYLVANIA MEDICAL FACILITIES, NOT ONLY GETS NO ATTENTION AT ALL, BUT CONVERSELY GETS WIDESPREAD COVER-UP, AND IS SYSTEMATICLY PERPETUATED AND ENCOURAGED BY ABSOLUTE REFUSAL OF AUTHORITIES TO ENFORCE THE LAWS IN PLACE TO PROTECT THE PUBLIC.
Nothing short of state sponsored, blatant, intentional mass serial manslaughter homicide of our most precious beloved vulnerable eldely.
Pennsylvania, the Elder Manslaughter State.
Letter to my Pastor:
Jack, There is just no way to win in this battle in this life in this so sickeningly deep dark evil world, thoroughly and completely run, controlled, and owned by the devil.
I cannot live with myself if I ever give-up, but the Chester County DA, the Medical Board, Law enforcement, all of our local, state and federal officials and represenatives, are the exact opposite of everything they are supposed to stand for. There is not a shred of integrity in any of them. By thier own written law they are all accesories after the fact in the gruesome horrific wrongful killing of my most beautiful, wonderful, sweet, kind, gentle, loving, caring, precious beloved mom. I have gone over and over the laws and statutes and everything there is to understand about the way it is supposed to be, and the ones running things are the very worst criminals of them all, far worse than probably just about any criminal who they lock up. Far far worse. Even after filing detailed reports of Chester County DA de Barrena-Sarobe's open violation of the, Crime Victims Rights Act of 2004 in person at the office of the US Attorney in Philadelphia, the highest legal official in Pennsylvania, he still hasn't ever even honored my legal right to confer with him, the government attorney on the private criminal complaint I filed against the doctor who very clearly 1) had a professional duty of care, 2) grossly breached that duty of care, which I have medical professional documented proof of, 3) that breach of duty caused injury, 4) the extent of that injury was death. The four factors of negligent homicide in a medical setting. In his knowledge of the crime, and use of his position to protect the killer, by the very law that he is supposed to represent, the DA is a criminal accesory after the fact, and one of the head perpetuators of the over 1000% unimaginably hyper-escalated rate of wrongful elder death currently slaughtering the hell out of our vulnerable elderly population en masse in Pennsylvania, including my precious beloved mom. The the overseer of the rampant disposal of our most vulnerable precious beloved elderly.
My whole family and extended family devastated. My poor old dad lost in life without his loving wife of 60yrs. No more big ladies trips to Atlantic City that relatives came from across the country for that my mom was the center of. No more Christmases with grandma. The One so special day that we all lived all through the year in anxious anticipation of, that made anything we had gone through all year to get there worth it.
My mom did not go to the hospital dying and they were unable to save her.
I walked in there with her with nothing anywhere near life-threatening wrong with her at all, and spent the next months all day every day by her side through the long torturous excruciating screaming in agony, heeeeelp meeeeee, aaaaaaa, it huuuuuurts, aaaaaa, heeeeeelp meeeee, aaaaaaaaaa, not from anything to do with anything she went in there for, or any exsisting condition. Solely from that terrible careless heartless souless wicked doctors blatant gross extreme negligence and severe malpractice. And not even by mere mistake. Performing an inappropriate procedure that even the US Agency for Hospital Research and Quality determined no reasonable doctor would have done, and then when that incision that never should have been made became infected, absolutely refusing against the adamant urging, begging and pleading of a professional home nurse and me to see her promptly, resulting in that infection localized to a small improper incision that never should have been made to begin with, traveling into her bloodstream and throughout her body and vital organs until she collapsed on the floor, and even then when she was rushed by ambulance back in to him, he severely botched the correctional procedure and quickly forced her back out to the rehab against my trying to do everything I could to keep her in as I could see she was in no condition, and even the rehab put her back in an ambulance and sent her back, before we finally got her the heck out of there to another hospital/doctor who upon sight of what Dr Hayes had done to her in Chester County Hospital, was visibly angry and couldn't hold back from belting out, what was that doctor doing, he had to of known this had no chance of working, rushing her into to the operating room to try to fix too late what he had done to her. Jack that's too much already and there's alot more. That doctor clearly killed my mom and I have multiple documented medical professional testimonies proving it.
In over a year doing everything that can possibly be done to at least try to get some kind of justice for what was done to my beautiful, wonderful, sweet, kind and gentle, precious beloved mom, all I find is pure evil and corruption to the depths of hell on earth. I couldn't even hear a word said in the AA meeting tonight. All I could do is think how/if I can go on living in this sickening wicked evil devils world. At what point do I just check myself out? I thank God for you Jack. You are a mighty presence for Him in this sick rotten evil world. I thank God most of all that i know Jesus, and that He has made His Truth so clear to me, that you certainly played a big role in, along with my very special grandma, my moms mom. I feel secure that He knows all of this, and of course far more than any mere human mind could ever contain, and I don't care what anyone says, in times when I'm thinking about it, even if I checked-out of this sickening evil rotten devils world by my own hand, He would be there with open arms, probably saying He's been expecting me, I endured quite well enough.
Bob Snodgrass 484-252-9596

Three days before Christmas of 2023, I signed for a certified legal letter with a threat to evict me unless I complied with certain conditions dictated by my son-in-law and daughter. They own this run-down casita that I have called home since 2021. I immediately replied to the threat by citing legal precedent and sending their attorney a copy of the checks that I contributed toward the purchase of this property. I assured their lawyer that I would contest any formal eviction myself in a court of law. Soon this esquire informed me that he no longer represented my family. At the time, I was 70 years old with no husband or income other than social security.

It should be noted that my only child was born out of conflict, not love. I fornicated with a cruel and creative man because I was homeless; I could not abort. The father of my child was pathological with money–a trait he passed on to his only child and so much more insidious than the beautiful blue eyes she inherited from him. My daughter insisted that if I did not vacate this casita voluntarily, that no landlord would ever rent to me again. Her attempt to play into my biggest fear–homelessness–was also a form of abuse perpetrated with malicious intent in my humble opinion.

During the pandemic, I contributed a large portion of my savings toward the purchase of this historic property in Silver City. An agreement was made in good faith–I would reside in the smallest dwelling place. However, when I finally set foot into that tiny space, I realized it would feel as if I were confined to a prison cell. I opted to spend the final chapter of my life in a three-room casita on this property built in 1877. Initially this was acceptable, but greed surfaced. A source of contention was my survival after my second heart surgery in 2021. My daughter asked me what I believe to have been an abusive question: “What if you live another 20 years?” I assured her that I didn’t have the money or desire to live into extreme old age. Unsatisfied, she persisted: “But what if you do?”

Despite having no criminal history, it was decided that I can no longer have contact with my only grandchild. I believe this is a form of punishment for not complying with their demands. The structures on this land are high maintenance, in constant need of repair. The resident handyman yelled, cursed and raised his hand at me in a threatening gesture. My family refused to evict or run a criminal background check on him. Eventually this angry man yelled at an 80-year-old Air B and B cleaner working on this property. Appalled and concerned for our safety, I then decided to file a complaint against Handy-Andy with the local police. Was my son-in-law's refusal to evict/background check this verbally abusive worker elder abuse? You decide.

My hope for the future is to live out the rest of my life without ever being homeless again.

The abuse became concerning to my grandmother when Margie husband died, her daughter started asking for large sums of money but wasn't being attentive to her. It became noticeable to me when her daughter told her to visit with her in Seattle for a while but then she never returned and lost control of all her assets and freedom of life.

To whom it may concern;

My dear elderly friend Margie L. Smith who lives in Seattle, WA, who's been a friend of my family for 80 years isn't being treated with respect, dignity and honor at the golden age of 99. She's been deliberately deprived of her cell phone so I have no way of knowing her current status. To say the least, I'm heart broken and want to shine a light on this elderly injustice. The perpetrators is her narcissist daughter a retired performing Arts teacher in Seattle and son-in-law who is medical doctor, active license with conditions. I filed a complaint on June 23, 2022 with dshs and from my knowledge the investigator didn't go to the house until September 27, 2022, which give them enough time to cover up the abuse. I'm baffled at how this doctor uses multiple names and pictures to deceive the public and get away with it. I've reached out to her daughter and son-in-law asking if I can talk to her or come to see her and they sent me a text message describing criminal trespassing. I feel powerless, when challenging a physician and feel justice will not be served because of his title. My daughter and I have traveled to Seattle three times last year 2022 and the last visit they refused to let us visit, despite the police going to the house and Margie telling the officers she would like to see me. The daughter and son-in-law made false claims about me to the officers. This has been traumatizing and heartbreaking for us. We were very close, like family. 

DSHS/APS hasn't given me an explanation for their delayed response in visiting Margie and there findings. I would like an investigation of DSHS/APS files pertaining to this case and how it was conducted.

I have photos, video, text messages and audio recordings.

What is important for people to know about elder abuse, neglect and fraud is that it can happen to anybody, no matter there professional background and assets. The perpetrators are not only unrelated but most case are from family members.

That all elders will live their best life with dignity, respect, love and support. I hope that one day all elders will have access to assist living care if needed.

I will like a law in all 50 states that enforce for any individual 90 years old or more bi-annual in home visits from a hospital gerontology social worker and a in hospital annual visit with a geriatrics doctor.
gerontology annual visit

Adult Protective services policies and procedures need updating and more accountability for their case decisions.

I have pictures depicting the abuse my dear friend had to endure. How can I get them to you via email?

Sis s plan poa trustee exe 5000 acre farm sold 2million farm machinery household house farm changed will took caddy she is tak n 50000000 in property need help real evil person

HELP

Once an adult; twice a child.
My name is Jeanine Thomas Castle, and I have 3 separate stories in 3 separate counties in California.
1st story - Compton, Los Angeles County approximately over a 10-year period (1990's - early 2000) My Uncle, John Thomas "Papa" a widower. No children. He owned his home outright and his small pension and social security supported his simple lifestyle. Then others began to remove items from his home. When he died. Someone else owned his home. Another person told the funeral home she was his daughter. The death certificated stated this. I was named in his Will and couldn't do anything being informed after his death. I was informed of his funeral. He died by a fall in a hole at a neighbor's home. Despite several broken bones, no food in his home and his house being refinanced multiple times Adult Protective Services couldn't and didn't protect him.

2nd Story - Fresno, Fresno County 2020 - 2023. My childhood neighbor, Filiberto 'Gilbert' Olivarez began being neglected - isolation, pandemic, no longer driving in his 90's. I documented little to no food in the home. No AC in the Fresno area triple degree summer. The District's Attorney's office did agree to an investigation. By that time, he had dementia and was residing in a residential care home. Despite having given Power of Attorney to one daughter for years another was able to convince him to sign one giving her full authority over his finances and sell his home far below market value to cousins of her children's father. The investigator NEVER spoke with Filiberto's brother who lived next door or other blood relatives.

3rd Story - Richmond, Contra Costa County 2024. My 97-year-old Aunt Margaret Horsley had been living in her home for 70 years. Her 63-year-old, alcoholic son resided with her. She is a strong woman of faith had hoped he would stop the drinking and smoking. At one point in the last 10 years, she was awarded a restraining order because he hit her. She agreed to allow him to stay for a few days after the order expired and those days turned into years. Frustrated she reached out to myself and a nephew. Contra Costa APS came out met with both and weren't able to do anything. There was no working landline phone. No hot water. They heated food on an inverted heater. The front door had a damaged frame that didn't allow the door to open and close easily or lock. On 8/30/24 there was a fire and fortunately no deaths, but the home has been declared "unoccupiable" by the fire department and boarded up.

Sometimes our elderly MUST have someone just like a child does to say, NO MORE. WE are removing you for your safety and best interests - Once an adult and twice a child. I believe every person in these three stories would have been relieved to have someone, anyone but themselves step in for them. THERE was/is an element of fear in all of these stories.

I'm retired. Aside from being one of three caregivers to my 93-year-old Mom. I want to do my part to make a difference in the lives of others.

I want them to KNOW that Adult Protective Services IS able to make a difference. That something will be done just like a child has protection.

Change in the power of APS and legislation to protect the elderly.

As a social worker, counselor and caregiver I know how important it is to advocate for others when they are struggling. I also know how hard and challenging it can be to on the other side of the situation and not have power to do something.

My sister and I learned in June 2021 that our 83 year old father was being financially exploited and abused by his live in girlfriend. At the time he lived in Oklahoma City, and we lived in California. We received a phone call from our Aunt and Uncle in Oklahoma. They lived near my father and had recently discovered that his girlfriend had listed his house for sale on Zillow without his knowledge. She had committed fraud by claiming the house as the owner and listed all correspondence about his home to go to her phone number and email. Zillow also owns Trulia, which meant the house was listed on that site as well. Our dad's brother, also our Uncle, was named on our dad's checking account as a co-signer. Our Uncle also managed our dad's estate and shared a family trust with him. Our Uncle would often make sure our dad's account was not in the red and would make sure some of his more costly bills were paid for. In other words, he would deposit money into our dad's account intermittently when larger bills were due (i.e.-car/homeowners insurance). On the day we received the phone call our Uncle had found out from the bank that he had been removed as co-signer and my dad's girlfriend had now been added as both a co-signer and joint member of the account. The banker knew my Aunt and Uncle personally and shared concerns about my dad's girlfriend and more importantly concerns about my dad. Our Aunt and Uncle had also received a phone call from their insurance agent. Our dad had the same agent and inquired several times about getting a life insurance policy. They told him each time that they did not work with life insurance, only auto and homeowners insurance. They were worried that he seemed confused and continued to ask about it. Important to note, our father already had life insurance for years. And, lastly, the neighbor was worried about our dad. She had seen the listing on Zillow and asked if he was moving. He emphatically said, "No!" and then was shown the listing on Zillow. According to his neighbor/friend he immediately appeared confused. He was then asked by the neighbor if he was now married to his girlfriend. Again, he said, "No!" It was brought to his attention that the girlfriend was telling everyone they were now married. The combination of all of these things happening at once raised huge concerns by our Aunt and Uncle and prompted them to call me and my sister as soon as possible. When we were contacted we knew that our dad was planning a trip to Florida with his girlfriend, and they had planned to leave the next week on June 28th. On the same day our Aunt and Uncle called I had talked with my dad. He shared with me about his trip. It was a 10 day trip to The Villages in Florida. At some point in the conversation he said to me, "Who knows, maybe I'll just come live with you." I was confused and thought it was an odd statement, but didn't question it. I had room in my home now that 2 of my children were grown and moved out, so I responded with, "Of course, You can always come live with us." I found out later in the day that he had told my sister not to tell anyone that he was planning to move away to live at The Villages in Florida. It was peculiar that he didn't want to tell anyone, but my first thought was that he didn't want to upset my Aunt and Uncle that he was planning to move away. Now, in hindsight, I think his girlfriend wanted him to keep it a secret. We all, my sister, aunt and uncle met several times via zoom/group phone calls to discuss what we needed to do. Because of COVID neither my sister or I had traveled to see my dad, but now that we were all vaccinated we were in a better place to travel to Oklahoma immediately. Both my sister and I called our dad to express our concerns and begged him not to take the trip to Florida with his girlfriend. We also let him know that we would be out there to see him as soon as possible. He thanked my sister for initiating the conversation about our concerns and let her know that he had decided not to go to Florida. His girlfriend went without him which made it possible for us to immediately fly out to Oklahoma to see our dad. I was planning to visit him in July anyway, but not under these circumstances. He was open to a visit from both of us, but was also feeling that we were all "ganging up" on him, and was somewhat defensive when I arrived. When I arrived in Oklahoma I was horrified to see his extreme weight loss and unhealthy living conditions. His girlfriend had moved into the main bedroom with all of her furniture and clothing. The main bedroom was huge. It had room for a sitting area, sleeping area, and office space. Additionally, there was a large walk-in closet and very large bathroom. Nothing in there was his. There were photos on the wall of herself and all of her own framed wall hangings. There was a dresser that was my dad's (he bought it special with his second wife who had passed away in 2004) she was using for her own things. Otherwise, there was nothing of my dad's. He had moved all of his things into the small bedroom (the size of a small nursery) and was using the other bathroom for himself. He had a special custom made desk that his second wife had purchased for him on his 60th birthday that was nowhere to be found. It had been placed in storage to make room for all of his girlfriend's stuff. There was custom made, very expensive, dining room table that was completely covered with the girlfriend's art supplies. Boxes were placed underneath the table with more art supplies. The walls were covered with her art along with her family photos. The dining room was wall to wall with her arts and crafts, and it was difficult to walk around in there. The living room had a small couch of my dad's and his second wife's special chair. Everything else in there was unrecognizable. It was all his girlfriend's. One small section about the special chair had some framed artwork that was my dad's. There was a large bookcase with her family photos everywhere. I knew my dad had framed family pictures, but I couldn't find them anywhere on the bookshelf or on the walls. I then noticed way up high on the shelf at the far corner a framed photo of my sister, my dad and myself. I had given it to my dad many years ago, and it seemed hidden amongst all of her stuff. She had photos in the small hallway of herself and old pictures with her boyfriend from the 1970's, Clint Eastwood (yes it was the actor). She had a photo book that she had made and titled it "My Memories". Every single photo was just a picture of her. I then realized there were no photos of my dad with her. I started to look for some sign of one, and then I saw it. There was a framed photo of my dad and her when they went to Vegas in February 2020. I didn't recognize my dad. He was even thinner in the photo. He looked emaciated. It scared me. I had never seen him so thin and gaunt. Later on I saw in his medical records that his weight was one pound away from being considered malnourished at the time the photo was taken. During a visit from my dad in December 2018 he mentioned that his new girlfriend was a "life coach" and was using him as "kind of like a client". She had him stop drinking alcohol (which I was fine with), and also had him stop drinking coffee. My dad always loved his coffee so I thought that was a bit odd and questioned him about it. He seemed okay with it at the time, and because he seemed happy and healthy I never thought more about it, until this visit in 2021. Now looking back, I realize that was a red flag on how she was treating him. I went into his office, and saw a large massage chair that appeared to be very new. When asked about it my dad said they bought it together at the county/state fair. I asked if he actually used it, and he said "no." It is very unlike my dad's personality to make such an expensive purchase let alone use a chair like that. The chair was bought in his girlfriend's name for $6,000.00 on a payment plan. We discovered my dad was making monthly payments on the chair, not her. I also noticed in his office on the far wall to the side, were two canvas pictures of his grandkids. My sister and I each sent him one respectively (my 3 boys and her 2 daughters). It made sense to see them up on the wall, but those were really the only family photos of his in the entire house. I would say that 85% of the stuff in the house now was the girlfriend's. When asked about where his things were he said that they were in storage because there was no room for anything. His small bedroom was crammed with furniture, and clothing. In the corner behind a dresser were a lot of his own framed pictures that appeared to have been removed and placed in a corner. Many of them were purchased from artists and specially framed. They were now all shoved in a corner. When asked about the checking account he said that he was struggling with his bills and simply asked his girlfriend to take care of his finances. I asked if she had her own personal account and if she closed that to share finances with him. He said she did have her own account but "no, she did not share her finances." When I went to turn on the television I noticed it wasn't hooked up correctly and he had no idea how to use the remote controls. He had been unable to access television. When I figured out how to connect everything I saw there was a netflix account. I went to check for a movie and realized that the girlfriend and her adult children, adult grandson were using netflix. I discovered our dad was paying for directv along with netflix for the girlfriend and her family. I asked my dad if he ever watched tv. He said not a lot but he did like watching the show Monk a lot. I noticed in the corner of the living room a box with a dvd collection of several seasons of Monk. Was she keeping him from watching television and made him believe he was watching Monk on the tv all the time? My father seemed very confused and overwhelmed about everything. We were extremely worried about him. The girlfriend had three cats that she left with him to care for and administer medicine to. We discovered that she had traveled for approximately 8 weeks over the course of three months prior to our visit (Mid April to Mid June). She was in Colorado, Florida, Texas and Wyoming, and now Florida for 10 days. Before she left for Florida she and my dad went together for a routine doctor's appointment for my dad. During the visit she requested to be added to the list of emergency contacts in his records. She then proceeded to ask the doctor to do a memory test. She obviously knew he was struggling with his memory. When we went to the bank to meet with the banker regarding his account we discovered he had cashed out annuities from life insurance policies. There were large overpayments made on credit cards ($800 for a $100 bill) and duplicate payments made to an AT&T account. This was based on statements since his girlfriend was added to the account. We were very concerned. We discovered that his girlfriend was trying to get on his account and have access to it since May 2021; however, her requests were over the phone because she was out of the state and needed to come in person to do so. She also requested a meeting with on of the Mortgage Brokers at the bank. Based on the Zillow listing we had reason to believe she was trying to add her name to the title. We contacted AT&T and found a bill from them, and discovered the girlfriend, her 56 year old daughter, and her daughter's 33 year old son were all on the account listed under my dad's name. They all had brand new iPhones. Plus the girlfriend had a new iWatch. Our dad had an older iPhone model, the iPhone 8, and he had two phones, one with a local area code, and the other was his phone number he had for 20+ years. He also had an iWatch which he "lost" and has no idea what happened to it. We discovered my dad was paying for a large storage unit (10'x20'). The majority of items belonged to the girlfriend. We also discovered that my dad's special custom made desk was in the storage along with a very nice couch he had with his wife. He had no room in his home for them, because the girlfriend took over the majority of the space in the house when she moved in. Along with a few boxes and a folded card table with 4 folding chairs, those were the only items that were his. The rest of the storage was packed with all of her things. There seemed to be absolutely no reason why he wouldn't be able to keep his special items with him in his home. Consequently, she was living rent free in his home and able to have free storage for all of her items. We discovered on a different checking account that he was making payments to the girlfriend for groceries and dinner. On one occasion he had paid for a $56 dinner on his bank card and then proceeded to pay her again for the same amount on the same day and listed in the memo "dinner". It appeared she was requesting he reimburse her for meals and groceries on a regular basis. While we were in Oklahoma the girl friend called our dad at night to let him know she was worried that a payment had not gone through for his Barclay credit card, and needed him to talk with Barclay to confirm the payment. The payment she was referring to was in fact the overpayment of $800 she made one week earlier. During the phone call there was a great deal of confusion, and our dad became anxious and confused. He would go into his office and close the door to talk with his girlfriend and then with Barclay's. My sister and I were still in a great deal of shock and confused ourselves as to what was happening. The next day we contacted Barclay's with our dad. Barclay had suspected fraudulent activity from the girlfriend and had shut the card down. When we found out we asked our dad where his credit cards were. He realized they were gone and we searched everywhere for them in the house. We asked if he gave them to the girlfriend, but his response was "No, I don't think so." We then suspected that the girlfriend had taken all of his credit cards with her to Florida, and believe she tried to use that specific card while in Florida and it was declined. We later discovered that she was then able to use his American Express card. There were several charges from The Villages on his card. The first few days of our visit in Oklahoma the girlfriend sent a text to our dad to share with us. The text stated that she was helping our father with his finances because he was struggling with them. She said her goal was to buy a place in Florida (The Villages) and to help him keep his home in Oklahoma so that he can live comfortably and go visit her. She continued by stating that she had "the book" (involving his finances) with her in Florida and that if we wanted to contact her she would go over everything with us. We were now very concerned. Why was his house for sale on Zillow/Trulia? Why does she have the book with her and why does she have all of his credit cards. We did not call her due to our lack of trust and concerns. At one point our father was busy on the phone with her, and I decided to go into her room to see if there was anything suspicious. I was standing by her desk and looked down to find a notepad with information about my father. I looked closer and found what appeared to be "the book" she said she had with her. She had everything noted about my father in the book, social security number, credit card numbers, life insurance policies and information about how much $ for each of them, usernames/passwords, checking account information, key events/information about my father often used for two-step verification on accounts (i.e.-mother's maiden name, favorite pet's name, father's birthdate). We were astounded and now very very concerned. He had no idea about the book and why all that information was listed on there. We discovered our father's mortgage payments were behind, and he had not paid his homeowners fees in months. His house was on lien and we needed to contact the mortgage company and homeowners association immediately. When we spoke with the HOA they said they had talked with our dad's girlfriend in May and stated that when she called she said, "I am his wife, well his fiancée, well I'm his girlfriend. Well, I'm a lot of things to him." The HOA Representative then stated she asked for information on how to pay his debt, and was given a form to complete and return. The HOA never received a form and never received any payments after that. We discussed with the HOA our concerns and requested to meet with them to work through the current situation. The next day we also discovered that our father's name had been removed from the gate code key pad to his community. We instead found the girlfriend's last name added to gate code. We requested to remove her name immediately and reinstate our father's name. We also asked them to confirm there was no one else with the same last name living there. HOA confirmed that no one with that last name lived there, and inquired about it with the facilities management team. They informed us that the name was removed and replaced with our father's name. We believe the girlfriend removed his name. As the week progressed our concerns about our dad's health safety and overall well-being grew. We were very worried that he was not safe in the house alone with the girlfriend. We had no choice but to bring him back to California to sort through everything. We immediately bought him a ticket to come back home with me stay with us while we sorted through everything. We brought the book with us to California as it had all of his personal information. We quickly had a lawyer draw up the documents for Power of Attorney. We discussed with our father and had the documents signed and notarized. Next we had our father close out his joint account with her and open a new account with my sister and myself. First and foremost, we needed to keep our dad safe. He was very worried about what to tell her. When we said, "Let her know you are going to California to visit my grandkids and daughters for awhile", he was still worried and seemed afraid of how she might react. When we got to California his behavior was similar to something like Stockholm syndrome. Approximately two days after he arrived he contacted his girlfriend on the phone in front of me. She was loud enough that I could hear her. She said loudly to him, "They will take all of OUR money." There was then a pause in the conversation and she quickly and in a more quiet tone said, "Well, they will take all of your money." She had been upset that we brought the book home with us, not to mention our father was now safe with us. A few days later the girlfriend contacted my father and said there was a police officer parked in front of the house and she had thought my sister and I had contacted the police on her. She seemed to react in a paranoid way, and accused us of calling the police. When we told our father that we had no idea what she was talking about he did not believe us, and started to get angry with us. The very next day several cars were parked at our father's house, and his girl friend along with some of her friends proceeded to load up their cars with her things. It appeared that she was moving out very quickly. During that time, she purchased storage tubs and an electronic item for $350 using our father's American Express card. He had sent several text messages to her stating the following, "Please allow (her name) to use my American Express card for money owed to her." It appeared that she had coerced and manipulated him into sending the text message. Our father did not owe her any money. During this time of overwhelming chaos for our family, we asked the girlfriend and her family members to remove their phones from our father's AT&T account. We requested a "Transfer of Billing Responsibility" for all three of them, and asked them to take care of it in the next two weeks, giving them a deadline so their phone bills would not rollover into the next cycle. The girlfriend seemingly took care of it within a few days. The daughter asked us to change the name of her 33 year old son's phone to her name, and we asked her to take care of removing the phones immediately, she became agitated with us. She then stated that her son was a "minor with a disability" (neither of which were true) which we found incredibly odd. Reluctantly, I contacted AT&T myself and asked them to change the name. We just needed them to change their billing responsibility. After the two weeks had passed I went to check the bill to make sure they were all removed. None of them were. In fact, the girlfriend had created some type of "grandfather clause" account and placed her phone on a $2 per minute charge. The daughter had done nothing. The bill was now $1500 ($1200 for the girlfriend alone). I contacted AT&T and reported the situation. AT&T honored the request to remove t$1200 charge. They recommended shutting down their phones if they do not honor our request. Almost everyday for two weeks I was on the phone with AT&T and sending emails to the daughter to remove her two phones from our father's account. Important to note-Our father met the daughter one time on a visit to Colorado. He was in the relationship with the girlfriend for 2.5 years, and during that time she had traveled and been away for at least 12 months. In other words, the relationship was not long term, and she was often absent and away due to extended travel. I had sent emails stating that we would need to shut down the daughter's phone and her son's phone if they rolled over into the next billing cycle. And, let her know the cost of the phones since our dad would be held responsible for paying them off. At the final day I contacted AT&T and had the phones shut off. She did not do what we requested, and we extended the timeframe to one month to get it done. She was able to take care of it within the 24 hours that I made the call to disconnect their services, and she was eventually able to remove her phones. I received a disturbing correspondence from her, during the entire exchange. I spent hours dealing with her and AT&T. My dad would never have been able to keep up with the high AT&T bill or continue to be responsible for the girlfriend and her family. It was extremely exploitative in nature and abusive towards our father. Once all phones were removed we were relieved, but unfortunately our father still had two phones and a watch he still needed to make payments on. As a result, we had to keep the account until he had enough money to pay off everything and open a new account with just one phone. It was now been two months since we dealt with AT&T and my father received a phone call from his girlfriend asking to be reimbursed for payments she made to AT&T at the end of August and September. She asked our father to mail her a check. We were very worried about this request and let our father know that she was not on the account anymore. I went to look at the payment history and she had made unnecessary payments to his account. We contacted AT&T and reported her to the fraud department. We also explained to our father that we would not be able to reimburse her the money due to her prior history. We did not want any money, especially checks/debit card numbers to be exchanged with her. She was not to be trusted. I sent her an email and asked that she stop asking for money from our father and that she would need to work it out with her bank and AT&T. It was not our father's responsibility. She still continued to make monthly payments and again asked our father to reimburse her. We finally were able to close his AT&T account and closed it down in December of 2021. Prior to closing it down we let the girlfriend know and told her she would need to stop making payments to the account. We made our final payment in January 2022 and noticed she was still making payments on the account. I continued to report her to the fraud department. A few weeks later we received a gift card from AT&T to reimburse us for the overpayment of $85 on the account, which was the amount she had paid. Again, I called the fraud department with AT&T and again she made a payment for $85. It was exhausting and frustrating. We continued to receive reimbursements in the form of a gift card, and then she stopped doing it in April and May. She started again from June 2022 through August 2022 and then mysteriously stopped making the payments. Note-She had moved to Las Vegas in April and May, and then moved to Florida in September 2022. Payments stopped each time she moved. In between moves they started up again. I was curious if she still had the same phone number and when I looked her up in the White Pages her phone number was listed under a different name from a previous marriage. I returned all gift cards to AT&T as we did not want anything connected to a potential scam. We had spent close to 14 months dealing with our father's AT&T account, and several of those months were spent dealing with the account after it had closed. The girlfriend also had a connection with a dance instructor in Oklahoma City. The girlfriend was a former "professional" dancer and during COVID she had asked her dance instructor friend to work with our father. According to our father he was paying this "instructor" for weekly dance lessons during COVID. Our father has never enjoyed doing anything like that which had us concerned. During COVID the dance instructor would go to our father's house often and would sometimes load a car/truck with items from our dad's house. Neighbors had made the observation on numerous occasions and shared this information with our Aunt and Uncle. The instructor was also asked to do "odd jobs" around the house and asked to take care of a landscaping project in the back yard. While we were in Oklahoma he had called our father to discuss picking up a check from him for some of the work he was doing. When he arrived our father handed the dance instructor a check for $500 and while they were talking the instructor proceeded to make a mobile deposit off of his phone in front of me and my dad. I found it unprofessional and suspicious. After further research we had discovered our dad had paid this person in checks alone $5900. Our dad was surprised and confused, and told us that he couldn't believe that amount of money over the course of one year. Plus, he had paid him in cash as well, and realized the amount was much higher. Three months after our dad was living with us (October 2021) his girlfriend would call him and ask that he contact the dance instructor about a small yard statue of hers that he was going to fix. My father was confused, but offered to call the instructor. He would ask the instructor if he owed him any money to which the instructor replied, "Yes, you owe me $500". Even though he had not completed the landscaping project he was still asking our dad for money. Was the girlfriend trying to get our dad to give money to the dance instructor who would then give money to her? Was he her money mule? We also learned that a computer specialist and small business owner was tasked to setup and connect our dad's computer to WIFI and a personal printer. Our father had trusted him since he was referred by a friend. We later discovered that our dad gave this person a bag of watches, some of them valuable family heirlooms, to get fixed. Evidently the computer specialist also specialized in watch repair? Both my dad and I had tried to contact the individual with no success. I eventually received a phone call response from his assistant to which she responded, "call back in two weeks. He is out of the office." I called back two weeks later to inquire about the watches only to get this response, "He does have the watches, but your dad still owes him a lot of money." I asked how much money since I saw a zero balance on their online invoice. She did not have a response for me, and said she would call back or I can call back in the next week. I called back and they never returned my phonecalls. I sent messages via LinkedIn and Facebook messenger to ask about the watches. No response. I contacted the police department, but since we did not photos or documentation of the watches we could not file a report. I later discovered that our dad was making monthly payments to this person and made approximately $1300 in payments to him for computer setup. While looking through our dad's financial statements we noticed some suspicious banking activity in May of 2021. During that time his girlfriend was traveling a lot, and I was often told she was visiting family. We noticed a mobile deposit was made to our dad's from a check made out to him by his girlfriend (note-this was his own personal account). The girlfriend wrote in the memo section, "Loan". There were two signatures on the back of the check on each end of the check. This was all very suspicious because our dad does not know how to do a mobile deposit and always goes directly to the bank to make an in-person deposit. The signatures appear to be forged, his girlfriend had been traveling during that time, and wrote the check to him, and the deposit was made exactly four minutes after a message from a different bank was sent stating they suspected fraud from this specific person due to a request to make a "bill pay" to her. The deposit went through and the bill pay was made 24/48 hours later for $1038.75 which was the exact amount of money in our dad's account at the time the bill pay check was requested. Just to recap that check incident; A "loan" was mobile deposit for $996 (written as a "Loan") was made to a bank in Oklahoma 5 minutes after a bank in Ohio suspected fraud by that same person. Approximately one/two days later a payment was made in the amount $1038.75 to that same person they suspected fraudulent activity from. This left our dad with a zero balance in his account in Ohio. We believe the girlfriend was out of state, possibly in Colorado, at the time all of these transactions took place. Phone records show that she was calling both banks during that time frame. On July 5th, more than one year later we learned that she had made her phone number the main source of contact for his bank in Ohio. We had been in contact with them on numerous occasions but never saw any documentation of her contact information on file or in his online portal. When we learned of it the bank immediately filed a police report for fraud. We had the police at our house the very next day along with APS. They suggested we file a restraining order on her. The family justice center turned down our request since our father continued to text her on a regular basis and the court would not take the request as serious enough.

Share all of it! The fraud, the abuse, the isolation and manipulation. Share everything I have stated in the first question. Also, share that we filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. She continued to contact him via text/phone calls. Our dad sent her text messages all the time that were brief and vague about how he was doing and what was new with him. The truth was that he couldn't remember and did not have the cognitive ability to recall his day/week. She would send him photos of her with other male friends and share about how much they helped her with a move or took care of her. In May of 2022 she had sent a text to our father from Las Vegas. She had recently moved there and stated she was caring for a woman with Alzheimer's and how difficult it was to care for her. I was very worried for that person and contacted the police in Las Vegas to report my concerns, but they didn't want to hear about it unless I had the name of the potential victim. I then called Adult Protective Services and they had the same response. Two weeks later she sent our dad a text at around 2:30am stating that she had to move because her roommate learned she was allergic to her cats. She had lived in Las Vegas for about two months and very quickly left to temporarily live with her son and his family in S. Padre Islands, Texas. I was very worried about the safety and well-being of the person she said she was caring for. She seemed settled in Vegas one minute and then abruptly moved away the next minute. She continued to talk with my dad which made it difficult for him to move forward and to understand what she had done to him. He couldn't remember from day to day what she had done and would reach out to her like a drug addict seeking their next fix. We contacted Adult Protective Services immediately. We called the police department to report the real estate listing on Zillow along with the unusual bank activity and credit card usage. We had filed police reports in Oklahoma, Ohio and California. The police did in fact get proof of fraud on Zillow and presented it to the DA's office. The District Attorney chose not to take the case because no money was exchanged. We were even given a contact person at the FBI, but after talking with them they were not interested and never returned our phone calls after that. Our father was able to sell his house and is now able to have that money to live off of. He lives with me and my family and has his own bedroom/bathroom and an office where he can display his photos and memorabilia. Every single agency, doctors, bankers, APS, law enforcement, and the FBI have all agreed unanimously that our father was being abused and financially exploited. Unfortunately, there have been no consequences for the behavior of his girlfriend other than the fact that she can no longer abuse our father. We believe she is still doing the same scam/con with other elderly men, and will continue to do so. We have read about a recent case of elder abuse that is very similar to our story, but they are now facing actual criminal charges because they took a lot of money. It fear that the type of abuse our dad's girlfriend committed is all too common and overlooked if there isn't an excessive amount of money involved. We are grateful for our Aunt and Uncle and all of the friends and neighbors who stepped in to help our father. Had they not, I truly believe he would not be here with us today. Thankfully, we have finally been successful in removing her from any communication with our father. Unfortunately, much of that is because our father's memory has declined and he cannot remember her phone number anymore.

If you suspect anything is off or wrong trust your instincts. Call Adult Protective Services immediately. It can be overwhelming and scary. Find friends and support groups to connect with. You are not alone! Be persistent. Also, make sure to get the proper medical care and evaluations for your loved one. Our father was officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's and also has other physical ailments that need medical care and treatment. Make sure to rule out any type of dementia/alzheimer's. Get as many resources as possible in your local area including the neighborhood Senior center. It's important to have a support system for your loved one and yourself. Document everything about the fraud, and share your story like I am here. The more we get the information out there the more knowledge people will have. We believe this was similar to a Romance Scam. Our dad's girlfriend was introduced to him by a mutual friend. Our dad originally met the mutual friend through an online dating site/chat room. That mutual friend is connected to the dance instructor, the computer person and the girlfriend. APS believes it is some type of ring of people collectively helping one another with their own personal scams. As I get older I see the importance of having documents such as a living trust and power of attorney all in place before I have any type of cognitive decline.

I hope the laws start to actually protect all of our elderly. What good is the law if there are no consequences for criminal actions. I am dismayed, disappointed and saddened that we spent a better part of 1.5 years talking with the very institutions designed to protect people like our father only to discover they don't want to get involved. Can we hold people accountable for their actions? It seems the victim is often left dealing with the behavior of the abuser. I am hoping someday there will be stronger protections under the law for these types of crimes.

I have purposely not added names to my information to protect my father and my family. I do not trust this person, or her family.

My parents were turning 84 and had many health issues. My parents owned a small manufacturing company that they owned for 50 years with the property. My mom had COPD and cardiac issues, and she required oxygen 24/7. My dad had his health issues, but he had been an avid golfer most of his life until he began to develop cognitive issues. Dad had heart and cancer issues, and we started to see signs of forgetfulness. My parents did not live large and always put money away for their retirement. My mom would pay the home bills weekly and always gave to 5-8 charities weekly as well as she believed this was very important to her. They had paid all their liabilities on time and had an 800-credit score as their financial reward for their good fiscal lifestyle.
I would still pick up my dad every day and drive him to the office and back home. My mom was a housewife and maintained the house. My dad's cognitive issues started to get worse as things were leading into a severe case of dementia.

An old friend of my late brother came back into our lives and within 9 months he used his trusted position as a good friend of the family and as a financial advisor to frighten them to make a financial choice to protect against the estate tax that could liquidate their estate if they both passed to pay the estate tax. (As we now come to understand, their estate wasn't large enough to have high estate tax ramification. This was the ploy to scare all of the seniors to purchase large life insurance policies.) He suggested they were "underinsured "and he proposed a large life insurance policy as a solution and told them that there would be no out of pocket expense. They were told this can be done using something called "Life Settlement" and that one of the 2 policies would be sold within 3-6 months on the secondary market. The sale would then pay for the 2nd policy in its entirety. Funding for all of this would be procured through a separate source. What we have come to know is that a few years before all this, the friend and advisor had committed 2 insurance felonies that he received a conviction for and only received a 3-month suspension of his insurance license and have is securities license revoked. The state never put this on the state's insurance portal to warn citizens of the state with the fact of these felonies, so as to make the choice to use the advisor for important financial decisions. Here the state is culpable for failure to protect seniors from financial fraud. As in the states own words after he paid a $10,000 fine, "he was not rehabilitated, but we will allow him to reinstate his insurance license. " The advisor cleared the path to write and get approved 2 -$2million life insurance policies. My parents had two $100,000+ policies that he advised them to stop paying and allow them to lapse. So when they passed there was no life insurance for their final expenses.
What my parents were not told is the key to the scheme. The unsuspected direction of this sinister plot was that this was a "STOLI", a financial vehicle strongly opposed by life insurance companies and illegal in our state, and yet with all their knowledge in this illegal concept, the insurance company would continue to underwrite and eventually approve the policies. This was pure negligence on behalf of the insurance company, and the insurance company's own lead attorney, after the fact, stated that all of this should have been looked at, reviewed and the underwriting stopped, so no policies should have been issued. Insurance companies are part of the first line of defense through their compliance with regards to protecting their clients when red flags rise up. They failed in this endeavor.
Also, part of this type of scheme included a large loan that was disguised as premium financing and was never explained to the elderly couples that this was how the life insurance was to be funded, and they were not advised that they were responsible for these loans. Unbeknownst to the elderly couples, once these policies are placed and the loans complete, hundreds of thousands of dollars in commissions are paid out and distributed to the insurance agent, bankers, attorneys and other individuals involved. Transparency was removed from these transactions as paperwork was shuffled in front of the seniors with signatures requested with no explanation on blank pages and just told "trust me, I will fill the paperwork for you". All communication was between the bank, the advisor, the attorneys and the phony CPA "Only" on all matters of contracts, loans and other financial information.

We are told that a bank is the first line of defense in protecting its elderly (All) clients from financial malfeasance. Unbeknownst to them a new startup bank with minimal assets received their financial/credit information from the phony CPA who was introduced to my parents by their advisor. The bank that was supposed to protect the seniors, to not be part of any fraud, but instead concealed all pertinent communication from them sharing with others and when the situation became delicate to financial abuse the bank committed identity theft, forgery and willful blindness instead. The insurance broker passed on all their financial information to a phony CPA, this new bank,45 miles away from my parents( they never used another bank in their 55 years of marriage till this event), an attorney who they never met, who was disciplined a few years earlier for using his personal IOLTA as his personal piggy bank and not paying premiums for life insurance policies where he was the trustee. This was reported to the ARDC (attorney registration and discipline commission) by a major law firm he worked with. He was suspended for under 6 months. My parents were not aware of his past history, but were told they needed to use him because of his expertise in these kinds of trusts. The attorney who drew up a Special Trust and Family Trust on my dad and my mom, who he had never met, spoken with or at any time communicated with them and yet was able to get the two trusts notarized without meeting with my parents. We have recently found out how my parents were defrauded by all the thieves. The documents were brought to a notary who worked with the phony CPA. Under a deposition, the notary admitted she never met either of my parents and many times she would notarize documents for coworkers without following guidelines set by the state for notaries. Her attorney and my attorney were sitting there with their mouths open as she admitted she never saw the documents for my parents that she signed off on and notarized.
2 attorneys, who were partners, one who had been suspended for financial malfeasance and the other was a catholic priest who was laicized for child molestation, a case that went all the way up to the Vatican (noted in state documents about priest who committed child sexual abuse as priests), is somehow still practicing law.

White collar criminals, especially those who willfully abuse the elderly and other vulnerable human beings, should be fully prosecuted. White collar is the least prosecuted because who would believe a bank(owner,president and vice president) would willfully commit senior financial fraud. The CFPB found the fraud, reported it to the Federal Reserve who did nothing because the loans were secured by the home and business property. The fraudulent action of the 2 attorneys, the bank, the phony CPA and the advisor should all have been prosecuted and sent off to do time for their crimes against humanity. Instead, seniors who worked hard all their lives, saved for easy and financially successful retirement, were sacrificial lambs who struggled to put food on their table, pay their bills and afford their necessary medical needs died penniless and without the dignity they deserved. Talking about elder care is not sexy. It does not draw the same attention as talking about some other major issues impacting our country right now or the death of loved ones, the break-ups, whatever it might be. But it's important and it's essential. My parents were one of many thousands who are manipulated, defrauded and are exploited for about $8 Billion each year..This group of individuals alone defrauded my parents and at least 19 other seniors. I want to ensure that this doesn't happen to other families.
My mom's dying words were " I am the charity case, and this is not where I was supposed to die."

What we have come to realize this year with all the failures of many banks sheds light on the sheer negligence of our banking institutions, the failure of the law to protect senior citizens at every level, and an abundance of fraudulent activity that this story begins to expose. There were forged signatures, inflated financial statements, negligence on behalf of the insurance company, banking fraud and numerous other failures within the financial system. I am constantly reminded that the law, both federal, local and state, failed my family in very catastrophic ways. No one should have their name ruined or die penniless because they were defrauded when all they did was work hard all their life so they could retire comfortably without government, family or any other intervention. Everyone deserves to live their life in a dignified fashion, especially in their retirement years.

My name is Shirley Hellenthal i am a victim and survivor of Elder Domestic Violence, Elder Abuse, Neglect, and Exploitation rape felonious assault, Theft in the amount of more than $ 300.000 having endured life threatenig medical conditions and losing more than 65% of my mobility core strength rendered helpless in defending myself, being kept isolated not being provided proper nutrition to maintain healthy bone and tissue. this was all a result of his physical and emotional abuse, neglect, rapes, sexual assault by my husband Kenneth Hellenthal him refusing to provide for me at times, emergent medical care, attending to my immediate needs of personal hygeine, hunger, medical treatment. while residing in his home as his wife for 2 and a half years. "not having a will i was worth more to him dead than alive.!" Him constantly intimidating and threatening me to do as i was told or he was filing for a divorce, kicking me to the curb, while continuing to demand i support him financially. refusing me any financial assistance. goods or services i was in need of to sustain my life from the dates of April 28, 2020 through September 23.2021 placing me in life threatening situations of taking me outside in sub zero weather wearing only a thin pair of pajams's and robe in my wheel chair in the snow and leaving me set for more than 30 minutes him leaving the premises to. him knowing i had two doors to try to get my wheelchair through in order to get back in the house. knowing i did not have very little use of the whole right side of my body and it was easy for me to slip out of my wheelchair to the floor due to the lack of my core strength and overall strength of arms and legs. He would leave me alone in a locked house for several hours through the day without providing me with any food or anything to drink. only to return if i had fallen from trying to transfer form bed to my chair or just fallen out of my chair to the floor he would grab me by my arm and shove me back in my chair then inform me i could do more for myself if i would just try, he didn't have time to babysit me. meantime if i didn't do exactly what he wanted he wanted i was repremanded for not doing as i was told. I have lost more than three fourths of everything i have worked for my entire life and including my life from suffering from chronic hypertension, tachycardia, angina, and chronic stage III Kidney disease, in danger of having a heart attack of which i have suffered two, or a stroke, and acute renal failure. i have documentation to these facts. I will soon to be 75 years old in June of this year. not being afforded by local law enforcement, Adult Protective serivces, or the prosecutors. my victims rights or my civil rights under law. I have never been allowed to give a victim's impact statement or bring forward any of the pictures, medicial documentation as to the facts of my situation. only he has been interviewed and allowed to give statement after i had filed reports with these agencies. since october of 2020 i have been sent back and forth between my counties agencies to file reports and give my documentation to no avail.

My primary care physician had been trying to place me in a skilled nursing rehab facility since September of 2020 when i had lost my ability to balance and walk without assistance after having lost more than 50 pounds in less than 5 months and my blood work was reading as being malnutritioned. i was scheduled for nerve blocks by my pain managment doctor on november 24, 2020 and was not able to receive the treatment due to experiencing severe tremors and being in a state of anxiety, fear, and panic and trauma. stating to THE DOCTOR i had been forceably raped on November 17,2020. 20 minutes after being served with papers of a fault based divorce against me. social workers from the hospital failing to recognize the seriousness of my situation AND A STATE OF TRAUMA sent me back home with him to endure another whole year of sexual assaults, abuse and neglect. my primary care physician finally managed to order home health care beginning on December 03,2020 to provide me with the care i desperately needed and hopefully curtail his abuse with health professionals keeping him under a watchful eye. i was beginning to be fed more often. but he was still leaving me alone for periods of time unattended. and he would not cooperate with requests for handicap equipment and daily involvement of essential care i needed, or he made himself unavailable for them to talk to. this information is documented by the nurses and physical therapists that were in and out of the home numerous times throughtout the week....on June 12th he stormed into my room and informed me that all home health was to stop. there was not another nurse, physical therapist, home health aide, friend or otherwise to step foot in his house. there was to be no one but him to come or go was that understood! DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR! THE CIRCUMSTANCES SURROUNDING MY SITUATION HAD ALL BEEN DURING THE COVID OUTBREAK SO IT WAS EASY FOR HIM TO KEEP ME ISOLATED FROM FRIENDS AND FAMILY. i HAVE BEEN REACHING OUT FOR INTERVENTION OF ANY KIND AND CRISIS HOTLINES by PHONE SINCE JUNE OF 2020 AS THIS WAS MY ONLY SOURCE OF COMMUNICATION . ON SEPTEMBER 16 2021 I MADE CONTACT WITH OUR LOCAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGENCY IN GIVING THEM ALL MY INFORMATION AND THEY BECAME INVOLVED IN TRYING TO FIND A SAFE ENVIRONMENT TO GET ME OUT OF THE HOME. There were no handicap facilities within a 50 mile radius of Fayette County or in the county itself. but they would keep trying. there still were no vacancies in skilled nursing facilities at this time. on or about september 19, 2021 he tried to force me to have oral sex but i was unable to hold myself upright on the edge of the bed so he undressed me and masturbated himself until he ejaculated on my pubic area....September 20,2021 he took me outside in my wheelchair after building a fire in the fire ring stating i needed some fresh air and asked me if i would like to roast hogs. I DIDN'T NOTICE HE HAD REMOVED THE FOOT RESTS OFF MY CHAIR UNTIL HE ROLLED ME RIGHT UP TO THE FIRE TILL THE WHEELS WERE TOUCHING THE RING AND THEN HE LEFT ME THERE. ME SCREAMING MY HEAD OFF TO COME BACK AND HELP ME. THE LONGER I SAT THE HOTTER THE FIRE BECAME. I FINALLY MANAGED TO WORK MY TOES GRADUALY UP THE SIDE OF THE FIRE RING LIFTING MY LEFT LEG TILL I GOT MY FOOT ON THE TOP EDGE OF THE RING AND WITH MY HANDS ON THE WHEELS OF MY CHAIR WAS ABLE TO SHOVE MYSELF BACKWARD. I HAD TRIED TO JUST ROLL MYSELF BACKWARD BUT FOR SOME REASON THE GRASS WAS WET AND I COULDN'T GET TRACTION TO ROLL. STILL SCREAMING FOR HIM TO HELP ME. i MANAGED TO ROLL MYSELF BACK TO THE DECK STEPS AND HAD TRANSFERRED MYSELF TO THE SECOND OF FOUR STEPS HE CAME FLYING OUT OF THE HOUSE AND ASKED WHAT I THOUGHT I WAS DOING GRABBED ME BY THE RIGHT ARM LIFTING ME OFF MY FEET AND SHOVED ME BACK INTO MY SEATED WALKER SITTING ON THE DECK. IT WASN'T UNTIL I WAS BACK ON THE DECK I SAW THE GARDEN HOSE LAYING IN THE YARD. CLOSE TO THE FIRE RING. STATING HE COULDN'T DO ANYTHING NICE FOR ME I DIDN'T APPRECIATE ANY THING HE TRIED TO DO FOR ME. SEPTEMBER 23. 2021 I HAD SOILED MY BED FROM HAVING LOST CONTINENCE FROM DAMAGING MY LUMBAR SPINE FROM FALLS AND LACK OF PROPER NUTRITION NEEDING SURGERY. I COULDN'T ALWAYS FEEL OR SENSE WHEN I HAD TO GO TO THE BATHROOM. I HAD ASKED HIM TO PLEASE HELP ME SHOWER AND TO CHANGE MY BED. HE INFORMED ME HIS BACK HURT IT WAS HARD FOR HIM TO BEND OVER AND HE DIDN'T HAVE TIME. WE BOTH HAD QUEEN SIZE BEDS AND HE CHANGED HIS SHEETS AND DID HIS LAUNDRY EVERY WEEK. I HAVE PICTURES TO THAT FACT. SO LIKE SO MUCH OF THE TIME I ATTEMPTED TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF. I FELL WHEN TRANSFERRING MYSELF FROM MY SEATED WALKER TO THE SHOWER. I ONLY HAD PARTIAL STRENGTH OF MY LEG AND IT WOULD ONLY BRIEFLY HOLD ME TILL I COULD PIVOT TO TRANSFER FROM MY CHAIR TO THE TOILET, OR TOILET BACK TO IT OR FROM IT TO THE SHOWER BY USING HAND GRIPS AND MY SEATED SHOWER CHAIR. BUT THEIR WERE TIMES IT JUST WOULDN'T HOLD ME UP AND I WOULD FALL. ESPECIALLY WHEN I WOULD HAVE MUSCLE SPASMS AND TREMORS. HE KNEW THIS. I TRIED ONLY TO ATTEMPT TO SHOWER OF AN EVENING WHEN I KNEW HE WAS GOING TO BE IN THE HOUSE. HE WOULD BE SITTING IN THE FAMILY ROOM AND HEAR ME FALL AND YELL AT ME, ARE YOU ALL RIGHT IN THERE? ALMOST NEVER GETTING UP TO CHECK ON ME. HE STATED TO THE DEPUTY SHERIFF HE HEARD A THUD THAT MORNING. hE THOUGHT I MIGHT BE USING A WALKER. I WAS MEAN AND ANGRY WITH PEOPLE ALL THE TIMES AND I WOULDN'T LET HIM HELP ME. THESE WERE ALL LIES. HE WAS THE ONE THAT WAS MEAN AND ANGRY AND REFUSED TO HELP ME. I HAVE WITNESSES WHO HAVE SEEN HIM PUSH ME IN MY WHEELCHAIR OR WALKER WHEN I HAVE BEEN ASKING HIM TO PLEASE STOP HE PUSHED ME TO FAST AND IT MADE ME SICK TO MY STOMACH AND TOLD HIM I COULD DO IT MYSELF. JUST LEAVE ME ALONE. I HAVE WITNESSES THAT HAVE HEARD HIM YELL AT ME. I HAVE MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS WHO HAVE WITNESSED THE SAME TREATMENT AND OBSERVED HIM JUST SITTING OFF TO THE SIDE LISTENING TO THEIR FORMS OF DIAGNOSIS OF CHRONIC HYPERTENSION FLUCTUATING AND IRREGULAR AND EXCESSIVE HEART RATE IN CONSTANT DANGER OF HAVING A STROKE OR HEART ATTACK OF WHICH I HAVE HAD TWO. HIM JUST SITTING THERE WITH HIS ARMS FOLDED ACROSS HIS CHEST NOT ONCE OPENING HIS MOUTH ASKING WHAT HE COULD DO OR NEEDED TO DO TO HELP ME GET WELL, THEM OBSERVING HIS LACK OF EMPATHY OR CARING. THEM TOO WITNESSING HIM SHOVING ME AROUND IN MY WHEEL CHAIR AND ME TELLING HIM TO STOP BUT DOING IT ANYWAY PRETENDING TO BE THE DUTIFUL CARING HUSBAND. HAH! THESE WITNESSES WILLING TO TESTIFY IN COURT WITHOUT BEING COURT ORDERED BUT NEVER CALLED TO GIVE THEIR TESTIMONY. I COULDN'T AFFORD DEPOSITIONS SO MY ATTORNEY TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO WAIVE MY RIGHTS TO WITNESSES. SORRY, LOST FOCUS AND GOT AWAY FROM WHERE I WAS SEPTEMBER 23. 2021. I CALLED MY PRIMARY CARE PHYSICIAN, AND STATED I WAS AFRAID HE WAS GOING TO KILL ME. AND THEY CALLED ADULT PROTECTIVE SERVICES FOR THE SHERIFFS DEPARTMENT TO DO A WELL CHECK OF AN ELDER DISABLED PERSON NEEDING EMERGENCY MEDICAL ASSISTANCE. MY BLOOD PRESSURE WAS SOMEWHERE IN THE 200'S OVER 1 00'S AND MY HEART RATE WAS OVER 100 THE NURSE STAYED ON THE PHONE WITH ME UNTIL THE DEPUTY SHERIFF ARRIVED. WHEN THE DEPUTY ENTERED THE HOME THROUGH THE BACK DOOR HAVING COME THROUGH THE GARAGE. HE MADE VERBAL CONTACT WITH ME WHILE COMING DOWN THE HALL BEFORE ENTERING MY BEDROOM . HIS WORDS WERE GEORGE HELLENTHAL, HOW DO YOU KNOW HIM? HE WASN'T THERE TO DISCUSS HOW I KNEW MY FATHER IN LAW. THAT PUT ME ON DEFENSE IMMEDIATELY AS TO WHAT MY HUSBAND HAD BEEN INFORMING ME FOR MORE THAN A YEAR. IT WOULD NOT DO ME ANY GOOD TO TELL ANYONE ABOUT WHAT WAS HAPPENING. HIS FATHER HAD SERVED ON THE SHERIFFS DEPARTMENT FOR MORE THAN 40 YEARS. I WOULDN'T BE BELIEVED. THE DEPUTY CONTINUED THAT PATH OF CONVERSATION. ON MY AFFILIATION TO MY HUSBANDS FATHER STANDING OVER ME GLARING DOWN AT ME. I BLATANTLY LOOKED HIM SQUARE IN THE EYES AND TOLD HIM MY HUSBAND HAS LET ME KNOW ON MORE THAN ONE OCCASSION IT WOULD NOT DO ME ANY GOOD TO TELL YOU ANYTHING. DEPUTY HAVENS ASSURED ME HE HAD TAKEN SWORN OATH TO UPHOLD THE LAW TO PROTECT AND SERVE THE RESIDENTS WITHIN THE COMMUNITY. AND BEGAN TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AS TO WHAT WAS GOING ON. i INFORMED HIM I WAS BEING PHYSICALLY AND VERBALLY ABUSED BY MY HUSBAND ON A DAILY BASIS. THAT I WAS NOT BEING FED ON A REGULAR OR DAILY BASIS THE PROPER NUTRIENTS THAT I HAD BEEN RECEIVING HOME HEALTH CARE FROM DECEMBER OF 2020 UNTIL JUNE OF 2021 WHEN MY HUSBAND HAD ORDERED ALL HEALTH CARE STOPPED. i INFORMED HIM I HAD BEEN GIVEN A BAG OF POPCORN AT 8 p.m. THE NIGHT BEFORE AND HAD NOT HAD ANYTHING TO EAT THAT DAY. HE WOULD LEAVE ME ALONE IN THE HOME FOR HOURS THROUGH THE DAY WITHOUT ANYTHING TO EAT OR DRINK. I DID NOT HAVE THE ABILITY TO WALK ANY DISTANCE AND HAD BEEN USING A SEATED WALKER AND WHEELCHAIR TO AMBULATE FOR OVER A YEAR. THERE WERE DIRTY CLOTHES PILED IN DIFFERENT PLACES THROUGHOUT MY BEDROOM, INCLUDING PILED KNEE HIGH IN MY BATHROOM. THERE WAS TRASH ALL OVER THE FLOOR UNDER THE SIDE TABLE NEXT TO MY BED. THE DEPUTY ASKED ME IF I NEEDED FOR HIM TO CALL EMS WHICH I REPLIED YES,.......WAS HE BLIND. HE STAYED IN MY BEDROOM UNTIL THEY ARRIVED THEY ASKED IF I COULD WALK AT ALL THEY WEREN'T SURE IF THEY COULD GET THE COT IN MY ROOM IF I COULD WALK 25 FEET, I INFORMED THEM I HAD BEEN CONFINED TO BED I COULD POSSIBLY TRY BUT IT WOULD ONLY BE WITH ASSISTANCE FROM BOTH OF THE EMS ATTENDANTS AND I WOULD POSSIBLY HAVE TO STOP AND REST PERIODICALLY. I HAD NO CORE STRENGTH AND ONLY MINIMAL USE STRENGTH IN MY LEFT LEG. I WAS TAKEN TO THE HOSPITAL AND DIAGNOSED WITH CHRONIC ESSENTIAL HYPERTENSION MEANING UNSTABLE UNCONTROLLABLE AND ESSENTIAL TO LIFE. DECONDITIONING MEANING LACKING MUSCLE MASS NEEDED FOR STRENGTH AND STAMINA ASSOCIATED WITH PROVIDING MYSELF WITH DAILY LIVING ACTIVITIES. NEEDING TO BE IMMEDIATELY REMOVED FROM THE HOME DUE TO BEING IN AN PHYSICALLY AND VERBALLY UNSAFE LIVING ENVIRONMENT. IT WAS MEDICAL STAFF, THE DIRECTOR OF SOCIAL SERVICES WITH THE HOSPITAL, AND THE DIRECTOR OF THE LOCAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGENCY DETERMINATION I WOULD BE PLACED IN A SAFE ENVIRONMENT AT THE HOLIDAY INN HOTEL BEING THE ONLY ACCOMIDATION THAT WAS SAFE AND WAS HANDICAP ACCESSABLE WITH A ROLL IN SHOWER UNTIL A ROOM BECAME AVAILABLE AT A SKILLED NURSING REHAB FACILITY THEN I WOULD BE TRANSFERRED THERE.
DEPUTY HAVENS IN HIS REPORT FAILED TO DOCUMENT ANYTHING HE OBSERVED AS TO THE CONDITION OF MY LIVING ENVIRONMENT, THAT HE HAD OBSERVED A SEATED WALKER NEXT TO MY BED OR ANY OF THE HANDICAP EQUIPMENT IN MY BATHROOM. HE NEGLECTED TO REPORT I HAD TOLD HIM THE DATES I HAD RECEIVED HOME HEALTH CARE. HE FALSELY DOCUMENTED I COULD WALK 25 FT. HE DID NOT CALL APS TO DO AN INVESTIGATION AS HE WAS REQUIRED TO DO BY LAW HE DID NOT TAKE PICTURES OF THE DIRTY DISHES PILED IN THE KITCHEN SINK OR THE CONDITION OF THE KITCHEN WHERE MY MEALS WERE PREPARED. INSTEAD HE WROTE A VERY BRIEF REPORT AFTER HAVING LOCATED MY HUSBAND IN THE BACK YARD. EXCUSE ME HE WAS NOT CALLED TO THE HOME FOR THE WELL CHECK OF MY HUSBAND NEEDING EMERGENCY MEDICAL INTERVENTION. THE DEPUTY'S REPORT INSINUATED ONLY THAT IT WAS A CIRCUMSTANCE OF MY MENTAL ILLNESS. WHICH WAS LATER USED AGAINST ME IN THE COURT DEFENDING MYSELF AS A PERPETRATOR OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON GROUNDS OF EXTREME CRUELTY, AND GROSS NEGLECT OF DUTY IN A FAULT BASED DIVORCE ACTION BROUGHT AGAINST ME HAVING BEEN SUMMONED TO APPEAR IN COURT BY PUBLIC NOTIFICATION. MY HUSBAND KNOWING WHY I HAD BEEN REMOVED FROM THE HOME BROUGHT THIS ACTION AGAINST ME IN ORDER TO PREVENT HIMSELF FROM BEING PROSECUTED FOR THE OFFENSES AND CRIMES HE HAD COMMITTED AGAINST ME. HIM THROUGH HIS REPRESENTATION OF COUNSEL HAVE BROUGHT A SHAM LEGAL PROCESS BEFORE THE COURT AGAINST ME KEEPING ME IN A CONTINUED STATE OF PANIC AND FEAR INTIMIDATION OF A VICTIM WITH LACK OF CIVILITY WITH PREJUDICE AND BIAS MISLEADING THE COURT WITH FALSE NARRATIVE THINKING AND KNOWING I WAS UNABLE TO BRING FORWARD THE TRUTH DUE TO MY DIMINISHED PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL STATE. ACCUSING ME OF TELLING LIES TO THE COURT. WITHOUT MY ATTORNEY OBJECTING TO ANY OF THEIR FALSE TESTIMONY OR LACK OF PROVIDING ACCURATE FINANCIAL AFFIDAVITS. HEARING ON MARCH 16.2023 I HAVE BEEN FORCED TO COMPLETE FINANCIAL AFFIDAVITS KNOWING MY FINANCES CHANGED WEEKLY DEPENDING ON THE MEDICAL CARE I WAS RECEIVING FROM MAY OF 2020 CHANGED CONSTANTLY FROM HAVING TO HAVE NERVE BLOCKS, ABLATIONS, TO CONTROL MY PAIN, TREMORS, MUSCLE SPASMS, ANTI ANXIETY AND BLOOD PRESSURE MEDICATION, TO CONTROL MY UNCONTROLLABLE AND LIFE THREATENING BLOOD PRESSURE. CONSTANT TREATMENT FOR POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER. PSYCHOLOGICAL HEARING ON MARCH 16,2023 I WAS FORCED TO BE ALONE WITH MY HUSBAND / OFFENDER IN THE FOYER OF THE COURT HOUSE AND HAD A EMERGENT MEDICAL EVENT. WHERE I WAS SUFFERING SEVERE CHEST PAIN, ANGINA, AND TACHYCARDIA AND EMS HAD TO BE CALLED. I WAS HOSPITALIZED FOR 3 DAYS WITHOUT MY BLOOD PRESSURE AND HEART RATE BEING UNSTABLE. IT WAS AT THIS TIME IT WAS DISCOVERED I HAD SUFFERED TWO HEART ATTACKS FROM BEING KEPT IN A CONSTANT STATE OF PANIC AND FEAR. I HAD MET WITH THE WITNESS ADVOCATE FOR THE PROSECUTORS OFFICE TWICE THE END OF DECEMBER OF 2021 AND GIVEN HER STATEMENT OF THE FIRST RAPE ON NOVEMBER 17,2020 WHEN HE FOUND IT NECESSARY TO COMFORT ME, SO HE SAID BY TAKING OFF HIS CLOTHES AND GETTING INTO BED WITH ME AND FORCING HIS FINGERS INTO MY VAGINA SCRAPING AT MY INSIDES WITH ME SCREAMING FOR HIM TO STOP HE WAS HURTING ME. MY BLEEDING FOR 5 DAYS AFTER THE FACT. AND REFUSING ME MEDICAL ATTENTION THE FOLLOWING DAY. STATING I WAS PROBABLY JUST HAVING MY PERIOD. MY INFORMING HIM WHAT WOMAN OVER 70 YEARS OF AGE STILL HAS PERIODS. THEY DON'T! I HAD A PARTIAL HYSTERECTOMY WHEN I WAS 38 AND AT 44 MY PERIODS HAD STOPPED. I WENT THROUGH THE CHANGE EARLY. HE KNEW ALL THAT. SINCE I MADE CONTACT WITH THE AGENCIES AND PEOPLE I HAVE MENTIONED. ONLY THE DOCTORS AND MEDICAL STAFF ARE STILL IN THEIR POSITIONS. ALL THREE OF THE STAFF I WAS IN CONTACT WITH OF THE LOCAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE NETWORK. PEACE HOUSE ARE NO LONGER IN THEIR POSITIONS INCLUDING THE DIRECTOR THE CASE MANAGER WITH APS WHO INTERVIEWED ME IN FEBRUARY OF 2022 IS NO LONGER WITH THE AGENCY. THE WITNESS ADVOCATE WITH THE PROSECUTORS OFFICE IS NO LONGER IN THAT POSITION SUPPOSEDLY SHE TOOK A POSITION OF ADVOCACY WITH THE FRANKLIN COUNTY VICTIMS UNIT. I HAVE FILED A REPORT OF THE FIRST RAPE ON AUGUST 9,2022 AFTER FIRING MY FIRST ATTORNEY FOR NOT BRINGING FORWARD A MOTION AMENDING MY ANSWER TO COMPLAINT AND REFUSING TO NOTIFY THE COURT OF THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ELDER ABUSE I HAD SUFFERED. THAT REPORT WAS THE ONLY REPORT THAT WAS CLOSELY ACCURATE TO WHAT I HAD ENDURED AND DOCUMENTED TO THE TRUTH . INCLUDING DEPUTY BENNETT ALSO MAKING NOTATION ON THE LAST PAGE OF THAT REPORT. ASSAULT,, ASSAULT, HOMICIDAL CIRCUMSTANCES. ON MORE THAN ONE COUNT. I HAVE NOT BEEN ABLE TO MAKE ANY FURTHER CONTACT WITH DEPUTY BENNETT. HE SEEMS TO HAVE ALSO DISAPPEARED. DEPUTY HAVENS RESPONDED TO ANOTHER WELL CHECK AT MY CURRENT RESIDENCE ON FEBRUARY 06.2022 HE ARRIVED APPROXIMATELY 10 MINUTES PRIOR TO ANOTHER DEPUTY JACKSON RESPONDING. I WAS INFORMED BY DEPUTY JACKSON THAT PEOPLE DO NOT CALL AND BOTHER THE SHERIFF WITH REPORTS OF ANY KIND....HE IS A BUSY MAN. I WAS INFORMED THAT HE COULD SAY I YANKED HIM UP BY THE ARM AND HAD PHYSICALLY ABUSED HIM BUT THAT DIDN'T MAKE IT TRUE. I HAD TOLD DEPUTY HAVENS THAT A WELL CHECK HAD BEEN DONE WHEN I WAS STILL RESIDING IN MY HUSBANDS HOME AND IT HAD BEEN REPORTED AS A CASE OF MY MENTAL ILLNESS AND THERE HAD BEEN NO MENTION OR DOCUMENTATION TO MY NEED FOR USING HANDICAP EQUIPMENT OR WAS THERE ANY MENTION OF MY HAVING RECIEVED HOME HEALTH CARE. OR THE PHYSICAL CONDITION OF MYSELF OR MY LIVING CONDITIONS AND APS HAD NOT BEEN INVOLVED. WHEN I HAD BEEN REMOVED FROM THE HOME BEING IN AN UNSAFE ENVIRONMENT .....DEPUTY HAVENS STATED YES...I KNOW THAT WAS ME. I OFFERED THEM THE PORTFOLIO OF THE PICTURES AND MEDICAL DOCUMENTATION AND WAS TOLD TO HANG ON TO IT. THEY BASICALLY INTIMIDATED AND HUMILIATED BOTH MYSELF AND MY DAUGHTER WHILE THERE THEN EXCUSED THEMSELVES IF THERE WAS NOTHING ELSE. AGAIN THERE WAS NO MENTION OF MY LIVING CONDITIONS WHICH WE ARE LIVING IN A HOUSE UNDER COMPLETE RENOVATION. WE HAD NO MAIN OPERABLE HEAT SOURCE AND NO KITCHEN. WITH MINIMAL FURNISHINGS. BROKEN WINDOWS WITH ICE FORMING ON THE INSIDE OF THE HOUSE. WALLS UNFINISHED MOST OF THE TRIM AND FININSH WORK LEFT UNDONE BY CONTACTORS LEAVING ME TO BRING SUIT AGAINST THEM STILL TRYING TO COLLECT DAMAGES THEY HAVE CAUSED. IT WASN'T UNTIL GETTING THE ATTORNEY GENERAL INVOLVED IN A THREE WAY CONVERSATION WITH HIS OFFICE AND APS THAT I GOT THE KITCHEN INSTALLED COMPLETED IN DECEMBER OF 2022 AND A FURNACE I BELIEVE WAS COMPLETED IN JANUARY OR FEBRUARY OF 2022. THEN AGAIN MY HUSBAND KNEW HE HAD FORCED ME TO SELL PROPERTY AT A MAJOR LOSS TO PAY FOR ALL MY MEDICAL TREATMENT AND CONTINUE TO SUPPORT HIM WHILE STILL IN HIS HOME. AND TO PROVIDE A ROOF OVER MINE AND MY DAUGHTERS HEAD. MY HUSBAND KNEW I HAD PURCHASED A LEMON IN NEED OF A WHOLE NEW WATER, ELECTRICAL , HEATING AND COOLING SYSTEMS TO MAKE THE HOUSE HABITABLE. I CLOSED ON THE HOUSE ON AUGUST 30TH 2021 AND HE WAS DEMANDING I BE OUT OF HIS HOUSE BY THE 15TH OF SEPTEMBER 2021. BY STATING IF I WASN'T HE WAS HAVING ME REMOVED AND FILING A DIVORCE AGAINST ME. HE COULDN'T AFFORD TO HELP ME BESIDES, HE DIDN'T OWE ME ANYTHING WE HADN'T BEEN MARRIED LONG ENOUGH. OF COURSE I HAD BEEN BEING INTIMIDATED BY THOSE WORDS SINCE. JUNE OF 2020. HE HAD BEEN PROMISING ME AND WAS SUPPOSED TO HELP ME BY TAKING ME TO THE PROPERTY I OWNED IN GALLIA COUNTY. TO MEET WITH LOGGERS TO DO A SELECT CUT OF TIMBER SO I WOULD HAVE THE MONEY TO MOVE FORWARD AND PROVIDE FOR MYSELF. BUT I SOON LEARNED THESE WORDS WERE JUST AS EMPTY AS THE WORDS HE HAD SPOKEN TO ME ABOUT RESPECTING ME, LOVING ME, AND HAVING SO MUCH ADMIRATION FOR MY ACCOMPLISHMENTS IN GETTING ME TO TRUST HIM AND MISLEADING ME IN GETTING ME TO THE ALTAR. IT IS MY FEELING NOW HE ONLY HAD DESIGNS ON MY ASSETS AND WHAT I REPRESENTED FINANCIALLY. ON APRIL 28TH 2020 HIS EXACT WORDS WERE I NEVER LOVED YOU, I REALLY HAVE NEVER FOUND YOU THAT ATTRACTIVE. I WANT A DIVORCE. MY RESPONSE WAS THAT OF COMPLETE AND TOTAL DEVISTATION. I ASKED, WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO I GAVE UP PRACTICALY ALL OF MY PERSONAL BELONGINGS TO BE YOUR WIFE. DO YOU REALIZE THE SITUATION YOU HAVE PUT ME IN? I DON'T HAVE ANY FURNITURE, NO HOUSEHOLD GOODS, NO APPLIANCES. IT'S LIKE I AM GOING TO HAVE TO START ALL OVER AGAIN FROM SCRATCH. LIKE A KID RIGHT OUT OF SCHOOL. HE MADE IT CLEAR THEN HE WASN'T GOING TO HELP ME. I WAS A SMART WOMAN I WOULD FIGURE IT OUT. KNOWING I DIDN'T HAVE A WILL, HE HAS KNOWN FROM THE VERY BEGINNING I WORTH MORE TO HIM DEAD THAN I WAS ALIVE. KNOWING I HAD MORE THAN $ 500,000 IN REAL ESTATE AND HAVING LESS THAN $60,000.00 IN DEBT. HE STARTED STRIPPING ME OF FINANCES IN GETTING ME TO PAY FOR THE WEDDING USING MY CREDIT CARDS WITH THE PROMISE HE WOULD PAY ME BACK WHILE HE WAS ACQUIRING CREDIT CARDS AND CHARGING $ 5000.00 IN PURCHASES I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT FOR BECAUSE HE DID NOT PROVIDE ACTIVITY PAGES TO HIS DEBT IN DISCOVERY. I HAVE LEARNED HE HAS THE CUNNING OF A SNAKE PROMISING TO HELP ME ON ONE HAND THEN TAKING IT AWAY THE OTHER. HE KEPT ALL THE CASH WE RECEIVED AS WEDDING GIFTS INCLUDING THE WEDDING GIFTS. TOTALING $ 1000.00 IN CASH. HE HAS KEPT A PORTION OF MY PERSONAL BELONGINGS TELLING ME HE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT HAD HAPPENED TO THEM WHEN I WAS GIVEN A DATE OF MAY 29 2023 TO HAVE MY PERSONAL BELONGINGS REMOVED FROM HIS HOME OR IF I DIDN'T THEY WERE TO BE SET TO THE CURB. THAT WAS THE MAGISTRATES ORDER. I WAS FORCED TO COME TOGETHER IN JOINT STIPULATIONS OF AGREEMENT AND FACTS IN CONCLUSION OF LAW WITHOUT REALIZING THAT WAS WHAT HAD BEEN ORDERED AND HAPPENING AT THE LAST TRIAL MAGISTRATE RENDERING A DECISION WITHOUT HAVING ALL DISCOVERY AND DISCLOSURE OF HIS BANK STATEMENTS, ASSETS, CREDIT CARDS. AND FINIALIZING A FINANCIAL WORKSHEET WITHOUT TAKING INTO CONSIDERATION MY FINANICAL LOSSES OF MEDICAL COSTS . THE LOSSES FROM SELLING OF REAL ESTATE BELOW MARKET VALUE AND ASKING PRICE, OR THE LOSSES OF PAYING BOTH FEDERAL AND STATE CAPITAL GAINS TAXES FROM NOT REINVESTING THE MONIES FROM THE SALE WITHIN THE 45 DAYS MANDATED OR THE MAGISTRATE NOT QUESTIONING WHY I WOULD WAIVE MY RIGHTS TO WITNESSES. WHY, I HAD DESCRIBED NEEDING 3 SURGERIES TO REPAIR DAMAGES DONE TO MY BODY WHY I HAD CLAIMED PHYSICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE. WHY SHE WAS STATING SHE WAS NOT A HEALTH PROFESSIONAL INSTEAD OF ASKING WHAT DOCUMENTATION DO YOU HAVE IN SUPPORT OF YOUR CLAIMS OR DO YOU HAVE MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS OR EXPERTS WHO WILL COME FORWARD WITH THEIR KNOWLEDGE IN SUPPORT OF YOUR CLAIMS WHY HAD HE NOT BEEN QUESTIONED AS TO WHAT MY MEDICAL CONDITIONS I SUFFERED WITH WHEN I HAD BEEN QUESTIONED REPEATEDLY BOTH IN PRETRIAL AND TRIAL AS TO WHAT KNOWLEDGE I HAD OF HIS MEDICAL CONDITIONS. AND HE WAS QUESTIONED ABOUT HIS OWN MEDICAL CONDITIONS. WHICH DIVORCE LAW STATES THAT EACH PARTY SHALL BE ABLE TO LIVE LIFE IN A MANNER OF WHICH THEY HAVE BEEN ACCUSTOMED TO LIVING. WHICH IS TOTALLY NOT THE CASE OF MY SITUATION. IN THE BRIEF TWO HOURS OF TWO YEARS OF THAT MY ATTORNEY WAS CASE IN CHIEF SHE DID MANAGE TO IMPEACH HIM FOR NOT DISCLOSING OWNERSHIP OF HIS PARENTS PROPERTY HIM NOT HAVING LISTED IT ON HIS AFFIDAVITS. HE WAS ALSO FOUND TO BE GUILTY OF DISSIPATION OF MARITAL FUNDS BY GAMBLING ON A WEBSITE. YET, THE MAGISTRATE DIDN'T FEEL HE WAS INTENTIONALLY TRYING TO HIDE ANYTHING FROM THE COURT WHEN I HAD PICTURES OF 4 PAGES OF ASSETS HE HAD NOT DISCLOSED ON HIS AFFIDAVITS. AND PICTURES AND A WHOLE PAGE OF PURCHASES HE MADE DURING THE MARRIAGE. A FINANCIAL WORKSHEET I HAD PROVIDED OF MY LOSSES AND NUMEROUS MEDICAL BILLS WERE OBJECTED TO AS HERESAY, BECAUSE THEY HAD MISLED THE THE COURT FROM THE BEGINNING THAT WE HAD LIVED SEPPARATE AND APART AND WERE ESTRANGED FOR THE MAJORITY OF THE MARRIAGE WITHOUT MY ATTORNEYS OBJECTING TO THIS STATEMENT MY HAVING DOCUMENTATION TO THIS STATEMENT AS FALSE. HE VISITED MY BEDROOM DAILY SOMETIMES UP TO THREE TIMES A DAY FROM OCTOBER 6. 2019 THROUGH SEPTEMBER 23,2021. UNLESS HE OR MYSELF HAD BEEN HOSPITALIZED. THAT WAS NEVER OBJECTED TO BEING ENTERED AS FACT. HOW WAS IT I HAD SO MANY PICTURES WHEN I HAD BEEN IN SUCH A DIMINISHED STATE OF HEALTH. I HAD A VERY CARING FRIEND AND CARE GIVER WHO TOOK IT UPON HERSELF TO TAKE PICTURES HAVING SEEN HERSELF HIS ABUSE AND NEGLECT AGAINST ME. BESIDES THE SHERIFFS REPORTS ON OR ABOUT THE MIDDLE OF JULY OF 2023 I TRIED TO FILE A SWORN AFFIDAVIT WITH THE COURT OF COMMON PLEAS OF A WITNESS HAVING KNOWLEDGE TO FELONY CRIMES WHILE A RESIDENT OF HIS HOME AS HIS WIFE COMMITTED AGAINST ME. OFFERING TO BRING FORWARD ALL DOCUMENTATION IN SUPPORT OF MY CLAIMS OUTLINING EVERY CRIME ACCORDING TO MY UNDERSTANDING OF THE OHIO REVISED CODES. RAPE, FELONIOUS ASSAULT, FAILING TO PROVIDE FOR FUNCTIONALLY IMPAIRED PERSON. THE GOODS AND SERVICES REQUIRED BY LAW AS A CAREGIVER. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, GROSS NEGLECT OF DUTY, EXTREME CRUELTY, ELDER ABUSE, NEGLECT, AND FRAUD, THEFT BEING OVER $ 150,000.00 DOLLARS. ABDUCTION FROM BEING CONFINED TO MY BEDROOM, AND ISOLATED FROM MY FAMILY, MENACING BY STALKING DUE TO THE CONFINEMENT, AND THE VERBAL THREATS HE BOMBARDED ME WITH DAILY....STOP THAT CRYING I SAID STOP IT RIGHT NOW, DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR! YOU COULD DO MORE FOR YOURSELF IF YOU WOULD JUST TRY! I'M NOT CALLING ANYONE! AND BY GOD YOU BETTER NOT EITHER! I'M NOT HELPING YOU! DO YOU UNDERSTAND! THAT AFFIDAVIT HAS BEEN LAYING ON THE PROSECUTORS DESK NOW FOR ALMOST A YEAR HIM STILL REFUSING TO LOOK AT MY DOCUMENTATION PORTFOLIO. I HAVE NUMEROUS E-MAILS IN REQUESTING INTERVIEW TO GIVE VICTIM IMPACT STATEMENT. ACCORDING TO MR. WEADE I HAVE BEEN HEARD. HE MET WITH ME IN JANUARY OF 2022 REFUSING TO TAKE MY PORTFOLIO AFTER HE HAD SHOVED A COPY OF THE OHIO REVISED CODE2709.02 RAPE. ACROSS HIS DESK AFTER HAVING UNDERSCORED THE FIRST SENTENCE. READING THE SENTENCE UNDERSCORED I STATED. SO WHAT YOU ARE TELLING ME IS IT'S OK IN OHIO FOR A HUSBAND TO RAPE HIS WIFE. HE STATED BACK THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I AM TELLING YOU. I CONTINUED. WHAT ABOUT THE ELDER ABUSE HE STOPPED ME AND STATED HE HAD TO BE ABLE TO PROVE BEYOND DOUBT THAT WHAT I STATED WAS TRUE. I POINTED OUT THE PORTFOLIO I HAD LAID ON THE CORNER OF HIS DESK AS I HAD ROLLED INTO HIS OFFICE IN MY SEATED WALKER AND PLACED IT THERE. HE CONTINUED BY STATING THAT WHAT I WOULD BE DESCRIBING COULD NOT BE MORE THAN MISDEMEANORS AND HE REFERRED ME TO THE PROSECUTOR MARK PITSTICK WITH THE MUNICIPAL COURT SYSTEM. AT THIS MEETING ALEX CRABTREE THE ADVOCATE I HAD GIVEN STATEMENT OF THE RAPES AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE TO IN LATE DECEMBER OF 2021 WAS SETTING ACROSS FROM ME JUST STARING AT ME TEARS WELLING IN HER EYES AS TO WHAT SHE WAS HEARING WHAT MR. WEADE WAS TELLING ME. AND LIKE A STATUE WITH HER HANDS TIED KNOWING THERE WAS NOTHING SHE COULD DO. IN JULY OF 2023 I OBJECTED TO THE MAGISTRATES DECISION AGAIN BY SWORN AFFIDAVIT STATING IN THOSE PAGES, CRIMINAL OFFENSES AND COPYING AND PASTING OHIO REVISED CODES PERTAINING TO RAPE, FELONIOUS ASSAULT, FAILURE TO PROVIDE FOR A FUNCTIONALLY IMPAIRED PERSON THE GOODS AND SERVICES. I ALSO COPIED AND PASTED OHIO REVISED CODE. AND CIVIL RULE CONCERNING SHAM LEGAL PROCESS, WHEN AN ATTORNEY IS COMPLICIT WHEN THEY HAVE KNOWLEDGE OF THEIR CLIENT COMMITTING CRIMES AGAINST THE DEFENDANT AND BEFORE A MAGISTRATE GIVING FALSE STATEMENT BEFORE THE COURT CASE NO: 20210280 KENNETH HELLENTHAL VS. SHIRLEY HELLENTHAL. MY HUSBAND WITH REPRESENTATION OF COUNSEL HAD SET THE DIVORCE IN MOTION TO PREVENT HE HIMSELF FROM BEING PROSECUTED FOR THE CRIMES HE HAD COMMITTED AGAINST ME WHILE IN HIS HOME. THERE WERE APPROXIMATELY 29 PAGES TO MY OBJECTIONS WHICH THE JUDGE CONSTRUED AS RAMBLINGS. I HAVE SUBMITTED TRANSCRIPTS AS WELL AS AN AFFIDAVIT OF POVERTY WITH THE COURT WHICH I WAS REPREMANDED IF I DID NOT WANT THOSE AFFIDAVITS PART OF PUBLIC REVIEW I SHOULD HAVE MADE PROVISIONS FOR NON DISPLAY TO THE PUBLIC. THE JUDGE AFTER STATING HE HAS FAMILARIZED HIMSELF WITH THE CASE HE IS HOLDING TO THE MAGISTRATES DECISION. WHAT ABOUT, MY BEING GRANTED A DIVORCE DUE TO PLAINTIFF MY HUSBAND ADMITTING GUILT OF EXTREME CRUELTY IN STIPULATION AND OF GROSS NEGLECT OF DUTY IN FACTS OF FINDING IN CONCLUSION TO LAW WHEN I'M NOT THE ONE WHO INTIALLY FILED THE DIVORCE COMPLAINT. HELLO! WHAT WOULD MAKE THE JUDGE NOT REALIZE A WHOLE LOT OF SOMETHINGS HAS BEEN OBSCURED AND OMITTED FROM TESTIMONY OR MISREPRESENTED IN SOME WAY. THANK GOD THE JUDGE MADE IT AN APPEALABLE ORDER. WHICH IS WHAT I AM WORKING ON NOW. MY CAREGIVER THAT TOOK THE MAJORITY OF THE PICTURES WAS NEVER CALLED TO GIVE TESTIMONY NONE OF THE 7 WITNESSES INCLUDING HEALTH PROFESSIONALS WERE NOT CALLED TO GIVE TESTIMONY. IT HAS BEEN ALLOWED THAT MY HUSBAND/ OFFENDER, THROUGH REPRESENTATION OF COUNSEL HIS ATTORNEY THROUGH WEAPONIZING THE JUDICIAL SYSTEM HAS CONTINUED TO VICTIMIZE ME AND CONTINUED TO CAUSE ME PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, AND FINANCIAL HARM. TO THE TUNE OF $23,000.00 IN ATTORNEY FEES NOT COUNTING FILING FEES AND OFFICE SUPPLIES PAPER, INK, FILE FOLDERS, ETC. THAT'S PROBABLY CLOSE TO ANOTHER $ 3,000.00 THIS HAS BEEN A TOTAL NIGHTMARE AND I HAVE ONLY GIVEN YOU A PARTIAL DESCRIPTION OF EVERYTHING THAT TRANSPIRED TO THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF MY SITUATION.

THAT YOU CAN HAVE KNOWLEDGE OR BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE FOR MORE THAN 40 YEARS AND STILL NOT KNOW ALL THERE IS TO KNOW ABOUT THAT PERSON. THAT EVEN THOUGH THERE ARE AGENCY'S IN OPERATION TO PROVIDE PROTECTION AND SERVICE TO ELDER PERSONS OR PERSONS OF ANY AGE FOR THAT MATTER. THAT THE REPRESENTATIVES OF THOSE AGENCIES MAY NOT ALWAYS TAKE THEIR JOBS SERIOUSLY IN PERFORMING THE DUTIES ASSOCIATED WITH THEIR POSITIONS OR THEY HAVE TAKEN SWORN OATH TO PROVIDE. EVEN THOUGH YOU MAY NOT HAVE BEEN PROVIDED THE PROTECTION UNDER LAW OR FROM YOUR LOCAL AGENCIES. PLEASE, UNDERSTAND YOU ARE IMPORTANT IF TO NO ONE ELSE OTHER THAN YOURSELF. DO NOT GIVE UP. BELIEVE THAT YOU CAN RISE ABOVE ALL THAT YOU HAVE ENDURED. EVERYONE IN THESE POSITIONS HAS SOMEONE THEY HAVE TO ANSWER TO. DON'T BE AFRAID TO RESEARCH AND EXPLORE EVERY POSSIBLE AVENUE IN OBTAINING HELP FOR YOURSELF. HAVE FAITH IN GOD THAT YOU ARE IMPORTANT TO HIM AND IS GIVING YOU LIFE TO CONTINUE TO MOVE FORWARD FOR A PURPOSE. AND BE HUMBLE HE IS PROVIDING YOU WITH BREATH TO DO SO. FAMILIARIZE YOURSELF WITH THE RESOURCES THAT ARE AT HAND. RESEARCH, RESEARCH RESEARCH. DON'T LOSE FAITH BELIEVE YOU ARE WORTH FIGHTING FOR. KEEPING IN MIND IF THESE THINGS ARE HAPPENING TO YOU OR HAVE HAPPENED TO YOU MORE THAN LIKELY THEY HAVE HAPPENED OR ARE HAPPENING TO SOMEONE ELSE. DON'T BE AFRAID TO SPEAK UP AND OUT ESPECIALLY FOR THOSE WHO NO LONGER HAVE A VOICE BECAUSE THEY LOST THEIR BATTLE WITH THEIR OFFENDER.

I PRAY FOR GOD TO CONTINUE TO PROVIDE ME THE COURAGE AND HEALING TO OVER COME MY AFFLICTIONS AND GIVE ME THE STRENGTH AND THE VOICE TO ADVOCATE FOR ALL PAST, PRESENT, AND FUTURE VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, SEX CRIMES, AND ELDER ABUSE, NEGLECT, AND EXPLOITATION. BEING AFFORDED THE ABILITY TO CONTINUE REACHING OUT TO LEGISLATURE, IN CHANGING LAWS, TO INSURE THAT THE TRAINING AND EDUCATION IS PROVIDED TO THOSE IN THE AREAS OF CARRYING OUT THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES OF THEIR DUTIES IN PROVIDING COMMUNITY SERVICES TO ALL IN NEED. THAT THOSE WHO HAVE HAD THE TRAINING AND EDUCATION IN PROVIDING THESE SERVICES ARE HELD TO ACCOUNT IF THEY CHOSE TO IGNORE THAT TRAINING AND EDUCATION OR PROTOCOL SET IN PLACE TO BE FOLLOWED ACCORDING TO THE LAW. I HAVE PROVIDED YOU WITH ALL OF MY CONTACT INFORMATION REQUESTED. I PRAY YOU WILL REACH OUT AND CONTACT ME. I HAVE ANSWERED YES TO ALL QUESTIONS INCLUDING GIVING RECORDED DISCLOSURE OF MY STORY TO MEDIA, AND OR POD CAST. IN JUNE OF 2023 I REQUESTED TO BE HEARD BY GIVING WRITTEN STATEMENT TO THE OHIO 135TH GENERAL ASSEMBLY ON HOUSE BILL 161 EXEMPTION OF THE SPOUSE RAPE LAW IN OHIO . AGAIN IN APRIL OF 2024 I REQUESTED TO GIVE WRITTEN STATEMENT BEFORE THE SENATE PASSING HOUSE BILL 161 INTO LAW. I AM PROUD AND EXCITED TO SAY THAT ON MAY 11, 2024 THAT THE GOVERNOR OF THE STATE OF OHIO THE HONORABLE MIKE DEWINE SIGNED HOUSE BILL 161 INTO OHIO LAW. IT IS NO LONGER LEGAL FOR A HUSBAND TO RAPE HIS WIFE, OR COMMIT ANY KIND OF SEXUAL ASSAULT OR OFFENSIVE SEXUAL ACT AGAINST HIS SPOUSE OR ANYONE IN THE STATE OF OHIO. SINCE THEN I HAVE SET UP AN ACCOUNT TO BE NOTIFIED OF ALL LEGISLATURE BEING BROUGHT BEFORE THE GENERAL ASSEMBLY AM WILLING TO GIVE STATEMENT AND TESTIMONY NEEDED IN MAINTAINING THE SAFETY AND NEEDS OF THE PEOPLE OF OUR GREAT COUNTRY ARE BEING MET . PLEASE CONTACT ME AND LET ME KNOW WHERE MY SERVICES MIGHT BE NEEDED.... I LOOK FORWARD TO HEARING FROM YOU SOON. THANK YOU

WHAT I HAVE DISCOVERED IN MY RESEARCH THE UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE PROVIDES SPECIALIZED TRAINING AND EDUCATION FOR IDENTIFYING VICTIMS OF ELDER ABUSE, NEGLECT AND EXPLOITATION THIS TRAINING AND EDUCATION IS REFERENCED AS E.A.G.L.E.S.
WHICH STANDS FOR ELDER ABUSE GUIDELINES FOR LAW ENFORCEMENT. THIS IS A 5 PAGE CHECKLIST PROTOCOL TO BE COMPLETED BY FIRST RESPONDERS OF LAW ENFORCEMENT IN THE CASE OF A WELL CHECK OF ELDER PERSON IN NEED OF EMERGENT SERVICES. WHETHER, PHYSICAL, EMOTIONAL, ETC.
When cadets go through training at the Ohio Police Academy through the bureau of criminal investigation. they are educated in the 5 w words, who as in who was involved or has knowledge of the circumstances of an incident , when as to date and time of incident, where, where did the incident happen what as to what exactly transpired during or the cause of the incident to happen, and why again as to why the incident occurred. having spoken with several people within law enforcement who have retired locally, Fayette County does not practice these protocols in all instances. it is left up to the discrepancy of the responding deputy as to the protocol that is followed or what action they deem is necessary in upholding the law. How can this be right or supported by the Sheriff unless the Sheriff himself is not one to follow the letter of the law. which would appear to be the case when i spent more than one hour on the phone with him personally on September 22,2022 giving him all the gory details and full disclosure of the first rape my husband committed against him as well as the particulars of the isolation, and exploitation , verbal abuse and quotes used to control, intimidate, and spared no words explaining the physical attacks committed against me. the sheriff referred me to APS and the prosecutor after this conversation.
Research i have done concerning protocol to be followed by APS in the matters of identifying victims of elder abuse, neglect, and exploitation consists of a 68 page checklist in correlation with Ohio Revised Code handed down by the Ohio Supreme Court one of those codes is failure to provide goods and services to a functionally impaired person by a caregiver. Having spoken with the Director of our local APS for more than half an hour explaining the circumstances of my situation, rape, felonious assault, elder abuse, exploitation, using my credit card for personal gain. the ohio website firmly states that anyone can file a complaint of elder abuse, neglect, and exploitation anytime it does not have to be an emergency situation if you have information pertaining to this offense you may call the number which is a state number but it gives recorded direction to filing a complaint directly to the county agency you are located in. in speaking with the director i was referred back to the Sheriffs department. from their back to the prosecutor, back needless to say protocol was not followed in my case by any agency who is required by law to investigate matters such as mine. I have not been allowed to provide a victim impact statement as i was advised would transpire after filing the rape report. i was never given any information advising me my rights as a victim. by any of these agency's as required by law. In other words i have just been a thorn in someones saddle that won't go away. or they think i had gone away until i asked for an interview with the county commissioners on April 15,2024 and to bring forward my portfolio . i was advised there needed to provide them with 3 copies one for each commissioner as i gave my statement. also in attendance was the prosecutor himself. the commissioners were appalled by the documentation i had and my statement and the prosecutor left in a huff as he had been texting someone throught the entire meeting. my guess it was the sheriff he was in communication with. that has now been more than 3 weeks ago. i have not heard a thing from anyone. now reaching out to your agency. i look forward to hearing from you soon. It is easiest to reach me by phone 740-606-6118 I thank you for your time in allowing me to vent all the discrepancies of my situation. and providing this site for all victims to make contact with you! Respectfully submitted Shirley Hellenthal.

My name is Melissa and my mother has been in Assisted living facilities in Colorado for the past 15 years. She is going to be 90 years old in May 2024,and my story is a travesty and perfect example of why reform is desperately needed. I am 57-years old and because of our experience in the past 3.5 years I have made the decision to go to law school and specialize in Elder Law. I am so disappointed in the way our elderly are treated. And I’m going to be in her position sooner rather than later so I’m determined to help bring about some much needed change in the way we care for our elders and what facilities are not allowed to do. So here’s some highlights of what my story includes. If you want my full story please let me know. It’s worth the read.

My story about my journey with my mother starts in Colorado approx 3.5 years ago. I stated earlier she has been assisted living for 25/years after being run over by a van in a parking lot on her way to an AA meeting. She was working out 3x a week, roller blading and once the accident happened, breaking her hip and the drs fracturing her femur hammering in too large of a rod and not realizing it until I ordered an xray on Christmas Eve after fighting with the facility to get one performed and demanding the resident Dr., be on site by the time I arrived from Lakewood with them to get her to the hospital instead of bedrest until after Christmas and just Ambo cab it to her doctors office I mean it was ridiculous, but then she fell out of her shoes, turning her blinds at her house, and that’s when my brother and I had put up her house up for sale and put her in assisted-living so she could be monitored and then in the assisted-living facility they didn’t keep an eye on her and she got impacted a couple months after being there and so they sent her to the hospital to the emergency room and when I went saw her there, they released her and the facility wouldn’t come pick us up when come pick her up they said that they didn’t have any type of protocol and place to get the residence home after 6 o’clock if they’re at the hospital and I said you’re telling me that I pay $8000 a month and you can’t even get my mother home from the hospital which is right across the highway and they said yup and I was fit to be tied and I said OK I’m gonna bring her in my car and she’s going to the bathroom in my car so you better have a wheelchair ready and somebody to help me bathe her because I can’t do it. I’m just not that kind of a person so they better be waiting for me when I got when I get there and like I said, it was just cross the highway. I rolled up and nobody was there. They were all of the caregivers were sitting around talking to each other, and it was a glass door, and it was locked I was so mad and so they saw me and they sign. Oh yeah, I forgot and they got on the radio to get me a wheelchair and come unlock the door and that was a nightmare because if I could do that I would be caregiver, but I can’t do that kind of stuff. I’m not that kind of person
That’s why it was being $8000 a month. I noticed that her medication’s were not right and they were running meds out to people in the parking lot. They would come and pick her up and not even asking who they were and they were running narcotics out there so I brought this to the attention of the corporate office and they paid me $10,000 to go away and I accepted it and I regretted every day since and this was 15 years ago because all I could think about was all the people I was leaving behind, we don’t have advocates And that started our journey the next place we took her to. She was up for 10 years seven years and I became more involved in her care than I had been and my brother had been doing it and again I started noticing these medication issues, so I started collecting Namar and narcotic count sheets because of my experience at the other place my brother just wasn’t paying attention because it’s inconvenient and so sure enough I could I created a spreadsheet and I could see when her medication‘s were going missing and who was taking them by drawing correlations from my spreadsheet and I told my brother I said that’s it. We’re moving her and I contacted the district attorney and then we had instead of going into this detail I’ll just tell you 120 of her OxyContin went missing they were stolen the executive Director told us and I said well I called the pharmacy and I can tell you who signed for the medication and I can tell you exactly who took it. Here’s my spreadsheet I’ve been working on and she said oh it looks like you put a lot of working into it but yeah, no I don’t need to see that And so the district attorney looked up and said no there was no police report filed. She said that there was he said no she didn’t file one he said, but there is one in here for elder abuse and I was like oh my God and so I asked the executive director for copy she said no I couldn’t have one because other families are named in the Report and HIPAA I received internal emails from staff saying take this to a higher level, because for the residents had their narcotics, go missing as well. I went to Denver police and I obtained a copy of the police report and it was a completely false police report because nobody ever talked to us. There was nobody named in the police report. The facility was the victim and she put on there. The executive Director put that she caught in caregiver changing the labels from Aspirin to oxy and so she fired her which was not what happened at all and so then my mother started. I’m sleeping really late into the afternoon and my the facility started having meetings with my brother and I saying that it’s probably time for hospice and I just about fell out of my chair said no she’s not hospice material. I told my brother were moving her the DA told me get her out of there and then will start. You know working on a case and I said great so I found another place for her. All my brother tried to get me removed as the attorney in fact because he didn’t want to move her because it was too much trouble. I was assuming at the time and I told him he brought the executive Director in on it too, because she wouldn’t be at office POA as well because she knows that I know she follow false police report Anyway they couldn’t do it and I said no we’re not moving her into hospice so we moved her to a new place a really nice place. I’m on a golf course and we moved her in and for five days nobody even came and checked on her nobody came and gave her a shower nothing and she can hardly walk. She has a walker and they put her on the third floor About a mile away from the dining room anyway I had called and left the executive Director numerous messages. We were finally supposed to meet because I wouldn’t sign the arbitration agreement and so I had to meet with the executive director but she was a no call no show and three days after that she was leaving the property and somebody said her name and that’s how I knew who she was and I was like hi remember me I we were supposed to meet and you didn’t show up and she said yeah and I mean she just did not care and she was on her way out so she was mad that I had grabbed her on her way out so we went back into her office and I had scratch out a bunch of stuff throughout the whole contract and she said you have to sign all these you know I can’t change these and I said well I’m not signing the arbitration agreement and she goes. Yeah you need to sign that I said, in the state of Colorado, I don’t have to and I said, and I’m not signing away my mothers rights, and so she slid up next to me And she talked real low and she said let me put it to you this way if you don’t sign, you could have a very unhealthy relationship here I could not believe it. I was being threatened by the executive Director lol I felt like she was a Guido or something so then she proceeded to show me a flip around her laptop and show me this thing on arbitration agreements, but it was geared towards the facility not for the consumer and it was talking about how our but she goes. You know just sign it and then all it says is that we’re going to mediate I mean, don’t you trust us and I said well, that’s not That’s not what’s the problem here it’s the principal and I said yeah I trust you but you know I never know what’s gonna happen and she goes well if you don’t like with the mediator, if you don’t like the decision, they make you can always just take it to court, but I was reading on the website right there that it said the decision is final and you cannot take it to court and I said that to her and she goes yes so she was speaking and then it said the reason why they have the arbitration agreement is to cut down on the press it’s quicker so there’s not a lot of time for the press to get their stories together and it’s just better for the facility so I also saw that I had 90 days to resend it so I went ahead and signed it because my mother needed the whole reason why nobody had checked on her as they hadn’t checked her in because there was no contract so Then I started keeping an eye on her meds, and at the other facility I had run everybody’s names that were on these Yueting medication’s through the Colorado health departments website to make sure that they were all certified as QA and only two out of 10 of them were certified so I started doing that at this place too because they kept bringing in temporary help because they didn’t have enough staff and so this executive Director did not like that 2 1/2 weeks in she called a special meeting and they flew in the head of nursing from Utah And I had the head of nursing the executive Director and for staff people and me and they had a big cardboard box and the executive director looked at me and said I don’t think we’re gonna be able to meet your expectations here but I can arrange for a tour for you at a facility that’s right up the street she was I know it’s the same company as the place that you just left but I’m sure they don’t talk to each other And I was stunned and I said are you kicking us out and she goes no we’re not going we don’t we’re not turfing you I just don’t think that your mom’s gonna be happy here and I said I think you’re wrong I said you know I’m she goes. I heard that you ran everybody’s name Ran his background at the last place and didn’t run anybody background around their names through the Colorado and then she finished my sentence for me and she goes yeah and I go it’s public knowledge and she goes. Yes you’re right, but yeah we stopped taking care of your mom today at 2:00 PM and it was 2:30 PM and she pushed this cardboard box across the table to me and it was Full of my mom‘s medication‘s and she goes. I have another meeting to get to and I’m gonna need everybody with me so we have to go and I wait a second how do I even order her meds and she goes we can call the pharmacy they’ll tell you what to do and that was it so I had to come home and make little packets out of wrapping paper And go through all of my mom‘s meds and create dosage, dosing packets, and for different times of the day and then my brother and I had to go and drive to the facility five times a day to dose my mother so we were paying 11,000 I think $9500 a month to do And so my mom couldn’t participate in anything there was nobody doing anything for her so then I started looking for another place and I found a place over this place was on Quincy in the new place that I had found the next new place was on Alameda so the new place that I found referred a moving company for us and I told the Moving I could talk to the moving company I said we’re gonna need help packing because it was a two bedroom apartment and the guy says OK so the day we’re moving out I wrote a scathing letter to The executive Director and everybody I CCed everybody in Utah in Denver. Oh my gosh and the mover comes in and he looks around and he’s like OK and I took him down to the loading dock and I said just bring your truck up to the loading dock, and then we can just take everything down this way And I’m standing there waiting for them and I see the truck driving down Quincy and I called them and I go. Did you just leave and he goes? Yeah that’s way too much work. I had to send two guys to another job this morning and there’s no way I can do it all and I said well that’s not my fault I told you and he goes. Yeah I’m not gonna be coming. Sorry about that and hung up on me and I’m like oh my God you don’t understand we have to get out today and so my brother found All my sons Moving that brought five people over with them to move us and they charged us $4500 to move my mother from Quincy to Alameda and they didn’t even finish and they broke the elevators and I was stuck in memory care with furniture and having to carry furniture over the peoples heads that were eating and having people walk up to me and asked me if I can put their dishes away it was absolutely terrible and nobody could get back up to their rooms on the upper floors after dinner and so they were really mad at me on top of the letter that I had wrote so I had to go back there by myself and move her the rest of her stuff because my brother is on oxygen, so he never helped and he was mad that I was moving her again and so he just sat and watched looked out the window while the movers were there, not even keeping an eye on them, and my mother wasn’t feeling well so we moved her into this new place and we had met with the nurse and I told her the issues that we were having so my mother got sick the first day we got there and announced to us the nurse had resigned the day that we moved in so another day goes by and I ask one of the caregivers if they could please take her temperature and they said no, we can’t do that we don’t have a thermometer on the property somebody stole ours and I’m like oh my God you only have one. Oh Jesus so the next day I’m at home and I called dispatch health to see if they’ll go check on her and they said let’s give her a call so we called her and we could barely hear her and the lady from the dispatch house said you need to call an ambulance right away and get her into the hospital so I did they went picked her up and by the time I got to the hospital one of the nurses was sobbing and I’m like what what’s going on and she’s like your mother she’s an angel and I go. Yeah I know what’s wrong And she goes I don’t know if she’s gonna make it. She had pneumonia and it was so bad that she went septic and they didn’t think she was gonna make it through the night but she did and she was in the hospital for two weeks and then she had to go on IV antibiotics for seven weeks and the place she was only up for two days doesn’t do IVs, so they discharged her from the hospital to Rehab facility out on Monaco and we were in Lakewood so she goes out to that place. I asked my brother to please get all of her meds and check them in at the new place while he didn’t do that so I get over there and there’s there’s people wandering around in the lobby screaming and rocking back-and-forth and and there’s no when you call for one of the caregivers there’s no sound so they look up on the wall like a waitress would for her number when her order is ready They have to look up and see if any of the lights are on on any of the rooms and whatever room is lit up there they’re needing help but if they don’t look up, they have no idea and it’s way up at the top towards the ceiling and the back of a hallway. It’s so crazy so my mom is not is incontinent as well and nobody was coming to help her so I would have to go over there and change her and bathe her and change her sheets and one time I’m changing her sheets in the caregiver stood there, talking to me while I change the sheets lol telling me that she has no idea what she’s doing. she’s an accountant I’m like please don’t tell me that lol anyway, her meds went missing again and then that rehab facility discharged her three weeks early back to the place that she got sick at that doesn’t do IVs so they tried to show me how to do it and there was no IV pole so I had to hang her bag on a hanger and hang it from her bed and I said I am so not comfortable with us. I mean people go to school a really long time to learn how to do this and I don’t want to do this and so I told my mom I loved her but I was gonna have to send her back to the hospital so she said that’s OK honey I understand so I send her back to the hospital she was in there for four more days and they discharged her back to the rehab facility that had just discharged her. It’s so crazy so anyway She finished her IV antibiotics and the facility that she was up for two days that they discharged her to and and didn’t do. IVs told me that they did not want her back because her level of care had increased too much and I said it was just IV antibiotic. She’s not on them now and they wouldn’t accept her back so before she discharged from that rehab facility we had to find another assisted living facility so we found a residential assisted living, which was new a new concept for us I had made my brother go out and look with toured every single assisted living in Denver and but he hasn’t. He was just leaving that up to me so I made him look at a couple, and he looked at some that had cement walls and ceilings, and one little closet and he was like oh my God no I got I know it’s you have to it’s not as easy finding a place as you think and we want to make sure that it’s appropriate so anyway we found this assisted-living residential place so my mother went from a two bedroom apartment to a bedroom And they charged us $12,600 a month for a bedroom and what she got served for dinner was baked beans and chicken nuggets or salad. The caregiver that worked during the day her and her husband lived in the basement the owners owned six of these houses here in Denver. There was nine people at this house, and it was a nice house, but what they would do is Wake my mom up and have her walk 1015 feet to a chair and put her in front of the TV all day long and that was it. They had an activities Director that I saw maybe four times and the first six months they lost three people three people died and so I texted the owner one night asking her what the heck was going on over there because we come from a place that has three or 400 people and in 10 years maybe lost four people my mom‘s been there for six months and there’s only nine of them and they lost three And she said to me in a text well I understand death is hard for a lot of people to accept but that’s what happens in hospice and I go hospice. Oh that’s another thing so when they wanted to put my mom in hospice back at the place downtown and I said no and moved her out. I looked back through and the narcotic count sheets for that period of time and they had stopped giving her her Ritalin. She’s on Ritalin. She takes Ritalin three times a day, and they had stopped giving it to her but yet they were filling out the narcotic count sheet as if they were giving it to her for three months And that’s why she was sleeping but they wanted to move her into hospice and I thought wow I wonder if they’re doing that to other people you know not giving them their meds and so their bodies start to shut down and so they recommend their own hospice or memory care, and that’s more money, and then they create a new revenue stream by renting out there Apartments again and I thought no that’s really reaching so at the place that we got kicked out of on the golf course. I became friends with the head of the dining room because she and I used to be flight attendants together for American 20 years ago and she told me one day she said melissa you wouldn’t believe the amount of people they’ve been moving into memory care and I go really she goes. Oh it’s so sad and I go. Oh my God that’s what they’re doing. I was thinking about the other place so anyway The owner of this place says that’s what happens in hospice and hospice. My mom is not in hospice I go your science is assisted-living your paperwork says assisted-living. We just had a care meeting and you never mentioned anything about hospice and none of our doctors are on a hospice regimen. She’s not in hospice and she goes well yes melissa that’s what we do. We specialize in end-of-life care And I was like oh my God so they’re not giving her meds and her body shutting down is that what’s happening so I started doing med counts and taking pictures and her pain doctor prescribes her oxy they gave her a urine and she ended up with a drug in her system. That’s not on her drug list that when combined with oxycodone is lethal, and so That can be explained then then one day I walked in and this is about a urine because she was there for year and a half and my mom and one other resident or ambulatory one of the residents that was not only ambulant ambulatory, but paralyzed from the neck down She had a black eye she had stitches above. Her eye in the whole side of her face was black and blue and I was like oh my God what happened to Victoria? They told me she fell out of bed that night. OK I turn around and the other another resident who is who walks around she’s got a black guy and I oh my God what happened to Dot and they said she fell out of bed and then I turn around in the third lady that’s in a wheelchair has a broken arm and I’m like oh my God what happened to Billy she fell out of bed three people at the same time fell out of bed so I was like oh my God two of those three people are not here anymore the time that my mother was there any year and a half they lost seven people seven and I started getting really nervous that my mom was going to be next and I got really sick over there over right before Christmas and I was complaining to the owner and all of a sudden they tell me that my mom has Covid and I said OK so what do you do for people with Covid well the nurse they have a nurse that comes and does rounds and they call her a doctor. There is no doctor on staff at this place Even ask them, so do you do what happens in a fire I mean do you do fire drills or oh yeah, we do them once a month we have to OK. I’ve never seen them do a fire drill. I never saw them give my mother any medication either and that’s what really started getting me concerned I saw the caregivers packing up their cars with people who passed away with their and the owner not professional take that with that the lady she drove around a brand new Corvette. The husband drove around the brand new huge truck, so she said the nurse put her on something some kind of Covid medicine medicine so the next day I asked if she got started on it and she said no we went ahead and gave everybody a Z-Pak and I go my mom sounds really congested and she needs to be seen immediately because she is predisposed for pneumonia, and the owner says no The nurse isn’t gonna be going out there because there’s an active Covid case and I got oh my God I go off I need to make sure she doesn’t get pneumonia and that I’ll check in on her for you the next day. I asked how my mom was doing and nothing I received no response. The next day was Christmas I said merry Christmas. Have you checked on my mom she responded with merry Christmas that was it so the next day I said that’s it. I’m calling an ambulance so I called an ambulance and They told me that they had just done a chest x-ray on her and I asked why nobody told me that, but I sent her to the hospital anyway and sure enough my mother had pneumonia. She was dehydrated and her kidney functions had gone through the roof because of her dehydration, I said that’s it she’s not going back my brother was beside himself. He said I’m not helping you at all I said that’s OK. I had to move my mother out of her second floor, two bedroom apartment at the place where she got pneumonia last time I’ll buy myself into a U-Haul. It took me two times when I went back to the facility on the golf course to finish moving out the rest of the stuff they hated me so much they locked up all the Bell carts so I had to string together, wheelchairs to move her stuff out and a trashcan on wheels. I used as well and then I couldn’t get my trunk closed one time so I had to go to lost and found and tie. It closed with a sweater I mean it’s just been a ridiculous journey anyway so this time my mom is in Highlands Ranch Hospital she’s there for a week and they discharge her to a rehab facility in Lafayette and I have made the decision to bring her home. I’ve just had it with these places and the only thing is if she couldn’t fit into the bathroom with her walker so I said that’s OK I’m gonna remodel the bathroom real quick. I’ll be done by Thanksgiving and she she’ll be home Well she still up in Lafayette today. Her insurance kicked her out of the rehab two days after she got there when she was supposed to be there for three weeks giving me three weeks to get the bathroom done yeah, no two days later so they were gracious enough to let her move into their assisted-living upstairs from their rehab. Well now I have structural I’m in a 1956 home And doing this bathroom I’m pretty far in but now I’ve created I’ve found all kinds of stuff wrong with this house, so I have a structural engineer coming out tomorrow to look at the foundation. Meanwhile, my mother also has dementia and all of this moving is not been good and I understand that, but I’m just trying to get her the best care possible and I have an in-home care agency lined up to help me when I bring her home but I don’t know how I’m gonna get her home and that’s my story so far so I am so frustrated with everything that I have enrolled in a prep course for the LSAT I’ve been talking with DU law and I plan on Starting my schooling for my JD degree in the fall of 2025 and like I said I will be specializing in elder care because for one I’m gonna be very relatable by the time I graduate I will be 61 years old when I graduate but wanna make sure that I’m not gonna get treated like this and We’re gonna need me. I’m gonna make sure that some changes happen I talk to a lawyer about all of this. Oh the DA dropped me just like a hot potato never returned any of my calls. Once I moved my mom I couldn’t believe it so yeah we definitely need to change and people should not be able to get away with anything close to what we’ve been through And there’s even more issues at the place that she’s at now I mean somethings gotta change and that’s my story pretty much the whole thing I left some stuff out it was like a domino affect and she just never was able to get back to normal. We tried to keep her at home ySo after being at one facility for 7/years, I became more involved with her care due to my personal life changing and that’s when I started noticing discrepancies in her medications. She is prescribed roughly 35 different medications and is dosed 5x a day. Yes it’s a lot.,she suffers from a multitude of issues from mental health to physical.

Elder abuse is rampant and it’s not just in facilities it’s even at home kids taking advantage of their elderly parents or you know neglecting them and spending their money. I was driving around one of my father‘s friends who is 98 years old and he’s getting ready to drill an oil well lol and he’s jumping in and out of my car on the way to Nebraska at these farms looking at drilling equipment Because he’s very thrifty so he’s buying used equipment. He’s so funny but he was living by himself and his son lives in Washington and they just found him wandering on Valentine’s Day. I just found that out today and so the sun came out and packed them up and moved them out to Washington in the last three days And I was heartbroken and her son, his son hired some neighbor to go through all of the house and get rid of everything and I don’t even know if the guy remembers what was in his house he didn’t he but he told me today on the phone that he’s coming back to run the Boulder Boulder lol so More power to him but it’s everywhere and people turn a blind eye to it because they’re not there they’re not at that stage in their life and they’re gonna be, and they better start paying attention because it’s terrible right now, and if you don’t have an advocate, you’re at the mercy of these corporations and of these people that are in the wrong positions as far as career goes a lot of them. Are there some good ones but the good ones are overworked and taken advantage of and they end up quitting

My hope for the future is to create communities of support and giving advocates or families more rights to hold these places accountable, and to keep them from taking advantage or neglecting or doing anything that is inappropriate or you wouldn’t do to anyone I mean the stuff that I have seen you wouldn’t do to an enemy much less you’re an elderly person People can add so much to offer and everything that they’ve seen all the changes that they’ve experienced over their lifetime can add so much value to our society or community or nation or world and I would like to see programs implemented where they are a part of what’s going on people act like they’re already dead and they’re not they’re many are lucid even the ones that aren’t lucid still have something to offer we can’t just throw them away when they reach you know 70 years old my God that only gives me a few years left lol but we can harness some really good power. We can harness some great ideas we can harness some lessons we can harness some thinking out of the box or going back to basics type styles of approaching our problems are our community problems or who knows they’re so many there’s so much potential that , our elderly can do for our communities that were not paying attention to and we’re not taking advantage of and and I hope to be a huge piece of change for all of this for all of us and I hope my story makes some people pay pay attention to what’s happening and want to want to see this change and there’s plenty of revenue streams. You don’t have to make revenue streams out of peoples death or such extremes. There’s plenty of revenue streams to support a community. I’m even thinking about turning my house into a residential assisted living for me and my friends so I know where I’m gonna be going, and I know it’s going to be good care because I’ll hire everybody you know I even know if people that are buying land and creating communities for all their friends for when they get older some ladies out in Oklahoma. I mean that’s a great idea to get it all set up now you know make some gardens and have it self sustaining and my son tells me all the time I can I can build a granny pad out here you and grandma can come stay at my place where he lives, and I just think that’s so sweet .

I also took care of my father before he passed away eight years ago by myself and I work I had to stay home and I didn’t realize hospice only came an hour a day, and when I researched in-home care agencies, it was gonna cost us $1 million a year and I was like it’s OK. Dad don’t worry about it all. I’ll stay here and it was, an amazing time because it gave me time to make amends and it gave me time to talk with him and tell him how much I was going to miss him and I really had no idea how much I was gonna miss him. I miss him every single day, but You know there’s gotta be some thing that we can design. They can keep people at home but not put such a strain on the family or I don’t know I just know that there’s so much potential and it right now it’s archaic. It’s like an orphanage where these people are and nobody , the staff and most of the staff is not there because of the job they’re there because of the paycheck and when you’re working with people that’s not that’s not how it should be can’t just fill positions to be filled so you can get your tax credits or whatever that should be illegal or enforced something that residential assisted living to she was certify her own caregivers as QMAP. I watched her son one time the lady that was paralyzed pick her up. She was slumped over in her wheelchair at the dinner table. I saw him pick her up by her head I mean , it’s just ridiculous. What happens in these places and I’m not really sure how much I can share. I probably should’ve shared all that but people need to know because I was gonna report them. I haven’t reported them yet because I literally just moved my mother out of that place again by myself with a U-Haul at midnight , not even a week ago so I just haven’t had time. I have a lot of other issues going on in my life but I’m bringing my mom home. Yes use me all you want because like I said, I’m determined to make a change in all of this, but I’m not gonna graduate until 2028 lol and if I can be a catalyst for change now, I’m in! I also saved every single text from the owner of the last facility so you can how self-absorbed and felt like she was un-touchable. Really, that’s how many of them acted, like they were untouchable. And little did I know they currently are. I was also wondering if the Governor was involved somehow in the desires of the communities to keep families from their loved ones and from monitoring their health and medication management on purpose because if some of the mandates he was enacting at the time which didn’t fit the environment. And please remind me to tell you what happened during Covid when the facility left the front door unlocked, when my mother would get her oxygen delivered by a man who would not be escorted into her room while she was sleeping numerous times, how my mom watched a caregiver stealing her silverware and wanting a nanny cam and my brother and I blowing it off thibkjbig she was going crazy! Hurts my heart I did that. If their store stories sound off the wall, they’re probably true and we believe the children we need to believe our elderly too. Thank you for wanting to hear my story.

My mother-in-law was diagnosed with moderate to severe Alzheimer's dementia type in October of 2015. Within 2 weeks my brother-in-law and his wife (who took her to the diagnosed neurologist appointment) took her to her bank and began changing beneficiaries on accounts. Since that time they have had her sign to replace her long hired attorney, changed beneficiaries on all her bank accounts, closed out some accounts and moved them out of state, hired 2 new attorneys, changed POA, trustees of trust, revoked the trust, had her sign a new will, placed her in a nursing home and refuses to let us see her, took the farming operation away from my husband (, (who had farmed it with his father all his life, my fil passed away in 2007 and my husband continued to farm for his mother on an oral contract). We were advised to get guardianship. That fell through b/c of a technicality. We took them to court in2006, and we are still fighting to get things put back the way they were. We were told to report them to APS. we did but when APS went to my mil house, she said nothing was wrong and referred APS to her POA(her son who is taking advantage). Her son also took her to local businesses and wrote checks for larger amounts over the purchases to have extra cash. He also did not rebuild her house that was damaged by straight line winds. He put the insurance check into an account that will go to him when his mother passes away. This house was to be left to another brother and now is worthless. As I said, we reported to APS and one of her banks reported, as well as our State Representative Norrine Hammonds office and the APS office in Peria Il. that is over the local APS office in Quincy Illinois that we delt with.

Reporting to our local APS was a waste of time. My mil does not know anything about what goes on in the world, she cannot make financial decisions (this was documented by a GAL report and by several health care professionals), and her only concern when APS visited her house was where she was going to get a ride to the local coffee shop b/c that is what the sister in law did for her daily after the sister in law quit her job at a local university. This was a plan that they decided to do and has cost us money for attorneys, loss of income from the farm for 5 years and has taken a mental toll on not only my husband and myself but our 3 grown children. APS needs to talk to all family members.

This type of abuse is planned by family members and kept secretive about making changes. By the time we found out about several discrepancies it was difficult to get anything reversed. Even though my mil attorney sent letters out to all of us to leave her estate plan alone. It was what she wanted. He even threatened how the mis use of POA can bring certain charges. It seems like it is difficult to "prove" my mil state of mind and they knew it was going to be an arduous task for us to prove they had brainwashed her and get the changes they made reversed. They were smart enough to always have my mil sign all documents. I know in my heart she did not know what she was signing.

That APS can interview family members. They should have sat with us and asked appropriate questions. They should have taken into account that a bank, state rep office and a higher APS office made the request to look into this family problem. When an elderly person has dementia, they cannot think or rationalize clearly. It should not matter what degree of cognitive disability they have.

We are also so frustrated with the court system. We are placed on delays constantly. We would like to be involved with making some changes about elderly that have a cognitive diagnosis and at least asking all immediate family members to be involved in decision making. APS needs to be able to talk to the elderly person without consent from the POA. They also should reach out to other family members to understand the scope of the problem.

My mother was 83 years old and was diagnosed with moderate to severe Alzheimer and dementia. My brother Greg and his wife Debbie kept this diagnosis from the rest of the family. Then Greg and Debbie started taking mom to her attorney (changed POA to himself) had her resign a new will, changed beneficiaries on bank accounts, revoked the trust, terminated my oral farm contract. They isolated mom from family. They would write checks for cash that Debbie wrote out and mom signed. As her acting POA Greg did not have moms house rebuilt (totalled from straight line winds) and settled with insurance for 40,0000 . less than what was due to mom. That house was to be inherited b another brother who has since passed away. The bank notified me that things did not seem right. I took mom to her attorney and mom wanted everything put back in original form according to her estate plan. When Greg and Debbie found out about the accounts being reinstated they took mom to her a At one point Debbbie handed a not to mom at the bank telling the teller to take myself and a brother off of accounts. At one point Greg as moms acting POA closed out some bank accounts and moved them out of state so we have no access to records. These points are the main problems.

Elder abuse, undue influence and financial exploitation is rampant and usually committed by family members. The articles that you can read about it states it is hard to prove in court giving the perpetrators confidence that they can get away with the abuse.

Do not trust that your family members will do the right thing. Be prepared. Document everything. Diligently watch what is going on. Try to keep communication open. We never thought we would be in this court nightmare.

Laws need to be passed. An elderly person (anyone over the age of 60) that suddenly wants to change most of their estate plan needs to go through the court system to assess the physical and mental condition of the elder. It seems to be so easy for an unscrupulous family member to convince an elder with a diagnosed condition to sign documents that they have no idea what they have signed and the consequences of those changes. It seems extremely difficult to get through the court system in a timely manner to get any results to reversing all the changes made to the estate plan. We have been in court for 6 years. It takes a toll on our health and we see the anxiety that it has caused in our grown children.

There seems to be no respect for an elderly person's estate plan. The attorneys are part of the problem with stalling for court dates. There needs to be higher held consequences for the abusers and the attorneys that are letting this abuse happen.